Yesterday on the show, I read an article talking about “helicopter parents.” We’ve all seen parents like this; these are the parents who are overly involved, overbearing, who call their kid’s schools and coaches about everything and hover over everything their children do.
You would think once the kids grew up, the parents would let them make their own choices and mistakes, but this is not the case. There are parents now who hover over their kids in the work place to the point where they are sending out resumes for them (sometimes without the kid knowing) and calling their kid’s bosses.
My generation and generations since are very much like this and I myself have worked hard to not become a helicopter parent. We were just trained to do this; “Don’t let your kids go outside or places alone.” We were brow beaten into being overly involved in our kid’s lives.
At some point, kids need to figure it out and they can’t do that if we’re always giving them the answers and solutions to their life problems.
For example, my two kids are both going their own way in life and I’m trying my best not helicopter over them. Even when they ask for help and expect me to do things for them, I might tell them a “white lie” about being unable to help because I want them to achieve their own successes and failures.
If you are a helicopter parent and are calling up your kid’s possible employers, telling them to hire your child, it will hurt their chances. They need to be able to show leadership skills and when “mommy” or “daddy” do everything for them, it shows a complete lack of those skills.
Yesterday we read a survey done by OK Magazine saying that 63% of men would say “yes” if their girlfriends proposed. I couldn’t believe it; that's almost two-thirds!
The survey also found that only 70% of women say they'd say "yes" if their boyfriend proposed right now and that women are 12% more likely than men to say yes to a proposal in the first year of a relationship.
Is this really what we’ve become as men? We don’t get anything in a relationship anymore! The wedding, how the home gets decorated, and even the whole birthing process of our children is completely up to the women. We get very little to no say or power anymore in anything; and on top of that all, it’s the women are the ones who are dropping to one knee and presenting a ring?
If we are going to throw every tradition out the window, let’s just throw the tradition of monogamy out as well! Trust me, once monogamy is no longer a tradition or if prostitution became legal, you will see we will see that the behavior of wives and girlfriends change.
If men can just pay someone to do everything for him like cook, clean, and then find someone to have sex with him, the behavior of women everywhere will change to be more loving and accommodating to their men.
Last Friday during Listeners on the Loose, we received a call from a guy named Shane who really made me upset.
For those who don’t know, Listeners on the Loose is a segment we do every Friday from 8am – 10am where the Rock-A-Holics can pick the topics they want us to discuss.
Shane called in to complain about how ridiculous tickets have gotten. He was recently pulled over in his girlfriend’s car and had to pay $800 for three tickets.
I saw right through him right away; what kind of person gets three tickets at once?
He was mad that he received these tickets at all and blamed the cops for being overzealous, trying to meet their quotas but Shane had no right to complain!
His first ticket was for not having the titled transferred to the car; the second was for not having the car registered, and the third, and most important one of all, he was driving with a suspended license!
He later admitted that he’s gotten over 50 tickets while driving and has been pulled over more than that total!
This is sadly another example of the self entitled, unaccountable society we have today. People think they’re too “special” to have to follow the same rules as the rest of the world and starting whining the second they get what they deserve.
Shane was in the wrong but still wanted to blame the police officers for doing their jobs…which is to keep the rest of us safe from people like him.
Last week I read a study from the University of Guelph in Canada that found out that women in heterosexual relationships lose interest in sex the longer they are with their man while men stay the same.
They found that the longer a woman stays with the same partner, her level of sexual desire gets lowered by 1% every month and male sexual desire remained steady which is in line with the evolutionary theory of being “wired to spread their seed.”
This is not positive news for woman. It seems to me that America tries to avoid putting out anything that may shed a bad light on women.
I really love Canada because they seem to put out a lot of sex/relationship surveys and studies about men’s hormones and how we should be given a bit of a pass for our biology being the way it is.
America seems to only seems to care about women; we research the hell out of women’s biology so they can be better understood, which I don’t have a problem with, but they should also take into consideration men and our biology.
It’s the year 2012 and we’ve been told we have to be equal yet, men still get beat down in this country and the truth about gender hormone bias continues to get buried.
A few days ago, I wrote a blog about the horrible thing that happened to television writer Jason Elia.
Jason had said that he had planned to propose to his girlfriend at the Super Bowl but shortly before he found out he had bladder cancer.
His girlfriend supposedly broke up with him once she heard he had cancer but tried to get the Super Bowl tickets from him once she heard of his plans.
Instead of giving her the tickets, he said he would give them away to the person who could get him the most Twitter followers.
When Jason told his story, it spread like crazy all over the internet and during a radio interview he said that his ex’s name was Sokhon Sen.
Since it’s been virally spread around, Sokhon found out and spoke up to clear her name.
She said there was no demand for Superbowl tickets and more importantly she says that there wasn’t even a break up because they were never dating!
She said, “I wouldn't call Jason someone I dated. More like some creepy person now that I met once in my whole life. I have no idea what this whole Super Bowl thing is nor did I know about it.”
If this is true, this was a low move on Jason’s part all for more attention. It’s sad that you have to pull stupid and/or mean stunts to be successful.
To be successful you have to be well known and to be well known, you have to find away to draw attention to yourself. It’s the Kim Kardashian effect- people who have no talent or notable skills get famous for doing nothing of any merit, at all.
Monday morning a burglar broke into 20-year-old Colton Vaughn’s apartment in Federal Way. What the burglar didn’t know is that Colton has been a boxer for 7 years.
When Colton had gotten up in the middle of the night for some water, he noticed that it was strangely cold inside. That’s when he looked over and saw a man wearing a ski mask and gloves coming at him.
Colton then punched the burglar in the face multiple times, yelling for his brother Kirk when Colton’s brother finally came out of his room with a pistol.
Then, Colton picked up the guy by the collar and threw him off the third story balcony. The police are still looking for the burglar.
I wish they would have big penalties for home invaders. If we had harsher penalties for the criminals who do this, then Americans wouldn’t have to worry about it so much anymore.
Cat burglars used to break into homes to steal when no one was home, but it seems like more and more people are doing it regardless if the house is occupied or not.
These are the people who are wacked out on drugs and will bust into anyone’s homes, occupied or not, just to steal whatever they can to then trade it in for drugs. They just don’t care!
A Rock-A-Holic named Les called in and said he lives 300 feet away from this incident and said that he’s had his car stolen 3 times and broken into 27 times because that area is so bad.
When I hear stories like this, I can’t see why anyone would want America to be anti-gun, especially when our own lawmakers don’t do enough to protect us. There should be super strict laws about this! Here’s how I think it should go: The first time you bust into someone’s home, you get a minimum one year in jail. You do it a second time, you get sent to jail automatically for five years, and if you do it a third time, well I’m sorry but that was your third strike and you’re locked up for life, druggie loser!
Yesterday during for the Lukewarm Topic, we talked about who quite possibly might be the worst girlfriend ever.
Jason Elia, a television writer from Nashville, was planning on proposing to his girlfriend during the Superbowl this Sunday. He had everything ready including the tickets to the game, but then found out he has bladder cancer.
Suddenly, when his girlfriend supposedly found out about his cancer, she dumped him. That unfortunately isn’t the worst part.
She later found out about his proposal plans and she decided to go back to him; not because she wanted to be there for him during this difficult time in his life, but because she wanted the tickets.
This is chick logic at its worst. She believes that because he bought the tickets for her in the first place, that she rightfully can still go to the game because the tickets are hers.
Sometimes, I just don’t understand human beings; how can she think that she deserves the tickets.
Luckily Jason didn’t fall victim to her games and has decided to give the tickets away to the person who can get him the most followers on Twitter.
I don’t know how Jason didn’t see how awful she was in the first place but I am glad to see him staying strong and not letting her get what she wrongfully thought was hers.
This entitlement society is a tragedy. I wish the best for Jason with his recovery and I wish that his now ex girlfriend gets some karmic payback for her behavior.
Last week we talked about another example of parent of the year.
A Pennsylvania man named Julian J. Johnson went to the bar and the cops showed up after getting into a fight where he told them that he can’t get arrested because his children were home alone!
Julian’s kids, ages: one, three, and six, were home alone while their father proceeded to get drunk at the bar; but Julian said his kids weren’t completely alone…God was babysitting them! He said God is watching over all of us so his children weren’t really home alone.
Julian was arrested and his kids were taken to child services.
Why don’t children have more rights? Why do we let some kids stay with horrible parents?
This jerk shouldn’t have ever had custody of three kids in the first place!
What I want to know is where is the mother in this situation? Can you imagine what kind of a mess she must be that they didn’t even give her custody instead of sending the kids to child services right away?
Just because you make a child doesn’t mean you automatically know how to be a good parent, and Julian is a perfect example!
Yesterday during Group Therapy we talked about an email we received from Trevor who really showed how women have vaginized men.
Travis is happily married with kids now, but recently he read an article about an ex and was wondering if it was ok to try to reconnect with her, not for anything sexual, but to get “closure.”
Here is a littleback ground information: they dated when he was 18-years-old and she 19, but later broke up when she cheated on him. Travis went on to say in his email that she ripped his heart out, but in hindsight, he thinks that he probably would’ve cheated on himself as well since he was unemployed, broke, and living with his mom.
When I heard that, I instantly believed that Trevor had low self esteem, nobody deserves to be cheated on. Cheating is the cowardly way out!
Steve also pointed out something really important: he was 18! It was perfectly alright for him to be broke and living with mom! She should have broken up with him before she cheated on him.
In the article Travis read about his ex, it talks about how she started a business and 19 and how successful she has become.
Travis wanted to send her an email to ask her how she’s been, tell her congrats, and like I said before, to get “closure”.
Really? What kind of closure do you need for a teenage relationship that happened 10 years ago?
It just sickens me to see how vaginized some men have become.
I know I am being harsh with Travis but I am using him as an example to teach other younger men.
There is no good reason to reconnect with an ex if you are happy with your current relationship. If you’re not happy, then go to counseling to get “closure.” If you do see that ex, old feelings can surface and you might end up doing something to ruin your marriage.
Jermaine emailed us with a very difficult problem which we discussed during Group Therapy yesterday.
Jermaine works full time but has to come home to clean his house and take care of his son while his wife sits in front of the TV from 8am to 4am every day.
Jermaine described his wife as “zombified” by the television and wants to cut his TV and internet subscription. When he told his wife this, she called him controlling and told him that what he is trying to do is domestic violence!
As men we really need to stand up and do something about this because the great women out there, for whatever reason, aren’t really policing their sisters who need help.
Many Rock-A-Holics suggested that she go to therapy which I agree she needs, but any therapist will tell you that if the person doesn’t want to be helped, counseling won’t work. You can’t force therapy or medication on a person who doesn’t see they even have a problem.
This is a very difficult situation Jermaine is in for two reasons. Reason 1: it’s his wife’s responsibility to seek and get the help she needs to motivate her live her life better, and Reason 2: the dreaded domestic violence bomb was dropped.
What Jermaine needs to do, and any other man who is going through this is immediately get legal help whether you plan on getting separated right now or not because she can later claim domestic violence in a court of law. Jermaine, record these incidents so that you can later prove your innocence if she tries to turn it on you sometime.
As a stable guy, I try to use people like Jermaine as examples to coach other guys on how to also be stable and safe in their lives.
