BJ'S BLOG 12/10/12 "Do As I Say, Not As I Do"
Last we talked about how ex-Playboy Playmate Holly Madison said she would not like to see her daughter pose for Playboy.
She told In Touch Magazine, “I don’t think people are treated with respect in that environment. I’m from a small town and you grow up seeing people like Jenny McCarthy or Pamela Anderson, who made it big after doing Playboy. You think it’s this glamorous thing until you realize how much you’re judged for it.”
I think the best thing for anyone who is giving advice to young people is that they need to look in the mirror and ask themselves, “What’s my credibility?”
We all have that dumb family member who tries to give you financial advice but are driving a broken down car and asks to borrow money!
Same thing with Holly, if her daughter grows up and says she wants to pose in Playboy, Holly has pictures and a TV show that will make her look like a hypocrite in her daughter’s eyes.
During the Lukewarm Topic, we asked the Rock-A-Holics what is something you’ve done that you don’t want your kids to do, or what is something your parents did that they don’t want you to do.
Another thing to keep in mind is what you should be talking to young adults about.
Jason called in and said that his parents admitted to him shortly before turning 18-years-old that they used to sell drugs and that his dad use to do hard drugs!
That was a dumb thing on his parent’s part; whenever you are thinking about telling your kids about something heavy consult with a therapist first.
Just because they are 18 doesn’t mean you get to treat them like a buddy.
They’re still a kid at that age and parents are still the authority figures. I’ve often said that once a kid turns 18, the parent becomes a safety net. They get to do what they want, learn their own lessons and the parents are there in case something bad happens, not to restrict them. Catch them when they fall, don’t prevent them from going on that high wire act because sometimes you can be successful on thehigh wire.