Hello again, good people! Gather the family around the laptop and enjoy some Group Therapy with us, won’t you?
We heard from a Rock-A-Holic named Thomas, whose daughter was cheated on by her boyfriend. They’re both 23 years old, but they’ve been together since high school. Needless to say, there’s no small amount of heartbreak involved with this situation.
The daughter has dumped her cheating guy, but they still continue to talk. Thomas doesn’t like the idea of his little girl being hurt by someone she loves, but he also feels like this may be a useful life lesson in the long run.
On the other hand, the boyfriend did his cheating in a mean, hurtful way – and that has left Thomas with some lingering bad feelings. He’s been fighting the urge to call the boyfriend and tell him off.
At this point, Thomas is really looking for feedback from anyone who cares to share. Speaking as a parent, I can tell you that I get as defensive as the next guy when it comes to my daughter’s emotional happiness…but I’d like to hear your thoughts on this particular situation.
Do you think Thomas has the right to get involved in this matter? Is telling the boyfriend off going to have repercussions down the line, especially if the daughter takes him back? Have you ever faced a situation like this?
He can have all the opinions he wants to have, but he should not contact the boyfriend about this. It is between two adults, and he is not one of them. Besides, if they do end up getting back together, all three people will always be reminded of the cheating event because a conversation with a girl's father like that will not be something that is forgotten.
Jessica - Issaquah
Talk with daughter
Talking with the boyfriend isn't gonna help the situation, it could make matters worst. The person to talk to would be his daughter. Let her know that you really do not approve of himand why you dont approve. In the end, though it is gonna have to be her choice; and a lession she will have to learn.
May backfire on you.
Anytime you get involved in something like this, you take a huge risk of it backfiring.
Your interference may be the reason she gets back with him, "to show you who's boss of her life".
Zip your lip, stay away.
But an @$$#o13 who will cheat on you TO hurt you will do it again.
RE: Talk with daughter
I think instead of trashing the guy, just emphasize how important and great she is.:) -