Yesterday during Group Therapy we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Victoria who was having problems with her parents over Christmas dinner!
She has finalized her plans to fly down to San Diego to visit her folks; when she told her mom that her current boyfriend will be staying behind with his family, her mom surprised her with an unwanted guest. Her mom invited her ex boyfriend and his family for Christmas dinner!
Her ex Jim and her dated for three years and broke up after college but their parents still hold on to the idea that they will get married one day and have grandkids both sets of parents can share.
Victoria doesn’t know what to do; she’s not sure if she should stay home just to send a message to her mom that Jim and her are over but she also doesn’t want to ruin the holidays.
As a parent, I have meddled in my kids’ lives and it hasn’t worked out so I have vowed to not do that. What parents have to come to grips with is that it doesn’t matter who your kids date because it’s not about you, it’s about them. You can only hope that the person they are with makes them happy, treats them well, and hope all goes well if they do end up together.
The best way to prove your point is to simply not show up; that’s the best way to teach a lesson.