BJ'S BLOG 11/20/12 "Hickies "
During Group Therapy yesterday, I read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Garrett who wanted to know if he was being too hard on his 16-year-old daughter.
The other night when she returned late from a date, he noticed she was wearing silk scarf. The next day when she was wearing the same scarf, he made her remove it only to discover that she had four hickies on her neck.
He immediately grounded her for two weeks but his wife thinks he overreacted and said that girls get hickies sometimes. He said that no daughter of his will be doing so and his wife said that two weeks is a long time in the life of a 16-year-old.
Garrett wanted to know if his wife was right in thinking he overreacted or if his punishment was appropriate.
I appreciate that Garrett was smart enough to seek the council of others because let’s face it, parenting is hard.
Vicky B made a good point yesterday, what Garrett should focus on is making sure she knows how to protect herself from STD’s and pregnancy.
As a father, I would be relieved if that is all my daughter came home with and not a baby in her belly. Teenagers are going to be amorous, that’s just the way it is, so why not teach them what to do to take care of themselves so they don’t end up ruining their lives?
Is it impossible to train teenage girls how not to have a baby?
Also, in these kinds of situations, it’s always best for moms to deal with their daughters because they were a teenage girl at one point. It also works the other way around with boys and their dads.