Yesterday, we read an email sent in by Rock-A-Holic Cheryl who is having issues with her new husband over her job.
She’s been married for four months now and her new husband says he wants her to quit her job! She is a professional massage therapist and her husband says he doesn’t like that she quote, “rubs up on men.”
The thing is that this is the first time in their relationship that he’s shown an issue with her job. Cheryl wanted to know if anyone else has gone through this.
I understand why it would be difficult for a guy to have a wife in a profession like this, but guys have to realize that women don’t think they way we do. Some men would have a difficult time being a massage therapist if they had to rub down someone they are attracted to because they would want to hit on this person. Most women don’t have the same urges and thoughts when they see someone they find visually appealing.
Unfortunately for Cheryl, her husband is being unreasonable! If someone marries a person knowing what their job is or what their interests are and then expect them to change after they say “I do,” then they are being unfair! It’s a different story if they were doing something harmful or you didn’t know they were doing it in the first place, but don’t say “I do” if you don’t want all of them.
He should have thought of that before he married her. It's not like her job was a big surprise, he knew what she did when he married her, and therefore when he married he accepted all parts of her life.
They need to talk. He has voiced his opinion, and it is up to her to decide if she wants to quote based on his desires or not. If not, then he needs to accept her decision.
But he should have said something before they got married.
And do what then?
Ok, say she does acquiesce to his desire.... What is she supposed to do for a job? Can they afford to be a one income household? What if she still is paying for said education to be a massage therapist, what then? Look at all the time she spent going to school for a chosen profession.
Hubby is being highly unreasonable as this was not an issue before and is an issue now. He needs to look at this as a healing profession and that his wife is a professional. Should she act on ANY "urges" she would lose her job, license and said husband!!
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