BJ Shea

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BJ's BLOG 10/25/11 "South Park vs. Scientology"

Marty Rathbun has posted a copy of an internal Church of Scientology document on his blog that suggests that the church has launched an intense investigation into the lives of Trey Parker and Matt Stone, the creators of South Park.

Rathbun, who is the former Inspector General of the Religious Technology Center (RTC), (the organization that controls the copyrights and trademarks of the materials relating to Scientology), says that Scientology was so enraged after the 2005 South Park episode called “Out of the Closet”, that a “witch hunt” was ordered.

They document reads that they are trying to find a direct line to Stone and Park and even their friends and family were targeted.

"There are some strings that will be pulled on the PRC on Stone,” the document states, "Otherwise the special collections will be debugged in order to get some viable strings that can be pulled". Rathbun then explains that "Special collections" is Scientology code for "trash digging."

What a creepy organization; if you’re a religion that was formed by a guy who used to write science fiction novels and is now your new messiah, how can you not get made fun of?

What do you expect? I wish I would sit down with John Travolta and/or Tom Cruise and ask them what they are thinking.

I have no problem with anyone wanting to be religious, but this is another example of religious nut jobs taking things too far. This is an invasion of Trey and Stone’s privacy and I hope something gets done about it!
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BJ's BLOG 10/24/11 "Victoria Liss"

Last week we talked about some new revelations to the Victoria Liss “horrible tip” story. For those who don’t know, Victoria Liss is the waitress from Bimbo’s in Capital Hill who posted a picture of a tip she received that said, “You could stand to lose a few pounds” and has received nationwide attention.

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The newest revelation was of an online review from an unidentified person who describes the night of said incident.

The reviews states:

“My girlfriend and I had without question the worst restaurant/bar experience of our lives. The woman who was supposed to be serving us seemingly ignored us for 25 minutes.”

Also according to the reviewer, they were served double-decker tacos, which they didn’t order and they asked for regular tacos, the reviewer says that their waitress shot back with the snarky comment about how he “could use a little weight.”

That is a big part of the story that Victoria Liss left out and if that’s true, that’s pretty lame on her part.

So basically he was given too much food after receiving bad service, and then was insulted by Victoria which led to his response.

Victoria responded saying that she didn’t do anything to offend this person and as a feminist she thinks it’s completely uncalled for a man to pick her apart physically when angry.

Didn’t you say something to offend him first?

Why is ok for a feminist to comment on a man’s appearance but it’s not ok for a man to recommend back on the woman’s appearance?

Aren’t feminists about equality? Then why is it that you believe that you should be treated better?

By the way Victoria, maybe everyone else in the city won’t grill you the proper way, because you’re a woman and you’re not supposed to do that but guess what? I will! If you are an idiot, male or female, I will grill you!

Victoria really sounds like a smarmy, Facebook, internet troll, who only likes to go and make other people’s lives miserable even though she caused the miserable interaction in the first place.
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BJ's BLOG 10/21/11 "Family Finance"

I read a survey that found that 19% of married people do not know how much their spouse makes. That is 1 in 5 people who have no idea about their partner’s income, or they don’t reveal how much money they make themselves.

Also it says that 14% didn’t know until they had a child together.

They are saying the main reason why people keep quiet about their income is because if the other person knew how much their spouse made, it would cause imbalances in the relationship.

What?!

What idiot came up with this theory? You’re supposed to be a team when you are married; everyone is supposed to know how much money is coming in to the “family business”!

This country is so good at coming up with political speak; here is the real reason they don’t want their spouse to know how much they make: it’s so they can steal money from the family! They want to go shopping, blow money on stupid things, and/or spend it on their drug habits! I’ve seen this before with many people.

I’ve been married for 26 years and I can tell you that if you want a successful marriage, you need to work together as a team in all aspects of your lives. If you can’t do that, that means someone is hiding something and it will hurt you both when it comes out into the open.
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BJ's BLOG 10/20/11 "Howie Kendrick"

I read a story about Anaheim Angel’s player Howie Kendrick that shows how ungrateful some athletes can be.

Allegedly, Howie and his wife made an 8-year-old boy cry when he refused to sign a baseball card for him.

According to an Orange Country woman, Howie moved into their neighborhood for the remainder of the Angels’ season and out of respect, they didn’t bother him until the day that he was moving out. When the 8-year-old asked for his autograph, Howie refused by saying, ‘It’s not going to happen’ and that we were rude for asking.”

The mother claims that Howie’s wife Jody then came out of the house and said, “I can’t believe you’re still standing here. This is really rude and it’s not going to happen. It’s sad that you’re still standing here.”

Can you believe that? It drives me insane to see how big of a-holes some of these sports players are today. It’s usually the American players who are the worst; they act like spoiled rich brats and don’t try to provide the best customer service possible to their fans!

I would understand if Howie did this to an adult because more likely than not they just want to sell the autographed item, but this was an 8-year-old kid! Is there anything more iconic then a kid with his baseball or baseball card in his hands, hoping to have one of the big stars to sign it? It is the beautiful family friendly image and yet Howie allegedly acted like a jerk about the whole thing, probably ruining it forever for this kid.

I have something to tell you Howie Kendrick, if I was the owner of the Angels or if I was manager Mike Scioscia, we would having a meeting where I tear you a new one for not understanding that this is not what you want to be in the news for! Whenever you do something that doesn’t shine you in a positive light, it will hit the news almost instantly!

The reason you get to go out and play ball for a living and get paid a ridiculous amount to do so is because of fans like that little boy, and by not signing one card and being a jerk, you just lost the respect of hundreds, possibly thousands of fans.
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BJ's BLOG 10/19/11 "Fantasy"

We received an email from “Jane” who needed some Group Therapy. She has been married to her husband since August and they’ve been together for three years.

Recently they had a conversation about fantasies, which they have never done before, and it left Jane a little freaked out.

Her husband told her that his hottest fantasy he has is to have her get it on with another guy while he watches.

First off, nothing good ever comes from talking about your fantasies if you’re married. Steve suggested making up something that is very safe like, “my fantasy is to wake up next to you every day,” because she will most likely get put off or mad at anything else.

Men, I’m telling you right now, DO NOT tell your wife something about you that is a little “off” in your life. Don’t tell her the truth about her appearance and don’t tell her truth about something about you that is a little “freaky”. Subscribe to the rule that if you can’t tell your mom something freaky that you enjoy or are interested in , don’t tell your woman.

Reason being, there are two things you will most likely never find: Sasquatch and a non-judgmental woman.

Sadly it’s the way it’s become, and if you ladies really want true honesty from your man, then spread the word to your fellow woman get of their high horses and stop putting down men for liking something that is encoded in their biology.
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BJ's BLOG 10/18/11 "Charity"

Yesterday, during Group Therapy, I read an email from Justin who was having problems with his company.

His company is a part of a charity and even though participation was required, donating is not; however, he has to respond to emails saying he doesn’t want to donate. The only reason Justin thinks they are being pressured so much into donating is because their CEO of their company is also a chairman for the charity.

Justin wanted to know if it was right that he had to go out of his way to say that he doesn’t want to donate, or if other companies do this as well.

The fact that he has to respond to these emails just to say “no” is a very lame, strong armed tactic by the boss.

I believe that charities are like religion; it should be something personal and you shouldn’t be questioned or forced to participate in a charity that you don’t think is for you…just like you shouldn’t participate in a religion you don’t think is for you.

We had a listener named Tim call in telling us the company he used to work for used to chase him around just to donate; at that point, you know it’s no longer a charity, but a religion.

Whenever somebody thinks they have an idea that everyone should follow and then forces it on them, it becomes a religion, and religions can be dangerous. Don’t believe me? Look at September 11th.

Never donate to a cause you don’t believe in, find a charity that suits your life and give to that; don’t let anyone push you to do otherwise.
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BJ's BLOG 10/17/11 "Hackers"

Last week we talked about Chris Chaney, the 35-year-old Florida man who was arrested for hacking into the email accounts of several celebrities, including Scarlett Johansson and Christina Aguilera. We all remember this incident because it is how the nude pictures of Scarlett Johansson surfaced.

Chaney has now come out claiming that he didn’t hack into their accounts for “monetary gain” but because he became “addicted” to looking behind the curtain of famous people’s lives.

Chaney said, “It started as curiosity and it turned into just being, you know, addicted to seeing the behind-the-scenes of what’s going on with these people you see on the big screen every day.I was almost relieved months ago when [the authorities] came in and took the computers… because I didn’t know how to stop doing it myself.”

I can’t stand it anymore; everything is a freaking addiction now! We’ve created a society of losers by basically saying they can make an excuse for anything.

They should make an example of Chaney because as much as people like to see pictures of Scarlett Johansson, it’s still an invasion of her privacy and she doesn’t deserve something that awful happening to her.

He faces 26 counts of computer hacking and can spend up to 121 years in federal prison, and I say go ahead and give him the whole 121 years!

We need to start teaching people that no, you are not special, that you can’t get away with everything, and you will be punished when you behave like an idiot.
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BJ's BLOG 10/14/11 "Coupons"

I read a survey from Couponcabin.com that found that bringing a coupon on a first date is no longer frowned upon.

Of the people surveyed, 26% of them said they would react positively to a coupon on their first outing. Also, 73% of them said they that if their date used a coupon, they would stay on the date and go out with them again.

Here is what the survey found when they asked under which dating circumstances they find acceptable for coupon use:

--Anytime: 73 percent

--When you're married: 37 percent

--When you're a student: 32 percent

--As long as it is not on the first date: 16 percent

--Never: 4 percent

This is very interesting because it shows that thriftiness may now be a quality people are looking for in a partner.

It wasn’t always like this; I’ve heard so many women who are well educated and intelligent talk about this, and it just frustrates the hell out of me because they just open their big fat mouths and complain that a man should never use a coupon on the first date!

When I’ve asked them why a man shouldn’t use a coupon on the first date, they have given me the dumbest response: “Oh because everybody knows that!”

That’s when I tell “little Miss Educated” that her “reason” is just an emotional rant, not an answer.

I don’t think a man ever gets a fair return on the free meal he gives to a woman, unless he gets to have sex with her that night. Some men might disagree with me because they are looking to form something long term eventually, but if you take a look at the amount of all the first meals we’ll see that most of them didn’t pan out into anything.

Look at this economy! It would be stupid to not try and save a few bucks here and there, especially when it comes to something that can be fairly expensive like dating.
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BJ's BLOG 10/13/11 "Steve Spurrier"

Earlier this week, South Carolina football coach Steve Spurrier was at a news conference and refused to speak and walked out because of one reporter!

He began the press conference by pointing at The State columnist Ron Morris and said, "we've got a negative guy over here that tries to hurt our football program."

Coach Spurrier did say that he’s not opposed to being criticized because journalists are allowed to do that but he said that he does not "like stories that aren't true."

The reason why Spurrier refused to be interviewed with Morris in the room was because back in the spring, Morris wrote a story saying that Spurrier lured prospect Bruce Ellington away from the basketball program. Spurrier said it was a "completely untrue story" and claimed he had talked to Ellington after he had met with the basketball coach.

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He did agree to do a personal interview for the TV media in another room, and then come back and talk to the writers as long as Morris wasn’t there anymore.

Good for Spurrier! I really like what he did because he handled it in a very respectable manner.

I too have been screwed over by newspapers writers and that’s why I hate the industry. They don’t care for the truth in stories and will lie about what they will do.

I was interviewed on one occasion for a newspaper and I only agreed to do it if they would include that radio station I worked for. They said yes they would do it, only to not include it in their article!

All I can say is more power you Steve Spurrier! It’s stuff like this that proves the newspaper industry is pretty much out the door in our society.
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BJ's BLOG 10/12/11 "Sex Drive"

We received an email from Kevin who wanted to know that if he should just lose his virginity or wait until marriage. Kevin is 25-years-old and wasn’t brought up super religious but always thought about waiting until marriage to finally have sex. Now that he’s older and dating someone who isn’t a virgin, he’s wondering if he should just lose it and get it over with.

Even though I have a big mouth in life, when it comes to philosophical and religious belief systems (even though people will find this hard to believe), I don’t really want to tell anyone what to do. I speak in generalities in life and push against other philosophical belief systems that tell other people what to do, but when it comes to spirituality and philosophy, that is a personal decision.

What works for me might not work for someone else, so that’s why I don’t really like to tell people what to do when it comes to this, but I will give my two cents about what I have learned about the role of sex in a man’s life.

One of the things I’ve discussed in therapy is sexual compatibility, and it’s one of the best things to learn about for your marriage. It will help you sit down and come to an agreement with your significant other about what is going to happen in the bedroom, which is something that rarely gets discussed and leads to unhappiness.

That’s how it used to be with ladies; men used to not pay attention to what they needed in the bedroom but now it happens to both sides and it’s something that needs to get worked out if you’re going to be married. It is especially important if you’re a man because having a good sex drive and stoking those fires is an important key in a man’s success.

Ladies, if your man doesn’t have a good sex drive, don’t expect him to do anything good in life. After reading plenty of books on the subject, I have learned that a man with a good sex drive is a man that is successful and you as a woman can help stoke those fires.

If you want to have a great marriage, a successful life with the nice house, nice kids, and a nice everything, you have to help your husband with his sex drive so he can use that energy to succeed.
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BJ's BLOG 10/11/11 "College?"

Research has found that household incomes declined more in the two years after the recession ended then during the recession itself.

From December 2007-June 2009, during the recession, the household income fell to 3.2% ($53,518 for the entire household). Then after the recession from June of 2009 to June of 2011, incomes fell 6.7% which is $49,909 for the entire household. So, things were in fact better during the recession for the average household.

They also say that family households have had the largest drop and that the disparity between those with a bachelor’s degree or more and those with a high school diploma grew even larger.

That’s a tough thing now because there are so many jobs that require a bachelor’s degree when I really think it’s not necessary because the whole idea of it is a big racket.

I don’t believe this country was meant to have the majority of its children go to college. We shouldn’t have to get more than a high school education to make a decent living in this society.

It used to be that the incredibly smart would go to college, become the leaders of our country, and lead the rest of us who had decent jobs.

You didn’t need a fancy college degree to make a good living. For the rest of us, you’d get out of high school, find a job, and work your way up the ladder from the very bottom; that’s how you got your experience.

That stupid piece of paper means nothing because you can get education anywhere!

I understand that in certain cases it is helpful to go to school, like a person aspiring to be a doctor for example, but the average person shouldn’t have to go to college to have a good life.

It wasn’t always like this, but because colleges make so much money, this is how we’re told things should be and therefore wind up in massive debt. Go on and tell me I’m stupid, but deep down, we all know I’m right about this.
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BJ's BLOGm 10/10/11 "Emotional Support"

I read a study by the Cancer Care Alliance that says that women are six times more likely to be dumped after receiving a cancer diagnosis, and they found the same findings for people diagnosed with multiple sclerosis.

Dr. Marc Chamberlain, who co-wrote the study, says that a "vast majority" of men don't leave their wives; so this study is of the women who were abandoned, not of all people who get diagnosed with cancer.

Dr. Chanberlain also admits that his research makes men look like "bottom-dwelling, scum-sucking creatures" but he points out that the reason is because "men may be very well equipped to be primary providers but not so well equipped to be primary caregivers."

This is an important line just in life in general for ladies. I know we have equality and you have been asking men for the last 30 years to be more sensitive and to become your best friends but we are not wired that way.

It’s pretty telling when a scientist comes out and says that men are better suited to be “primary providers” not “primary caregivers”.

It is not in our nature to be good at taking care of someone long term who is that sick., it’s a huge emotional beating.

Women need to understand that if they want a good emotional support system in any part of their lives, that they will better off relying on the sisterhood of female friends and family because they are better wired to handle being a nurturing caregiver then most men would be.
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BJ's BLOG 10/07/11 "Steve Jobs"

Former CEO of Apple, Steve Jobs, lost his battle with pancreatic cancer this week and passed away at the age of 56.

He has made many motivational speeches and here is a quote that I love from him:

“You have to trust in something; your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you of the well worn path.”

Failure has a lot to do with that as well. Steve Jobs had a lot of failures, but successful people like Steve Jobs will consider failure as the shadow of success, not opposite of success.

Steve Jobs lost his job at Apple in 1985 but returned in 1996. He even said this in his famous Stanford speech:

"I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter into one of the most creative periods of my life."

"I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love."

That’s why I tell anyone who has gone through very massive grief in their lives to use their pain and failures as a motivator and catalysts for greatness.

Steve Jobs seemed to be this kind of a person.

I can’t stand it when so many people complain about all the troubles they are going through, yet don’t want to rise up and do something about it to make themselves better.

You have to have faith that you are in the driver’s seat of your own destiny, and that no one else is in control but yourself. There is no one else you can point fingers to when things don’t go as planned, and that’s the secret. Successful people don’t point the finger anywhere but to the person in the mirror.

Steve Jobs was not only a huge influence in the business and technology world, but his messages of believing in yourself and working hard have been a inspirational in everyday life.

Rest in peace Steve Jobs.

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BJ's BLOG 10/06/11 "Keep them happy?"

Heather emailed us because her husband was mad at her after he discovered old love letters from her ex boyfriend, and she didn’t want to throw them away. She had been married to her husband for 15 years and she wanted to know from us and the listeners if she is in the wrong here.

This is one of the things that women are just clueless about when it comes to men.

Aren’t women the ones always saying to stop and smell the roses, concentrate on the now instead of looking back? Then why is it that most women would side with Heather and agree that she should be able to keep her ex’s letters?

There was an article I read that talks about how men are just falling behind in so many ways and women are really ruling the roost of America right now. I believe the reason for that is because men have become overly sensitive and they are focusing on things that I don’t think are important, like focusing on making sure your wife or girlfriend are happy 24 hours a day. It is not a man’s job but we’ve been told that it should be.

Now with that, what have women done to understand men? I’m telling you right now…nothing.

Men don’t like to be compared to other men, especially to the ex’s, and by refusing to throw out old knick-knacks from an ex makes us feel like you still have feelings for them which never feels good to us.

I don’t mean to pick on Heather but her ignorance on this subject is amazing to me.
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BJ's BLOG 10/05/11 "Don't Ask..."

Ever since the military repealed “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” the ramifications have been all over the place.

The Pentagon announced that military chaplains can now, if they choose, officiate same sex unions as long as no local or state laws prohibit it. They may use defense department property, but they can’t be official DOD events.

Some members of Congress have objected to military chaplains performing same-sex unions, saying it would violate the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act, which remains the law in America, defining marriage as a union of one man and one woman for all purposes under federal law.

The Defense of Marriage Act is one of the dumbest Acts ever created. It’s a crappy piece of propaganda used to keep a certain constituency happy, which also happen to be the only people who care if you have an “R” or a “D” in front of your name.
I look at this like I look at the marijuana laws; it’s just stupid. The states are ok with things one way but the government still gets involved to make it difficult, it’s just so frustrating to me.

There is no good reason to create laws that restrict the freedoms of Americans; laws should only be made to protect our safety.

We shouldn’t be creating laws that prevent people from being free and if two military MEN want to marry each other, I don’t care! Let them do what they want! Frankly if anyone is willing to put on a uniform and fight for this country, let him marry a seahorse for all I care, the point is, it’s not going to affect the way I live.
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BJ's BLOG 10/04/11 "Be The B****"

Riley emailed me, she needed help with an older married guy who wouldn’t stop hitting on her. Riley wasn’t sure how to make him stop and asked if it’s time to be a “bitch” about it.

You have to wonder about a man who would hit on a woman when he is married. If anyone is ever in this situation, the first thing I would say is to never let yourself be around this person in the first place, especially if you can avoid it (like if he isn’t a co-worker or someone you have to spend time with). No one should be put in a situation where they feel uncomfortable.

Our first call was from a woman named Leah, who said she was in a similar situation. Her best friend’s now husband would constantly hit on her and she would say no because he was with her best friend, to which he replied that he’s done this before. On the day of his wedding, Leah was a bridesmaid, she was 17-years-old, and as she was getting ready she must have passed out (or blacked out) and later woke up in a shower.

When she woke up, she realized things were off and that she was violated. She then walked out of the bathroom; she saw the husband and he told her that if she tells anyone that he would kill her whole family. If it wasn’t horrific enough, she had to stand there at the wedding and watch her best friend marry this A-hole.

Leah didn’t tell anyone for many years, and the guy was later in jail for a very short time. Her best friend is still married to him after all that.

We really need to train girls to know that this is not ok, and that they should speak up when something as horrific as this happens. In some cases women don’t say anything because they are afraid of ruining other people’s lives, like Leah did with her best friend.

I know the thought hurting your friend like that is difficult, but in the long run it would have been better if she knew what kind of douche she was marrying in the first place.

We need to be more “East Coast” about this. Let it be known that what they are doing is unacceptable, threaten to punish him in the most severe way possible, and remove yourself from the situation.

I have no tolerance for a man who can’t keep it in his pants when he’s already made a commitment to being married, and I especially don’t have tolerance for a man who sexually assaults a woman, especially a minor. So please everyone, train your daughters, sisters, friends to speak up and be the “bitch” so they can walk away from this safely.
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BJ's BLOG 10/03/11 "Bike Tabs!"

On Friday, a listener named Ron called in telling us a story about my favorite people on the road…bike riders.

His story was that while riding the bus when it was nearly dark, he had to jerk to the left to prevent hitting an unaware bicyclist. The bicyclist was wearing all black, no lights or reflective wear, and didn’t once look to his left where he would have seen this massive bus.

I’ve lived in many other places before and Seattle seems to be the only place I’ve seen where pedestrians and bicyclists don’t pay attention. I think it’s because the law says pedestrians always have the right of way, and bike riders like to think that applies to them too when in reality it doesn’t.

They don’t go with traffic; they don’t get off their bike and walk it across cross walks, and they think stop lights and signaling to turn isn’t a requirement to them.

Also, who the hell thought it was a good idea to put the bike lanes in the middle of the road where they would be between two lanes of cars? What a dangerous set up because they will have to continuously veer in and out of lanes where cars are going at a fast pace because let’s face it, bikes can’t go as fast as the speed limit sometimes.

I put this on Mayor McGinn and any other moron who thinks we should all start riding bikes as our main form of transportation; if we are supposed to share the road with bike riders, then make them get license plates and pay tab fees like the rest of us! If it’s on the road and its transporting people, it’s a vehicle!

If they are on a separate trail meant just for them then it’s fine but not when they are on the roads that we tax payers pay for.

Speaking of taxes, today I read a story saying there is a new plan to create more pathways for cyclists and pedestrians…by taxing us a $60 annual car tab fee! They say this will collect $204 million over 10 years.

Again, why am I spending my money on something that I won’t be using? If you really want those $60 dollars, make the cyclists pay it, I’m done contributing to a group of people who don’t even follow the rules.
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BJ's BLOG 09/30/11 "Lunch Date With An EX"

We received an email from Patrick in need of advice. He got a request from an ex-girlfriend to go out to lunch with him now that she is living in Seattle again. The only thing is that he’s currently married. According to Patrick’s email, his wife is alright with him going, but his sister says that his wife is simply trying to appear “cool” but she’s really not fine about it.

Look, its one thing to be cordial, but to sit there and have regular communications with an ex is another thing; I just think it’s disrespectful.

As a man, why do you need to be around more than one woman anyways? Women can seem very complicated to us, so why would you want more of them in your life if you already have a wife?

My guess is that either Patrick, his ex, or both are hoping something will spark up again, even if they won’t admit it. That is the only logical explanation. Why else would he want the company of other women?

I don’t need to go to lunch with women or hang out with them because there is no benefit for me. If I wanted to spend time with a woman, I will go home to my wife.
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BJ's BLOG 09/29/11 "P.O.A"

Yesterday I read what was not only the quote of the day, but could possibly be quote of the year.

Melissa Minarsich, a 28-year-old woman from Iowa, wanted to have sex with her boyfriend earlier this week but when he turned her down, she started punching him!

He wasn’t hurt but the police still showed up and that’s when she explained why she got upset and turned violent. Melissa said, “ALL I WANTED WAS A PIECE OF ASS, IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK FOR?”

Melissa was arrested for misdemeanor domestic assault, which unsurprisingly is not the first time she has been arrested for that.

As an added bonus, Melissa and her boyfriend have an 8-month daughter together!

Some would ask why would any man turn down sex, but we men know there are some women out there that, because of their personality, can turn you off completely. I would not be surprised if Melissa’s boyfriend was turned off by her because she has no problem throwing punches around.

I would like to say this, imagine if this was the other way around and it was Melissa’s boyfriend who punched her and said, “Hey, I only wanted a piece of ass!” He would be vilified! Can you believe that a woman, in this day and age, could utter something like that?

It is unbelievable to me that after the feminist movement and us men being told what we can and can’t do anymore, that they have no problem doing what they claim we shouldn’t do in the first place to them!

You’ve really come a long way ladies.
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BJ's BLOG 09/28/11 "Therapy!"

Yesterday during Group Therapy, we were talking about whether a guy should get divorced from his wife even though he just discovered she has cancer when we got a call from a listener named Matt.

Matt said that it would do more damage to his kid in the long run if they got divorced now. His parents got divorced and when Matt had his daughter’s birthday party, they couldn’t even be in the same room together. Then Matt told us that he was probably going to go through a divorce with his wife and he’s afraid of the damage it will cause his 5-year-old and 6-month old daughters.

When I asked how the marriage was 15 months ago, he said it was great and the wife was happy. If things were going well before they had the second child, there could be a lot going on that he doesn’t know about.

Then I asked if they were seeing any type of therapist, and he said no because the wife doesn’t want to do because she thinks they can handle things on their own.

I’m not an expert, but I know that the best thing for most people is to go see a therapist.

If the marriage isn’t working and one person doesn’t want to work on it, eventually that means the person doing all the work is going to leave or at the very least cheat.

I don’t understand why a person wouldn’t want to go to counseling if their spouse is willing to in order to repair their damaged relationship.

If you think you’re partner is the one that is having the problems, they will be brought up and treated in therapy! I know guys don’t usually like to go but trust me; it will be an eye opener.
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BJ's BLOG 09/27/11 "Fundraiser?"

This past Sunday, Obama was in town to campaign for his re-election. The President held two fundraisers; one was a $1000 a plate lunch event at the Paramount Theatre and the second was at the home of former Microsoft executive Jon Shirley -- which had about 65 attend and tickets were selling for $38,500 per couple!

We have a horrible economy; many people are without jobs, and yet Obama raised 5 million dollars just so he could be president again.

I would think that if he took that $5 million, told everyone he wasn’t going to campaign, and just donated to everyone who is hurting due to the bad economy, how could the Republicans beat that?

How many people in this country do you think could benefit from $5 million being injected back into the economy? Instead, the money is going to Obama’s “please re-elect me” fund.

There is something wrong with the system when people can raise so much money to win this place in the White House, when in reality the person who gets elected should win because they are good at what they do and they show it by helping out as much as possible.

He also doesn’t need to just hand the money to out of work people; he could have some sort of community service project where they clean up a park or something like that and then give them some help. It’s a win-win situation!

If Obama really wants to make a difference and still get noticed for re-election, he should run around doing these fundraisers and not spend a dime on his campaign. If he did that, he would prove to everyone how much he really cares about his country.
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BJ's BLOG 09/26/11 "Gay Marriage"

Last Friday during Listeners on the Loose, Doug called in to talk about why he thinks homosexuals shouldn’t get married.

Earlier in the week we had a caller admit he was in the military, he was gay, and he married a lesbian in order to get extra money and benefits. During this conversation I stated that I don’t understand why gay marriage isn’t legal; it doesn’t affect my life in any way, shape or form so why should I care?

Well, Doug said that I should care and that one of the reasons why homosexuals are not allowed to get married is because of the marriage fraud that some are already committing would increase if they could marry each other.

That’s a stupid reason for why gay people shouldn’t get married; do you have any idea how many fraud marriages are in the military with heterosexual couples?

Doug was basically saying he didn’t want gay people to have the same rights as hetero people because of the small minority who would cheat the system.

The constitution and the founding fathers were never about punishing the majority for the actions of a minority, and by saying that homosexuals shouldn’t be allowed to wed because of the few who would commit fraud is going against our constitution.

This is what people like Doug don’t understand. By telling someone they can’t get married to the person they love, regardless of gender, is taking away their constitutional right to peruse their life, liberty and happiness.

Doug was just another fear monger who, like so many people in this country, shoot off their mouth and don’t realize how they screw over other people in this country with their stupid opinions.
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BJ's BLOG 09/23/11 "Tony Bennett"

Yesterday we read Tony Bennett’s apology for the comments he made about 9/11 while on the Howard Stern show.

Here is the video of what Tony originally said: http://youtu.be/ue8kPul1sC4  



Tony basically said that even though the terrorists were the ones that flew the plane into those buildings, we caused it because we were bombing them, they told us to stop, and when we didn’t, they hit us back stronger.

Tony apologized one day after his comments on Facebook saying :

“There is simply no excuse for terrorism and the murder of the nearly 3,000 innocent victims of the 9/11 attacks on our country.”

Tony also mentioned that his World War II experience had made him see that “war is the lowest form of human behavior.”

“I am sorry if my statements suggested anything other than an expression of my love for my country, my hope for humanity and my desire for peace throughout the world,” he also said.

I have to say this, if this guy is a WW2 vet, then he can say what he wants. He fought one of the biggest wars we have seen that was truly about fighting for freedom as opposed to the Korean War, the Vietnam War, and some might argue the war we’re in now.

This is in no way being said to disparage the troops, but to disparage our government and the decisions they make that put our military in harm’s way.

I believe that because Tony Bennett has fought in a war that was for freedom; he should be able to say what he wants. He has the experience, he’s the real deal; he went into battle and saw action and defended his country.

The trouble with today’s society is that no one chills. We are so PC that we’re always looking for someone to be mad at for the dumbest reasons; maybe because most Americans don’t want to look in the mirror and see that the reason why things suck is because of the person reflecting back at them.

God forbid we spend some time being critical of ourselves once in a while.
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BJ's BLOG 09/22/11 "Jessica"

Jessica emailed us in need of help: She has two kids and is currently with a man who has a child with his ex wife. They have been living together for two years but the problem is that his ex-wife, who cheated on him, calls Jessica while drunk and harasses her, and tells her that she wants her ex back.

Many listeners suggested Jessica get a restraining order on her boyfriend’s ex wife, although that would just put another burden on the relationship because the boyfriend has to keep in contact with her so he can see his son.

I know Jessica is in a difficult situation, not knowing if she should stay or leave, but I am really curious as to what her boyfriend was thinking.

He marries a crazy woman, has a kid with her, gets divorced, and then gets into a relationship with another woman who already has two kids…what is he doing?

I want men out there to understand that this is what can happen to your lives. If you’re not diligent, if you don’t pay attention, and you’re not responsible about the woman you have sex with and make a baby with, you too can be in a lovely situation like this.

You have to be better than this, and get your act together. You will lead better lives as long as you’re diligent and proactive in your decisions.

I’m not saying this to pick on Jessica or her boyfriend; I’m trying to teach men by using this situation as an example of what not to do. I hope they can find a way to work it all out without having to put a restraining order on the ex because at this point in time, the only ones who stand on really getting hurt are the kids.


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BJ's BLOG 09/21/11 "Alec Baldwin's Kid"

Alec Baldwin’s 16 year old daughter, Ireland, getting in trouble over Tweeting a title of a song on her Twitter page.

People starting going nuts and calling her a racist after she tweeted:

“I love Jay-z. And Kanye. Together. I want to see them in Vegas! Who’s coming with me?!”

Then followed by: “N**gas In Paris- Jay-Z/Kanye” which is referring to the name of one of their songs.

Alec then went to his daughter’s defense by posting this on Twitter:

“N**gas In Paris- Jay-Z/Kanye’ think this is reference 2 a celebration of hip-hop music in France. Just clearin’ that up. Anyone who thinks that quoting the title of that song is racist is a disgrace. To the human race. ”

I would have to agree with Alec on this one; she was simply stating the title of a song from two popular singers, she wasn’t saying it to hurt a particular group of people.

I have never understood or liked the idea that only one group of people can use a word but another group can’t.

If we all agree that a word, and in this case it’s the n-word, is bad and has racial undertones, then no one should be allowed to use it, and that’s fine.

What some people don’t realize is that it’s reverse segregation. Back in the day, this country had laws in place that segregated African Americans from “white” Americans. They weren’t allowed to use certain places of business, certain water fountains, or attending the same schools because they were told it wasn’t their place. I have to ask, isn’t this basically the same thing? We are being told because of our skin color that we can’t use the same words as them now.

I don’t like saying the word because I know how much trouble people can get into and I don’t want to deal with the headache, but in all honesty, people should shut up and stop throwing around the word racist when it comes to Ireland Baldwin because we know that if she had a different color of skin, no one would have a problem with this.
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BJ's BLOG 09/20/11 "Judy"

Yesterday during Group Therapy, we received a call from a listener named Judy who proved that men are not the only ones who are the dishonest in relationships.

Our Group Therapy topic was about a guy named Wes who wanted to know if he should tell a guy that the woman he is going to marry cheated on him with one of Wes’s buddies.

After many calls from men, all saying that Wes should tell the guy or it will ruin his life, Judy called in to weigh in on the topic.

She told us that Wes should not tell the future husband about his cheating fiancé because she lost the man she loved when she was honest with him.

She was in a monogamous relationship with a man but still decided to have sex with a couple of guys because they were on her “bucket list”. The guilt was too much for her so she ended up telling her boyfriend him, and he left her.

Judy admitted that if she could go back in time, she wouldn’t have told him because honesty ruined the relationship.

That is very interesting; I asked her that if she had a time machine, why not stop herself from cheating in the first place?

Judy wants to blame losing the man she loved on being too honest, when in reality; it was because she was dishonest with him in the first place and slept with other men.

If she wanted to have sex with other men, she should have taken a break from her relationship, got her bucket list taken care of, and then hope that she can come back and start again with her boyfriend.

She says her heart wasn’t with the guys she cheated on him with; but isn’t that an excuse that men are not allowed to use? Women are the ones who connect love with sex and men have gotten in trouble for saying the exact same thing!

Women like Judy need to be accountable for when they eff up. Saying that if she could go back in time she would rather be dishonest instead of not cheating in the first place speaks volumes of her which is something she should work on before she gets into another relationship.
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BJ's BLOG 09/19/11 "Pat Robertson"

I received a text from a listener asking if I heard what the religious whack job Pat Robertson said about divorcing your spouse.

In a recent interview with Christian talk show “700 Club”, a caller asked Robertson what advice should a man give to his friend who is dating another woman while he is still married to woman, but has Alzheimer’s.

What Robertson said contradicts everything the Christian church says about marriage.

He said quote: "I know it sounds cruel, but if he's going to do something, he should divorce her and start all over again, but make sure she has custodial care and somebody looking after her."

He also said that he would not guilt trip any person who decides to divorce their spouse if that spouse is suffering from some sort of neurological disorder.

Here is the video: http://youtu.be/_qt_JCnRdCQ



I liked that his co-host asked about what happened to “‘til death do us part” or “in sickness and in health?”

This is what happens when morons try to tell you what God is really about. We have an omnipotent being who can do whatever he wants, and then we have these idiot human beings who think they know what God’s word means. What makes you think that you and your pea brain understand what God would do? It defies all logic.

I love it when these religious whack jobs get caught in their own stupid rules! So since Alzheimer’s is kind of like death, does that mean we should stop feeding them and throw them in a field? Does it mean I can cheat on my wife if I technically don’t have sex with another woman but just do other things?

I am so tired of these religionists trying to talk about “the word of God” and yet contradict themselves when it’s most convenient.
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BJ's BLOG 09/16/11 "Teachers On Strike"

This morning I read that by a 93% vote of “Yes”, Tacoma teachers will be on strike again today, thus cancellend classes down south.

Something interesting I shared yesterday was a conversation I had with a cab driver while I was in Chicago a few days ago. As the gentleman was taking me from the hotel to the airport, he commented on the people currently striking at the hotel I was staying at. He said they are stupid because of their striking, they are making it hard for people to go into the hotel, and therefore, the hotel will lose business.

At first I thought that was an idiotic thing to say because that is what the strikers are hoping will happen.

The cab driver then goes on to say that it’s wrong because the poverty level is high in our country, yet these people are complaining that they want better pensions. Then he asks how many people have pensions? He drives a cab and doesn’t even get insurance, yet he is out there making a living every day. Why would someone who has a pretty decent life go out and strike? In his country of Sudan, things are much worse when it comes to living situations; things we never have to deal with here and yet we’re the ones whining.

Compared to his country, we Americans are born with a silver spoon in our mouths.

This brings me back to the striking teachers in Tacoma. One in six Americans in this country are under the poverty line, so why is it that they’re striking if they have a decent job?

The average teacher I heard makes around $63,000 a year in the Pierce county area. How many people out there are working 2-3 jobs just trying to make ends meat? I know I can’t speak because I make more than that, but I know many average Americans who would love to be in that situation.

I understand and acknowledge that teachers work hard but at least they are making money and have their summer, spring, and winter vacations as well.

If you want to strike for smaller class sizes or better materials that’s one thing, but I very much doubt the average American would feel sorry for you as you strike for more money. This country is doing crappy financially; many of us have had to take pay cuts, so stop complaining and get back to work teaching!
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BJ's BLOG 09/15/11 "Maggie"

Earlier this week, we read an email from a listener named Maggie who needed help with her boyfriend. She says she is in a relationship with a great guy and has a great sexual relationship, but she doesn’t find him attractive.

Maggie says that the qualities that she finds attractive are superficial things like pecs and biceps, and her man doesn’t possess these qualities.

She also mentions that he’s not unattractive and that she likes his smile and often finds him “cute,” but she doesn’t have that intense attraction to him. Her boyfriend, however, finds every part of her attractive and makes her wonder if she should feel the same way.

I believe a woman would never say anything negative about the way her man looked physically if she really loved him. If she does say something negative, it’s because there is something in his personality that she doesn’t dig.

Women can be attracted to certain physical features, but they don’t fall in love because of them. They value and fall in love with a man’s patience, his kindness, his warmth, his humor, but never for his biceps or abs.

A man who isn’t doing something cool with his life is a very unattractive thing to a woman. The fact that Maggie isn’t jazzed for this guy seems to me because either he isn’t amounting to anything.

So guys, know this, most women are looking for a man who is doing something with his life and that is a good person inside. They need someone who has their crap together and is able to be their rock during hardships.

Also Maggie, if he’s not attractive to you, look at his other attributes; if you still don’t find anything you’re looking for in him, then there is no point for either of you to stay with each other.
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BJ's BLOG 09/13/11 "Hack-Tavists"

If you read my blogs often, you know then know my feelings about hackers, and yesterday I talked about a new low for them.

On Friday, the NBC News Twitter account was hacked into and the hackers tweeted false reports about another terrorist attack in New York.

Here are the tweets:

"Breaking News! Ground Zero has just been attacked. Flight 5736 has crashed into the site, suspected hijacking. more as the story develops."

"Flight 4782 is not responding, suspected hijacking. One plane just hit Ground Zero site at 5:47."

"This is not a joke. Ground Zero has just been attacked. We're attempting to get reporters on the scene."

The group who was responsible has been identifies at The Script Kiddies. If they sound familiar, it’s because they were the same group who hacked Fox News Politics’s feed and tweeted that the President had been assassinated in Iowa.

How horrible this? How many people get their news by following news stations on Twitter now?

I would love to find these a-hole Script Kiddies and print their names out there for everyone to see.

There was another group called “Anonymous” that had their names published, and then they got mad and shut down a website! How does that make sense? If you are one of these a-holes who are responsible for this kind of thing, why is it that we are the bad guys when we punish you?

I hate these "hack-tavists" (hacker activists), who are hacking because they are supposedly protesting something! What are you protesting? Do you understand the kind of trauma you could have or did inflict on people who are already suffering? How could this be a funny or good idea? The whole country is basically in mourning over the 10th anniversary of 9-11 and they have to be idiots and try to hurt people.

Normally I would say lock up the hackers and throw away the key, but these idiots don’t even deserve that. They didn’t just cause some people troubles with their websites; they actually really hurt people who were grieving in the first place. They deserve much worse than what we could actually do to them.
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BJ's BLOG 09/12/11 "10 Years"

Yesterday marked the 10-year anniversary of the New York terrorist attacks that made this country come to a stop.

I can’t believe that it has been ten years since that earth shattering day.

A total of 2,819 people were killed by those attacks that day; 343 were firefighters and/or paramedics and 23 were NYPD officers. Since then, countless brave men and women have gone overseas and died for our freedom.

I don’t know if I will ever find the right words to truly express my appreciation for all our officers, firemen, medics, and military men who have served their communities and country.

It’s because of those courageous men and women that a guy like me can come to work every day and just talk into a microphone.

I really believe that this country has grown so much in the last ten years. We have proved that you can try to hurt America; you can try to hurt the ideals, but you will never succeed regardless of how many of us you try to wound.

We’re not going to let some idiot in a stupid sandbox in the middle of nowhere make us back down from American values, and part of that is going on strong and being who we are…regardless of what anyone throws at us.
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BJ's BLOG 09/09/11 "Don't Go To The Hotel"

Two U.S. Army soldiers from Joint Base Lewis-McChord are in custody after being accused of raping two teenage girls in a Portland hotel room early Sunday.

The two girls, ages 15 and 17, told investigators they met the men in downtown Portland and went to the hotel room with them where the assaults occurred.

If this in fact turns out to be true, this could make the whole military look bad, and the people involved should be punished to the fullest extent of the law, but I have to ask: what the hell are a 15-year-old and a 17-year-old doing, partying with a bunch of adults in a hotel room in the first place?

This irritates me because I don’t get what young adult doesn’t understand that when you go to a hotel room with someone to party, that sex is most likely part of that equation. No one should ever have to have sex against their will, but the desire for sex is part of the reason a person would invite you into their hotel room in the first place. What person doesn’t know that? Yes, these girls are underage, but they still should have also known better to not put themselves in a dangerous situation like that.

If these soldiers really did rape these girls, then they should obviously be punished, but we have to start sending the message that it is not ok to be going out, partying with adults, and putting yourself in dangerous situations at 15 years of age.

Use your head people; you’re not supposed to be going to strange man’s hotel room when you are underage.
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BJ's BLOG 09/08/11 "Step Brother/Lover"

Yesterday’s Group Therapy was definitely a first! A woman named Emily is dating someone in her family, but it wasn’t always that way.

Emily has been dating her boyfriend for two years and they have a great relationship. About three months ago, her mom and his dad started a relationship. To make things worse, their parents went to Las Vegas and came back married!

Her boyfriend has asked for space to process the situation; he is getting teased by his friends that he is dating his “sister”.

Emily is worried that her relationship is doomed.

I personally don’t see what the big deal is in this situation, but society for some reason really does and I’ve never understood why.

The only reason we are not supposed to have sex with our siblings is biology; if two family members have a child, it may come out wrong, but that wouldn’t be the case with Emily and her boyfriend.

These two didn’t do anything to put themselves in this situation, somebody else did. So why should they be forced to separate because of someone else’s stupid decision?

I don’t understand why society thinks that it’s wrong to have action with someone you are related to on paper but not by blood.

The problem with America is that we have such conditional beliefs that we are creeped out by, and don’t know why.

If there is this gorgeous person in front of you that you are attracted to and have a great relationship, then who gives a crap what others think? People are looking for happiness in life, which is a difficult thing to find sometimes, so why wouldn’t you grab onto what makes you happy just because someone doesn’t think it’s “right”?
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BJ's BLOG 09/07/11 "Lottery!"

Yesterday I read a story with the headline, “A Guy Is Suing His 22 Co-Workers…For Winning a $99 Million Lottery Jackpot While He Was On Medical Leave.”

My first reaction was that I thought this guy was a jerk, but now after I’ve read the story, I think I’m on his side.

Apparently, back on August 5th, 22 employees at the Kraftmaid kitchen cabinet company won 99 million dollars in the Mega Millions lottery.

The only person who didn’t get a share of the jackpot was Edward Hairston who was out on medical leave. Hairston has been with the company with 14 years and has paid 5 dollars a month to participate in the company’s lottery pool for the last 8 years except for the months of June, July, and August since he was on medical leave.

Hairston admits that he was behind on his payments by $15 but in the past, the group has set aside money from smaller winnings to cover people including one co-worker who was out for 5 months!

They won millions of dollars; how is it that everyone isn’t so happy that they just want to share the wealth? This is what is wrong with America today; everyone wants to blame “rich people” for keeping all the money and not distributing the wealth, yet this group of average ordinary Americans that hit the lottery doesn’t want to share their winnings with a brother that has been with them all along.

This greed we are seeing from these people shows a lot about this country, and maybe it’s not “rich people” who are the problem, it’s the average “Joe” who can’t be civil when something good happens.
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BJ's BLOG 09/06/11 "Flip Flop"

Last week we talked about a 19-year-old woman who was arrested after she hit her husband in the penis with a flip flop.

This woman is the same age as my daughter and she is really showing off her age by what she did!

The couple was arguing about who was going to go grocery shopping when the woman decided to throw a flip flop that hit her husband in the junk. She was later arrested and charged with domestic.

It’s about time something like this happened; women need to be taken accountable for their actions. There are a lot of women who think they can be as physical as they want to be, and men will just take it like in the old days. This feminist movement means equality, which means that you ladies can’t hit us like you used to.

I love that this 19-year-old got charged for domestic violence because it proves that men are not always the violent ones. Ladies, look at this story and learn from it; you can’t get away with anything you want anymore, start acting like an adult and stop doing stupid things.
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BJ's BLOG 09/02/11 "Tossed of a boat?"

I read another story that shows that we don’t take care of the men and women in the military as good as we should, thus causing these problems.

35-year-old former Marine sergeant Sloane Briles was arrested for child endangerment and resisting arrest after he allegedly threw his son off a boat, into the water because he wouldn’t stop crying.

Reports say that the 7-year-old started crying after his father Sloane and his father’s girlfriend got into a fight while intoxicated. Sloane also allegedly hit the boy in attempt to get him to stop crying then threatened to throw him overboard, and did so when the little boy continued to cry.

There are many things that upset me about this story, one being how the child was treated. First off, he had to witness his idiot father fight with his girlfriend.

This irritates me; I wish that when people get divorced they kept their love interests away from their kids until they are absolutely sure that it’s a stable relationship. The kids don’t need to be around your stupid drama.

Here’s a little 7-year-old who is already traumatized because mommy and daddy don’t live together anymore, now he’s in the spot light because his father decided to throw him off a boat!

This country really trivializes the impact divorce has on children. It’s like everyone has been brainwashed into thinking that the kid shouldn’t live in a house where the parents are no longer happy with each other, even though surveys have found that kids that come from homes where the parents don’t split up are much better off.

As a child who was threatened with tough stuff, I know what you grow up to be, and I can say first hand, it is not good for the kid.

The other thing that upsets me is if you think about the problem globally we have with our military, you will see that the government isn’t doing enough to take care of them when they come back from war.

This guy is a former Sergeant and from what I’ve been told from people in the military, I really don’t believe military folks get the proper counseling they need once they get back from war, or when they are no longer in the military.

We put these men and women in these horrible situations that cause enormous amounts of post traumatic stress, as well as massive emotional pain, and yet our country isn’t doing enough for these men who put their lives on the line.

I’m not saying we don’t hold Sloane accountable for his stupid action, but if he would have gotten the proper counseling, this whole incident might have never occurred.

If we took care of these men and women more, made sure they received the proper psychological therapy they need, we would see less incidents like this one.
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BJ's BLOG 09/01/11 "Have A Cigar!"

We read an email from a guy named John who was having some problems about who gets to be in the delivery room when his child is born.

His wife wants to have her best friend since grade school be in the room; only thing is, John can’t stand the woman. He wants to know how he should bring this up to his wife.

It has been a long time since my wife and I have had a child, but back in my father’s time, the dad’s wouldn’t even be in the room with their wives; the men would be pacing around the waiting room handing out cigars while the mother of the pregnant woman would be in there for support. Then, times changed to where the husband of the pregnant woman had to become part of the experience and help, from the Lamaze classes to the birth, which is what I did.

Now though, it seems like it’s like a wedding ceremony! Everyone can attend from sisters, to aunts, to even best friends.

My question is, if a woman can get all this support from the females in her life, why does she need her husband in there as well? Guys are really not the ones you want in there, it’s not a fun experience for them and sometimes they aren’t too sure on what to do.

I didn’t like being there when my kids were born; you have to sit there watching your girl be in pain, and it’s scary and intimidating to see it all until the child is finally out, cleaned, and wrapped up.

In this day and age women may have to start taking into account what the father wants as well. Aren’t we all supposed to be about being equal anyways?

If it took a man and a woman to make the baby, then both man and woman should have a say how things should be the day it’s born; that includes who gets to be in the room.
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BJ's BLOG 08/31/11 "She started a joke..."

Over the weekend, Republican White House hopeful Michele Bachmann said that the east coast hurricane and quake were God's warning to Washington D.C. The backlash immediately followed, and she has since come out and said it was a joke. Here is a link to the video of the “joke”:  http://landing.newsinc.com/shared/video.html?freewheel=90921&sitesection=sechicagotribune&VID=23524262 

People are upset because she said God caused all of this, but I think it’s just a dumb relate and in poor taste.

What really irritates me though is she is just trying to get all the God folks to come vote for her. That is the problem with the Republican Party; all they have are the extreme religionists. It would be nice if a politician would leave God out of the picture and focus on trying to run the country based on being cool to each other, regardless if one person believes in God, or another believes in a different God, or if someone doesn’t believe at all.

Why can’t we have a politician who does that? We have bigger fish to fry in the country then trying to figure out if God does or doesn’t care.

Bottom line is, we have to stop bring God into our problems and start taking care of this country!
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BJ's BLOG 08/30/11 "One Year"

Josh emailed me, and he needed help with something a lot of people have to go through in their marriage.

Josh got a job offer that would send him out of state for a year, but the money would be so good that he would be able to be debt free and pay off the mortgage to his home by the age of 30. The only problem is that his wife has a really good job that she beat out hundreds of other applicants to get, so he doesn’t want to have her leave that job.

They don’t have kids, but they want them in the near future so being debt free would be ideal.

I know it’s hard to be away from the people you love; I had to be in Arizona while my family was still in Rochester for 4 months and it was brutal, but Josh has hit the lottery with this job opportunity. There are many people in the military who have to go through with this for sometimes years at a time and yes, there are the horror stories, but there are many who prove that it can work.

If they really have a strong relationship and are able to communicate effectively, this shouldn’t be a problem in the long run.

In the grand scheme of things, a year isn’t really a long time and there are still many ways they can stay connected. If they set aside some money, they can visit each other twice a month or more and with Skype and Facebook chat, the distance won’t hit them as hard.

40 years ago, this wouldn’t be a question. My father struggled back in the day and if he was given this opportunity, he would have taken it in a heartbeat; and this was before all the technology we have today to communicate.
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BJ's BLOG 08/29/11 "The Throne"

Staples did a recent study that says 33% of people use their iPads in the restroom, and I bet that most of that 33% are men.

Let’s be honest, on average, women don’t like to spend a lot of time in the “ladies room” if it has to do with taking care of business, while men seem to enjoy it and we had a lot of male listeners call in saying they like play video games, watch TV, or even catch up on their reading on the throne.

Going to the bathroom is really a meditative experience; isn’t that why they call it “relieving yourself”? It’s quiet, you’re taking care of “business”, and it’s the one place that you can go where no one can really bother you.

I remember my dad used to spend a lot of time in the bathroom; we had a small house and it was the only place to get any peace and quiet so I totally understand it.

That’s where I personally conduct most of work; I sit and check my emails, catch up on social networking , and I love it because I can do it uninterrupted.

In this high frenetic, high paced society, you have to find a place where you can get some down time and have a little meditative experience. We are the gender that doesn’t mind an environment that isn’t normally “pleasant”.

So ladies, don’t give your guy a hard time for wanting a little peace and tranquility in the bathroom, and guys, if you have a lady who likes to do the same, well thank your lucky stars because you have a woman who understands how you feel.
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BJ's BLOG 08/26/11 "RIP Andrew"

Yesterday was the first day back on the show after taking a few days of absence this week and the past week.

We had a close friend of the family pass away, Andrew Crowley, and we’ve been going to the service and mourning his passing the last few days.

He’s was only 19-year-old and my daughter’s close friend, but he was friends with everyone in my family.

Andrew would always have great conversations about cars with my wife Kathy and in fact, the car she drives right now was one Andrew recommended.

It was really great having Andrew in our lives. When we went to his service, we saw that the place was packed. It’s incredible how someone so young was able to have such a big impact on so many people.

I mean, it made me wonder that if in my 50 years on this planet, I would have as many wonderful things said about me as this 19-year-old kid. Andrew was an incredible person and I was humbled by how many were there to show how much they loved him. It’s amazing to see all that he’d accomplished and he was only 19.

My thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends.

Rest in Peace Andrew, you will be missed.
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BJ's BLOG 08/25/11 "Off Ramp to Stupidity!"

Last week I almost got into two accidents in the same morning on my way to work because I swear this city and the people of this city were not designed with drivers in mind.

I almost hit a guy coming off the north bound Olive Way exit, because at the end of the exit there is a crosswalk! Who had the genius idea to put a crosswalk on an off ramp? This is the only place in the country that I’ve seen this! It’s the same for the on ramp going north on I-5; they put a cross walk right where drivers are start to speed up to match the speed of traffic on the freeway.

We all know that pedestrians can be idiots and will walk without looking or thinking about it when they have a cross walk; so why can’t we have this fixed? If it’s dark out, and a pedestrian is wearing dark clothes, a car coming off the ramp may not see them if the person is just strolling by expecting any car to stop for them!

What also kills me is that the Olive Way exit was closed for close to a year for improvements, yet they didn’t do anything to fix the crosswalk issue!

It’s like this city doesn’t understand the idea of what cars are about. Everything they seem to do for road improvements is to benefit bicyclists and pedestrians; isn’t that right “Mayor McSchwinn”?

That same day I almost hit the pedestrian, there was a newspaper delivery car that just stopped out of nowhere in the middle of the road, right in front of me! They just stopped quickly, put their hazard lights on, and ran across the street to deliver papers! You’re not supposed to do that, you stupid driver! I don’t care if you’re delivering newspapers quickly; you have to pull over to the side of the road and get out of everyone’s way.

How stupid are the people that live in this area? Between pedestrians, bicyclists, and cross walks in the worst possible locations, this proves that this city doesn’t know what to do with cars.
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BJ's BLOG 08/19/11 "Stay Over?"

Yesterday we read an email from Brent who was in the dog house with his girlfriend for doing something he thought was appropriate and innocent.

Brent was working on a project with a female co-worker to meet a deadline. They moved their work back to his place and continued working while having a few beers as they did their task. At the end of the day, Brent let his female co-worker sleep on his pull-away bed in his living room while he went to his room to sleep because he didn’t want her driving while tired and having a few drinks in her.

Needless to say, his girlfriend got pissed when he told her and now she isn’t talking to him.

Here’s the thing, even though his girlfriend isn’t talking to him right now, it doesn’t mean she’s going to leave him, and guys need to understand that. Sadly, even if Brent didn’t do anything wrong, he will still have to back down to his girlfriend; and that is the secret to being in a relationship with a woman. Personally I don’t like this at all because supposedly we are all about equality, and if that were true, men wouldn’t have to play the “yes dear” card.

That being said, I still believe what Brent did was not the appropriate thing to do. If two people get together in somebody’s home and have a few drinks, and they are of the opposite sex, one of them has to have an interest in the other (if they are both heterosexual). I can believe Brent doesn’t have any interest in his co-worker but there are boundaries that people need to be aware of.

I would never think of going to a co-workers home alone if I was single or not. That is their home, their intimate place where they live their lives, and as a co-worker…there is no need for me to see that, even if nothing sexual is going on.

When it comes to relationships in the work place, sexual or just friendly, there are lines you should not cross, and I think we should take a look at Brent’s situation as an example of what not to do, regardless if you’re in a relationship or not.
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BJ's BLOG 08/18/11 "Bert & Ernie"

New York legalized gay marriage this past June, but it has encouraged a petition that wants to make two male characters from our childhood get married!

A petition started by a guy named Lair Scott is trying to make it so Bert and Ernie from Sesame Street get married!

This is what irritates me about the vocal people from the gay and lesbian community, and it’s the same for most of the other minority groups. They have these idiots who decide to make themselves figure heads and become very vocal over the dumbest issues.

So now they’re bothering Sesame Street to make Bert and Ernie get married because they want to teach children tolerance. There is nothing wrong with trying to teach a child to be tolerant of other people’s cultures or life choices but why should Sesame Street be forced to change two of their iconic characters?

Can’t two girls or two guys live together, for their entire lives if they want to, and not be gay? That’s actually quite “hetero-phobic” if you ask me; it’s the opposite of homophobia. If a strait person made an assumption about a homosexual person just like this group is doing to Bert and Ernie, then I believe people would be up in arms.

I would like to say to the gay and lesbian people all over the country who are pushing for this “marriage” that it is stereotypical and quite offensive that you would think these two puppets would be gay just because they are of the same gender and live together. That is like walking up to a person and making an assumption of who they are just because they look or behave a certain way. That’s exactly what gay people have told us not to do to them, yet they are doing the same thing!

If Sesame Street wants to come out with new characters that are gay then I have no problem with that, but we as a country have to realize when we are fighting a stupid battle.
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BJ's BLOG 08/12/11 "Despicable People"

Yesterday we had a few news stories of just some despicable people doing horrid things to children.

First in our own neck of the woods, a Pierce County woman, Drew Ann Hamrick, has been arrested after trying to cover up her now deceased husband Scott Hamrick’s crimes of molesting their adopted 12-year-old and 14-year-old daughters. Scott committed suicide after the accusations of child molestation surfaced.

According to the court papers, the prosecutors say that Drew Ann would constantly hit the girls, locked up them up without food for days at a time, and made them promise not to tell anyone about the sexual abuse.

It was Scott and Drew Ann’s biological sons who called the police to report and now have custody of their adopted sisters. They have three biological sons and a total of 5 adopted daughters.

The other story was about Polygamist leader Warren Jeffs, head of the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, who has finally been convicted for sexually assaulting two young girls that he took as child brides.

Evidence included a recording of Jeff instructing the young girls on how to service him sexually, and threatening that God would “reject them” if they didn’t have sex with him.

He was sentenced to life in prison, but I personally don’t think that is enough.

I really wish someone would save me some cash and just take Jeffs out back and get rid of him. Honestly, I really doubt many people would disagree with me on this. It doesn’t matter what religion you are, you are not allowed to have sex and impregnate young girls in this country. I’m so tired of people trying to use religion as an excuse to do bad things.

Speaking of Scott Hamrick, how the hell was he allowed to have all those children in the first place? I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again; we need to completely revamp the adoption (and foster) process in this country and create super orphanages where the kids can grow up in a safe environment, be taught by teachers who actually care about their jobs, and be nurtured by caregivers who have been thoroughly inspected though background checks.

Children should never have to go through something as traumatic as what these kids experienced, and I truly believe no punishment is severe enough for any of these three nut jobs.
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BJ's BLOG 08/11/11 "Floozie"

Yesterday during “It Can Only Happen in the South”, I came across this story that really pissed me off.

Kathy Smith from Fort Pierce, Florida got into an argument with her husband, and he allegedly called her a “floozie”.

She then grabbed a small pirate sword and started threatening him with it and as he tried to push her away, she cut a hole in his pants, inches away from his genitals.

A lot of these stories recently seem to be about women going crazy and committing acts of domestic violence. Maybe now people are having less of a problem reporting women for what they do.

I just can’t believe this man almost had his junk cut off all because he called her a “floozie”.

Women need to understand, and men do too, that just because someone calls you a bad name or tries to hurt you with their words, that doesn’t give you the right to physically harm them. You don’t get to do that in America because you will get in trouble for it.

It doesn’t matter if they call you a name, say horrible things about your family; it’s not the old west anymore, and you can’t punch someone because of the words they say.

So men, I encourage you to report women when they act out in physical violence because we need to educate them that domestic violence is an issue for both genders.
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BJ's BLOG 08/10/11 "Dress Your Age!"

Bob emailed us with a problem that I think a lot of men have, and he has no idea what to do.

Bob is 50-years-old and his wife is 45, but she constantly dresses like their 16-year-old daughter. What’s worse is that Bob says that she can’t pull it off. Bob wanted to know how should he bring this up to his wife and why do women insist on dressing younger than they really are.

The problem that men have, and that men have had over the years, is telling women anything about their looks that could sound “negative”. I don’t know how to criticize a woman about anything without her getting mad, but sometimes they need the criticism.

There is a certain way you should behave in your life as you get older, and it’s called “getting old with grace”.

I’ve see what Bob is talking about; I went down to Santa Monica this past weekend and there were a lot of women running around in bikinis that should not have been wearing that. Especially if you have large guts or stretch marks from child birth; there are ways to dress, even in swimsuits, where you look better than if you were in a bikini.

Are women delusional and think that if they continue to dress like a teenager that they will still look like one? For being the “superior gender”, it seems like a very childish thing to do.

These types of women who refuse to let go of the “good ol’ days” really need to reevaluate their lives and start dressing accordingly. If you dress like a 20-something-year-old slut, then that is how you will be treated, but if you dress like an age appropriate 40-something, you will more than likely be treated with respect.

There is still a way to be sexy as an adult, but you don’t need to have the word “Juicy” printed on your butt to do so.
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BJ's BLOG 08/09/11 "Other People's Kids"

Last week, during Group Therapy, we received an email from Frank who has a very difficult dilemma.

Frank broke up with his fiancé 18 months ago and hasn’t had any contact with her or her kids up until a few weeks ago. His ex fiancé’s daughter messaged him on Facebook asking for his help since she has moved out of her mom’s house because of her drinking problems, her grades have slipped in school, and is suffering some dental and medical issues.

When Frank was with his ex, he had bonded with her 14-year-old daughter (who is now 16) by helping her with her studies, and they had a mutual respect for one another.

Now that the daughter is out of her mom’s house, she is living with her 18-year-old boyfriend, and even though he “has his crap together” according to Frank, he doesn’t think it’s the right thing for her to be doing.

Frank is in a difficult position because as a man we want to help and solve problems, but we have to tread carefully when it comes to the children of others, especially when it involves a female child. In today’s world, there is no good deed that goes unpunished, especially if you’re a man.

It’s so hard to go and counsel another person’s child because that person, who is the parent, could get pissed off and throw it in your face. It sucks because it’s the kids who lose out on it because the government always protects the idiot parents.

The best course of action is to just stay away from this girl, at least in a physical stand point because so many things could go wrong. You can’t be a nice person anymore in today’s society.

What if the mom gets mad and starts accusing you of something you didn’t do, like molesting her daughter? I wouldn’t be surprised with the number of false rape and sexual assault claims out there. Or what if the daughter doesn’t fall to far from the tree and is willing to ruin your life just to get what she wants?

Until women learn how to police themselves better now that they have the power in society, we can’t be the “nice guy” anymore.
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BJ's BLOG 08/04/11 "Damaged Goods"

We received a text from “Cupcake,” who needed our advice.

Cupcake’s boyfriend has an ex girlfriend who is claiming she is pregnant with her boyfriend’s child. “Cupcake” wanted to know if she should stay with this guy who is going to be a father, or to just stay away from the drama and leave the relationship now.

I wish she would have included their ages, because that would tell me a lot. I’ve often talked about assessing the level of damaged goods you are and assessing the level of damaged goods the other person is.

People don’t like this method because it is a harsh way to do business in the world of romance in America, but I truly believe if people follow the “damaged goods meter” that I have, you’ll be able to figure out your lot in life and whether or not you should stay in a relationship.

Usually younger people don’t have to put up with damaged goods; and the more you, as a man, can bring to the table as far as a career, you will be lower on the “damaged goods meter”.

For a guy, the more you have your crap together, the better you look at a younger age and for a woman, the more attractive you are, the better you will have it. That’s just the way it is! I know it sounds horrible to some people, but can you honestly say that is not how the world works?

Once you get older, you’ve been through more relationships, you’ve been divorced, you’ve had kids, or you don’t have a job, then those all count against you in the “damaged goods meter”. You then have to take a look at yourself and figure out where you fall on the meter and then look at your partner and where they fall on the meter to see if you’re in the same place.

In this case, “Cupcake’s” boyfriend is now damaged goods and she has to figure out if she is in the same place or not, and if she sees that she has a better lot in life, she should move on.
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BJ's BLOG 08/03/11 "Hail To the V?"

The other day I was watching TV with my wife; now I normally fast forward through the commercials, but I saw an ad that looked like an epic action movie trailer so I went back to watch what it was about. I could not believe what this commercial was selling!

Check it out:



I’ll give them credit, it was a great commercial for a women’s cleansing product, but there was something that didn’t sit well with me.

What I took away from this, from a philosophical stand point, is the commercial is out there basically saying that they know that the “va-jay-jay” is so powerful, that men will do anything for it; or like they put it, “Hail to the V”!

I think that it’s pretty amazing that they are willing to admit that, when women blindly claim that men should be able to “keep it in their pants” and have no reason to act irrational when aroused even though we know scientifically it is all based on hormones.

If you’re a woman, this commercial should make you nervous because it shows that women know that men have a hard time controlling themselves when it comes to sexual desire, and that they’ve been taking advantage of this for thousands of years.

I don’t think women are going to want this message out there because they’ve been trying to hide the fact that they do indeed use their vagina as currency and they’ve done so for many years.
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BJ's BLOG 08/02/11 "Nursing"

Yesterday was a Group Therapy first! A listener named Matt emailed us, his wife and he are in an “adult nursing relationship” (ANR), which means that his wife breast feeds him. He goes on to say it’s not always about the sexual nature of it, but more of being intimate with his wife.

His wife is afraid though that her growing breasts will give away what they are doing to their friends, and he is afraid of what they might think of such a “taboo” activity.

It is interesting how we as a society generally looks at “taboo” behaviors in life. Matt and his wife are two consenting adults engaging in an activity that isn’t really hurting anyone, but many will look down upon it.

I will admit if I had a close friend who came out and told me they did this type of thing, it would weird me out a little bit, but they are not doing anything illegal so I wouldn’t have a problem with it, I just wouldn’t want to hear the details about it.

I know what it’s like to be ostracized for doing something “weird” that didn’t bother anyone else. My whole family and I were vegetarians for many years which was considered taboo at the time, and we were looked at as freaks. Back in the 80’s, there wasn’t any vegetarian options for us to choose from , so when we would go to an Italian restaurant and they only had meat sauce, not marinara, it was a big hassle for us. So I know what it’s like to be an outcast based on doing an activity that society doesn’t deem “normal”.

You’d think as Americans, we could be honest about our harmless behaviors. I think the problem with this country is that we get repulsed by particular behaviors and then we feel like we have to demonize those people doing the behavior. Sadly, if we just took the time to try to understand the reasons why people do these things, and stop demonizing these people, we would have a lot less problems as a whole because there would more tolerance and less hate.
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BJ's BLOG 08/01/11 "Move Out!"

During Listeners on the Loose on Friday, we had a listener named Charles call in asking for some advice.

Charles brought his best friend into his home to live with him and his family until he got back on his feet. Being the nice guy that Charles is, he also has his buddy’s girlfriend and baby living there too because he doesn’t want to be the one to break up a family.

The problem Charles is having is with his friend’s girlfriend; she’s not only NOT a good person to be around, but she is also stealing Charles’s baby’s formula, diapers, etc. for her own baby.

Charles has a wife and three kids and yet he brought this genius of a woman into their home but now wants her gone. At the same time though, he doesn’t want to be the one to split up the family but he would rather just have his friend living with him without the girlfriend.

Here are my rules; if you have children, your priority is your family over anybody or anything else in your life. As a father, you are the gatekeeper of your children’s safety and their sanity and you are the only person they should be able to count on to keep them safe. That means you don’t let any crap clutter their lives including people like this woman.

Charles said that it would be too difficult to just kick them all out because he has a big heart; but what about when there are people in your own home that are hurting your children in a way? Why can’t you extend your big heart to your kids and prevent this jerk of a woman from filling their lives with drama and pain?

This sort of thing could ruin a relationship between your spouse and children, so as much as it may hurt, and as much as the woman may break down and cry, you have to be strong and think of what is best for your kids.

What Charles should do is give him a time period of no longer than a month to get his life together and find his own place. If he can’t support his family, then he had no business starting one in the first place.

Don’t hurt your family by bringing in drama; and you are not a bad person for preventing drama either, that’s what a good father does.
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BJ's BLOG 07/29/11 "Sexual Misconduct?"

24-year-old Julian Alfred Young got fired from The Wallingford Boys and Girls Club, and is in legal trouble after he had a sexual relationship with a 16-year-old girl whom he met at the club.

Julian has been charged with first-degree sexual misconduct with a minor (he was not charged with rape because of the girl’s age).

I am so tired of the phrases they are using to label situations because they don’t seem to fit the actions. The only reason they are charging Julian with first-degree sexual misconduct with a minor is because she is 16 and of legal age of consent in this state and they couldn’t peg him for rape.

I do understand however, and have no problem with the Boys and Girls Club’s decision to fire him. A work place has the right to say that you are not allowed to have sex with customers, but I don’t understand why they were allowed to charge Julian with any kind of crime at all since we recently learned 16 is the age of consent.

Look, he’s 24-years-old; it is not outside the realm of possibility that someone of that age to hook up with someone 8 years younger than him especially if they have been hanging out in close quarters like that.

The idea of a 24-year-old having a relationship with a 16-year-old isn’t weird to me; guys are less mature than girls, so sometimes a girls have to find older guys to find that balance.

We just had a 50-year-old marry a 16-year-old in this state, and that’s OK?

This is what is wrong with this country today; we always have to demonize things by putting ridiculous labels on situations to make people look bad when they really did nothing at all.
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BJ's BLOG 07/28/11 "Serial Killer?"

19-year-old Matthew G. Williams from Lakewood was arrested earlier this week after police found him in his car unconscious, wearing a black ski mask and glasses, along with a pellet rifle, a rifle scope, machete, and marijuana.

Williams admitted he beat his family cat to death with a flash light before setting it on fire. He also "practiced" by killing squirrels and birds. When I say "practiced" I mean he was preparing himself to become a serial killer.

According to court documents, Williams stated that he felt "God-like" when he tortured and killed animals, knowing that he was inflicting pain and in total control of their lives. He admitted he admired serial killer Ted Bundy and liked to watch torture videos so that he could desensitize himself for when he actually killed people. He allegedly stated that he planned to target homeless people and "average" white men with no family ties.

This sounds like something out of a TV show like Torchwood or Dexter!

This is a very eerie situation and I’m glad that he was caught before he could cause any harm to a person. Here is an example of a person who should be locked up in a mental facility for the rest of his life.

Too often do we see people out here in the real world with the rest of us, who we know have issues, yet people think its ok to let them be responsible for themselves and their treatment. How many idiots do we see reoffend because they were not taking their medication?

When will society stop feeling sorry for these people and letting them try to live a normal life like the rest of us? News flash, they are not like us because there is seriously something wrong with their heads.

I hope that this Williams kid stays locked up for the rest of his life because I fear if he doesn’t, he will eventually complete his mission.
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BJ's BLOG 07/27/11 "Al-Anon"

We read an email from Casey who needed help with his father. Casey is now 22-years-old and has disowned his abusive alcoholic father for the past 6 years. Now his dad is really sick due to all of the drinking, but Casey isn’t sure if he should try to work things out with him and try to help him get better.

This really hit home for me because it seems like if you are in your 50’s now, you knew someone back in the day who suffered from alcoholism at some point.

We had a lot of listeners call in and most of them went back to their parents after disowning them; some now have great relationships with their mom or dad, but a few really regret even bothering.

Women seem to be more drawn to giving help because it is in their nature, but regardless of gender, we are sometimes driven to do these kinds of things out of guilt.

Regardless of what draws you to help someone who has hurt you with their addiction, I would like to say this because I don’t think a lot of people know there is help for those trying to help.

There is always anonymous treatment available for the people who have the addiction issues, but there are support groups out there for the family and friends of those people with issues.

Al-Anon is a great organization for the children, parents, siblings, or friends of alcoholics/ drug abusers that will help you cope with the issues brought on by these people in their lives.

Before you do anything with your father Casey, get into that support group so that however you decide to handle the situation, they will couch you on how not to hurt yourself in the process. That’s what happens when we try to help others sometimes; we go in trying to help out of compassion, or even guilt, and we end up getting abused and have our lives ruined even though we’re not the ones who are addicted to anything.

That’s why Al-Anon and groups like that are so great; they will coach you on how to go into a bad situation without the cost of your own soul.
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BJ's BLOG 07/26/11 "Winehouse"

Over the weekend, singer Amy Winehouse died at the age of 27 in her London home. The first online thing I saw about it was on my Facebook News Feed and I all I saw were jokes about her, but I know a lot of people are mad at those people because they are making fun of someone who had a horrible “disease”.

I am getting really tired of people referring to addiction as a disease, and even more tired of people feeling sorry for celebrities for feeding their habits.

I would like to call it something else because it seems almost insulting to put alcoholism in the same category as cancer.

Drug addicts and alcoholics never have to have that so called “disease” if they actually do something about it.

Another thing that pisses me off is to see a famous person who is out snorting drugs or chugging down enormous amounts of booze every night who claim they can’t help it, it’s an addiction.

Look, it is unacceptable to see a celebrity going through these problems because unlike a lot of people, they have way plenty of money to get the help they need.

Get your ass in rehab, see a therapist every week, hire someone whose only job is to make sure you don’t go near anything that will trigger you into going back to what you are addicted to!

I think Americans who have their act together are tired of this because it’s not that difficult to get your act together. If the average Joe can get their life sorted out without the help of the millions of dollars these idiot celebrities have, then it should be a breeze for anyone with money, right?

Learn to manage your damn pain like the rest of us! All of us who don’t act like idiots, deal with our pain every day, and try to be good human beings are tired of everyone feeling sorry for these morons who don’t understand this!

I am one of those people who are not sad that Amy Winehouse is dead because I saw this coming! Am I a jerk for saying all this? It’s common sense! There is just no excuse for this anymore. It’s about time we start telling these people that it’s not a disease, they just don’t want to do anything about their own well being and they will have to accept the consequences of their own actions.
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BJ's BLOG 07/25/11 "Eye For An Eye"

Last Friday, during Listeners on the Loose, we had a listener tweet me some news about the latest actions that will be taken for people who drive drunk.

As of last Friday, if you get busted for driving under the influence, your car will be towed and impounded for a mandatory 12 hours. The reasoning behind this is that it gives the person who received the DUI a chance to sober up before returning to their car.

According to the Seattle PI, the State Patrol has said there have been multiple cases where people that were arrested for a DUI have returned to their cars to drive them again.

In this day and age, there is no excuse for anyone to ever drive drunk. Every single person should have it embedded into their skulls that this something they should never do!

Just like you have educated yourself in knowing you shouldn’t be running around killing people when you are drunk, you should educate yourself to never think it is ok to get behind the wheel of the car after having a few drinks.

The trouble I think is we haven’t really made people realize how horrible this really is, and how bad the repercussions could be. I think a big part of the reason why that is, is because we have so many drunk politicians that they don’t want to create tougher laws that will affect them as well.

How many innocent people have had their lives ruined because of some idiot who decided to drink and drive.

Here is what should happen to them; it should be an eye for an eye; whatever you do to someone while you are under the influence, should happen to you.

If you bash someone’s head into the wall, cripple a person, or kill them in a way where they have to suffer for hours before they pass, well guess what? You will get the same thing done to you. I would love for a law like this to pass and I wouldn’t be merciful. I don’t care if you were drowning your sorrows; if you are stupid enough to get into a car while in an altered state like that, get prepared for the consequences.

Trust me, no one will ever drive drunk again because they know what will happen to them; but sadly this country is filled with too many politically correct morons who would never approve of something like this to become reality.
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BJ's BLOG 07/22/11 "Hack"

There have been a lot of reports lately of different publications getting hacked into lately. The British Sunday tabloid newspaper News of the World and Rupert Murdock is under investigation for hacking into people’s phone voicemails, but yesterday we talked about someone else having to go through hacking problems.

Zach Braff from the show “Scrubs” has recently had his old blog website (which hasn’t been posted on since 2006) hacked. Now what this is what a hacker posted:

To all my loyal fans,

I have been hiding this secret inside me for too long…

The human mind can only bare so much before it explodes in emotions, and well… it is time I let the world know.

I am excited and proud to announce that I am an open member of the homosexual community.

This is not news to those closest to me, and I honor that they have kept it a secret for such a long time. This doesn’t change anything. I am still Zach Braff, and I am the same man I have always been, gay or not. ;)

Thank you to all my supporters and look forward to seeing me soon! I couldn’t be happier about this announcement! ;)

Zach later posted his own statement to his Facebook, writing, "My old website got hacked. Someone issued a 'coming out' statement on my behalf. I'm still straight and in love with my girlfriend. But not too straight; I still love musicals, brunch and Doogie Howser."

Even though Zach made a joke about the whole situation, that still shouldn’t have happened in the first place. I am so tired of these hackers going in and trying to make people’s lives miserable. They think they are just playing a silly joke on someone, but they either are too stupid to realize the damage they are causing or they are complete a-holes and don’t care who they hurt.

I hope with this recent big news about Rupert Murdock and all the different hacking going on (like on Zach Braff’s webpage), that the government comes down harder on these jerk hackers and throw them in jail for a long time for all the misery they have caused.
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BJ's BLOG 07/21/11 "Engagement Ring Drama"

We read an email from Chelsey who needed advice during Group Therapy, and her question sparked a lot of debate from both men and women on my Facebook page.

Chelsey works for a jewelry store and she recently had a guy come in to have a ring cleaned and fitted for his new fiancé. While in the store, the guy told Chelsey that the ring originally was given to his ex fiancé but she returned it when they broke up. After reviewing his paperwork, she discovered that she was friends with his fiancé in high school and college. What Chelsey wasn’t sure of is if she should tell her friend that she was receiving a recycled ring or keep quiet.

It is unbelievable to me that this is even an issue. What does this say about women? It really irritates me that women put so much emphasis and importance on engagement and wedding rings. I have no problem with the whole tradition; it is a nice way to symbolize your love for your significant other. The thing I hate is the cattiness and pettiness that comes up over these rings is ridiculous!

I don’t understand what the problem is with having a recycled ring. If it’s a beautiful ring, even though it was given to someone else, the man still picked it out and finds it best represents his commitment to the woman he loves, shouldn’t he get to decide if it’s a good enough ring for his girlfriend? Isn’t that the man’s job anyways?

I just don’t understand why women get up in arms about this sort of thing. If he’s willing to give you the ring in the first place as a symbol of him wanting to devote the rest of his life to you, shouldn’t that be enough? It’s sad to see how materialistic some people can be these days.
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BJ's BLOG 07/20/11 "$500 Baby"

Last week, a 36-year-old woman by the name of Heidi Lynn Knowles got arrested for attempting to sell her 3-day-old infant in a Taco Bell.

The Vancouver Washington woman handed the baby to a woman in the restaurant, offering him to her for $500. The woman gave the child back and called police, who in turn tracked Knowles down and arrested her. Reports said that she appeared to be under the influence of some sort of substance, and she admitted she has been clean of methamphetamines for a year now.

I always laugh when I hear stories like this because of how much money a person has to spend to legally get a kid. It is literally thousands of dollars and yet Heidi was giving it up for only $500.

I know this is going to sound horrible to some of you but I have to applaud Heidi. She was at least attempting to put her child in a better situation than if it was with her.

If someone is trying to sell their child for $500, then it’s safe to say the child will be better off in the long run not being in the hands of their biological parents.

What I want to know is if anyone in this country can just have a baby without having to pass a test or get a license for it, (which I strongly believe should be a law in place anyways), then why can’t she sell it on her own to someone who can’t have a child?

Isn’t the government into the baby selling business as well? The only difference is that they like to mask it by calling it a different name. So technically, if you think about it, Heidi is in jail for something other people are allowed to do; it’s just the government isn’t getting a cut of this deal like they do with traditional adoption, where people have to pay out of their ears for it.

My buddy just got a baby from another country and you would not believe the hoops they had to jump through; more hoops than the moron parents had to jump through to have the baby in that country to start with!

Sometimes as a country, we waste so much money and time on some things that have simple solutions.
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BJ's BLOG 07/19/11 "Marriage"

Yesterday on the show we talked about that 16-year-old Ocean Shores beauty queen, Courtney Stodden, and her 51-year-old actor husband Doug Hutchison. They were on Good Morning America last Friday defending their marriage and talking about how much they love each other.

These guys are both tool sheds! What would make a 51-year-old man want to marry a 16-year-old? I would understand being infatuated with her, and I would even understand if they were just dating right now. My problem is with our government and religious nut jobs who continue to say that marriage is a sacred institution that won’t allow two people of the same gender to wed.

To me it’s ironic that Courtney Stodden’s parents, who have said they are a good Christian family, are basically making a mockery of the institution of marriage. Marriage isn’t something that should be entered into lightly! Seriously, a 16-year-old marrying a 51-year-old in today’s culture is something that shouldn’t be done, especially after only dating for a few months.

I don’t understand how the same people who think homosexuality is an “abomination” don’t think this marriage is the same thing! If you really want to defend marriage and promote it be taking seriously, then you should start protesting the Hutchison/Stodden marriage are feverishly as you protest gay marriage.

There is no way this will last because she is still a stupid teenager! What makes marriage last is the common ground two people share as they go through all the tough times in life. She doesn’t have enough life experience to know how to move forward and support another person emotionally.

It’s ridiculous that if two people who have worked years on their relationship and want to express how much love they have for each other can’t do it legally just because they are of the same gender, yet these two idiots only needed a parent signature and a trip to Vegas. What a joke. It’s these two idiots who should be looked at as abominations to marriage, not homosexuals.
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BJ's BLOG 07/18/11 "Shopping Carts"

Last week we talked about what Tacoma is trying to do with grocery stores and their shopping carts.

Since people have complained that they’ve become an eyesore scattered around in neighborhoods, bus stops, alleyways, etc, council member Ryan Mello is looking to put some new rules in place.

Some requirements include for the grocery chain to put electronic locks on carts so the wheels would lock up if someone tries to roll them off the parking lot. Another option for store owners is to have designated staff or hire contractors to pick up abandoned carts. On top of that, all carts must be labeled with the owner's address and phone number and the stores must post penalty signs. Ryan Mello says he is also looking into fines, possibly $35 to $50.

What bothers me is that super markets provide shopping carts for the convenience of their costumers, but who do you think are the ones who are really abusing this? That’s right, homeless people! How many times have you seen a bum wondering the streets with trash and their belongings in a shopping cart from a store that is no-where nearby?

The same government that doesn’t want to round these losers up and put them in a facility where they can receive the treatment they need, whether rehab or a mental institution, wants to start fining grocery stores if they don’t get a better carts that can’t get stolen?

It just doesn’t seem fair to me to penalize the super markets for something they already try to keep good tabs on just because we have these cracked out idiots making it hell for the rest of us.
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BJ's BLOG 07/12/11 "Bad Dad"

Yesterday during Group Therapy, we called out for some help for a listener named “Dad”. He was recently contacted by a 20-year-old man who claims to be his son. “Dad” didn’t know what to do and asked for help from the Rock-aholics.

As we were taking calls, we got one from a listener in Fort Lewis named Jason who had been in the situation of “Dad’s” possible son.

Jason told us he hadn’t seen his dad since he left back when Jason was 3-years-old. When he finally tracked him down and got him on the phone (shortly before going to Afghanistan), his father just told him to “Eff off”.

Jason tried a few more times to get a hold of him but after a while, his dad stopped picking up the phone, and Jason hasn’t heard from him since.

How difficult is it to swallow your pride, admit you’re a piece of crap, and talk to your son? It’s too bad that this guy couldn’t man up enough so he could just see how great his kid turned out. Jason is fighting in the military and wouldn’t any father would be proud of that?

Jason doesn’t have any kids but the great thing about being a male is that you can become a great man/father regardless of if you had a good or bad dad yourself. If your father was strong, accountable, and there for you, you will follow in his footsteps, but if your dad was a worthless nobody who did nothing for you and was a complete jerk, as a man, we look at that and challenge ourselves to never be like him and to do great things.

Regardless, you can always learn from your dad even if you don’t have him in your life, but you should surround yourself with strong male mentors in order to become the best person you can be.
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BJ's BLOG 07/11/11 "Pirates...Not the SeaFair kind"

The nation’s top internet providers have come to an agreement with Hollywood on a systematic approach to identifying customers who are suspected of digital copyright infringement (downloading music & movies illegally) and then alerting them via e-mail. If the person continues to be a douche after receiving their 5 or 6 warnings, their internet provider will slow their internet connection to a crawl! It will slow down so much it will run as slow as a dial up connection!

My son, The Prodigy, has so many dumb friends who say they can watch a movie that isn’t even out yet. Really?! You don’t get to watch a movie for free stupid, you should pay for it! How would you like it if we went to your job and demanded that you don’t get paid for all your hard work? Yet you still don’t want to pay for a movie or CD that a lot of people worked hard to put out.

I think it is a great idea to slow down an offender’s internet -- It’s much better than getting sued or fined, and trust me, this is going to be a worse punishment for them and they won’t bother to continue pirating things.
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BJ's BLOG 07/08/11 "Congrats Ladies"

Yesterday we received an email from Zack who needed advice on how to deal with the girl he likes in Group Therapy.

Here is his email:

BJ-

Hey guys long time listener.

I have known this girl for a few months now and about a month ago I told her that I liked her. She had recently broken up with her boyfriend of 2 years, and a few days later we hung out and she kissed me. Seems like a good thing.

The catch is that even though she likes me, there is this other guy that is in the picture. She has dated him before and cheated on her boyfriend with him, but when they dated he left her for his ex girlfriend. She is “friends with benefits” with him right now, but yet she still wants to be with me and she keeps hurting me but for some reason I don’t mind it because I am crazy about her.

I took her on a nice date Tuesday night and everything was great…she told me that I am everything she wants in a guy. Then afterwards I find out that she is going to her “friends with benefit’s” place. Long story short, he shows up as were talking and she says I should go.

I was upset so I peeled out of the parking lot but then something told me to turn back so I did. I walked up and told her I wanted to confess my love for her. We talked for a little and she said she would call me. She knows I would be better for her then he would be. We have spent the night together and just a great time together. What should I do? Should I keep waiting for her or when is enough, enough?

-Zack

Attention ladies: congratulations on what you’ve done to men in this country. This is a very, very vaginized guy right here and I’m not saying that to insult him, I’m saying it out of tough love so Zack can re-evaluate himself when he looks in the mirror. Vaginized guys are not what the average woman is looking for, even though feminism has taught men to believe that is what they should be.

Whenever a man falls for a woman, he is done. They will put up with a lot of ridiculousness to be with her, and I know from experience. There is no problem with a woman wanting to go out, be single, explore her options, and have fun sexually, but you have to understand that you are the gender telling us not to sleep with you unless we care for you so we don’t break your heart; so why can’t this woman see that is exactly what she is doing to Zack.

The fact that he peeled out of the parking lot but went back to confess his love is a very feminine thing to do, and it’s because of what we’ve turned men into in this culture.

Feminism brought a lot of good things, but this is the down side; it’s really “de-balled” men and the young women of this generation are pissed because they can’t find a good strong man.
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BJ's BLOG 07/07/11 "Want To Play A Game?"

We read a study which found that if you want to have relations with a woman, you have to let her win at a game. They used Scrabble as an example, so if you want action you should make it a point to let her win.

Psychologist have found that when a woman wins something, regardless of how minor the victory is, her testosterone spikes enough to get her turned on. This works for new couples, as well as people who have been in long term relationships.

It seems like the more things change, the more they stay the same way. Here we are in the year 2011; women have continued to fight to prove they are just as valid and just as equal as any man, but the age old mindset is true: don’t be better than a woman, cheat to lose, and she will like you more.

Women have complained for years that men aren’t aggressive enough in the bedroom, but if we have to stop our competitive urges and lose, how can we be aggressive? We have to become subservient to our spouses in order for this to happen.

Listen ladies, we can either tone down our competitive side to help you win a game and get in the mood, or we can be naturally aggressive, but you can’t have it both ways.
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BJ's BLOG 07/06/11 "Irony"

Yesterday we talked about the ultimate ironic story that ended with one person dead.

A motorcycle biker died in a motorcycle crash while at a helmet law protest, and he would have lived if he was wearing a helmet.

According to the reports, 55-year-old Philip A. Contos hit his brakes, fishtailed, and launched over the handlebars, hitting his head. He was pronounced dead at the hospital.

As much as it is a tragedy when someone dies, I believe at the same time, the irony serves as a funny lesson to how being stupid can really affect your life.

My thoughts on the whole helmet law are that if it’s not going to cost me money in any way, shape or form, then they should remove this law and laws like this so people can decide if they want to be safe or not; but if they get a head injury, they don’t get any help from insurance. Same goes for people who don’t want to wear seat belts; they will have to deal with the physical and financial ramifications for their own moronic actions.

I think it’s crazy that people don’t want to ride around with a helmet on or leather to protect them! Why wouldn’t you want to take all the precautions necessary in the case of an accident?

People need to start taking accountability for their stupid choices, so I say change the laws and let these idiots destroy their lives if they want to.
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BJ's BLOG 07/05/11 "Halperin"

Last week we talked about what happened on the MSNBC show, “Morning Joe” that got political analyst Mark Halperin suspended indefinitely.

After being asked a question on how he felt President Obama behaved when he called for members of congress to cancel their vacation if they didn't have a debt limit for America fixed before the 4th of July weekend, Halperin asked if they had a 7 second delay. After the two morning hosts, Joe Scarborough and Mika Brzezinski, assured him that they did in fact have a delay and that they would have his back, he said that he thought Obama was a “being a d—k”.

Here is video of the interview:



I don’t understand why Halperin was suspended indefinitely when the two stupid hosts of the show, Joe and Mika, encouraged him and told him that he would be ok to say what he wanted to say.

This shows the lack of leadership on this show that they are willing to get someone fired just to get their show noticed. What a pile of crap this whole situation is! He even apologized twice! No one should ever want to be on their show again.

The same thing happened on our show back in the day. They suspended our whole show after I said something on air, and I instructed our board operator to not dump it. When it came time to face the fire, I told management it was my big mouth that said it so I should be the only one who gets suspended or fired. Instead, they thought it would teach everyone a lesson by making our show the example by suspending everyone.

Regardless of whether you think Halperin should have said those comments or not, he has a case, and hopefully Halperin can make an example out of MSNBC and those two morning show idiots because this is just ridiculous.
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BJ's BLOG 07/01/11 "Hope"

Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from Hope who needed help with her husband.

She is a 39-year-old woman who has a much higher sex drive then her 57-year-old husband. When she says “high sex drive” she means she would like to have sex twice a day (but could also go for more), but her husband doesn’t like to put out. Hope is lucky if she can get it once a month from him; he’s the one who says he’s not in the mood or has a headache and she can’t get him to do any type of sex.

Hope’s husband does look at porn and take care of himself and she has no problem with it because she does the same thing, but she just wishes that she could be a part of his activities more often.

We don’t know the full details about their relationship, but I do know that there are very few men out there who would refuse sex. Granted that when a man gets older, their desire to have sex goes down, but this could also be something she is putting out there.

A listener named Brian called in and said he has the same problem with his wife of 8-years but the reason he stops wanting sex is because he gets bored. When this happens and his wife notices though, she actively does something about it, like get a porno, or finds another way to spice things up, and he get’s right back into it. Maybe Hope needs to take hold of the reins and do what her husband wants instead of what she wants.

Another caller named Matt also made a really good point that I think all women should keep in mind. He says is that he can keep up with his wife with a little rest once in a while but if she’s nagging him, demanding certain things, or making him feel inadequate, then he would rather turn on porn and handle things on his own.

Nothing is a bigger turn-off than high maintenance because we have to be high maintenance in our everyday lives, so the last thing we want is to have it in our sex lives as well. We as men having been having sex for a long time (usually by ourselves in the beginning) and the reason we enjoy it so much is because it feels good and it’s relaxing without having to think a whole lot about it.

Hope just needs to sit down with her husband to figure out what she could be doing for him; because if she is willing to help him out with what and how he wants things, he might be more inclined to help stratify her needs as well.
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BJ's BLOG 06/30/11 "Young Criminals"

Billy Chambers, who is one of the convicted murderers of famous Tuba Man Edward McMichael, is in trouble with the law again after he rear-ended and side-swiped the car of a woman who'd reported him to police a week before the incident for allegedly stealing several items from her car.

Billy has been charged with second-degree assault and hit-and-run, but this is not his first offense. He has prior convictions for first and third-degree theft, three pending traffic cases, and, like I said before, was one of the convicted murders of the Tuba Man, for which he only served 18 months.

I don’t know if this is a law or not because I am not fully versed on the subject, but I would love it if we were able to take the pasts of all these juveniles that were tried as kids and use it against them once they become adults and break the law again.

If they decide to continue to be stupid once they are over the age of 18, we’ll just tell them we will take a look at all of the crimes they committed when they were underage and hold it against them in court along with their new offense.

Billy Chambers is a perfect example, and in my opinion he should never see the light of day again. He’s 18 now, still getting into trouble, and allegedly is trying to create some sort of web of fear for all those who “wronged” him and have tried putting him behind bars.

I say we take all of his actions into account. Everything he did before he was an adult (that he only got tried as a minor for) should be piled on so we can put him behind bars and let him rot.

When as a society are we going to start punishing kids when they do something as heinous as murder, and yet still don’t turn their life around?

That’s my plan; you screw up as a kid, we’ll give you another shot to rehabilitate yourself but once you become an adult and you are still messing around in the same stupid crap…good bye!
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BJ's BLOG 06/29/11 "Video Games"

I read an article about a ruling the Supreme Court made…this is really a no brainer for me, but the Supreme Court struck down the violent video game law in California that restricted the sale or rental of violent video games to minors.

The Supreme Court said they did not want to let this law stay in effect because they found that the government does not have the power to restrict the ideas to which children could be exposed. Basically, in the 7-2 vote they found that it was a violation of a person’s 1st Amendment rights.

I don’t understand why people are so worked up about it that they felt that this law needed to be there in the first place. Video games have a rating system for a reason, and it’s up to the parents to watch what their kids are exposed to (just like everything else in their lives). It’s a parent’s job to deem what is suitable for their children, but that’s apparently not good enough for some people in this country.

I am a huge believer in the benefit of video games because they allow us to take our violent tendencies and express them in a healthy way. I love the Grand Theft Auto games for that reason; I take all the stress I’ve had from the day and let it out by running a person over. In real life, I can’t take a baseball bat to someone’s head, or hit someone with my car when I am mad, but when I get angry and need an outlet for that anger, I just pick up a controller.

It is so frustrating to hear people want to blame video games for the bad things criminals do. Bad people do bad things! The reason people do bad things is because they have issues; it has nothing to do with any form of artistic presentation in movies, music, and yes, even video games.

It’s up to parents to decide what our kids can watch. If you don’t like certain depictions that are shown in these games, you can choose not to expose your kids to them; just stop blaming video games for the hurtful actions of some people.
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BJ's BLOG 06/28/11 "Anarchy"

Over the weekend, a mob of several hundred formed in Capitol Hill and they vandalized businesses, broke windows, and smashed a patrol car’s windshield.

This weekend was also Gay Pride Weekend and there was a lot of celebration going on, especially now since New York has allowed Gay marriage, but shortly after midnight a mob of anarchists gathered.

They proceeded to make their way down Broadway. Some of the people in the group were described as anarchists and according to a news report, they chose to use Gay Pride Weekend to show protest towards gay pride because it is now part of the commercial mainstream.

Congratulations, you stupid anarchists. Is this what we can expect whenever we have some sort of big celebration in town? You gather around, cause some destruction and ruin everyone’s good time?

Here’s what I don’t understand about anarchists; how is it that you don’t hurt other anarchists when you do stupid things like this? In order to avoid “your own kind” from getting hurt when you go out and riot, wouldn’t you need some sort of order, which is the opposite of what you believe in?

Do you understand that the end all goal of anarchy is that only one person survives? You have to kill each other once you kill everyone else because you can’t have any form of organization.

If you take a look at nature, you will see that nature is sometimes intended to be chaotic and sometimes orderly, so there is no way the whole world could ever be completely about anarchy. An example in nature that proves my point is the seasons of the year; they always stay the same. They don’t go “spring, winter, summer, spring, spring, fall, summer…” there is always a fixed way it’s going to happen.

That’s why I can’t stand anarchists and their unrealistic and destructive ideas of how the world should be.
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BJ's BLOG 06/27/11 "Courtney Stodden"

Last week we talked about the weirdest couple in the news today. 51-year-old actor Doug Hutchinson (you might remember him from "The Green Mile" and "Lost") married his 16-year-old girlfriend Courtney Alexis Stodden on May 20 in Las Vegas. That is a 35-year difference and she’s not even old enough to vote yet!

Granted, she doesn’t look like a typical 16-year-old girl, more like a plastic late 20-something year old, but this is still pretty wrong. The guy is my age, and I couldn’t do what he is doing!

Courtney’s mother, Krista Stodden, defended her daughter by saying: “They are very much in love and we are so supportive of this. Courtney was a virgin when she married Doug. She is a good Christian girl.”

Krista also said, “She is a beautiful girl. She has real breasts, real lips, she's not plastic,” which I really doubt.

You would think her father, being 4 years younger than his daughter’s husband, would have tried to step in and put his foot down, but he didn’t! In fact, he told Radar Online, “Every father can only pray to have such a man behind their daughter. Courtney is one of the most level-headed girls out there and I'm not just saying that because she's my daughter. Doug is the nicest man I've ever met in my life."

What could Courtney be bringing to the table, besides her great rack, that would make a 51-year-old man want to marry her? I think women have to back me up on this… what could a 16-year-old offer the marriage that isn’t purely physical?

On top of that, I completely disagree with her parents allowing her to model and “sing” at such a young age; she is growing up without a childhood and now she is married before she even became an adult. If she isn’t so already, Courtney is going to be one mess of a human being, just wait and see.
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BJ's BLOG 06/21/11 "Raheem"

Yesterday during Headlines and Sports, Steve reported on the latest trouble that Seahawk Raheem Brock has gotten himself into.

Raheem Brock was arrested in Philadelphia after allegedly walking out of a club without paying a $27 bill last week.

According to a source, he was questioned by police after he apparently didn’t pay the bill at the Copacabana club, and it was also reported that there was a minor scuffle that broke out before Brock was put under arrest.

This isn’t the first time Brock has been in trouble; last November, Brock was arrested on suspicion of DUI while pulling the “don’t you know who I am” bit.

He reportedly failed a breathalyzer but was transported home and played in the Seahawks’ 36-18 road win over the Arizona Cardinals the next day.

So this idiot was not cooperating with the cops and being belligerent, all because of a bar tab less than 30 dollars that was not paid?

How trashed or just stupid must he have been to not just said, “Oh, I didn’t pay the tab? How much do I owe you? No problem bro. You know what? I’ve had a few beverages and totally thought I already paid it but I will go back and even leave a nice tip for the inconvenience.” How hard would that have been to say?

This is just another example of an athlete who in my opinion is just a thug. I mean, where’s the pride, where’s the honor, or where’s the integrity to realize that you need to pay a bar tab that is only 27 bucks?

I have run into too many athletes (and not all athletes are like this) who have this sense of entitlement because they still have that high school quarterback mentality. They think just because they are these famous athletes that the rules don’t apply to them.
Nice move Brock, you just proved that you’re an even bigger idiot than we thought.
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BJ's BLOG 06/20/11 "Leave Dad Alone"

Last Friday during Listeners on the Loose, Matt called in to talk about a story in USA Today that says the divorce rate is down, which they believe is due to the economy, and relationships as a whole are less stable than before. Matt’s theory is that technology has a big role in why relationships are unsteady, especially cell phones.

As a kid growing up, Matt remembers that when he would get home from school, his dad would already be at work and they wouldn’t be able to talk to him until his lunch break when he’d go to use the phone, and that was it.

Back in the day, a guy could go to work, support his family, come home, relax, maybe have a drink, and have a few moments away from his kids, and his wife would facilitate that, but that is clearly in the past.

Even work used to be the place where men had the chance to get away from the troubles and issues from home, giving both spouses time to cool off and think about what is going on, but these days people are so connected and everything is so instant that there is no time to sit back and cool off.

I don’t think technology is to blame; it’s how we use it. Here’s the deal, women do not have a good network of communication with other women anymore. As a matter of fact, they are very catty because of business and competition. They don’t treat each other very well, even though they have the ability to nurture each other in a way men can’t, yet they still tell men that they should try and that’s what is ruining relationships.

Men are not designed for that; we need our alone time, we don’t like to talk, not even with our friends. The most communication we have with other guys is about sports teams and stuff like that because we like to associate more then we like to communicate.

If you want your relationship to be successful, give your guys space to be alone and get girlfriends who have good heads on their shoulders to be able to work out your crap with. Men need to be able to ask for their space until they are ready to work stuff out. Just remember guys, when you do talk to your woman, give them 100% of your attention and in return ladies, try to work out some of your problems with your female friends, and you will have the key to a balanced relationship.
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BJ's BLOG 06/17/11 "The Marriage Rule"

Yesterday’s Group Therapy was from Joanna who didn’t know what advice to give to her friend, “Brenda”.

“Brenda” has been with her fiancé “Jason” for about a year and a half, and has lived with him for the last 10 months. Now, “Brenda” is a 23 year old woman, but even though she is engaged, she says she doesn’t feel like she’s ready to get married.

Brenda recently confided to Joanna that the real reason why she doesn’t want to get married is because she has a promising career, but Jason wants her to stay at home even though Jason himself doesn’t have a lead on a good job path.

I really have to question two people who are in their early 20’s, who don’t even have a 2 year relationship under their belts, yet decide they should get engaged.

Here is my golden rule: you court the person for 5 years and then you wait 3 years to have a child. The rule does get relaxed a little bit as you get older, but if you’re in your early 20’s, what the hell are you doing? I know it sounds like a ridiculous amount of time but I’m telling you, if you still want to get married after 5 years, you will probably be more successful in your relationship than if you didn’t.

There is a lot of growing up that happens to someone in their early twenties. This is the time when most people need to get out in the world, discover who they really are, and sow their oats.

Here is something else Joanna’s friend needs to think about; they have way too many philosophical differences in this relationship. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have a stay at home wife, (hell, that’s what my wife and I did), but the difference is that I had a good career path already and a woman who wanted to stay at home, while this guy doesn’t.

I mean, how can you even think about getting married to someone who can’t respect your philosophical view points?

Joanna sounds like a good, quality friend and that’s what all women need in their lives, but what this guy “Jason” needs is some good quality male friends to knock some sense into him and show him how stupid he is being by wanting to get married so young.
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BJ's BLOG 06/16/11 "Insane, but Not Guilty?"

Isaiah Kalebu is currently on trial for holding a woman against her willing, raping, then murdering her while her partner was also inside their home, and yesterday we talked about how he was taken to the hospital after attempting to commit suicide by swallowing a golf pencil.

Kalebu was also banned from the court room because of his previous violent outbursts.

So… he’s had a history of mental illness, he attempted to kill himself, but he pleaded “not guilty”, why are we wasting our time with a trial? Why can’t we just evaluate him to show he is not fit for anything except to be locked away forever where he can’t hurt anyone ever again?

If you don’t give him the death penalty because he is out of his mind, then take him out of the court room and throw him in an institution! Don’t try him when we already know that he’s crazy!

This is what irritates me about society; you use one excuse, and then waste our money to try to prove that he’s innocent. How can he be innocent when you just used the insanity excuse? Our society is a joke and this is why we need to revamp the justice system, because we can’t let psychos free due to stupid reasoning.
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BJ's BLOG 06/15/11 "Kids at R rated Movies"

Yesterday, during Group Therapy, a listener named Gary emailed us asking for help with a problem he had with his wife.

They had gone to a 9:00pm showing of the movie The Hangover 2 this past weekend, and while they were there they saw a couple with three children…the kids’ ages were around 5, 3, and 1 year old, and Gary’s wife was outraged.

She said taking young kids like that to an R-rated movie was “border-line child abuse” and while Gary agreed they shouldn’t have been there, he didn’t agree with his wife wanting them to go over and say something to the parents.

First off, I hate it when a woman says, “we should do something” because it really means “you should do something”. Women just like to get into people’s faces and expect their man to fight for them. That’s how things used to be like in the 50’s before the feminist movement, but guess what? You wanted equal rights, so men don’t have fight your battles because you should be able to do it yourself!

Even if Gary’s wife went up to the family and told them off, she’s not going to be able to reason with these idiots because they’re stupid enough to bring their kids to see The Hangover 2.

By the way, what was this couple thinking? Who takes their kids to a 9pm showing of an R-Rated movie and gives them soda (which will only give them more energy and make them more annoying)? This is another example of society not knowing how to regulate itself. People think that just because the law says kids under 17 can see an R-Rated movie with a parent, that it’s not a bad idea to do so. Those movies have mature content that may confuse and scare your child, so why would you want to purposely expose them to that?

It is not appropriate to want to get into a fight just to have your husband fight it, but it also is a stupid idea to bring you children to an environment expected for adults. It’s times like this when I feel like society is doomed.
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BJ's BLOG 06/14/11 "Pole Dancing for Kids?"

A Northampton, England dance school is offering pole dancing classes to children as young as 3-years-old now. Pole dancing is no longer for adults? This is just ridiculous!

The private school teacher Carly Wilford said she started these classes 6 months ago because of the demand from the kids of the mothers she was teaching to pole dance. So basically the moms would show off what they’d learn, the kids wanted to do what mommy did, so now they offer classes to kids who some of which are probably still in diapers.

Wilford said, “I’m only teaching them anything they can do on a fireman’s pole or a street lamp. I’m not sexualizing anyone. The lessons are about exercise, having fun and letting themselves go in a safe environment”.

Here’s why I love women; pole dancing was all about sex up until some idiot came up with idea of starting up a class and labeling it as “exercise”, and women loved this new shiny object and jumped up on board. Of course it’s about sex, regardless of what age you are!

I have no problem with women wanting to learn how to pole dance, but call it what it is, pole dancing! Women just feel better about doing it if they can find a nice little label for it so they won’t be judged for it.

The only reason women learn to work the pole is because they wanted to be sexy as they exercise. If you don’t believe me, why don’t you take a look at the number of women out there power lifting? It’s a good way to stay in shape but most women would rather slide down a pole because power lifting isn’t “sexy”.

Give me a break! Pole dancing is all about sex and children as young as 3-year-old should not be on a pole mimicking their stupid mothers.
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BJ's Blog 06/13/11 "Pet Roulette"

Last week we talked about an Indiana man, Russell Little, who decided to play Russian Roulette with his dog.

His wife told police he was sitting in the backyard depressed and drinking when he took a handgun and began playing Russian roulette with the pet dog.

After a couple of empty clicks aimed at the dogs head, "she said he got tired of that, then put the gun to his own head and pulled the trigger," said Capt. Jim Andrews of the South Bend Police Department.

Some people don’t realize that drinking medicates depression but it’s one of the worst ways to do so. Of course it sounds like a silly story, but depression is really a serious thing. If someone is feeling blue, they are capable of doing things a normal, balanced person wouldn’t ever do!

What people also don’t know is that sometimes depression can manifest as anger in a person so they lash out very easily. Therapists will tell you that depression can be anger turned inward and there are people who can have these blasts of anger that can do horrible things in this state of mind.

I know first hand about this because that used to be me. I thought I was just an angry person but after going to therapy for a while, my therapist finally told me that when I first came in, I was actually depressed, not angry.

If you know anyone that is angry all the time, get them checked out because depression can really be a horrible thing to go through and it can be fixed or managed by either therapy or medication; it’s not something anyone should be living with. It’s unfortunate this guy turned to alcohol because if he hadn’t, then maybe he wouldn’t have thought it was a good idea to play Russian Roulette with his dog, and lose.
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BJ's BLOG 06/10/11 "Pictures"

Yesterday on the show, we talked about a Zoosk.com (a dating website) article that discusses what people think about receiving nude pictures of the opposite sex.

Obviously there has been a lot of talk about naked pictures going on right now because of Anthony Weiner and his scandal, but I found the results of the survey interesting.

They surveyed 12,000 people and they found that only 3 out of 5 women say it would be creepy to get texted a nude picture; that is 61% while 74% of guys on the other hand say they would find it "sexy" to receive a naughty photo unexpectedly from a woman.


This is the difference between men and women; not many men would find it creepy or wrong if a woman decided to send them a naughty picture because we like seeing those things while women like a little more mystery.

I really wish that we would understand this difference between the genders because we would be able to stop judging each other. Maybe women would also understand that the way they dress and display themselves affects a man’s behavior.

Of course men are going to stare if you are wearing a low cut top because we are visual creatures, and you don’t have the right to judge and be repulsed by our behavior because you are the one enticing us.

I don’t think men should ever send a picture of their naked junk to a woman. Maybe a photo of you in your underwear would be a better picture, if you had to send one, because most women find it more titillating to be teased and find it more attractive if you show you have restraint.

The bottom line is men and women are different, and when it comes to this new age of dating, we have to take into account these differences and use them to our advantage while also being responsible. Once a picture of you naked is sent, it’s out there forever; just ask Anthony Weiner.
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BJ's BLOG 06/09/11 "Customer Service"

A new study states that 2 out of 3 people who have been surveyed said that they have walked out of a store after receiving bad customer service.

I love this!

For the 12 years I have been doing radio in Seattle, I have been really big on giving our listeners the best customer service when it comes to them putting their hard earned money on the table for one of our events or products.  It’s the theme of our show; we do our best to treat the people who listen like gold because we are very appreciative for giving us their time. It’s basic customer service.

If you go to a restaurant, store, or anywhere for that matter, and you’re not treated like a king, then leave because they don’t deserve your business.

Getting great customer service is an amazing experience for me and when I recently had to buy a couch from Macy’s, I got it. There was a sales girl who was very approachable, but wasn’t pushy, and was there when I needed help. In my experience at some places, either the sales people are either overly attentive/robotic or not there at all.

If you’re a store and you’re not making money, look at the sales floor and your sales people and see who doesn’t have the people skills to sell your products!

Our money is too important to us to be treated like crap, and we can always take our business elsewhere. Never feel bad for walking out if you’re not treated like royalty.
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BJ's BLOG 06/08/11 "First Amendment"

Greg Fultz, from New Mexico, decided to lash out at his ex-girlfriend with a billboard saying that she had an abortion against his wishes. The billboard says, "This Would Have Been a Picture of My 2-Month Old Baby If the Mother Had Decided To Not KILL Our Child!" and it shows Fultz cradling the black silhouette of a baby.

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Last Friday, county domestic violence court officials ordered that the sign be taken down and this has caused a debate over free speech.

Fultz is fighting the order on free speech grounds and hopes to take the case to the Supreme Court.

Fultz’s lawyer, Todd Holmes, told a newspaper, "As distasteful and offensive as the sign may be to some, for over 200 years in this country the First Amendment protects distasteful and offensive speech. My argument is what Fultz said is the truth.”


Even though some people might find what Fultz did to be tasteless, I think he still has all the right in the world to post that billboard. It’s not like he even lied on the sign; he told the truth about what happened. The only reason people are up in arms about this is because it makes a woman look bad. God forbid we ever embarrass a woman in today’s society, because her feelings are more important than honoring our first amendment right.

I’m not a “pro-life” guy, but I am happy he got to put up that sign because I am a “pro-decision” guy and men have no say on the decisions made after conception, but women do. I don’t think it’s fair that just because she houses the baby means that she gets all the say because he helped make that baby too.

This is just a good example of a man who got pissed and did something about it, and is continuing the fight to have his opinions heard.
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BJ's BLOG 06/07/11 "Idiot Parents"

A Kentucky couple might get the award for parents of the year.

Laura DiPrimo and her man, Thomas Lee, have been arrested after they went to a strip club for a couple’s night out and left their one-year-old daughter in the car with the windows rolled up. The heat index was 91 degrees outside and police arrived after receiving a call about the child in the locked car.

When authorities arrived, Laura ran out of the club and rolled the windows down while the idiot father Thomas stayed inside, sporting a court ordered ankle bracelet.

The police found the child soaked in sweat but is going to be ok.

Here’s the kicker; when Thomas was being transported in the police vehicle, he actually complained to the officers that it was too hot in the patrol car.

People always wanted to be mad at cops, but when a story like this comes out, you get to see what type of a-holes our police officers have to deal with on a daily basis. Imagine the horrific crime scenes and the trauma people are suffering that cops have to witness, and then have to come home at night and try to be “normal”

I dare anyone to try that as their job for a day; having to go out and deal with the biggest loser idiots out there without developing a slight problem with your mental stability. That’s why cops are amazing to me and I get so upset when people only harbor unjustified hatred for them.
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BJ's BLOG 06/06/11 "Carey Hal Dyess"

Last week on the show, we talked about a former Washington man who killed six people on Thursday in a shooting rampage which ended in him pulling the trigger on himself.

The suspect in the shooting has been identified as Carey Hal Dyess, who shot and killed the lawyer that represented his ex-wife in their divorce. It was Carey’s fifth divorce and the attorney he shot was killed while packing up his office on his last day of work.

This is just horrific! You would think that someone who had gone through 5 divorces already would have gotten the hint that maybe the whole failure of the marriage institution for him was more on his part?

Why couldn’t he have just killed himself first and avoid all this. The family of the lawyer he killed has to go through so much pain all because he was too stupid to see he was not the marrying type.

I hate to be a jerk, but what was the 5th wife thinking? What is a person thinking when they are with someone who has been married four times before they met you?

This is just a sad situation because I know there is someone out there who knew he was off his rocker and capable of something like this.

I wouldn’t be surprised if he was an alcoholic, a drug abuser, or off his meds; it has to be one of those three things, and of course those kinds of people never blame themselves and are never accountable for their actions when they are using.

Situations like this make me wish that we can lock away people with problems into some sort of rehab facility so that no one has to die by the hands of idiots like Carey.
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BJ's BLOG 06/03/11 "Mom's Friend"

Yesterday’s Group Therapy was an email we received from an 18-year-old guy name Justin who had an “uncomfortable” encounter with his mother’s friend. She is in her 40’s and after a night of her and his mom getting trashed, she crawled into his bed while he was asleep and started touching him in “certain places”. He was so uncomfortable that he got up, got in his car, and drove away for a while.

I have to say, in this day and age where men have been so indoctrinated about unwanted sexual contact, being responsible when you are aroused, and only being with another consenting adult…I don’t understand why a regular man wouldn’t want to have consensual sex with someone who is willing.

Women have to understand that sex doesn’t affect us guys like it does them. If it was a drunken 40-something-year old man crawling into the bed of an 18-year-old woman, then everyone would be up in arms and the woman would probably be traumatized.

It always seems to me that the younger a sexually active guy is, the better they are consciously. I don’t have any proof of this, but from what I’ve seen, it helps with the guy’s self-esteem and mentality in the long run.

I don’t know why this topic hasn’t been discussed more; it is a very serious issue. Have we been so brainwashed in society that men are told that having a consensual sexual experience is a bad thing? How can someone not feel more confident if you can or get a chance to pull a move like that?
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BJ's BLOG 06/02/11"Don't Fire Ronald!"

I don’t know if you have heard about this, but people are actually trying to get McDonald’s loveable mascot, Ronald McDonald, fired! Why you ask? It’s all to fight obesity!

More than 550 health professionals have signed a letter to McDonald's asking to stop marketing “junk food” to kids and retire Ronald McDonald.


"We are committed to responsible advertising and take our communications to children very seriously," McDonald's said in a statement. "We understand the importance of children's health and nutrition, and are committed to being part of the dialogue and solution. We serve high quality food, and our Happy Meals offer choice and variety in portions just for kids. Parents tell us they appreciate our Happy Meal choices."

The health professionals who decided to write the letter are just idiots. McDonald’s has a varied menu from low calorie wraps to salads; you can walk in and order a low price, low calorie meal and feel full. As for preventing obesity in children, it’s up to the parents to give their kids healthier food options and McDonald’s does that by offering apple slices instead of fries, or milk instead of soda. It shouldn’t be the concern of anyone else where another person decides to take their kids to dinner.

Also, if you don’t have a lot of cash, finding a place that will offer you the option to give your kids a good meal and a toy for a reasonably low price is incredible. Not only do you get to eat, but the whole experience of going is fun for the kids; and for McDonalds to offer toys that are based around the newest movie or cartoons is just brilliant.

I am so tired of fast food restaurants getting beat up over this when all they do is provide a great way to distract your kids, have dinner covered, get your kids an inexpensive toy, and relieve some of your stress. When are we going to stop blaming everyone else for childhood obesity and make the parents accountable for what food their kids eat?
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BJ's BLOG 05/24/10 "Liar!"

Yesterday we talked about a horrific story that shows the sad state of media today.

Kerry Campbell, the mother of the 8-year-old who was supposedly giving her daughter Botox injections, has just come out saying that the story was all made up. Kerry, whose real name is actually Sheena Upton told TMZ that she has pictures and emails that prove that the British newspaper The Sun paid her to fake the whole thing.

Sheena says she made $200 as an “actress” for The Sun’s story. She also made $5000 dollars for appearing on Good Morning America to talk about how she was injecting her daughter with Botox.

What the hell? I don’t understand this; not only did she lie in The Sun newspaper for money; she continued the lie on TV for 5 grand!

What really gets me is how Good Morning America covered this but did not know that this story wasn’t real! They didn’t do any investigative reporting.

This is why I question the news media; they pay people to do some of these interviews all so they can say they have the first inside scoop. Even though we are now finding out they are paying for a fake inside story.

Our show is not a news beacon; we go to websites and sources to get our news but for a big news site like ABC news (who want people like us to source them) to not do their own research makes me never want to quote them again.

Anything the British Sun tabloid does from now on will be questioned and/or disregarded. They are done being a credible site because they pay people to do the story.
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BJ's BLOG 05/23/11 "Millionaire on Food Stamps?"

If you’ve been a listener of the show for a while, you know my thoughts on people who are doing well financially but still receive aid from the government.

Leroy Fick from Auburn Michigan won 2 million dollars in the state lottery TV show "Make Me Rich!" You would have thought that since he struck it big he would have gotten off food stamps, but he didn’t. On top of that, in an interview with a TV station he said, "If you're going to try to make me feel bad, you're not going to do it!”

Leroy, how do you justify taking food stamps when you don’t need them? You have 2 million dollars in the bank, yet you still take away from people that really need them?

Leroy Fick is a piece of crap! Unfortunately, this isn’t just his fault. This is just another example of our fine government at work.

Eligibility for food stamps is based on gross; lottery winnings are considered liquid assets and don't count as income. So, as long as Fick's gross income stays below the eligibility requirement for food stamps, he can still receive them.

It’s times like these where we need to have an emergency meeting and make sure idiots like this can’t go through the loopholes of the system.

People who have been given great fortune, either by hard work or by mere chance, should value what they have and feel grateful. There are many people who bust their ass every day such as policemen, firemen, and people in the military; but don’t receive a just pay.

For someone to sit there and take advantage of the system like Leroy Fick, simply because you can, makes them a miserable excuse for a human being.
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BJ's BLOG 05/20/11 "McSchwin"

Mayor McGinn, has been under fire by angry Seattleites for all the money he has been spending on trying to make Seattle a more bike friendly city. He’s even been dubbed the name “Mayor McSchwinn”.

On top of hiring the former lobbyist for the Cascade Bicycle Club, David Hiller, and paying him over 87,000 dollars a year (which is more then Hiller even asked for), McSchwinn is spending 3% of the city’s transportation budget on creating new bike lanes!

This is what I can’t stand about politicians; Hiller doesn’t even seem to have the qualifications for this job. It just looks like he’s just friends with Mayor McSchwinn and that’s a problem in politics; everyone is buddy-buddy and there is so much corruption because the people in power only care about taking care of their own. That’s why you see less and less people participating in politics.

Why are we spending 3% of our transportation budget on bike lanes in this dumb city of ours when we should be caring about mass transit? Let’s get a light rail here before we start thinking about the few people who ride their bikes everywhere.

We are not a bicycle generation anymore; wake up and smell the year 2011. If you want to change everything by adding more hours to the day and telling big business to not worry so much about profit so that people aren’t as stressed out, then fine, I will support your bicycle riding life style but that’s not where we live.

Real people don’t have time to ride a bike between work and having families. If you have time to ride a bike to work, then chances are you are failing somewhere else in your life, whether at work or at home.

I don’t mind people going out to ride their bikes on the weekend with their kids on a sunny day but it should be just that, a pleasurable experience, not a primary mode of transportation.

We need to get rid of Mayor McSchwinn and replace him with someone who lives in the real world, a world where most of us are reliant on our cars.
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BJ's BLOG 05/19/11 "Dwarf vs. Starbucks"

Starbucks is being sued after they fired a barista who is a dwarf. This happened in El Paso, Texas and according to the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, the employee was fired the same day she requested and got denied a stepladder because Starbucks claimed that she could be a danger to customers and workers.


I’m sorry, but if you’re working with hot coffee and you’re a little person, you have to understand that if everything is at a certain height that is not easily accessible to you, it could not only be very dangerous for you but for your co-workers as well.


If your lot in life has dealt you a hand that prevents you from doing the job just because of how the job is set up…what do you want from them? What do you want them to do?


I would love to be a baseball player, but unless they slow the game down, throw underhand, and remove most of the people on the field…I don’t have a shot of being good but I don’t go try out and then get mad when they don’t want me.


Starbucks also made the mistake of hiring her in the first place; couldn’t they have evaluated her before giving her the job and see that wouldn’t have been a good fit for the job?


I imagine that Starbucks will want to make this go away and pay her a ridiculous amount of money because they will have to shell out money for lawyers anyways.


Either way I think Starbucks would have been screwed in this situation; she’s complaining that she was fired from the job because of her dwarfism, but if they wouldn’t have hired her in the first place she would have probably still complained.


It’s a no win situation for companies having someone with a disability because it prevents them from being as effective as they would be if they had an “able bodied” person doing the work instead.


No one is trying to be mean, just realistic. We have to stop this “victimized pity party” mentality and actually focus on finding what we’re all good at and strive to be better at a job that suits us.

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BJ's BLOG 05/18/11 "Thong"

James emailed us for some help; his wife and her sister took their 13-year-old daughter shopping and she came back with thong underwear. James thinks it is highly inappropriate for a 13-year-old to be wearing something so “sexy”, but his wife disagreed. James wanted to know if he was just being an “old dad” or if others agreed with him.

Good parents should consult each other before they do anything with or for their children. Parents have to be a unified front; kids can’t see that parents differ on opinions and shouldn’t be told two different things from them because it will not only confuse them, but they will now see the flaws in the armor and fight back.

I don’t care if I get called an old man or a stick in the mud, but I really believe there has to be an age limit both parents set for things like this. I would be ok with a daughter wearing a thong at the age of 16; if you can drive a car, you should be able to wear a thong or whatever else you want because I believe when a girl turns 16, she becomes a woman.

Many women argue that a thong is a functional piece of clothing because it doesn’t give a girl panty lines, but if you’re 13-years-old, you shouldn’t be wearing anything where you have to go without regular underwear in the first place.
Let’s be honest for a second; we all know the reason why women and girls dress the way they do and it’s for attention.

James’s daughter is young enough that she will probably want to have it popping out over her jeans just to get noticed by the boys and she’s still a little kid; she doesn’t need to have that kind of attention.

Women don’t understand what men are about and they really need to get this. If you take a look at the science between men and arousal and how they lose their rational thinking, you would understand the impact of going out looking sexier than you really want to be putting out there. You can’t expect men to control themselves at the worse time of their lives (ages 16-18) because of hormones.

So parents, be a unified team, talk things out before giving your kids restrictions or liberties and your kids will follow from your lead.
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BJ's BLOG 05/17/11 "Jesse James"

Jesse James has been in the news a lot lately, but this time, he’s been talking about how bad it was being married to Sandra Bullock.

We found out last year that he cheated on his wife Sandra of almost five years with many different women, including his tattoo model mistress Michelle “Bombshell” McGee.

Ten days before the news broke of Jesse’s infidelity, Sandra had won an Oscar for Best Actress and in her acceptance speech, she gushed about how Jesse was “her rock” and about how much she loved him.

When Jesse appeared on Piers Morgan’s show on Friday and Piers asked him about what he thought of the speeches Sandra gave and this is what he had to say:

James: "She said that same speech at four different awards shows. You saw two of them, What does she do for a living?"
Morgan: “Movie star, actor.”
James: “Oh, ok, cool.”
Morgan: “You think it was an act?”
James: “I think people have to live in that world.”
Morgan: “You glad to be out of it?”
James: “Oh yeah, 100%.”

Jesse is really coming off like a huge a-hole; he was the one that cheated on her! Unless there is something going on that we don’t know about, I just don’t understand why someone would act this way to someone who is seen as a genuinely nice person. I haven’t heard anything bad about Sandra Bullock, except from Jesse. The whole world sees Jesse as douche and something like this certainly doesn’t help his case.

I have to wonder if Sandra knew that Jesse was cheating on her while she was giving all of her speeches that were praising him because I would have to give her a lot of credit. That is an awesome slam to throw down on someone; she could have talked about their personal life or really tried to hurt his reputation, but he is doing a good enough job of ruining his image on his own.

Also, in the June issue of Men's Journal, Jesse said, "I never shied away from anything I did. I took full responsibility." "I cheated on my wife. Guess what? So do millions of other men."

If Jesse would have just left it at the first line that he takes responsibility for what he’s done, I would have been cool with him. However, when he a tries to deflect the blame by saying “so do millions of other men”, it just makes him look like a tool shed. It’s like saying, “well, so what if I killed someone, millions of other people have killed someone.”

All I have to say is that Sandra just continues to look like a classy mature adult while Jesse keeps making himself look more and more like a childish jerk.
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BJ's BLOG 05/16/11 "Suspension & Demotion"

I am very happy that police officer Shandy Cobane only got a 30 day suspension without pay, and a demotion, instead of getting fired after he was caught on tape threatening to beat the "Mexican piss" out of a Latino man during a robbery investigation last year. This verdict is the most severe punishment allowed, just short of termination.

I know a lot of people are not going to agree with me on this saying he should have been fired, but how many people can actually do what they do? Being a police officer is one of the most stressful jobs out there aside from being in the military and yet everyone believes they should be held to a higher standard.

How many of us could say that we haven’t ever lost our temper and said something hurtful and possibly derogatory?

When you’re dealing with the scum of the earth on a daily basis, I can understand that you will eventually make a mistake. Yes, it is unfortunate that he said what he said and used the kind of force that he did, but everyone makes mistakes. Officer Cobane has been on the force for 17 years and this was his first negative mark.

Why are people coming down on cops this hard? On a daily basis, these men and women put their lives on the line and get paid substantially less then they deserve! I mean, I could understand being up in arms if these guys were being paid like CEO’s but the truth is, they are not.

Also, before he got demoted, Cobane worked for the gang unit detective position. His job was to prevent the dangerous activities of the people who form into groups with the intention of harming others.

For everyone who just likes to shoot their mouths off about the police, I would like to relocate them to the worst part of town and then see how much they respect cops after that.

I understand that there are bad apples in the force and those individuals should be dealt with, but for Shandy Cobane, a 30-day suspension and a demotion is just fine.

Killing someone is a terrible act, but “killing” someone’s career can easily be just as bad, especially for something we are all guilty of doing from time to time.
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BJ's BLOG 05/13/11 "TSA vs. 8 Month Old"

So the latest TSA outrage involves an 8-month-old getting patted down at the Kansas City International Airport.

A passenger took a picture of the child on his cell phone and since he Tweeted the picture on Saturday, it has had more than 200,000 views. The photo shows the baby being held up in the air by his mother while the TSA workers do their job.

Here is the picture:

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Everyone seems to be flipping out about this and going off on TSA, but after the baby’s stroller went through the bomb sensor and the sensor went off, it makes sense that they would have to check them out.

We know terrorists are ruthless, and if you’ve seen The Hurt Locker, you will see some horrific things that terrorists will do in order to hurt people. How many terrorists have we heard of using women and children as human shields? Would it surprise you if one of them was so heinously despicable that he would put a bomb on a baby? They probably think that they are helping the child so it doesn’t have to live in this “world of tyranny”.

We’ve also heard stories of people smuggling drugs in their baby’s diapers before, so does it seem surprising that someone would take it to a more gruesome level?

Look, I don’t like having getting searched at the airport, and I don’t like that my kids have to get searched as well, but what are we supposed to do?

If it means our flight system is that much safer, I would rather us be uncomfortable for a few moments then risk our safety.
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BJ's BLOG 05/12/11 "Fight it out"

A woman named Michelle wrote in asking for some help in Group Therapy yesterday. She has three teenage sons ages 13, 15, and 17. When they have arguments, Michelle and her husband don’t get involved; they let them fight it out. She says it’s not a “fight club” situation because they are supervising these fights. She feels that this type of parenting helps their children get their anger out and will help them become well adjusted men.

Michelle wants to show her kids that mom and dad won’t always be there to help them resolve things, and she wanted to see if others agree or disagree with her method.

This was pretty amazing for me to hear, (being that we are in the year 2011), a team of parents who have boys and let them physically fight.

I don’t personally do that with my son or anyone, but I don’t see how it’s so bad if it works for somebody else.

Men will grow through challenge. You don’t ever want to abuse anyone, but men think in black and white. As a man, you’ll quickly learn how to deal with people differently if you get your ass kicked as a kid.

Like I said, I’m not really into that mentality but most guys like physical interaction, such as grappling, karate, or any other physical sport. If their physical outlet is giving them a way to blow off steam while still being safe, I see nothing wrong with that.

A caller named Jesse made a really good point. He has fought with his brothers since he was a kid and he got his butt kicked all the time. What he learned from getting into scuffles with his brothers was that fighting wasn’t always the answer. He also learned to use his words or step away from the battle as another form of conflict resolution.

There is something interesting about what happens once a fight is over between brothers/men; all is forgiven. Sadly, women will never be able to understand this. Nowadays, boys aren’t allowed to let their repressed anger or other emotions out. Kids, especially boys, are being told they have ADHD and are being prescribed Ritalin for getting into trouble or being rambunctious! Don’t they get that it’s just the nature of men?

I can’t call Michelle crazy for letting her boys fight out their problems, because she knows that they need to express themselves and their repressed anger. As long as no one becomes severely hurt in these fights, I say that it’s fine.
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BJ's BLOG 05/11/10 "The Geeks Shall Inherit The Earth"

Alexandra Robins wrote a book about middle and high school called The Geeks Shall Inherit The Earth: Popularity, Quirk Theory, and Why Outsiders Thrive After High School. She followed several high school students and teachers for a year, and she discovered that kids who were considered unpopular by their peers had certain traits like creativity, individuality, and passion.

While those traits make growing up excruciatingly difficult because of bullies and cliques, it actually makes them more successful and interesting adults in the long run because they are better able to relate with others.

It sounds like she was writing a story about my life. I had a small circle of core friends, but the majority of the kids at my high school found me annoying and I never seemed to have the right look.

I would also immerse myself in the world of comic books and sci-fi because I felt like the writers understood who I was and how I was feeling, and they were designing the characters after myself.

Alexandra also explains what those “un-cool” kids and their parents that love them should do; and it’s to just suck it up, there is nothing they can really do about it.

Obviously parents and teachers should discourage bulling behavior and if someone is getting bullied to the point where they are in real harm, then someone should really step in, but I have found in this entitlement society today, kids can’t just “suck it up”.

I find it interesting that when I was growing up, I was bullied as bad as kids today but nowadays you see kids not being able to handle it. I found a way to stay alive and that’s what we should be teaching our kids.

When other kids were getting trashed, I would take my cassette recorder and make radio bits even though I didn’t know that’s what I was doing. I filled my time with productive activities that made my life better.

Even one of my kids was unpopular in school, but now everyone that meets him tells me how awesome he is. It also doesn’t hurt that I went through the same thing, so we just gave him the support he needed.

We need to stop coddling our children, let them live their lives, and give them the support they need when they need it so that they can grow up as successful, well adjusted adults.
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BJ's BLOG 05/10/11 "Slut Walk"

Sometimes when women get up and arms over things, I just want to say, “Really? Can’t you see the other side of things for once?

There is a protest that has been planned in several US cities, including Seattle, called the “SlutWalk” and the organizers hope to “bring attention to slut-shaming, or shaming women for being sexual, and the treatment of sexual assault victims.”

This all started when a Toronto police officer made the comment that women should avoid dressing like "sluts" to avoid being raped or victimized while at a safety forum for York University students.

I understand that it was a very powerful statement and I also believe that no one should ever go through as something horrible as being raped.

Granted, the police officer didn’t exactly use the right words; but cops are trained to be direct and they have seen a lot of perpetrators and victims. Therefore, it’s safe to assume that this officer knows what he is talking about.

The officer wasn’t trying to offend anyone; he was simply giving a safety forum at a university. There is validity to what he was saying; if you dress like a “slut” or very sexually provocative, the chances of you getting sexual assaulted are higher than those who dress more modestly.

They had a march in Toronto this past month that drew over 3,000 people. My question to people is, why don’t you get 3,000 people and march in a place like New York where it has been reported that 50% of rape claims are false! How come they don’t march against those types of people who really mitigate rape and take away the seriousness of that situation?

Ladies, you have to take accountability for how you go out in the world. If you walk around a bad part of town with $100 bills tapped to your body, don’t you think you’ll get mugged? It’s the same with dressing too sexual in a bad part of town; you don’t know when someone is going to be an idiot and think its ok to sexually assault you.

I’m not defending anyone who has ever committed a rape, I am simply trying to get you ladies to think twice before you do something that can put you in danger.
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BJ's BLOG 05/09/11 "Sex Offender"

As an American, I am disgusted every time I hear a story about a person who is a convicted sex offender who has been released from jail or a mental facility and reoffends.

Level 2 sex offender, Kevin James Stark, was arrested after attacking a 16-year-old high school girl while she was walking on a trail in Olympia. He knocked her down and got on top of her and attempted to sexually assault her when she was able to break free using karate moves she had learned. They later found him after police canines tracked his wallet that was left near the scene.

Why do we allow people that do something so heinous to have any freedom?

This poor 16-year-old girl was attacked by someone who we already know has problems when it comes to sexually assaulting minors! Why do we continue to let them walk the streets?

These sex offenders have issues; people commit crimes for a lot of reasons but why would someone have sex with a child? To me, that’s a mental issue that you can’t judge on the same level as someone who breaks into a home, or even has a drug problem.

There is a screw loose in someone who thinks this is an o.k. thing to do.
What American would stand in the way of any politician that would draw up legislation saying that if you’re a sex offender that you don’t get to ever be with society ever again?

Who would be against that? I would use my tax money to make sure that a 16-year-old girl will be safe to walk a path near her home and not have her worry about getting attacked.

This is why I get mad at our politicians; why can’t we come together as a country or even just a state and say that we don’t want these people walking around?

Whether they never see the light of day and rot in jail, under permanent house arrest, or even have someone with them at all times, a sex offender should immediately lose all their rights as human beings!

There should be a system in place so that they are never alone to see the light of day again. This should be a national priority. Out of all the things we fight about in this country, who would disagree with this?
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BJ's BLOG 05/05/11 "Rashard Mendenhal"

Yesterday on the show we talked about the controversy involving the Pittsburgh Steelers’ running back Rashard Mendenhal. His recent tweets about the killing of Osama Bin Laden have created quite the debate.

On Monday Rashard tweeted, "What kind of person celebrates death? It's amazing how people can HATE a man they have never even heard speak. We've only heard one side."

Now I don’t have a problem with the first part of his tweet that says “What kind of person celebrates death?” It’s a philosophical position I’ve heard a lot and even though I don’t agree with it, it’s still a valid point, but he then digs himself in a hole when he says, “It's amazing how people can HATE a man they have never even heard speak.”

You know what? People hated Hitler because he did some pretty heinous things and I don’t think it’s a stretch to call Osama “the Hitler of our generation”. For Rashard to say, “We've only heard one side,” is just plain stupid. People who are sympathetic to Al Qaeda’s cause were responsible for the 9/11 terrorist attacks; so of course we are going to hate Osama.

Why don’t you take that pea sized brain of yours and memorize the freaking play book and stay out of politics you idiot!

Mendenhal is just an overpaid meat-head that gets paid to carry a pig skin and we Americans cheer him for doing that; so shut up and let the world cheer that our generation’s Hitler is dead.
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BJ's BLOG 05/04/11 "Smells Like Teen Miley"

Yesterday we played audio of Miley Cyrus covering Nirvana’s signature song, “Smells Like Teen Spirit” at a recent concert in Ecuador. Here is the video:



The older a person gets, the better their music tastes becomes. Miley has been a pop idiot for how long? I think now she’s just branching out because she is exposed to art. There is nothing wrong with wanting to try new things, but there are certain songs that you just don’t cover. It would be like Frank Sinatra doing “Walk this Way”. No matter how great Sinatra is, if he crossed genres, that music wouldn’t be as good and she still has a few years left before she can wipe the pop teen image and break out and do her own art.
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BJ's BLOG 05/03/11 "Online Gambling"

Last week during Listeners on the Loose, a caller named Jason asked us what our thoughts were on internet poker, and if we thought it should be legalized or at least regulated in some way.

Here’s the problem, this dilemma is a very murky situation. I don’t have all the facts about why everyone has their panties in a wad about this. Doesn’t the government know how large of a cut they would receive from the legalization of online gambling?

I think making online gambling illegal sucks because I believe you should be able to gamble anything you want. Now, because people are stupid in this country, we have to protect them from themselves and are forced to regulate these kinds of things.

This why the drinking age is 21, not 18, and why prostitution is still against the law!

Sadly, I don’t think this is going to happen; politicians want too much money. Who knows who is doing a majority of the complaining or who has an interest in this, but if we follow the money train, we’ll find someone who is not getting enough and they are whining about it.

Why do I have to pay and have my life ruined because of the stupidly of other people? I’m so sick of this “hold my hand because I am too stupid to regulate myself” mentality. Let the idiots mess up their own lives and leave the rest of us to responsibly go on with our lives.
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BJ's BLOG 05/02/11 "Justice Is Done"

Yesterday we received news that Osama Bin Laden, the despicable excuse for a human being responsible for the 9/11 terrorist attacks in New York, has been killed by a joint effort between the United States and Pakistan. Thanks to the Navy Seals for ending a near decade long hunt for him.

Osama wasn’t hiding out in a cave like we all thought all along; he was in a mansion that was recently built! It blows my mind that he didn’t realize how obvious this place was.

I do have to give big props to President Obama; while he quietly helping orchestrate locating Bin Laden and signing off on the plans to attack behind the scenes, he was going on with his daily life with the best poker face anyone has ever seen.

While he was out playing sports, digging up his real birth certificate to quiet Donald Trump’s allegations, and then later in the week roasting him at the White House Correspondents’ Dinner, he knew how close we were to capturing that piece of garbage and achieving justice

I am so proud of our country today. You have no idea how amazing it feels to be able to deliver such great news to some people who didn’t know until we told them this morning. This is a day that will go down in history and it will forever send out a message to all our enemies that the United States is not to be messed with. To quote our Commander In Chief: "Justice Is Done."
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BJ's BLOG 04/29/11 "Too Many Kids!"

The other day, Steve reported about a tragic story during Headlines and Sports about a man who set fire to his house which killed him and 5 of his children.

Tuan Dao set fire to his Vancouver home with an explosion caused by liquid fuels early Easter morning.

Apparently Tuan Dao recently filed for bankruptcy last year with a credit card debt of $158,000, and owed $262,000 on their family home. On top of that, he was alleged to have a gambling problem and has recently gotten into trouble for domestic violence.

There is a lot to learn from this man and his problems, especially if you’re young and looking to make your own way in life.

When it comes to most domestic violence problems, money and children can be found at the root of the issue. The wife is upset, the husband is upset, and then one person gets pushed so far that they can’t control themselves or act like normal rational human being; which is when horrible things can occur.

This is not me making an excuse for domestic violence; I believe no one should be hitting anyone.

This guy and his wife were making $87,000 a year but they had six kids together. Some would say that $87,000 a year is a great salary, but it’s simply not enough to support an 8 person household. I don’t care where you live; that amount of money with that large of a household is a terrible strain and will not be enough to cover everything. At the very most, it should have been a 4 person family.

These people were completely irresponsible when it came to spitting out kids. If you have 6 kids, you need to be making at least mid-six figures in order to support those children the way they need to be supported.

If you’re young and don’t want to eventually end up like Tuan, do not spit more than 2 kids out; even if you are making $80,000 a year. Although this was a very tragic thing to happen to someone, it could have all been avoided if he had been responsible with his penis.
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BJ's BLOG 04/28/11 "The Presidents Speech"

President Obama holding an internet contest where schools compete against each other to have him pay a visit to the school and make a speech.

Six schools, including Bridgeport High School in Bridgeport, Washington, are vying for the chance to have Obama come and what they have to do is make a video presentation which the public will help pick the top three. From there, Obama will decide which school between the three he will visit.

I’m sorry but I believe this is a stupid idea. I know how much it costs to have the president travel anywhere between the flight and the security precautions he has to take. Why doesn’t he just Skype the school a personalized message to whatever school wins and call it a day.

Obama, you need to be putting your head back in the books so you can figure out how to make this country a more economically friendly place to live. Don’t take your stupid jet, don’t take your security team, and all of the stupid things you have to do to pay for visits like this, which is all really on the tax payer’s dime, just so you can relay a different version of the same speech to teenagers.

We’ve heard the speech before, “the kids are the future…” and “hope balanced on their shoulders…”; why don’t you do something different and balance the budget, and reduce the deficit so we can get our crap together.

Obama doesn’t need to come out to Bridgeport or any other stupid little school in this country, he needs to sit his ass down and fix the problems we’ve been having in this country.
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BJ's BLOG 04/27/11 "Purchasing Power"

The Wall Street Journal put out an article that explained why men are portrayed like buffoons in commercials and ads. The piece was done by Carl Bailik and is called, “Who Makes the Call at the Mall, Men or Women?”

Now I’ve discussed this plenty of times on the show; where in commercials the wife appears to be incredibly intelligent and smart while the guy is a bumbling idiot who can’t do anything right without the help of his woman.

The reason they do this is because there is a statistic that says women “handle 80% to 90% of purchasing for the household.” Many folks in marketing use this stat to try to put out successful advertisements.

I’ve always wondered where this information came from because when I would hang out with other fathers and husbands, we would talk about all the decisions we had to make about buying things, the prices at the super market, or paying for remodeling, etc, so I’ve always felt like this data was skewed.

According to Carl Bailik, who did some research, he traced this “fact” back to a female specialized marketing consultant named Marti Barletta and her 2002 book called “Marketing to Women”. When Bailik asked Ms. Barletta to see the data or source to substantiate her statement she said she did not have any.

That’s right; she made up this “fact” and said “it is sadly one of those rule-of-thumb numbers that everyone in the industry uses.”

Ms. Barletta should be punished for putting out this false fact; I know she can’t be dinged for plagiarism but something needs to be done to her. Because of her false information, men are not considered worth advertising to, thus she has effectively screwed over many companies and businesses.

I get that the women’s movement was to empower women and to show that they are just as important as men in society, which was a worthwhile cause that I believe has been achieved, but I think it caused the pendulum to swing in the opposite direction so now men are no longer considered to be equal contributors to society.

Men, we have to shout this out on the roof tops; men are just as important as women when it comes to buying power and we shouldn’t be made look like idiots in commercials anymore.
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BJ's BLOG 04/26/11 "Brandon Marshall"

The other weekend, Miami Dolphin’s wide receiver Brandon Marshall was hospitalized after being stabbed by his wife…he went into surgery but should be ok because none of his vital organs were hit.

His wife, Michi Nogami-Marshall is still being held on a $75,000 bond after being charged with aggravated assault with a deadly weapon.

Marshall had refused to get an ambulance because he was embarrassed and didn’t want to make a scene. He also tried protecting his wife by saying he hurt himself with a broken vase but investigators saw that there was no blood on the broken vase, and there were signs of a struggle.

Now Michi is claiming it was all in self defense, and it would not be surprising because Brandon has a history of roughing up girlfriends in the past. Obviously this chick is a woman who values receiving the scraps of love and/or the financial rewards over her own safety and that is why she is in this wreck of a relationship.

What I am wondering is how can a football player who makes a lot of money (he signed a four year, 47.5 million dollar contract with the Dolphins last year) still have problems like this going on in his life?

This to me is just another case of two idiots that shouldn’t be together getting married. How is it possible that with all that money he makes, he doesn’t spend some of it on therapy or couples counseling?

Brandon has the ability to have a great life and be successful but for some stupid reason he is with a woman who, when she pisses him off, he loses all rational thinking and engages in violence with her.

Here’s a little relationship advice: if you get stabbed by your significant other, the relationship is clearly not working!
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BJ's BLOG 04/25/11 "Hand Sanitizers"

According to the Food and Drug Administration, hand sanitizers don’t really work. The FDA warmed consumers not to purchase hand sanitizers “that claim to prevent infection from MRSA, E. coli, salmonella, flu, or other bacteria viruses” and to use soap and water instead whenever it’s available. Hand sanitizers won’t protect you 100% of the time and should only be used if faced with no other option.

My question is where was the FDA before? Honestly, are they just slow or do they have a deal with companies where they get a certain product to blow up in sales before they start telling us the truth about it? How long have we been told to use hand sanitizers to prevent the spread of germs and bacterial infections; and they have hand sanitizer dispensers everywhere! You see them at airports, malls, banks, places where many people frequent and yet it’s not doing what we thought it was supposed to.

The FDA has said on its website that consumers are being misled and these products have not been approved by them.

If you guys haven’t approved these products, why is it that we are hearing about this now? Out of all the stupid things we invest our time and money researching, shouldn't we  have stopped and really looked into hand sanitizer before all this chaos happened in the first place?
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BJ's BLOG 04/22/11 "Wedding Dress"

Yesterday during the Lukewarm Topic of the day, we asked people if there ever was a time where they spent way too much money on something, what that something was and how much it cost.

A listener named Paul called in and told us that when he and his wife got married, they spent $28,000 on their wedding and $10,000 of that was on a wedding dress she only got to wear once. The dress was 1/3 of the cost!

I don’t know what the point is in spending so much money on a wedding dress, or even a whole wedding! I know I’ve spent my money on geeky things, but these are things I can use whenever I want; when and where would you ever wear your wedding dress again?

Let’s also be honest, after a few years, most women probably can’t fit in their dress again anyways. Am I right?

Paul pointed out, that women just want to be a princess for a day; we’ve seen it with those reality shows with the crazy brides running around like monsters, draining the wallets of their boyfriends or parents, and demanding nothing but perfection for their wedding day.

I’m glad to hear they are still together after all these years, but in the end shouldn’t a couple spend more time and effort working on building a solid marriage instead of preparations for a party?
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BJ's BLOG 04/21/11 "Female Violence"

Yesterday I read a story that I truly believe should be out there for everyone to see; it was an article called, “Moms killing kids not nearly as rare as we think” and it was put out by the Seattle PI.

You can read it here: http://www.seattlepi.com/news/article/Moms-killing-kids-not-nearly-as-rare-as-we-think-1339960.php#ixzz1K9g6kwnK

The theme of our show is to be fair minded, but the trouble is that over the years, since I’ve been in Seattle, people have come to see me as a misogynist because I will bring up facts that some women don’t like. I am actually one of the few voices who will actually stand up and try to truly equal things out by letting people know what is really going on.

One of the biggest things I try to get people to realize is that domestic violence/spousal abuse is not a male problem exclusively; in fact, more and more studies have come out proving it is more prevalent in women.

In fact, the article I mentioned above states, “Experts say more mothers than fathers kill their children under 5 years of age. And some say our reluctance as a society to believe mothers would be capable of killing their offspring is hindering our ability to recognize warning signs, intervene and prevent more tragedies.”

What really gets me is remembering all those billboards and bus ads that used to show the mother and children cowering in a corner because they were afraid of the abusive brute of a father. Not once did I see a billboard showing domestic violence being perpetrated by the hands of a woman.

We have plenty of studies that show that women are more likely to be abusive to their spouse and/or children than men are, but it is not being reported because no one wants think that mommy could do something like that.

I bring this up just to show you that we have a problem in this country and it’s not just a male problem; but if we keep ignoring that women do bad things too, we’re never going to solve anything.
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BJ's BLOG 04/20/11 "Gas Prices"

Most of you have probably noticed, the gas prices have been going up dramatically recently. In the last two months, the price of gas has gone up 52 cents a gallon! Many people are trying to blame President Obama but let’s be realistic; he did enter the White House in a bad situation.

Senators Patty Murray and Maria Cantwell are blaming oil speculators, and for those who don’t know, oil speculators are people who invest in commodities. Some people are trying to stop these oil speculators but others say that if we do that, it will make it less efficient to somehow be involved in the business of investing in oil. As a stupid guy I have to ask, if it’s less efficient but you’re not screwing us over, then isn’t it ok for your job to be a little tougher as long as the rest of us don’t have to pay $4.50 a gallon for gas?

Sadly Seattle doesn’t provide any other alternates for people who can’t afford to drive either. Mayor Mike McGinn is raising parking prices in Seattle because he wants to encourage us to be more “green” and ride our bikes to work. Hello! Some people have to commute 20, 30, or even more than 40 miles sometimes, and riding a bike is not an option and riding the bus is an even bigger joke.

The average American has a lot of things on their plate and the fact that there are groups of people who want to drain our wallets at the pumps just to make their jobs easier is ridiculous.
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BJ's BLOG 04/19/11 "Hoops"

If you haven’t heard, Sacramento is going through a similar pain that Seattle has gone through when it comes to basketball.

It seems as though the Sacramento Kings have played their last season and the team will more than likely move to Anaheim, which would make it the 3rd basketball team in the LA area.

I have heard that their arena is just a pile so you have to assume they are not drawing a lot of people to these games. It’s just stupid that teams expect the cities they’re in to buy them their arenas.

Why doesn’t the NBA get together to build their own stuff, as a collective, to keep their own league healthy? I just don’t understand it.

It just seems to me that people in basketball don’t care about their customers. You have arrogant a-hole, wannabe thugs who play in the NBA, who don’t provide good customer service. There are stories of athletes refusing to give out autographs and take pictures, and football and baseball are not too far off as well. Why wouldn’t anyone want to repay their fans by taking time to do stuff for them if they are the ones who are essentially paying their salaries?

Of course the NBA doesn’t care and rapes cities of teams who have great histories. Sacramento was there for 30 years with that team and the Sonics were a championship team with 40 years of history!

The basketball world really needs to change their attitudes because if they don’t, they won’t have any fans left.
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BJ's BLOG 04/18/11 "Kobe"

Last week we talked about how Kobe Bryant was being fined $100,000 after he mouthed a homophobic slur to a referee after getting a technical foul.




Many pro gay groups were outraged when cameras filmed him mouthing the words “f***ing” and a word that rhymes with “maggot” at a game.

Now I was listening to another radio show the other day and they were saying that what Kobe did was inexcusable and that even if they were hit with a hammer, they would not say those same words.

Come on people, are you telling me that you never in your life have been in such a huge fit of rage that you’ve uttered words that could be offensive to someone? All of us have said horrible things in a heat of anger before, right?

They also said that it’s a true test of a man to see how he reacts when he gets angry and I was annoyed by that. Kobe was in moment where he got really pissed off; I don’t believe that someone could be a racist, a sexist or a homophobe based on the fact that he said two words when he was that angry.

What I want to know is what are we supposed to say when we are angry? When I’m mad, I want to be mean because we all know it helps you vent the frustration of your pain, it’s true for everyone.

In fact, today we read a survey out of Keele University in Staffordshire, England that proves that swearing is an effective pain killer! In fact, people who swore after suffering some genuine pain felt 400% less pain than people who didn’t.

What can we say to really help us out? There are so many words out there that I am not allowed to say because it will hurt someone’s feelings, but when I’m feeling physical or emotional pain, I just feel better when I let them out. I am just so tired of the fact that somebody gets judged because they get pissed off for 20 seconds and therefore are forever seen as that angry hateful person.
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BJ's BLOG 04/15/11 "Cry Wolf"

I read a story about a Lynnwood woman who was accused of filing a fake rape charge back in 2008 and how they finally found her attacker, proving she was telling the truth.

I usually have a lot of good things to say about the police department and police in general but I have to wonder, what the hell did they say to this woman to get her to admit to a false claim and take a fine?

I hope she sues the city and everyone involved for the pain and suffering she had to go through in the last few years, not only that, but also for being labeled a liar.

I would like to also point my finger at all women that have cried wolf about rape; because of you, this woman had to go through years of hell before they found her attacker.

They must have assumed that this woman was lying because there wasn’t enough evidence, and because of stupid women, who for whatever messed up reason decided to accuse an innocent person of doing something heinous like rape.

What a horrible situation this woman had to go through. All you “cry wolf” ladies, you caused a lot of hell for this woman and countless others because of your own mental dysfunctions. You deserve to go to jail along with the rapists because you are just as guilty!
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BJ's Blog 04/14/11 "Spring Spheres?"

A 16-year-old Seattle student named Jessica was doing a week long community service project for a 3rd grade class and wanted to do something nice for them at the end of her week. She had the idea, since it is the Easter season, to give the kids little plastic eggs filled with candy.

When she asked for permission, the administration said she could hand them out as long as she called them “spring spheres”.

This is unbelievable to me; the reason this is happening is because we have so many politically correct idiots in this area.

Why are we even trying to protect religions? You already know my thoughts on organized religions, with all their stories about how we are suppose to be living life on this planet, and every religion is different but their view point is the “correct view point” and everyone else is an idiot, etc. My question is why are we trying to be politically correct towards groups of people who think they’re right and everyone else is wrong?

I can understand being gender correct and ethnically correct sometimes but religiously correct?

On top of all this, they are educating our children incorrectly in order to save the feelings of religious folks. Eggs are not spheres, they’re ovals!

We are actually “dumbing” down this generation’s children in a place that is supposed to be making them smarter, and for what? Give me a break. Thanks Seattle for once again making us the PC laughing stalk of the country.
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BJ's BLOG 04/13/11 "Handicapped Parking"

We read how community groups are pissed off after another photo of a police vehicle parked in a handicapped parking spot surfaced. The picture was taken by a citizen in Bothell at the Country Village Shopping Center. The officer went to the Carolina Smoke BBQ to eat lunch. Last month, another citizen also took a picture of a Washington State Patrol car that was parked in a handicapped parking spot in Oak Harbor, so people really have been up in arms about this.

I know people don’t want cops to park in handicap zones, but let’s face it, a cop has to eat lunch every once in a while right, so wouldn’t you want him/her to have quick access to their vehicle in an emergency?

I suggest that maybe we should let them park in the handicapped parking spots. I understand that it would be inconvenient, but it’s like the handicap stalls in the bathrooms; I understand that some people need them but a majority of the time, both stalls and parking spots are vacant.

What this city should do is create more handicapped parking spaces so that way a cop can park there if needed, and a handicapped person won’t be out of a spot because there are plenty more for them. Or even create a zone specifically for police or emergency vehicles.

I just want our officers to be able to get back to their cars if they get called back to work all of a sudden. It seems like a waste of time having to run across the parking lot or down a block. Isn’t that the least we could do for the men and women who serve and protect us day in and day out?
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BJ's BLOG 04/12/11 "Family"

Yesterday during Group Therapy we read an email from a guy named Derek who needed advice about his brother.

His brother has been married to the same woman for 10 years and they have a 7-year-old son together but he has noticed that his brother is unhappy, and has even mentioned the word “divorce” on occasion. Derek wasn’t sure if he should encourage his brother to get a divorce, or tell him to try to stay together and make it work for the sake of their son.

I know it is tough watching situations like this from the outside but the best course of action would be to not get involved, even if you don’t like seeing a family member miserable.

Now, I’m not sure how long they dated before they got married but they only waited about 2 years before the conceived their child, which wasn’t long enough in my book.

A lot of women don’t like the way I speak about what I’m about to say because I am very harsh but this is how men have to be told things in order to learn. Also, I’m not doing a show for women, I’m doing it for men, but I feel that if some women would shut up and listen, they could learn a lot too.

Men, if you’re young and you’re having sex with women, you better protect yourself from having babies. I’ve said this before; I don’t care how happily married you are, a baby is the worst thing that will happen to you and your marriage. They will destroy everything that you have built leaving only the foundation, and you better have a good foundation. If you don’t have a good foundation, that child will come in like a tornado and wreck everything.

I’m a father of two kids and I love them very much, but I can’t begin to tell you what those kids did to my marriage. My marriage is in no way the same or even close to the same as it was when we were married without kids.

Again, I’m not saying this because I am bitter; I am saying this because men learn through harsh examples. You can’t pussyfoot around the subject and tell guys that things will be wonderful because it won’t be all the time.

Women have that switch in their brain that will get turned on so they will instinctively love their child no matter what horribleness is going on in their life….men don’t have that switch!

Everything you know about that woman and that life will be destroyed and all you are left with is your love for that woman, and if you’re love isn’t strong your marriage is doomed.

That’s why I say don’t have babies until you know that she is the woman you want to commit to for the rest of your life…that she is the woman you want to work hard for every damn day because you love her so much, and you are willing to build a family with her. If you don't love her that much, you will be destroyed.
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BJ's BLOG 04/11/11 "Pepper Spray"

On Friday during Listeners on the Loose we received a call from a listener named Chris who told us about an 8-year-old who got pepper sprayed by the police during a fit of rage at school.

8-year-old Aidan Elliot from Colorado had been threatening, spitting, and swearing at teachers and students at his elementary school. He had also thrown a TV and some chairs, and was attempting to use a cart to bust down a door to an office that a teacher and students were forced to barricade themselves in.

When police arrived, Aidan was holding a sharpened piece of wood trim and yelled at the cops, "I will kill you mother effers!”, but he used the real word.

Police tried calming him down but had to take immediate action and pepper sprayed the boy.

Of course the mother, Mandy Elliot, was not happy about this; she thought they could have found a way to talk him down, or bring in a specialist.

Look, if anyone is threatening to harm the life of someone else, then the first line of action should be to subdue, not talk.

They walked away from that situation with no other students or teachers injured because they took immediate action.

Apparently this wasn’t Aidan’s first encounter with the police. His behavior had lead to having the police come on two previous occasions.

In an interview with Colorado's KUSA television, Aidan said, "I wanted to make something sharp if they came out because I was so mad at them. I was going to try to whack them with it."

Well ok stupid, you just said you wanted to hurt a police officer so you deserve to get pepper sprayed! If anyone over the age of 18 said they wanted to whack a cop with something sharp, no one would feel bad for that person when they got pepper sprayed.

Aidan’s mother Mandy, like so many mothers in this culture, is so deluded. Women have forgotten what it’s like to be reprimanded for their bad behavior. I don’t know what is going on with some women in this country who don’t recognize that this kid was out of line and had to be controlled.

Mandy Elliot has no reason to complain because her kid had a sharp object and was being a threat to other people to the point where police had to be called.

Obviously if you couldn’t tell, the father is not really in the picture, he is living in a different state. If that boy had a prominent father figure in his life, he probably wouldn’t have outbursts like this because the father would make sure to tell him when he is behaving badly and punish him when needed.

This is just another example of a stupid woman who should have kept her legs and mouth closed.
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BJ's BLOG 04/08/11 "Crying Kid"

Yesterday we played audio of a father making his young son cry because the little boy is a Yankee’s fan and not a Red Sox fan.

Here the video:



Believe it or not, I am very pissed off at the father for doing this even though he is a Red Sox fan. He is the biggest shed of tools because children believe every word their parent says is true, and to tell a kid that they have to find a new place to live because what they like is “wrong”, is unnecessarily hurtful.

I get that some people make mistakes but some parents just don’t understand the severity of their words.

The kid doesn’t understand that his father is joking so he thinks his dad really wants to kick him out of the house.

The kid likes what he likes because he’s just a stupid little kid; he probably just likes the Yankees because of something silly like the look of the logo or the uniforms.

People think it’s funny but they don’t understand that this probably is the most traumatic thing the child has gone through so far. He thinks his father doesn’t want him because of something he likes so it gets the kid thinking he is wrong for liking it.

We may not think it’s a big deal because it’s something small, but it’s like someone telling us one of our “adult” problems isn’t a big deal. No matter what you go through in life, you can’t say that one thing causes more pain than something else to another person because everything affects people differently.

That dad is an a-hole for making his kid cry over something as stupid as a sports team because let me tell you, there is more to life then a baseball team.
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BJ's BLOG 04/07/11 "Non-Profit?"

Yesterday I went off on the story of Bristol Palin, and how the nonprofit anti-teen pregnancy charity, the Candie's Foundation, paid her over $262,000 for working for them. This just shows the ugliness of certain nonprofit organizations.

Basically they get out of paying taxes that other businesses have to pay because the people who work for them are supposedly doing it out of the goodness of their hearts and are not getting paid very much…but now it seems like that is not the case here.

When somebody by the name of Bristol Palin makes over $262,000 working for a “nonprofit”, it raises a flag in my book because there is seriously something wrong with that.

There are other reports now claiming that they gave her over $300,000! The only reason they chose her for the Candie's Foundation is because her mom was a political figure and Bristol was stupid enough to get knocked up!

That’s another thing; not only did she get paid a ridiculous amount of money, but she got paid to preach an extremely flawed method of birth control. We’ve learned that abstinence is not the best thing to teach teenagers because honestly teenagers/early adults just like to have sex, and everything they learned about abstaining goes right out the window. Granted if you practice abstinence 100% to the letter and never put yourself in any kind of sexual situations then it will work, but really how often does that happen?

I’m curious about how much money they actually gave to the charity. It’s just sad because as long as these organizations still have some money to donate after all of the “expenses were covered”; they are still allowed to call themselves a nonprofit organization.

It’s disgusting. Bristol Palin should have done that work for free if she really believed in the cause. She obviously doesn’t care to help other people otherwise she would have donated her time, and it’s hypocritical for her to be preaching advice she couldn’t even follow.

We need to revamp how non-profit organizations are run because you know how many bloated wallets and fat cats would get destroyed if we made them do things the honorable and charitable way? Bristol Palin is a joke.
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BJ's BLOG 04/06/11 "Domestic Violence"

Yesterday we talked about a horrible tragedy that occurred in Roy, Washington last Friday.

Sheriff’s detectives are investigating what made a woman in her late 40’s allegedly shoot and murder her 51-year-old boyfriend last week. They believe that the woman’s 13-year old daughter witnessed the woman hover over her boyfriend before putting one last shot in his body.

Deputies also mentioned that earlier in the evening, the couple reportedly got into a fight over pictures of another woman on his cell phone.

This was the third strike for this woman and if she is found guilty, she could get life in prison.

I wish somebody would release some official studies on domestic violence. The government has released some stats, but we need to show that domestic violence isn’t just a “guy problem”, but something both sexes can be guilty of.

We have been led to believe that men are the sole perpetrators, when in reality there are stats that have been released that actually indicate it is a 50/50 problem.

Also, in a lot of cases as well, the first encounter with violence that a child experiences is at the hands of their mother.

Sadly there are a lot of these political agendas out there that help fund battered women’s shelters that don’t want the truth to be told because they may not receive the tax money from the government.

The only shining light to this story is that this is a high profile case that shows how women can also lose control and become the attackers, and it’s time for everyone to come to terms with the fact that men can be the victims to domestic violence as well.
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BJ's BLOG 04/05/11 "Ben"

This past Friday we got a call from a listener named Ben who needed some help. He’s been married for three years; (he is 22 and she is 25) and they have a 6 month old daughter who is biologically both of theirs and a 4-year-old son who is only hers. What Ben needed help with is that when his son’s biological father would get depressed, he would email and ask to meet his son, but so far they have both said no and wanted to see what he should do.

First off, he got married at 19 to a 22-year-old woman who already had a child….who does that? How is something like that attractive enough to a man that he would say, “I do” and take on those responsibilities?

When I asked Ben why he got married in the first place he said he didn’t know. I’m sorry but if anyone gives that answer to why they got married, they sound like an idiot. I don’t mean to be mean and I’m saying this out of love, but as young man, he needs to find good men to be around that will be his solid mentors. It’s stupid to get married at 19; it’s even dumber to marry a woman who already has a kid with someone else, and it’s even more moronic to make another child with that woman at such a young age.

Ben and his woman are both in their early twenties; this should be the start of their lives but instead they have to play mommy and daddy.

Now to answer Ben’s question: The bio dad does send some cash, and the father should be allowed to see his son. If you were paying even some money, wouldn’t you want to be allowed to see your child too?

Stay out of it as much as possible and know that this guy has the right to see his kid and possibly set it up with the government; set it up the right way.
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BJ's BLOG 04/04/11 "Security"

I received the following email from three different companies this weekend,

"Dear Valued (Company) Customer,
On March 31, we were informed by Epsilon, a company we use to send emails to our customers, that files containing the email addresses of some (Company) customers were accessed without authorization.

We have been assured by Epsilon that the only information that may have been obtained was your email address and that the accessed files did not include any other information. A rigorous assessment by Epsilon determined that no other information is at risk. We are actively investigating to confirm this.

For your security, however, we wanted to call this matter to your attention. We ask that you remain alert to any unusual or suspicious emails. As our experts would tell you, be very cautious when opening links or attachments from unknown senders.

In keeping with best industry security practices, we will never ask you to provide or confirm any information, including credit card numbers, unless you are on our secure e-commerce site. If you receive an email asking for personal information, delete it. It did not come from (Company).

Our service provider has reported this incident to the appropriate authorities.

We regret this has taken place and for any inconvenience this may have caused you. We take your privacy very seriously, and we will continue to work diligently to protect your personal information.

Sincerely,

(Company representative)"

As I said, three different companies sent this to me, my daughter, son and wife. A bank, a store and a credit card company were the different businesses using this Epsilon's email service.

The advice given above is always good practice at all times. Make sure you pass this along to your family members.

Oh, and I still believe in super harsh penalties for hacker idiots that spam, spoof and steal via emails and the web.

Really harsh, example-setting, old school penalties... and broadcast them being carried out on the net, of course.
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BJ's BLOG 04/01/11 "Idiots"

Last week we talked about who could possibly the stupidest criminals of the year, but today I think we found a man who single handedly takes the idiot cake!

I talked last week about a group of three men ages 18, 20, and 21 from Florida who decided to burglarize a man’s home. That’s not the dumbest part; they also thought it would be a good idea to take their Kodak Easy share camera, to film themselves sharing every single detail of the break in plan.

Police officers did catch these men in the act, and were happy to find the camera to see that these guys had narrated their entire crime in advance.
They were all arrested on felony burglary charges and were each sentenced to 21 months in prison.

Today we read about someone who is possibly dumber! A 19-year-old named Anthony Frodelly from New Jersey, stole copper tubing from a company, and then showed up the next day looking for a job!

When he showed up, the owner recognized him from the surveillance tape, called the police, and Anthony was arrested and charged with theft!

Some people say that people deserve second chances when they do something dumb, but in this case they don’t deserve anything! If you’re a criminal who is that stupid you deserve to go to jail; maybe you will finally learn something.
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BJ's BLOG 03/31/11 "Flowers"

Yesterday during our segment Group Therapy, we read an email from Andrew who needed our help.

His girlfriend of two years (and they live together), came back from the bars on Saturday with a bunch of roses that were given to her by random men at the bar. His girlfriend and her friends don’t see it as a big deal because she didn’t have sex or anything with these men.

Women are funny; they think because they didn’t have sex with another guy that we are stupid enough to think they still didn’t have fun by flirting and getting attention from them. They love the emotional exchange, which is why we know that emotional cheating is the new form of being unfaithful.

Whether they admit it or not, flirting and gift giving is like foreplay to women. Let’s be honest ladies; when you go to a bar and flirt up a storm, it is emotional foreplay…yet you think it’s ok for that to happen.

We all know how it works when people go to a bar; most guys are there looking for some action. If you’re not interested in taking a man home with you, don’t accept his gifts or attention; just let him move on so he can get what he’s looking for from someone else.

We also received a text from a woman who said, “They are just flowers, why throw them away? They’re just flowers. She didn’t go home with the guy. She didn’t hide anything, she just brought them home. There is nothing behind it.”

Well, men just want sex; it doesn’t mean that he’s going to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her, he just loves vagina so why throw it away?

Women totally trivialize what hurts a guy. I know you love flowers….and I love va-jay-jay, but guess what? I can only have one and that would be my wife’s; and I only have one because I am faithful to her physically and emotionally, unlike Andrew’s girlfriend apparently.
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BJ's BLOG 03/30/11 "Child Beauty Pageants"

Last week I read a story that infuriated me. The Sun, which is a British tabloid magazine, did a story about a San Francisco mother named Kerry Campbell who gives her eight-year-old daughter Britney Botox injections.

The reason Kerry is poking and prodding her daughter with needles is because she doesn’t want Britney to be at a disadvantage in the beauty pageant world.



On top of the injections Kerry administers to her daughter, she also takes little Britney to get a “virgin wax”, which removes the fluffy hair on her legs and prevents her pubic hair from growing when she hits puberty!



I don’t understand why anyone would think this is ok to do. This should be considered child abuse! It’s a violation to their bodies.



This whole child beauty pageant world is completely insane! Girls shouldn’t be allowed to enter beauty pageants until they are 18 because they would be doing it as a consenting adult!

No woman in the beauty pageant world would admit to this but it’s all about objectifying themselves for other people, even though that’s what you claim you hate and don’t want us men to do. From the form fitting dress competition to the swim suits, everything is sexual about this and yet we allow young children to take part in pageants.

Women are running rampant dressing up their little girls (and sometimes even boys too) like sexy plastic dolls for their own selfish reasons, and we as men need to step up and do something otherwise the next generation is doomed.
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BJ's BLOG 03/24/11 "Moms Vs. Dads"

Yesterday, we had a topic that was based on a story of a kid lying and claiming he was shot to cover up that he fell and ripped his jeans. The question we asked was, when did you lie to cover something up?

During the topic we received a call from a listener named Aaron.

When Aaron was younger, his parents gave him a calling card in case of an emergency. He only understood that it was “free” so he used it to call a sex line. His parents found out when the bill came and the charges racked up to be about $600, and Aaron just like any other teenager, said it wasn’t him. After they called the operator, they heard a recording of his voice on the phone, and needless to say he was caught.

Like any father, Aaron’s dad was a little proud of his son, but also made him work off the bill. Now Aaron’s mother, like any other mom, went and told his whole family, and for a while his grandmother, aunts, and mom called him the “little perv” in a joking manner.

That is so mom justice, because how many dads would do something like that? Guys have the “that’s my boy” mentality, but would have just put him to work, while moms just like to resort to humiliation.

I get mad that women would do that to their boys, is it really a shock that a teenage boy would be interested in naked women in any shape or form? Yet moms feel the need to embarrass and humiliate their sons over something that comes naturally. Fathers don’t do that to their daughters so there is no reason why it should be done to boys…Period!
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BJ's BLOG 03/23/11 "Troubling Pictures"

A German news website, Der Spiegel, published images of US soldiers posing with dead Afghans. Of the 4,000 pictures Der Spiegel reported that they found, two of the pictures published were of soldiers Jeremy Morlock and Andrew Holmes, holding up the head of a dead person.

They would also take “trophies” from the people they killed, including teeth and fingers.

Currently twelve U.S. soldiers are currently on trial here in Seattle, including Morlock and Holmes– five for murder and conspiracy, seven for conspiracy to cover up, as well as dismembering a corpse, mutilation and drug abuse.

Spec. Morlock has already pled guilty to murder, and all of the soldiers will face the death penalty or life in prison if convicted.

This is a horrible thing going on, but I can’t really wrap my brain around this and rationally find the reasoning behind it, because I just don’t know what they are going through.

Is the military just letting people who are mentally unstable sign up, or are we pushing our soldiers too hard by making them serve tour after tour?

My father and brother have both served in the military, and I’ve heard of the horrible things that they have experienced, but I will never truly understand.

I’ve never had to kill a person, or been in a warzone, and I’ve never had to see close friends being attacked and killed in front of me; so I can’t say what we should do to reprimand these men.

I hope that this situation doesn’t put a negative light on those who are brave enough to defend our country, but show that we should be taking better care of the men and women who are putting their lives on the line so that stuff like this doesn’t happen anymore.
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BJ's BLOG 03/22/11 "53%"

I read a Washington Post-ABC News poll that found that a majority of Americans believe gay marriage should be legal. It’s not an overwhelming majority; we actually just had a slight tip because it used to be that 47% of believed in gay marriage and now the number has increased to 53%.

I hope that this is a sign to come that one day even more people will be ok with gay marriage. It seems like this country just keeps going back and forth, which shows that we are really a divided country and it’s just a sad fact.

How can half the country believe in one thing and the other half believe in another? This is not what it should be about. We should be able to come to an agreement on more stuff than this.

Why does it matter if two guys or two girls get married to each other? Are we not supposed to get married out of love?

I just think it’s sad that it’s the year 2011, and we still have close to half of this country thinking that a certain group of people aren’t fit to get married.
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BJ's BLOG 03/21/11 "Chew"

Last Friday, Steve informed us about a disgusting phenomenon that is increasing in popularity in teenagers. According to the state's Healthy Youth Survey, the rate of 10th graders (especially girls) chewing tobacco use has more than doubled! I don’t understand why this would be appealing to girls.

They apparently have flavored tobacco, but what girl wants to walk around with a big ball of chew in their mouth? Am I out of touch, or is that the most disgusting thing you’d ever want to see a girl do?

We used to know a guy who would do it all the time, but it grossed me out every time I would see him spit into his cup. That being said, even though it’s gross as all hell, I can still tolerate it a little more with guys than with girls.

What is happening to our world when girls think this is a good idea?

We then got a phone call from a listener named Jeff, who pointed out that girl’s just want to impress their men by proving that they could do anything that guys can do.

When are we going to start teaching women that the majority of men don’t find it attractive to have their woman behaving like a man? The reason why we find women attractive is because of their femininity. We don’t want to be dating or married to a woman who acts like one of our buddies, so I don’t understand why any girl would pick up chewing tobacco!

We want to be with a woman who will be our partner, not a tomboy who will be our “bro”.
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BJ's BLOG 03/18/11 "Parking"

You just have to love what Tattoo shop owner Ty Myers did to show his anger towards Mayor Mike McGinn for raising parking rates up even more.

The owner of Fenix Tattoo, Ty, hung up a sign outside his shop in Pioneer Square that reads: "Parking $3.50, Small business $0, F*** you Mayor McGinn." (Except he used the whole “F” word).

In an interview, Ty said, “These guys are idiots. They don't understand basic business... I told them 'our best shopping day is on Sunday, which is a free parking day.'”

He also said, “Everybody's mad about this. The mayor's an idiot, we're little people doing the American Dream 12 hours a day. Don't kick us in the teeth, man.”

I whole heartily agree with what Ty is doing; he is exercising his 1st amendment right and he’s speaking up on something that the rest of us are pissed off about as well.

It seems like the Mayor really wants to get rid of all cars in Seattle. How does he expect businesses to survive if the parking rates are ridiculously high?

Do they really think we’ll all ride bikes? News flash, some of us can’t slow our lives down to ride our bikes everywhere. We have busy schedules and demanding lives, and not to mention, it rains 10 months out of the year here!

Also, if you’re from out of town, how are we supposed to get to downtown Seattle? We don’t have a great mass transit system, and I don’t want to ride the bus with the people who do ride them because let’s face it; you get some weird people on those buses.

Parking garages are no better because they hike up their rates just for the convenience of parking under their shopping centers.

Bellevue has the same feel as Seattle yet they validate or give you free parking, which is why I prefer going to Bellevue.
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BJ's BLOG 03/17/11 "The Situation Roast"

Donald Trump’s Roast was on Comedy Central., it was hosted by Seth MacFarlane and the usual guests attended, like Lisa Lampanelli and Jeffrey Ross, but there was an odd choice for a guest who attempted to roast Donald as well. Mike “The Situation” Sorrentino (from The Jersey Shore) tried to be funny but got booed by the audience! This just proves what I’ve been saying for a while; he has absolutely no talent!

The jokes all sounded like they were written out for him, which granted that happens all the time for these shows, but if he had at least one shred of talent or charisma in his stupid greasy head, he would have been able to execute those jokes well.

Usually if they have anyone at a roast that isn’t a comedian but are actors, singers, or some other form of entertainer, they can usually read a joke and be able pull it off well. That is because they actually have some sort of performing talent already.

I know I’m going to sound like I’m a 102-year-old, but I don’t understand why people actually like the Situation and the rest of the Jersey Shore cast. I guess you don’t have to be talented anymore, because people will be entertained if you’re just a dumb meat-head.

The only consolation is that people at the roast knew he was bad and booed his stupid ass!
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BJ's BLOG 03/16/11 "Press Secretary"

Yesterday we talked about the press secretary for Mississippi Gov. Haley Barbour, Dan Turner, who resigned this last week after sending off-colored emails, including one about the recent tragedy in Japan.

Here is an example:

"Otis Redding posthumously received a gold record for his single, (Sittin' on) The Dock of the Bay. (Not a big hit in Japan right now.)”

In another email, Turner took a hit at former Attorney General Janet Reno. "It took longer to confirm her gender than to confirm her law license," he said.

In an earlier message, Turner joked that Bob Marley's commemorative stamp could double up as a "tiny rolling paper".

It’s amazing to me that people who are in the world of politics still do idiotic things like this.

Apparently, every morning, Turner get on his computer and start off his day by compiling news clippings, historical notes, birthdays and jokes. This is what the press secretary of Mississippi does? We are spending money for him to sit his ass on the computer and find out when it’s everyone’s birthday!

On the Governors website, it says that Gov. Barbour has accepted Dan Turner's resignation as Press Secretary, and they are looking to replace him.

Why do they need a replacement? If this is all he was used for, to send out stupid emails, then why do we need to replace him? These are government officials and it costs us tax money to keep them in office.

Like I’ve said before, I hate politicians as a whole and I will always vote out the incumbent. It takes a few bad apples to ruin the bunch, and Dan Turner is a perfect example of this.
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BJ's BLOG 03/15/11 "Pictures"

We read a study from Science Daily saying that the more photos a woman posts on her Facebook page, the more insecure she is.

As a guy, we’re not surprised by this. We know that if a woman posts a picture other than herself as her main photo, whether it’s a picture of her kid, her pet, or a drawing, then she doesn’t think she’s that attractive. Or even women who post pictures of themselves from 20 years ago.

I remember when I went to a co-workers house one time and the first thing she did was take my wife and I to her refrigerator to show us a picture of when she was younger. She even asked, “Wasn’t I hot?” What am I supposed to say to that? My wife was next me and this woman looked like a whale now!

Women need to stop looking to me to make them feel good about themselves. I am not your boyfriend so it’s not my job. Women talk about men being shallow but look at how they are posting all these pictures because they feel insecure about themselves, and want to be objectified so they can boost their low self esteem!
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BJ's BLOG 03/14/11 "50 Cent"

Last Friday, tragedy struck as a earthquake slammed Japan's eastern coast. Ferocious tsunamis spawned afterwards and 10,000 people are feared dead.

As horrible as this is, someone had to be on of the first to make fun of that situation on Twitter, and that person was 50 Cent.

50 Cent first tweeted on Friday morning, “Wave will hit 8am them crazy white boys gonna try to go surfing." Later in the afternoon, he said, "Look this is very serious people I had to evacuate all my hoe's from LA, Hawaii and Japan. I had to do it. Lol."

After a little while (and I’m assuming some serious backlash from his followers) he tweeted, "Nah this is nuts but what can anyone do about it. Let's pray for anyone who has lost someone."

A few hours later, 50 tweeted to defend himself saying, "Some of my tweets are ignorant I do it for shock value. Hate it or love it. I'm cool either way 50cent."

If you were really “cool” 50, you wouldn’t have posted an apology. I get if you lead a life in the spot light you have to be careful with what you say and do, but if it’s your thing to joke about awful things then own it!

I hate that people have to lie about what they’re thinking or what they believe in just to get a positive review. Either say what you want and be truthful or just shut the hell up!
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BJ's BLOG 03/09/11 "Stab"

Yesterday I read a story that really disturbed me. A woman in the UK stabbed her boyfriend then had sex with him on the blood stained sheets. Charlene Henderson really took “crazy girlfriend” to a new level!

Now Charlene forgot to take her depression medication and thought her boyfriend Gary Stewart was cheating on her which lead her to stab him repeatedly. After she finished her psycho rampage, she proceeded to have sex with him!

In the end Gary was ok; he had many stab wounds that luckily weren’t dead enough to cause serious issues.

You’d expect that Charlene would be locked up in a mental institution or prison right? Of course not! She was only given two years probation! I’m not sure if it has anything to do with the fact that she wasn’t on her medication, but I’ve said this before; if someone doesn’t take their medicine and seriously hurts someone, that’s attempted murder!

How can you let that person free? First off, they weren’t smart enough to even take their medication, and then they got out and seriously hurt someone. I know Gary was ok, but her intent was not, she could have killed him and yet she’s still allowed to run around with the rest of society.

Yes she will get in trouble if she violates her probation in the next two years but why are we even giving her a chance to hurt someone again?
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BJ's BLOG 03/08/11 "The Truth?"

Yesterday we played more audio clips of Charlie Sheen, and it has been entertaining, but the audio of him complaining about the statement “It is what is” makes him sound like this listener who posts on my wall.

Charlie Sheen, this listener, and people like him are all about the “truth” of things; they believe that 911 was set up by our own government, the Zeitgeist mentality. The problem with those kinds of people is that they don’t mind if a few facts are distorted or just simply not true, because they feel that the ends justify the means, and that’s what bothers me about the whole thing.

Just like Michael Moore does in his movies; he slants the truth a little bit which ends up discrediting the whole film, and that frustrates me.

You don’t have to lie about facts if you’re trying to tell the truth, even if you think your truth is the way to go.

If you’re a real “truther”, don’t sit there and feed me crap; if you’re going to lie to me, be better at it at least!

This manic bipolar sounding approach these “truthers” have discredits what they have to say, because they can’t sit down normally and have a discussion.

“It is what is” is a stupid statement, but “it ain’t what it ain’t” isn’t because Charlie Sheen came up with it?
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BJ's BLOG 03/07/11"Stupid Criminals"

Last week, Steve read a story about Deputy Sheriff Shandon Wright who passed away last week suddenly. He underwent surgery on March 2nd after a man he was arresting yanked on his arm and dislocated his shoulder. Then on Thursday, he developed breathing problems and paramedics were called to his home but sadly Wright didn’t make it.

I’ve blogged about this before; stupid criminals shouldn’t be out here with the law abiding citizens because look what happens.

People have been getting mad on my Facebook page every time I blog about stupid criminals like the wood carver John T. Williams.

People just want to hate cops, they really do!

How many officers’ lives and their family’s lives are in ruined because of these idiots!

Cops all over the country lose their lives because of these pieces of crap our politicians set free. These people, who are just the scum of the earth, commit these tragic crimes, and then get set free again just so they can do more harm; a perfect example is the teen that killed the Tuba Man.

For everyone who thinks that the cops are out of control; don’t you think it may just be the criminals who are out of control? When will these stupid “anarchists” who just want to do without cops learn that they are dreaming of a world that will surely lead to destruction of all civilization. If we were ever without cops, they will be the first begging for assistance when bad things happen.
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BJ's BLOG 03/04/11 "School"

Yesterday it seems like most of the news stories were about schools; between Maria Goodloe-Johnson getting fired and replaced by Susan Enfield, the school bus driver who resigned after he grabbed a student by her backpack and threw her to the ground, and the teacher duct taping her student to a chair.

All I have to say about the new Seattle Public Schools Superintendent is everyone was praising her just like they were praising Goodloe-Johnson when they hired her. Only time will tell how well she does.

Now the bus driver who grabbed a 6-year-old girl student by the backpack and threw her on ground has now resigned. Dan Taylor, the bus driver, said, "I admit that I made a mistake, so I resigned.” "They've overloaded the buses this year," he said. "I'm used to having 40 or 50 kids. I now have 70 kids on that bus." Taylor says frustration got the best of him, and now he's paying the price, but the mother of the girl, Ashley Reavely says that his apology is not enough and wants to see that he never drives a bus again!

Look, he knows what he did was wrong, but I believe he did the honorable thing by resigning. What else do you want from him? He admitted to being wrong and saved everyone the trouble and simply quit his job.

Also, the Pleasant Glade Elementary School teacher who placed masking tape over a 7-year-old student after he wasn’t sitting down is also getting reprimanded. The parents are complaining that if there was an earth quake or a fire that it could have posed as a serious danger.

It’s masking tape for crying out loud! In the event of an emergency, that tape could have been ripped off very quickly. If that mother is worried about a natural disaster hurting her son, how about the fact that she gave birth to him; that’s probably the worst thing that can happen to him.

I’m old enough to remember when the public school systems were not so politically correct about everything. If there was a kid acting up on the bus back then and the bus driver did what Dan Taylor did, no one would be punished except the kid for acting unruly.

These teachers, bus drivers, etc are being over worked, over crowed, and they are dealing with massive amounts of stress each day! We are all humans so it’s natural that we snap every now and then.

We’ve completely changed in this country as to how we are supposed to behave in the school system. When are we going to stop with this victim based mentality and start behaving like intelligent human beings?
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BJ's BLOG 03/03/11 "Fight Club"

Yesterday on the show we talked about a real life Fight Club, but they obviously broke the first rule of fight club since we heard about it.

Nine sixth-graders at Stewart Middle School were expelled on Monday for holding organized fights in the bathrooms.

One of the expelled students, Peter King, Jr said, “No one said they didn't want to do it. No one was forced into it.” Also King says about 25 of his friends participated in these organized brawls, and he recorded about 15 of them on his cell phone.

The thing that gets me is that boys love to grapple, they love to fight, and they tend to like more violent things, but it’s the mothers who are usually the ones who don’t want them to be involved in these kinds of things.

Now I don’t condone or advocate a private fight club or anything, but boys need to have an outlet whether it is boxing or some form of MMA. They need to be able to mix it up in an organized environment, because that is what they are interested in at 11-12 years old.

Our society is so vaginized, and because women are so repulsed by violence, they won’t let their sons play violent videos games or participate in rougher sports. Men have to be able to teach their sons to focus that energy on something that will be positive and constructive. We don’t want to really hurt anyone, but you can never ignore these violent tendencies because pretty much all men have them.
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BJ's BLOG 03/02/11 "Alejandro"

Yesterday we read about a man who was shot and killed by police officers after hitting one in the head with a hammer.

Alejandro P. Martinez was shot in the chest by a Whatcom County Sheriff's deputy and a U.S. Border Patrol agent after they unsuccessfully tried to tazer him.

Family members had called 911on Monday to report that Martinez, (who surprise, had a history of aggressive behavior and mental illness), was breaking out windows in the home they all shared with his father and brother.
The deputy who fired the shots has been placed on administrative leave.

This is a sad story for the cops; no police officer wants to shoot another person. No one stops to think about what they have to go through, not only do they go on administrative leave, but they are also plagued with the image of killing someone for the rest of their lives. I don’t blame them when they shoot a person who has a record and is being a danger to those around him, especially since the Lakewood police murders.

This is like the wood carver story again; a man who has a criminal background and a history of mental illness gets to walk around and cause problems. I’ve said this about a million times before, but when are we going to start rounding up all of these psychos and put them in rehab or a mental institution that can help them with their problems? How many more lives have to be broken and ruined before we get a system like this in place?

The bleeding hearts don’t live their lives like the rest of the world; they only want the law to work when something bad is happening to them.
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BJ's BLOG 03/01/11 "John T. Williams Day"

On Sunday, Mayor Mike McGinn issued a Proclamation of John T. Williams Day in Seattle in honor of William’s birthday.

For those who may not know, John T. Williams was the man who was killed by Seattle Police Officer Ian Birk in August 2010 after the police officer asked him to put down his carving knife but failed to do so.

By the way, Officer Ian Birk won’t be charged for his death and many people have been up in arms about it, because some people believe he didn’t give Williams enough time to “drop his weapon”.

I understand that it was an unfortunate thing that happened, but what I don’t understand is why we had to devote a whole day to this man. So we are basically honoring an alcoholic who was guilty of over 30 crimes including public indecency and calling a female officer a bitch, and threatening to kill her!

Frankly, I don’t think I can fault the Mayor because he’s trying to bring everyone together, but I fault the community who is making Williams look like a hero and all cops look like violent blood thirsty villains.

Whenever something bad happens, a particular community has to stand up and fight for the underdog because he/she is of their race, gender, or whatever, even though they may have done horrific things in their lives. When will they call out their own and just say, “Yeah, that guy was kind of an idiot.”

I know this is going to piss off a lot of people but John T. Williams was a loser and anyone who was really close to him could say the same thing. How many of the people in his life have had their hearts broken because he continued to let his addiction run his life? How proud is that family?

This “holiday” is a joke, a travesty, and an insult to every law abiding citizen here.
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BJ's BLOG 02/28/11 "Pranks"

Last Friday during Listeners on the Loose, our buddy Craze’ 8 called in to talk about an argument he got into with his girlfriend Nadine. He had been watching videos on his phone, apparently watching couples pranking each other when it all went down.

The gags the guys were pulling on their girls in these videos were simple things; putting cream cheese in their deodorant or putting glitter in their heater system, so when the girls turned it on glitter would spray everywhere. The pranks the girls were pulling were far more intense! It wouldn’t even be called a prank because the girls were beating their boyfriends with a frying pan or kicking them into a fire place. Now Craze’ 8 explained that what really pissed him off, and what was kind of unnerving, was that his girlfriend was laughing at all of the videos where the men were getting attacked, and she said she thought they deserved what they got!

How is hurting someone like pushing them into a fire place a funny prank? Just because he put a little cream cheese in her deodorant he deserves to get beaten with a frying pan?

Now I’ve met his girlfriend and I feel badly saying stuff about her because she seemed like a nice girl, but like many women in this instance, she’s just not thinking logically or is just plain stupid.

I have no tolerance for women who think that violence towards men is a proper reciprocation for any sort of emotional embarrassment they suffered. It’s so stupid that people still think that way in today’s day and age and society.

If anyone, man or woman, were to ever hit me with a frying pan, they should expect to be hauled out by the police because that is who I will be calling, and I hope you’ll experience some fine experiences in jail.

We see this all the time, men get hurt, they fall, or look stupid in commercials or TV but don’t you dare ever do something like that to a woman.

Look, I just have one thing to say to Craze’8’s lady and any other woman who thinks like her: It’s the year 2011 sweetheart; no one gets to hit anybody anymore for any reason. If you think a man deserves to get physically harmed for something he did that wasn’t physically harmful, then congratulations to Stupid Town because you are the Mayor!
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BJ's BLOG 02/25/11 "Pay The Parents Back?"

Yesterday we received an email from Jennifer for Group Therapy that just set me off!

Jennifer wrote in saying that she got married less than a year ago, but now wants a divorce. The reason is because she says that he’s a “nice guy” but they’re just not “compatible”. Also, she knew before the wedding that she felt this way but since they had already sent out the invitations and started the planning, she didn’t want to inconvenience anyone.

Give me a break! How did you not know that before you even starting making plans for the wedding? How about when he put that damn ring on your finger in the first place? That was your chance to say no!

She continues writing that she just doesn’t want to waste either of their time and that there is also this guy she works with that she’s been “just flirting with” but wants to see where that goes.

Jennifer’s main problem is when she told her parents about the plan; they got so mad at her that they said she had two options: A. work out their problems in counseling or B. get the divorce but she has to pay them back the twenty-thousand dollars they spent on the wedding less than a year ago.

How she ended her letter really infuriated me. She said she that because her wedding was a “gift” from her parents, she shouldn’t be expected to pay them back and that she emailed us in hopes that her parents would hear the discussion and “come to their senses”.

I hate how most women have this sense of fairy tale entitlement! They don’t want to talk about money, pre-nups, or accept the fact that marriage isn’t just about love, it’s also a business!

Also, what about her husband? I’m pretty sure if he asked her to marry him, it’s because he really cared about her and I’m sure he still does, even though I don’t understand why.

Jennifer is just another woman who wanted to have her dream fairy tale wedding where she’s the center of attention dressed like a princess, but didn’t care who she hurt in the process. She’s not a freaking princess; she’s just a heartless toad!
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BJ's BLOG 02/23/11 "Angelica"

Yesterday on two occasions we received a call from a woman named Angelica. She first called in to comment on Charlie Sheen, and then she called in during Group Therapy. Now Angelica sounded like she was altered in some sort of way, whether it was drugs or alcohol, and she said that she was getting her daughter Renee ready for school during the first phone call.

When she called in during Group Therapy to comment on the topic, she said she used to work with her current boyfriend (not her daughter’s father) and would get crap from her co-workers for it. The reason why she “used” to work with him is because she has since been laid off. So here we were, talking to a woman who admitted she had her daughter at the age of 17, is without a job, and sounding like a complete wreck at 8am. 

She’s another perfect example of a stupid 17-year-old girl thinking she can keep her baby and raise it without the help of a father!

When is this country going to realize that women are not capable of raising children when they are in their teens or early twenties if they’re on their own.

I was reading a new survey from the Pew Research Center where they surveyed a group of 2,691 American adults and found that nearly seven out of ten people said that a single woman raising a child without the benefit of a male partner was bad for society. 

I’m glad I’m not the only one thinking this! Ann Coulter presented a stat in one of her books that shows that most of the people in the prison system today come from single parent households. Its ridiculous how out of control this is situation is.

People like Angelica shouldn’t be allowed to breed, and I feel sorry for the life her daughter Renee is going to lead because of her mother’s stupidity.
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BJ's Blog 02/22/11 "Migrane"

Everyone has been talking about the Grammys even though it was over a week ago, but one of the most talked about moments didn’t happen during the award show, but afterwards. Reporter Serene Branson had what appeared to be a stroke while she was covering the event. If you missed it…here is that clip:



Well it turned out that it wasn’t a stroke or a severe medical problem but just a severe migraine headache. Luckily it wasn’t a serious condition she was suffering from, but the second that video was posted everyone started throwing out their theories. Some said they thought she was having a stroke or a TIA (transient ischemic attack, which is also known as a mini-stoke), but these were just random people on the internet throwing out random speculations. I’m so tired of this WebMD/Wikipedia generation. Everyone thinks that they can diagnose everything simply by typing your symptoms into a search engine. We have doctors that specialize in figuring out what wrong with us; why would you trust some idiot on the internet?

Another thing that’s been bothering me about this whole story is that everyone is getting mad at the people laughing at the video/audio of Serene. Yes it’s unfortunate that a migraine hit her at that moment, but she was slurring her words and it sounded funny!

I remember being told as a kid that if no one got hurt, it’s ok to laugh. What really pissed me off is that if this was a male reporter; no one would be mad at those making fun of him! It’s always ok to laugh at the expense of a man.

We’ve been laughing at people slipping on banana peels for years, but the second a woman suffers a little embarrassment, that’s when the laughter has to stop?
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BJ's BLOG 02/15/11 "Unusual Threesome"

Paul W. Vergon is possibly the biggest shed of the year…he was arrested and charged with attempted child rape after an undercover detective responded to Paul’s Craigslist Ad.

Paul had put out an ad on Craigslist saying he was looking for an “unusual threesome”; he wanted to have sex with a mother and daughter at the same time! His ad raised some eyebrows, so an undercover detective pretended to be a father who was ready to pimp out his wife and 13-year-old daughter. Paul was later arrested and charged with attempted child rape after he wrote back saying what he wanted to do to the fictitious minor.

I don’t think this guy should ever see the light of day again. He should be either behind bars for the rest of his life or in therapy, and if he is ever to leave, he should be monitored by someone or have an ankle bracelet because what he did was disgustingly unacceptable.

How dumb can someone be to do something like this? We don’t want you having sex with children and that’s why we have age of consent laws. If you want to have your “unusual threesome”, then go out there and find two willing adults who want to be in this sort of fantasy.

Usually, if you have some sort of “weird fetish”, there is at least one more person out there who shares that fetish, but that doesn’t mean you can have your way with a child!

Personally, I would never want to be a part of a threesome where there was a mother and a daughter involved, because I would not get over the fact that there is incest going on in front of me.
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BJ's BLOG 02/14/11 "Go green?"

I was reading in the news that they might be switching garbage pickup from once a week, to every other week in order to save 6 million dollars. Is it just me or are they just constantly trying to find new stupid ways to be “green” in this state!

For example, this whole compost thing has been really irritating the crap out me. It’s so frustrating and I still don’t believe that programs like this work. I’ve read articles saying that it’s a joke because it costs more to process all the stuff then it is to just throw it away. Is this just propaganda to try to create jobs? If it is, they have to see they are taken away jobs from people by not picking up the trash every week just to “be green”.

To me this whole thing is stupid and I don’t believe it works. Call me an old idiot but I don’t care, because I just don’t believe in the whole green movement. I’ve read too many articles saying that the green movement is more trouble than it’s worth, and that the materials they are using are actually causing more issues to our environment!

Look, I’m not saying I won’t recycle, it’s simple, just separate the glass, paper, and metals, but all the other precautions we’re supposed to be taking are just ridiculous!
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BJ's BLOG 02/11/11 "Hug It Out?"

I read a survey that said that only 3% of business associates hug their clients. I’m so glad other people see this as inappropriate, because I am so uncomfortable with hugs, especially at work. Even if it’s a “bro hug”; if we’re at work, how much of a bro are you really to me?

Sometimes it’s just too difficult to figure out when it’s alright to hug someone or not. If someone else hugs someone we’re doing business with to say good bye, do I in turn hug that person even if I don’t know them, or risk looking like an ass for only offering a handshake?

That’s why they should abolish hugging at the workplace all together. Granted there are a few instances where it may be appropriate, but in general there should be limited physical contact while you’re working.

There are a few women at work which like to give hugs to everyone, but they don’t understand that maybe my wife might not be comfortable with me showing affection that why; and why are we hugging in the first place? Is it because we work in the same building?

Honestly, women are the worst offenders when it comes to this. All the physical contact that should go on at work should be a handshake; that’s all I need and that’s all I’m comfortable with, so back off!
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BJ's BLOG 02/10/11 "Rebound!"

Yesterday I read a very interesting survey from Zagat about the interesting things people do to get over a breakup.

Here are some of the stats from the survey:

- 42% of people say the best way to deal with a breakup is to immediately have a rebound fling
- 17% Like to cry and listen to sad music
- 13% Prefer to drown their sorrows in alcohol
- 5% Burn their ex’s stuff
- 1% Said hooking up with his or her best friend

This is a challenging thing to understand because we’ve heard that women don’t like to be used for sex, and I know it had to be mostly women doing this survey because what guy uses the phrase “ rebound fling”?

We hear all the time that woman liked to feel special and that they were the only ones in our world, and sometimes we have to lie to them. If we tell them the truth, whether we just met or have been dating for a while…we get in trouble!
For example; “Does this dress make my butt look big?” or “Is she prettier than me?” If our answer is truthful and something the wouldn’t want to hear, expect to be in the dog house.

If I really want an emotion free rebound I could just go with a hooker, but my point is that 43% of women are the ones saying they want a rebound to get over a relationship. This is something they’ve always said they never want a man to do to them, and yet they’re the ones doing it!
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BJ's BLOG 02/09/11 "Outsourced"

Last Friday I was in customer service hell as I spent 90 minutes on the phone with customer service for one of my devices. Seriously the whole experience was just a comedy of errors!

I’m really tired of calling customer service and feeling like I’m on the TV show Outsourced.

I would love to name this company but I’ve decided its best that I don’t, but honestly it seems like everyone who works there didn’t learn English as their first language. Do these companies even bother teaching their employees how to speak our language?

The lady helping me couldn’t even take accountability for the product’s malfunctions because she tried to blame all my problems with my computers, even though it was my device that froze them up in the first place!

When I finally asked to be transferred to a supervisor, (whose accent I also couldn’t understand) the woman didn’t put me on hold like she thought she did and I heard her laughing at me and talking about me in her own language. She was too stupid to properly put me on hold, so how can I trust her knowledge about troubleshooting?

Look, I’m not trying to be a jerk, but here in America, we like to be treated with great customer service. I’m done with buying certain products, only to be treated this poorly by someone in a different country.
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BJ's BLOG 02/08/11 "Higher Education"

Here is something I came across in the New York Times that I that I found to be an interesting statistic:

“On Monday, education officials revealed that less than half of the students who graduate from New York state high schools are prepared for higher education. In New York City, 64 percent of students graduate, but only 23 percent of the class of 2009 were ready for the next step.”

Yet we still force kids to go to college. Let’s just accept the fact that some kids are not smart enough to move on to a higher form of education. College used to be about preparing people to be the leaders of our society but honestly, college doesn’t guarantee a great job now-a-days. In fact, some kids can do just fine without a degree. I didn’t have to go to college to get this job; I went to a broadcasting trade school and I’ve done very well for myself.

I saw this list on the website www.Careerbuilder.com; these are 15 occupations that don't require a college degree but pay well:

1. Aides supervisor $63,231
Look, college is not for everyone, and that is not necessarily a bad thing so don’t be shoving the college Kool-Aid down everyone’s throats and let them find what is good for them on their own.


Aides supervisors supervise home-health aides, which involves setting their work schedules and monitoring their performance to ensure quality care for patients.

2. Air traffic controller $139,314

In order to ensure the safety of all flights, air traffic controllers monitor planes coming to and leaving an airport. They also monitor conditions to keep flights free of delays.

3. Assembly supervisor $66,034

In assembling and manufacturing plants, these supervisors oversee the flow of production work. Depending on the industry, assembly workers can produce anything from large mechanical and aviation components to small, technological devices.

4. Cable supervisor $76,739

Cable supervisors monitor workers who install, maintain and repair cables. Because these cables can be underground or overhead on poles, working on them can be dangerous and difficult.

5. Chemical supervisor $73,955

Chemical supervisors oversee workers who make chemical products, a careful process that involves handling dangerous substances and following strict safety guidelines.

6. Construction equipment operator $53,543

Construction equipment operators are in charge of the large-scale tools and equipment used on construction sites. They are also responsible for inspecting the equipment for safety and performance issues when necessary.

7. Credit and collection supervisor $66,847

Credit and collection workers calculate credit risks and collections information for consumers who apply for loans. Their supervisors monitor their performance and sometimes review client credit history to grant or deny extensions of credit.

8. Data control supervisor $66,554

Data control supervisors oversee the daily operations of data entry workers and are responsible for the completion and accuracy of their work.

9. Electrical repairer $58,960

Electrical repairers disassemble and fix electrical equipment and any related components. Depending on the job, the equipment can range from small mechanisms to large technological systems.

10. Elevator repair worker $67,538

Elevator repair workers perform routine maintenance on elevators and escalators and respond to any reported problems.

11. Home care aide supervisor $69,061

Home care aides visit homebound patients in order to assist with daily activities and some rehabilitation exercises. The supervisor ensures that all patients are being taken care of properly by their aides, according to legal regulations and quality standards.

12. Illustrator $60,060

Illustrators work in advertising agencies or as freelancers to design fonts and images for a variety of media, from websites to print campaigns and video.

13. Lead carpenter $73,055

Lead carpenters act as the head for carpentry workers on a specific task to keep the project on time and meet quality standards.

14. Payroll supervisor $72,951

Payroll supervisors oversee the calculating of compensation based on workers' hours, reviewing time cards, distributing pay and adhering to government regulations for payroll.

15. Real estate broker $79,494

Real estate brokers that help home buyers look for houses or condominiums. They research neighborhoods, find available homes, and assist buyers through the financial and legal aspects of the purchase.
Look, college is not for everyone, and that is not necessarily a bad thing so don’t be shoving the college Kool-Aid down everyone’s throats and let them find something that is good for them on their own.
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BJ's BLOG 02/07/11 "Sex with Minor"

Last week we read a story about a  Mount Tahoma High School teacher that is going to be charged with eight counts of sexual misconduct with a minor, after being accused of having sex with an 18-year-old student.

Veronica Dawkins is being accused of having sex with a student who moved to the area from Kenya two years ago and lives alone, with help from a church sponsor.

I don’t know why the hell she is being charged with sexual misconduct with a minor when he was 18-years-old! He’s legally an adult in this country; he can get a loan, buy a house, get married, have a child, and more. So why not let him decide who he can get into a sexual relationship with? How can Veronica get charged with sexual misconduct with a minor if he’s not a minor!

Apparently in November, the court ruled 5-4 in favor of a clarification from the Washington Legislature that all sex between school employees and full-time registered students 16 or older is illegal.

How did something like this get passed in Washington State?  Isn’t this the “land of the liberals” and we hate it when the government interferes with our private lives?

I don’t have a problem with the government outlining a policy within the school system, saying that if you have sex with a student who is 18 or older you lose the ability to ever teach again. But she shouldn’t have to face jail time or go to trial over this.

It’s unconstitutional to charge someone with a crime that no one else would get charged with just because of their job. If she had sex with an 18-year-old in any other profession it wouldn’t be illegal!

I hope she takes this to the Supreme Court, because no one should be punished this severely for something any one can do legally!
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BJ's BLOG 02/04/11 "XXX Hasselbeck"

Steve reported on the latest campaign Matt Hasslebeck is taking part of, and it’s called “National Porn Sunday”. The XXXChurch are the ones who are putting this on, and they recruited Hasslebeck to appear in a promotional video on Sunday, which will play for over 300 participating churches.

He also signed up for the church's online tracking and email alert system, which notifies both his wife and a Seahawks teammate if he visits a website that is questionable.

For those who don’t know, XXXChurch is a Christian organization that helps Americans cope with and overcome addictions to pornography.

Why Matt is doing this, I just don’t understand it. I know he’s a religious man but why would he willingly sign up for the online tracking unless he has some sort of porn addiction as well, and if so, why won’t he admit to it?

I think the reason this XXXChurch is doing all this is because they feel threatened. I’ve said this before; religion and pornography are both in competition to be the opiate of the masses. Religion is just another kind of drug that can really over take someone’s life.

Sure, you can use porn or you can use religion to help make your life better; however, once you start medicating yourself to the point where you’re not living your own life anymore, then that’s when it becomes dangerous. That’s true with anything whether it’s pornography, exercising, drugs, alcohol, or anything that makes you forget about your problems.

This is just another example of religion trying to edge out a competitor.

Porn isn't bad for everyone; if you are of legal age and want to look at those images or videos, you have the right to; and no one with a bible can tell you otherwise.
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BJ's BLOG 02/03/11 "Vanilla Sex"

We read an email from “Sally” asking for help with her husband. She explained that her tastes in the bedroom were (as her husband would call them) “vanilla”; she just enjoys simple sex, nothing to extravagant. The only problem is that her husband likes kinky things that she’s not comfortable doing (Choking, dom/sub, knife play, etc). Her husband asked if they could be in an “open relationship,” she admits that she would like his needs to be met, but can’t stand the idea of him being with another woman.

This is a tough situation because the husband is not a bad guy for wanting what he likes and Sally is not a bad person for wanting what she likes. Honestly they should have discussed and taken all this into consideration before they said “I do”. I truly believe that we should be taught this kind of communication from an earlier age because I believe that situations like this are huge factor in most of the divorces that happen.

The thing about this country that frustrates me is that we’re so narrow minded when it comes to sex that our children are not well prepared. Why is it so outlandish that we teach our kids what they can expect sexually when they get into a monogamous relationship, how to ask for what they want, and how to communicate effectively. We’re such a stupid society because money and sex are the biggest issues that affect pretty much every marriage, and people seem to have a lot of shame around sex.

I grew up in a generation where if you were a guy masturbating, you were considered a homosexual that would burn in hell; that (as well as other stuff) is something I had to debug out of my head because I would believe what I was told.

When you do get married, you have to start thinking about someone else, not just yourself. Sure, it sucks sometimes but you have to make sacrifices and compromises. Sally, you may either have to give up the body to maintain a balance in the relationship, or let him find someone else who will.
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BJ's BLOG 02/02/11 "False Claims"

Yesterday, we read a story about  a 26-year old woman who was attacked while jogging at 1 am on Saturday in Fremont. She said the man attacked her from behind and slammed her to the sidewalk. He then tried to pull her pants down.

I was very annoyed when I heard this story because I thought, who is stupid enough to be out by yourself at 1 am?
Well today we got an update that she made up the whole thing! What the hell women? Why would you make something like this up? She went as far to offer a description of this “assailant.”  Unreal.

The story didn’t say her name, but they said that she will not have charges pressed on her. This is ridiculous! It’s sad to think that women who really get raped will be doubted just because of idiots like this, who are searching for the attention they so desperately want. Throw that lying woman in jail!
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BJ's BLOG 02/01/11 "Jayme Biendl"

Officer Jayme Biendl, who worked at the Monroe Correctional Complex, died on Saturday after she was strangled by an inmate with a cord in the chapel. The suspect, Byron Scherf, is currently in prison serving a life sentence without parole after being convicted of first-degree rape and kidnapping in 1997 under the state's "three-strikes" law. He had past convictions of rape before that arrest.

Sadly, this whole situation could have been avoided. There have been budget cuts at the correctional facility and someone thought it was ok for this woman, who’s no larger than 5’6”, 150lbs, to be alone and unarmed with this man. She had also expressed her fears about being left alone, but nothing was done to remedy the situation.

Do people think women are invulnerable? Why is she allowed to be next to this guy who has been convicted of rape and other heinous things, knowing he has the strength to overpower her, and not give her a weapon to defend herself? They’re not even given pepper spray!

I’m not trying to say women are weak little creatures, but this also could have been avoided if a man Scherf’s size or bigger was in charge of monitoring him in the first place. I simply believe that “monsters” should be watching over “monsters.”

Ed emailed us, and I wanted to end this blog with what he wrote:

I work at the Monroe Correctional Complex. With all the news coverage I haven't seen anyone mention about Jayme Biendl's Memorial Fund which has been set up at Key Bank. Would you be willing to mention this to your listeners? If you already have....thank you very much.

Sincerely,

Ed
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BJ's BLOG 01/31/11 "Jersey Shore Punch"

Last week we unfortunately started talking about the newest episode of Jersey Shore. Now I’ve said it before, the only way I will talk about this show is if someone gets punched; well apparently Sammi (who’s a girl) punched Ronnie (who’s a guy) in the face because Sammi was jealous over Ronnie’s friendship with JWoww, another girl on the show. It’s another example of girl on guy violence which we just ignore in this country, because if a woman can slap The Bachelor, any woman can hit a man without consequence.

Sammi is an idiot who can’t control her anger, and she hit a guy who is a juiced up meathead who could destroy her with one hit! I don’t condone violence, but if you want to teach someone that you shouldn’t physically attack someone who can really harm you, then I say just let them get beaten up.

As a kid growing up and using my words as a weapon, I learned really quickly that if I messed with the big guy, I would get punched in my big mouth. That taught me an incredible life lesson; I can’t just be an idiot.

Now Sammi can’t learn this lesson the same way, but why not throw her in jail? It would send her and other woman a sharp message, and in return, they will think twice before letting their anger control their actions and hit someone again.

What is this show teaching people? That you can break the law and get away with it? It just frustrates me that women believe they can do anything they want and they will get away scot free.
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BJ's BLOG 01/28/11 "the Talk"

Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a woman named Fay in which she asks us how she should handle “the talk” with her 14-year-old step son. Now I know this is a very tricky subject for parents, but it’s a great idea to broach the subject because at least the kids will have some basic knowledge, even though the situation may be uncomfortable.

What shocked me about Fay’s email was how she said her husband wanted to take care of the situation. He just wanted to play a “Girls Gone Wild” video for him and if he has any questions, he would answer them for him.

This guy must be good at some stuff, but thinking is clearly not one of them. If he was one of my buddies in my group of friends, we would all yell at him for being an idiot because this is one of the dumbest thing’s I’ve ever heard.

You just don’t watch porn in front of your kids, and “Girls Gone Wild” isn’t the sex talk! Granted it is visually stimulating but it doesn’t show how the reproductive system works, how STD’s are spread, or how to be safe.

Sometimes us guys have to understand that we are just dopes; we may be good at other things but when we’re not qualified to do something, we have to step back and let someone else handle it.

When I had the talk with my son, I knew that they were learning about it in school so I just needed to reinforce what they don’t get to learn about. Women push the “keep it in your pants” mentality, and what I taught my son is that as men we lose our rational thinking when we we’re aroused, so “keeping it in our pants” isn’t the easiest thing to do. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a great idea if you’re not horny, but women just need to get that men have hormonal issues we can’t control as well.

I congratulate Fay for asking for help because it’s hard for a step parent to establish any kind of authority with a step child, but her husband is a moron. What they need to do is talk to their kid about the challenges he’s going to face and how to one day have healthy responsible sexual relationships.
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BJ's BLOG 01/27/11 "Legalize It"

Seattle Representative Mary Lou Dickerson proposed House Bill 1550 on Tuesday, which pushes for the sale of marijuana in state-run liquor stores. The bill also calls for the state to license marijuana growers. Dickerson says the proceeds could go to paying for health care and substance abuse treatment.

Sadly, the people who really want to get marijuana legalized are the people who don’t believe in voting. We have to convince people that we need to regulate it because it will be better for our country. Everyone tends to freak out when they hear “taxing” or “regulating”, but it’s time for the people with lazy counter culture attitudes to start contributing to society.


I don’t understand why Marijuana isn’t already legal in this day and age. Studies have found that it’s nowhere near as bad for you as alcohol.

I came up with a brilliant idea which is to develop a program where you have to get a special license for those who have problems with alcohol. The license prominently displays a little sticker that won’t allow them to buy alcohol in a bar or store.


The state would love the idea, because then people would have to shell out money to get a new license, and I believe we would put a huge dent in our drunken driving problem.

If we just legalize marijuana and issue these licenses; we would be making money and we’d also be freeing up our police so they can work on more important issues.
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BJ's BLOG 01/26/11 "Ethics"

Yesterday during the Lukewarm Topic, I talked about a person (who I shall not name) that I recently had a conversation with that completely pissed me off.

The guy I’m referring to is a retiree who is financially well off; by financially well off I mean he doesn’t have to worry about anything. He can take a vacation whenever he wants, and anywhere he wants, at a moment’s notice.

Well, the other day I was trying to set a day and time to get together, when he tells me a certain day won’t work for him because he has to go get his unemployment check that day.

This guys has boat loads of cash, I mean, if you think of a number, it’s even higher than that! Why would he need another check coming in every month?

First off, he’s not doing anything illegal; he found a loop hole in the system that said he’s qualified for the program because he really is unemployed, but the system doesn’t check to see how much money he already has.

As I’m sitting there, I’m in complete disbelief. Of course he has no problem with what he’s doing because he’s not breaking any laws, but he believes he’s entitled to that money because he’s allowed to receive it! If I were in this situation where I had plenty of money at my disposal to live a very comfortable life, I wouldn’t be taking an unemployment check from someone who possibly needs it.

I can’t believe our unemployment system can’t check to see how much someone already has! There are people out there who are struggling, and yet for some reason can’t receive any assistance?

Whatever happened to the word “ethics”? Does anyone believe in it anymore? It’s sad to think that things like pride, honor, and ethics are just a thing of the past and we’re living in a society where “more than enough” is never enough.
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BJ's BLOG 01/25/11 "Skins"

Yesterday, I talked about an controversial show I’ve been watching on MTV called “Skins” and about all the flak it’s been getting from the Parent’s Television Counsel (PTC).

“Skins” is a TV series that is an adaptation of the British teen drama that follows a group of teenagers and their lives. The controversial plot lines explore issues such as dysfunctional families, mental illness, sexual orientation identity, substance abuse and death. This is not a happy go-lucky show by any means; it’s very dark, gritty, and real…which is why I like it.

Now the only reason I started watching this show on MTV is because I am interested in British programming, but I have to say it is really well made.

Well now, the PTC has called a federal investigation because it’s “breaking child pornography laws” and many of the show’s sponsors have now pulled their ads with them.

This show seems like to me that the more it goes on, the more you will take a peek into the lives of why these kids are extreme losers, extreme partiers, or falling into the wrong crowds.

I don’t understand why there is so much controversy with this. I understand they have depictions of sex and substances, but how about shows like the “Jersey Shore”? Those idiots run around all day trying to find away to hook up and get drunk at clubs and that’s supposed to be reality. Why isn’t anyone up in arms about these stupid reality shows like they are with Skins.

The actors in Skins are just acting on a SHOW! They’re not really buying drugs or having sex with each other. It’s not real; they are depicting art, why can’t people see that?

It’s unfortunate that advertisers have to do business this way where people have to terrorize them to make decisions. I thought our country was better than that.
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BJ's BLOG 01/24/11 "Congrats Fitz"

Last week we announced that Fitz from The Wolf  is one of the winners of the Regis and Kelly “Men Of Radio Co-Host for the day” contest. Even though he is from our sister station, we from KISW are really proud of his accomplishment!  He was on this morning on regis & Kelly, and got to sit down with Anthony Hopkins.  Good for you Fitz!!!
We would like to think the H-hole army had something to do with him winning  since we had him on air a few Fridays ago requesting your help.

Now since then, a lot of people have been saying to me, “You are trying to help Fitz? You guys are friends? Why are you helping him?”
I understand that Fitz and I are two different people, from different upbringings, and different personalities, but we respect each other as radio professionals so I have no problem trying to help him out.
There is no honorable reason for why I would want to hurt his chances or not help him out! As men, we have to be able to mentor each other and be able to be happy for someone else’s accomplishments.
It’s just sad that guys don’t know how to be cool with each other anymore; so much for “brotherhood”.
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BJ's BLOG 01/20/11 "Ricky Gervais"

The Golden Globes were this past weekend, and everyone is still talking about Ricky Gervais and his performance as the host. No, Ricky is not being praised for his 2nd time hosting the Golden Globes, he’s being given a lot of flak for the cynical and sarcastic jokes he made about many well known celebrities including: Tom Hanks, Robert Downey Jr., and Tim Allen.

I don’t understand why people are getting so mad at Ricky, because anyone who knows British humor knows that it is very dry and sarcastic and that’s what made the Golden Globes bearable to watch! A lot of these award shows are just excuses to see people kiss the asses of celebrities. Correct me if I’m wrong, but aren’t they still supposed to be entertaining? That’s what Ricky did; he made fun of the people presenting awards and did a great job entertaining us.

Ricky was so annoyed about all the speculation of whether he was going to host again or not that he’s already admitted he won’t do it next year.

I think it’s great that he gave himself the axe before anyone could do it to him, but chances are I won’t be watching the Golden Globes next year because they won’t be able to find someone who can deliver the shock value like Ricky does.
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BJ's BLOG 01/19/11 "Call 911?"

Yesterday, Steve talked about a bar manager who was attacked on Saturday night when she was closing down the restaurant.

Sunnie Stemley was downstairs doing paperwork at the Elephant and Castle Restaurant when a strange man came in trying to steal the liquor. A scuffle ensued where they both traded punches, and when he escaped to the kitchen, she called the police but they took two hours to get to the scene.

Apparently the 911 dispatcher labeled the emergency incorrectly by labeling it a priority two, which is not serious enough for an officer to be dispatched immediately.

"I called the police again, they told me, oh, it's Saturday night, we'll get to you when we can," Stemley said.

My question is, aren’t you supposed to be number one priority when you call 911 especially if you get punched in the face by an intruder?

I don’t blame 911 for having to set priority levels; I blame the stupid people who call in to 911 for the dumbest things!

Back in the day, if you called 911, the cops would be there immediately because crap was surely going down, but nowadays (and we know this because we play the audio of them all the time on the show) idiots like to call 911 to convince their boyfriends to propose or to complain about their chicken nuggets.

Thank you America, for your stupidity we had to put this system in place and this poor woman couldn’t get the help she needed when she called.
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BJ's BLOG 01/18/11 "Astrology"

Lately everyone has been talking and obsessing about the new changes to the zodiac signs. The way your horoscope is read now is not only different, but they even added a new sign named “Ophiuchu”.

Look, most guys don’t believe in astrology, and I believe it’s because it doesn’t matter what the future holds for us.

Women have to understand that they also need to know how to navigate through the crap in their lives without having to know what is in their stars. I fight about this with my wife all the time; I don’t care to see a “soothsayer” because even if they say I will have ten years of bad luck and I will lose my leg, guess what, I will still have to find a way to go to work and make stuff happen.

I will just approach life as it comes my way and navigate it the best I can. Women seem to be the only ones who really like this astrology stuff and invest their time on it for whatever reason. The average man doesn’t care because it’s just stupid to us.
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BJ's BLOG 01/14/11 "UW Scandal"

Yesterday during Headlines and Sports, Steve read an updated story about the teenager who is accusing a UW basketball player of rape. The father of the teenage girl is pissed off because his daughter is still traumatized by the situation, and yet the alleged rapist is still allowed to play in games for the UW basketball team.


What I’m wondering is, has the father admitted why his daughter was sneaking out with this guy in the first place?

Apparently she viewed the player like a celebrity and she went out to eat with him after talking to him on Facebook, then they stopped by a liquor store before going back to his apartment.

I’m a father and I would hate it if anything bad ever happened to my daughter, but take a look at the course of events.

Think about it, why would a basketball player care or be interested in going to eat with your daughter in the first place? Was the girl that stupid to think that she’s that special that a celebrity would hang out with her? I don’t think we’re getting the full story.

I’m so tired of the stupid “she’s a defenseless girl, poor her” mentality! She is 16-year-old; she should know better than to lie to her parents, go to a liquor store, and then back to the apartment of a basketball ball player. Back in the day, we gave 16-year-olds more credit than that. What teenage girl doesn’t know the intentions of a guy who wants to spend time with her?

Also, I’m surprised they haven’t revealed the accused player’s name yet, but I don’t think it should be revealed until they have the evidence needed to charge the guy, or clear his name.

Look, no one deserves to be raped and I am a huge proponent to have people punished for such heinous crimes, but I don’t think we are getting the full story on this situation.
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BJ's BLOG 01/13/11 "I was Right!"

Ted Williams, the famous homeless broadcast sensation with the great voice, was detained on Monday night after getting into a heated argument with his daughter. Keep in mind she is one of his nine children that he basically abandoned because of his drug, alcohol, and criminal issues.

We played audio from Entertainment Tonight where they both told their side of the story. Ted said that he simply wanted to bring their argument to a close by saying, “Shut the hell up and let me talk to your mother,” and that’s what set his daughter off.

Janey (his daughter), however shared her take on "Dr. Phil," saying…"He said, 'you, you fat [expletive],' and when he said that, I just got angry."

I love that Ted tells his side of his story, but his daughter recounts it differently. Would anyone be surprised if a guy who had, an alcohol/substance abuse problem did yell horrible things to his kids like this? Hell, I read this morning that he is going to rehab. Shocking!

Janey claims that her father has been drinking alcohol recently; "He's consumed at least a bottle of Grey Goose a night, at least. That's not including the Corona’s he orders, that's not including Budweiser he orders, that's not including the other alcohol, the wines. He drinks – heavily."

All I have to say about this whole situation is….I’m right!!! Will everyone who gave me crap for not having compassion bow down and admit I was right? You know why I’m right? I look for the truth, not just the sappy feel good stories that the rest of this country seems to go crazy for.

He’s a disgrace to broadcasting, he shouldn’t be in broadcasting and that’s why he was on the side of the road in the first place; that’s where he belongs because he is a weak minded fool!

And for the people who say I don’t have compassion… I have no problem giving to the people who need it and giving them a second chance. However, there are too many talented radio broadcasters that are out of work and Ted Williams is being looked at as the second coming of Jesus!

Ted is just the second coming of an idiot who didn’t take long to prove it.
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BJ's BLOG 01/12/11 "Go Hawks"

Last Friday was “Blue Friday”, where everyone wears their Seahawks jerseys to show team support.

Out of everyone on the show, I, (who wasn’t even born here) was the only one who wore his Seahawks jersey! Now I’m using the show as an example, but I come from a place where if I wasn’t showing support for my home team, I would be ridiculed. In the town I came from, if your team is in the playoffs, you have to show your team spirit! It’s a no brainer for me to wear a jersey because that is how I was raised.

I find it surprising that I didn’t see more people sporting their blue and green on Friday in support of the Seahawks!
It’s just that Seattle isn’t a real sports town! Outside of the Sounders, people don’t get excited for their teams! Is it because soccer is the “in” thing to cheer for?

Now I’m not saying that Seattle fans are not supporting their teams, it’s just that per capita we don’t have as many fans rallying. We have proof that the fans we do have are outstanding because they are the 12th man for the Seahawks.

Hopefully the Seahawks defeating the Saints this past weekend will promote more team spirit and build more fans around Seattle because this is just ridiculous! Let's show the team support as they head into Chicago...go Hawks!
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BJ's BLOG 01/11/11 "Smoking"

A new analysis by the tobacco industry found that smokers could go extinct by the year 2050…this surprises me! Right now only 1 in 5 Americans smoke and they say within 30 to 50 years the people who are smoking now will have either quit or be dead with no new smokers to take their place.

I know that there are many disadvantages to smoking like bad smell, emphysema, and of course cancer, but I have been around long enough to know that people really had their crap together back in the day and a part of that I believe was because of smoking.

On Celebrity Rehab, Dr. Drew lets the recovering addicts smoke cigarettes, even though I’ve been told that they are harder to kick than heroin. Why do you think that is? It’s because the strain is of kicking a drug is stressful, and people need to find something that will help take the edge off.

It’s also not just addicts who need this; I believe most people need some sort of vice to help them relieve their stress. Whether it’s a cig, an occasional drink, or like me -- junk food.

My father used to get so upset with me and the way that he would deal with it was that he would simply go outside and smoke a cigarette.

It’s just another way of relieving stress and aggression and I’m willing to bet that if more people could find what takes the edge of their daily grind, then we wouldn’t have the Jared Loughner/ Tuscan Tragedies of the world occurring.
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BJ's BLOG 01/10/11 "Why did the Tucson Tragedy Happen? Ask Dr.Smith&qu

Today on the show we talked about some messed up news coming out of Tucson, Arizona. Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords was seriously injured and six others were killed when Jared Loughner opened fire at the event they were attending.

Many reports have been coming in saying that he was a mentally disturbed person; he was even laughing with glee as he was firing the weapon!

Why can’t there be preventative medicine that the government can institute? I don’t want it to cost a ridiculous amount of money where there will have to be more taxes, but if there is something that can identify sick people like this before they do something horrible, then we should be focusing our time and energy on that.

Some people have been blaming Sarah Palin because she had posted a map on her website about a year ago, which “targeted” 20 House Democrats who despite belonging to districts where Republicans had won, they had voted in favor of the new health care bill and Gabrielle Giffords was one of those.

What really irritates me is that no matter your political views, innocent people were taken out. One of those victims was murdered was a 9-year-old girl…what the hell did she ever do to anybody? This is why we should say “eff you” to anyone who is trying to point a finger at any politician. This guy was just out of his freaking mind.

There is this show called Lost in Space, which is this TV show that was made for children to help educate them on how to grow up and be better citizens, that shows how we should be handling this situation.

In the entire three seasons, the bad guy is always planning some horrible plot but whenever he get’s captured, he is always treated with decency, no matter what horrible things he did. They didn’t point any accusing fingers at anyone; they believe that every single human being deserves compassion and to be treated with decency!

That’s how we should be doing things; stop trying to find someone to blame and start trying to fix these problems before they get out of hand and innocent people have to die again.
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BJ's BLOG 01/07/11 "Real Housewives"

I read an interesting article that was just plain disturbing to me; children, not just teens, are now watching the “Real Housewives” TV shows. For those who have never seen the show, it’s basically another “reality show” where cameras follow a group of spoiled, rich, plastic women who do whatever they want.

Well according to the article, they’ve noticed a lot of theatre kids are really into the show because of how over the top these women can be.

It’s no surprise that girls are watching this idiotic show, but in a survey they found out 55,000 thousand boys are tuning into watch the Real Housewives of Atlanta!

This really disturbs me to see that this show is enjoyable to boys; even if the boy was gay I don’t see how they could relate to this crap. I know gay men who wouldn’t be caught dead watching something that trashy.

Sadly it’s not just teens who are watching this show; the statistics say that 145,000 children between 2 and 11 are tuning in every week.

I’m sorry, but as a parent of a 2-year-old, a 5-year-old, or an 8-year-old, I would find those shows to be very inappropriate. My wife was mad at me when my son Joey was about 7 years-old because I let him watch The Simpsons…The Simpsons is a funny, well written show, but the Housewives are supposedly based on real life! Who would want this kind of snobby, bitchy example for their kids?

I still don’t understand what sane adult would want to watch these plastic surgery nightmares, but now that they’re letting kids watch them, it shows a dim glimpse of our future.
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BJ's BLOG 01/06/11 "Homeless DJ"

Yesterday we talked about the newest internet sensation who got over 4 million hits on his video over night! There’s this homeless man named Ted Williams from Columbus, Ohio who pan handles, but uses his golden radio voice to help him get more money.



It is a really good idea because it’s an entertaining shtick; I would be willing to give him money as opposed to other homeless people who try to make you feel guilty in front of your family for not giving them money for “food” or “gas”.

Well, after Ted was on a local radio show in Columbus for a guest appearance, the offers and the money just poured right in. He received an offer from MTV to get flown out to LA to be their guest announcer; then he received an offer to join the Cleveland Cavaliers for a full time position, and the woman even offered to finance a home for him!

This is a great example of the “Oprah effect”. People just love to give things to others who they think really fell on hard times, but the reason why Ted Williams fell on hard times is because of his own fault; he got into alcohol and drugs. It was his own bad behavior that made him homeless, and as a guy, I don’t have a whole lot of pity for him.

Now I don’t mind helping a guy who’s been two years clean, but look at all of the opportunities rolling in for him. I’m a radio guy and I see a lot of other talented radio people who are out of business because of the economy, and they are good people who never fell into drugs or alcohol, but they are not getting nearly a fraction of offers as this internet sensation.

I don’t think he will be able to make it because they are now dropping a load of responsibility on him (between a job and possibly a home); he’s going to want to go back to the ease of pan handling with his great shtick.

It bothers me that people are giving him all of this attention and offers because he’s a “great talent”; well guess what? There are a lot of other people in this industry out of work who are great talents, but since they didn’t mess up their lives to the point where they became homeless, nobody cares.
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BJ's BLOG 01/05/10 "Rowdy Fans"

Yesterday during Group Therapy we read a letter from Frank who needed advice on what to do for this Saturday’s Seahawks game. Frank was lucky enough to get tickets to the Seahawks vs. Saints game, and got an extra ticket for his friend, who is a huge Saints fan. Frank’s problem is that his other buddies don’t want the Saint’s fan to join them out of fear of being harassed. They did say that if he did go to the game with them, he wasn’t allowed to wear a Saints jersey or cheer too loudly for his team.

Look, I’ve been the opposing fan before; I’ve gone to many Mariners games sporting a Red Sox jersey and I’ve been called out on it, but that’s part of the fun. An usher once told a guy to shut up because he was giving me crap that the Red Sox were losing and I told the usher to shut up because the guy wasn’t hurting anyone; he should be allowed to say what he wants and he wasn’t being rude or mean, just showing team pride!

If you wear another team’s jersey, you should expect to get verbally abused. The only behavior that I will not tolerate is when fans get into this bully mentality, where they form some sort of “gang” with their fellow fans and either take the verbal abuse too far, or even start to get physical. It makes your team look bad if you’re knocking beers out of opposing fans hands and start shoving them on purpose.

For a person to travel and come watch their team play in a different venue shows team spirit, and for Frank’s friends to throw a tantrum over bringing a Saints fan is ridiculous. The game is about having fun with your buddies and having some innocent trash talk; Frank’s friends just need to grow up.
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BJ's BLOG 01/04/10 "Go Hawks!"

This Sunday the Seahawks made history when they became the first sub .500 team to make the playoffs. Some people are pissed because the hawks are hosting the game, despite losing record. Toppy mentioned that he agrees that the division play-off winner should get to go to the playoffs, but at the same time doesn’t think that a team that is 7-9 should deserve to host the playoff game; it should be hosted by the two high records.

I used to think like Toppy because I’m a “rules lawyer” with any game I watch or play, so I’ve complained and whined about this before but I have to say, Sunday night I had a change of heart while watching the game. I realized that the Seahawks really earned it! They won the game when they had to and that’s what the NFL is all about. When you take a look at the conditions you are in, whether you get a crappy field condition, the referees make bad calls, or if your receivers go down…and if you can still manage a victory, you should get to host the game!

I really believe the Seahawks have a chance at winning this game on Saturday; the Saints not only are having injury issues, but they will have to deal with Seattle and the 12th man, and the Seahawks deserve to have that advantage because they earned their play-off spot.
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BJ's BLOG 01/03/11 "Making Love?"

Today during Group Therapy we read an email from Curt -- His woman had asked him if he had ever “made love” before, as opposed to having sex. What Curt wanted to know is if other men differentiated between the two, or if they just say they do for their women.

Some people called in saying that if there is no foreplay, cuddling, or kissing then it’s just sex, but when you include the other stuff it's “making love.”

Are women serious? There is no real difference between the two since they both end in the same result. If you love your partner shouldn’t that be enough? Why does there have to be a certain labels for the same activities?

Women are the ones that deem sex bad; “making love” is considered very wonderful by women and anything else is dirty and perverted.

Woman who ask their partners if they have ever “made love” typically are asking this because they want to feel so special knowing they are the one who’s been the most loved by their man. Ladies, this is a sickness! If you have to make yourself feel better about having sex with the guy you love by making sure he’s never “made love” with someone else, then that shows that you are starved for love and you need to get help.

This “making love” vs. “just sex” debate is crap and women need to know that men don’t see a difference like you do.
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BJ's BLOG 12/15/10 "Autism & Diapers"

Yesterday we read one of the weirdest sexual gratification stories you will ever hear:

21-year-old Mark Anthony Richardson was in court because he pretended to be autistic, hired adult female babysitters, soiled himself in a diaper, and then got sexual gratification when he made the babysitters clean him down below and change his diaper! He managed to pull this off seven times, and it helped that he is 4’9”!

He would use Craigslist to recruit babysitters, pretending to be a parent, looking for someone to babysit his severely autistic adult son. He was finally busted when one babysitter became suspicious and followed him, she called the cops and Mark was arrested. Mark was charged with felony sexual battery for grabbing that one woman’s breast, and seven misdemeanor counts of outraging public decency.

How is it that seven woman could agree to do this? Women must love helping the disabled because there is no way you would be able to get me to change the diaper of an adult!

Also, Mark was charged with seven misdemeanor counts of outraging public decency, and for those who don’t know…outraging public decency may be committed in a number of ways, i.e. by engaging in or simulating a sexual act, publishing outrageously indecent material, etc. It is then a matter for the jury to decide whether the conduct is outrageously indecent and disgusts and annoys them.

Why is it that the jury gets to decide what is indecent? What is deviant behavior to an anarchist is going to be different than what a Mormon feels is deviant.

This is another reason why prostitution should be legal. If there were women willing to do this for probably close to minimum wage as his babysitter, then there should be women out there who would willing to do this for a lot more and help him finish his “work out.” No one would be in trouble and no one would be hurt in this scenario if a woman had this choice to sell her body and services legally.
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BJ's BLOG 12/14/10 "Salvia"

Video footage of 18-year-old Miley Cyrus leaked on the internet this past weekend of her smoking out of a bong. The part that I love is they came out admitting that she was smoking a legal drug called Salvia that is known for being a hallucinogen.



Ever since the video came out, there has been a renewed discussion about banning Salvia in California. The DEA currently lists Salvia as a drug of concern already; it illegal in 15 states, Washington and California not being one of those states.

To be honest, if Salvia does have similar psychedelic properties such as LSD, then I would rather that she was smoking something like marijuana (if I was her dad). Billy Ray Cyrus, Miley’s dad, wrote on his Twitter, "Sorry guys. I had no idea. Just saw this stuff for the first time myself. I'm so sad. There is much beyond my control right now."

Miley has more at her disposal then most girls her age, so the fact that she clearly doesn’t have a father figure really watching out for her and educating her shows a sorry glimpse into her train wreck of a future!
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BJ's BLOG 12/13/10 "Toothless"

Last week during Headlines and Sports, Steve talked about a guy who drove into a person’s house at 2am. Luckily no one in the house was hurt but the impact was so hard that it knocked out the 24-year-old driver’s false teeth! To make matters worse, the car wasn’t even his!

How much do you want to bet this guy is a meth addict? Honestly, how many 24-year-olds need false teeth? What a shed of a human being, but we are still dealing with these types of people in society. Why are we letting people like this toothless 24-year-old kid drive into people’s homes instead of putting him in some sort of recovery program? He’s obviously an addict, so why does he have right to be in control of a vehicle?

People who have a history of drug abuse shouldn’t be allowed to have a license until they have completed some sort of recovery program because we are just putting law abiding citizens at risk.
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BJ's Blog 12/10/10 "Runaway"

We read a story about a woman named Shadina Rice, who used a donut shop to help with her child prostitution operation.  The victims were two 13-year-old runaways, and were forced to perform sexual acts on men who Rice found after posting pictures of the teens online and asking the men to meet at the doughnut shop.

The mothers of these kids are outraged, and they should be because no one wants their child to fall victim of something as traumatic as that…but my question is…where is the father?

Something must being going wrong in a household if a 13-year-old feels like running away is the best solution. How healthy is that family if they not only left their homes, but they ended involved in prostitution? Most runaways end up going to a friend’s house or a family member’s house; no kid coming from a healthy household would runaway into the hands of a person like Shadina Rice.

The average girl and the average boy would have looked at the situation and asked, “you want me to do what?” and they most likely would have found a way to get out of there, but when you’re so starved for love, you’ll take any little scraps you can find. So really, how bad does it have to be in your home if you runaway from your mother and then become a child sex slave? Being at home was worse?
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BJ's BLOG 12/09/10 "Implants"

Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from Jack asking for help with his girlfriend who has been constantly talking about how much she wanted a boob job. Jack said that he thinks she looks fine, but she says she wants to get it done because it would make her life better and people will treat her differently.

I’ve known men who have been in the situation where their girlfriends get breast augmentations and their relationship went downhill from there. Partially I think their relationships ended because of all of the attention they started receive once their bust size increased, and on top of it, a couple of those times it was the guys who paid for the surgery!

It’s one thing if the woman is single and she pays for them herself or if she is in the entertainment business where it will help her career, but Lisa called in and said she hated herself because she had an A-Cup…but she was married! How can you hate yourself and your appearance if someone loves you so much that they decided to commit their entire life to you? If you’re married, chances are your husband doesn’t mind the way you look, so why should you? Most women in relationships who get this procedure done while in a relationship aren’t doing it for their man, but for the attention of other men to make them feel special.

Why is it that women can be unhappy with how they look, but we men aren’t allowed to say anything? It’s just hypocritical of them. If we were to go up to our woman and say, “Hey, you would look much better in clothes if you got a breast job,” we would be looked at as a horrible spouse. There is no winning with them!

Guys, just be very careful paying for your woman’s new breasts because in reality, you will buying somebody else those breasts in the end.
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BJ's BLOG 12/08/10 "Bullet Proof Walls"

A woman was hit by a stray bullet after one of her stupid neighbors pulled out a gun after they got into a dispute while playing dominos.  The shot went through the wall and hit her shoulder.

My question is, if you are living in an apartment building where you are living next to strangers at close proximities, shouldn’t you have walls that can stop a bullet? There needs to be enough separation between neighbors so that if a gun were to go off, no one in the apartments adjacent to them will get stuck by a stray bullet.

Its one thing if it’s your own house, you can do with it what you please, but if you’re the owner of a duplex, condo, or apartment building, you should be responsible for making sure that we are as safe as possible. I don’t mind if it’s a part of my rent but I don’t know what kind of lunatics they are letting live in these multifamily dwellings, and there is nothing I can do about it either.

I think this woman who got shot should not only press charges against the idiots who got in the gun fight in the first place, but she should sue the owners of the building because they were stupid enough to let this gun wielding moron live there in the first place.
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BJ's BLOG 12/07/10 "Naked Pix"

I read a study that says 43% of single people have sent out naked pictures of themselves.

The social dating site Zoosk.com just finished a survey of more than 1,000 single people. 28% say that they haven't sent a nude photo yet, but wouldn't rule it out and 29% of people say they'd NEVER send out nude photos.

During this topic, a woman named Jennifer called in saying that she emailed some sexy pictures to a guy she had just started dating, while he was under house arrested, in order for him to pass the time. They eventually had a child together, and eventually they broke up. According to Jennifer, they had a very nasty custodial dispute which caused the guy and his mom to use those photos against her by putting them in the court files. When her ex still couldn’t get his way he sent those pictures and a fake story to the Department of Health to try to get her massage therapy license revoked.

I know most of her issues would have been easier if she hadn’t sent him those pictures in the first place, but it just goes to show you how the custody system in this state fails to work. The child support system is such a corrupt system that it forces people to do these things. You can understand why a man, if he is the primary bread winner, would say these things in order to get custody of his kids. He would save so much money and the kid would live a good life living with him, but sadly we are forced to stoop to levels we never thought we would go down to.

People need to understand that we act this way not because we’re mean, but it’s because we have a corrupt governmental system in place that forces us to fight dirty.

So here’s a message to everyone, think twice before you send a naked picture of yourself because once it’s out there, it will never be 100% erased…but even more important, be careful when choosing who you want to bring another life into this world with because our child support system in this state is a ridiculous joke!
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BJ's BLOG 12/06/10 "Suicide"

A man in the Bellingham area was driving erratically and the woman in the car with him dialed 911 after he made motions that he was going to hit her. After police tracked him down and got him into a parking lot, he let the woman out of the car and drove away. He led officers on a car chase for a while, and the police deployed a spiked strip which caused his tires to flatten. Once pulled over, officers noticed he was drinking from a can of beer and refused to comply with them, so had to be taken down with the help of the K-9 unit.

To make matters worse, when he was being interrogated, he admitted his intentions were to commit suicide by cop!

If you want to end your life, seriously, as a man there are plenty of other better ways to do it that won’t bother anyone. Do you think getting shot and killed by a police officer isn’t going to affect them? They will have to live with the trauma of killing someone for the rest of their life; you don’t think that can effectively ruin their lives?

I really don’t mean to be insensitive here even if it sounds like I am, but Andrew Koenig, (Boner from the TV show “Growing Pains”) did it the best way. He went to his favorite spot from his childhood and ended it there. Yes it did bring a lot of pain to his family, but who did he really hurt? He went to his favorite place and ended it the way he wanted to without putting innocent people in a dangerous situation.

I have no problem with people deciding when their life should come to an end because it is your choice if you want to continue on with this existence or not.
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BJ's BLOG 12/03/10 "Honor"

We got an email from Paul asking for some dating advice: He has developed feelings for a woman he’s been friends with for a while. The only problem is that she is already in a relationship. Every time they are hanging out, the only time she mentions her boyfriend is when she wants to complain about him.

I have to be honest, having Paul sit and listen to her relationship problems is the only reason why she likes him; women love to be showered with all kinds of attention, and that’s why she is still with her man but likes to hang out with Paul -- just to feel like everyone wants her.

Like I said in a blog earlier this week, heterosexual men and heterosexual women cannot just be friends because chances are feelings will develop. We as a society need some kind of an “Honor Boot Camp” because it seems that everyone just wants to rationalize the bad behavior they are doing. Whether the girl is in the worst rocky relationship known to man…or has a steady romance, there is no honor as a man to try to take away the woman of another man. That being said, there is also no honor in a woman spending a good amount of time with a man that she has no intentions of dating or sleeping with. I know women know that when a man is hanging out with them and trying to be there for them, they have some sort of feelings there, and for a woman to take advantage of that is despicable.

So my advice to Paul is to stay away from a woman who sounds like she is most likely using him for the attention she craves, and find himself a girl who knows a thing or two about honor.
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BJ's BLOG 12/02/10 "Happy Holidays"

I read a study that shows that 71% of Americans still say “Merry Christmas” during the holiday season. I subscribe to that website for the religious wack-jobs, the  American Family Association, and I still get emails from them that show their latest campaigns to go after any store that doesn’t say “Merry Christmas” and uses phrases like “Happy Holidays” or “Enjoy the Yuletide Season.” If the store doesn’t have “Christmas” in it, they go berserk on those stores.

It’s funny because I now notice when I walk through stores, I always look and see what their seasonal signs say. When I was in Target, I only saw one “Merry Christmas” cardboard decoration, and I had to wonder if they were just doing it so they don’t get in trouble with these Christians groups that go crazy over these little things.

Of the remaining 29% of people who participated in this study, 23% of them say “Happy Holidays”, and the rest just don’t know what to say.

I personally like to say “Enjoy the Holidays” because you never know who you are running into, or what their religious preferences so it’s easier that way.

However, why can’t we just say what we want? If you’re Jewish and someone wishes you a “Merry Christmas”, just accept the thought and you can wish them a “Happy Hanukah” if you want instead of acting butt hurt about it.

The way I see it, Christmas transcends religion; it’s about the tree, the gifts, the experience to my family and I. It’s the one time of the year we can come together, have the fire place going, decorate the house and get free stuff. This is supposed to be the happiest time of the year and yet there is always someone who has to ruin it for everyone by giving us one more thing to worry about.
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BJ's BLOG 12/01/10 "Threesome"

Yesterday we read an email from a listener named “Jessica” asking for our help. She had a threesome with a male friend and his new girlfriend at a party, but things got awkward and they haven’t talked since. Jessica’s problem is that she has feelings for this guy, and even though she has no interest in women, she still decided to go back in their room with them just to get closer to the guy. She wanted to know if she should try talking to him about it, laugh it off, or admit her true feelings to him.

Really? The guy has a girlfriend already; where is the honor in telling him you like him? If you were really his friend, you would let him try to work things out with his current girlfriend because there is a reason he is with her and not you. Wouldn’t you also want what is best for him and what makes him happy? This is why heterosexual guys and heterosexual girls should not be friends, because more than likely, some sort of attraction will occur.

Ladies, guys have sex for pleasure while girls do it for love. You can’t expect to put a man in a sexual situation and have him think logically about if he likes you as a potential partner or not.

The only way I see a threesome working is if the woman is massively trashed, they are already in the swinging lifestyle, or if you paid both participating women for their service…which is also a bonus because they will leave you alone once the transaction is complete.
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BJ's BLOG 11/30/10 "Lock the Door"

Yesterday during Group Therapy, I read an email from Henry, who was having problems with his teenage daughter. His daughter was going through a rebellious period, and she was asking to get a lock placed on her bedroom door because she felt like she deserves privacy. What Henry wasn’t comfortable with was what she might do with her boyfriend that would require a lock.

It seems like my generation was all about keeping the door open but I’ve compared notes with parents today and with this whole Facebook generation it seems like more and more teens demand that their door be closed. They just don’t want to be watched when they are communicating online with other people, but that’s where they get into the most trouble these days!

I’m so tired of teens thinking that they have that right to do whatever they want, but guess what kids: it’s your parent’s house so you don’t get to make rules. The government doesn’t recognize you as a completely independent citizen yet, and you’re not paying for your room and board so we, as parents, get to decide if you deserve a lock or not. Hell, we will decide if you deserve a door at all like caller Mike did with his daughters, when they disobeyed the rules he removed their door until they proved that they deserved it!
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BJ's BLOG 11/29/10 "Black Friday"

Today was our first day back from the Thanksgiving weekend, and we are suffering a little from the "Thanksgiving coma." I had a chance to see the new Harry Potter movie on Thanksgiving Day, but while I slept in on Friday morning...thousands (and possibly millions) were standing out in the cold waiting in line for the great Black Friday deals.

People were getting trampled trying to get into the store but one woman really took the cake.

Lanessa Lattimore from Madison Wisconsin attempted to cut in front of a line of "several hundred shoppers" at a Toys R Us store and when she was confronted by numerous shoppers, she threatened to get her gun out of her car and start shooting everyone.

Obviously the police were called, they didn’t find a gun, but she was arrested for disorderly conduct.

It’s a sad statement of society that this is what we call an annul tradition. People have been hurt and even killed in the past just to save a few bucks. Is the money that you saved on socks or TV worth your safety?

I’ve always been about getting the best customer service from a business as possible, so it’s hard for me to understand why people love to go after these sales like a flock of sheep.
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BJ's BLOG 11/21/10 "Marriage!"

Last Friday I said something that seemed to really piss off a lot of women.

During Listeners on the Loose, a guy named Lonnie called in to talk about how he is one of the few guys who is happily married. He was complaining that at work around the water cooler, all the other guys just complain about their wives and they don’t see eye to eye with him because he’s in the minority.

What pissed a lot of women off is when I said that I truly believe there is no reason for a man to get married anymore because women don’t work hard enough to maintain a marriage. They just don’t and it’s because of the Feminist Movement that they weren’t trained how to maintain a marriage. The Feminist Movement basically told women, “You don’t have to do anything! You can go out, earn the bacon and cook it too. Men have to listen to you, but you don’t have to listen to them because men are bad and have been bad to you for all of these years, so you don’t have to do anything to make a relationship work.”

I’m telling you, women do not know how to be married because everything a man says he wants, has been demonized by society. You want to have sex, you want her to cook for you and take care of you, but what do they say? “I’m not your mommy! I’m not your whore!”

Alright then, I won’t be your pack mule, your worker, and I won’t be your therapist. If we are supposedly equal, then we will treat you like you treat us! Either women have to shut up and accept that they can’t maintain a marriage or go out and learn how to do so and have a happy marriage!
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BJ's BLOG 11/19/10 "Undercover Cop"

Yesterday we talked about the undercover cop who kicked a teen in the leg, chest, and head, and the controversy surrounding it as it appeared that the teen was trying to surrender. What people seem to be overlooking was shortly before the officer went inside the convenience store and assaulted the teen, the undercover cop was being assaulted while he was trying to make a bust and thought the kid he kicked was one of them.

I know it doesn’t justify beating up a kid, but I can understand that when you are in a moment where you feel like your life is in serious danger, you do get pumped full of adrenaline and it becomes harder to think logically. I know I wouldn’t have good judgment if I thought I could possibly die.

I just want people to understand this; if the kid was innocent, then the officer will get rightfully punished, but we shouldn’t put a black mark on police officers just because of this!

We sit here in our comfortable little studios or our comfortable little homes with no idea how much an undercover cop has to deal with. He could be shot at and killed at any moment!

Before we start throwing stones at policemen, we should sit back, analyze the situation, and serve out punishment where it’s deserved…and move on. Just because one person in a certain group makes a mistake, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t trust them as a whole.
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BJ's BLOG 11/18/10 "The Palins"

A few days ago I said that I was ready to vote for Sarah Palin, but now I’m having second thoughts after I heard what her kids did.

Her 16-year-old daughter Willow has been accused of using homophobic slurs on Facebook including the “f” word that rhymes with “maggot”.

On Sunday night they had the premiere of "Sarah Palin's Alaska", and a boy named Tre, who apparently went to school with the Palin kids, wrote a status update that read: "Sarah Palin's Alaska, is failing so hard right now."

Willow then responded by saying, "Haha your so gay. I have no idea who you are, But what I've seen pictures of, your disgusting ... My sister had a kid and is still hot…Tre stfu. Your such a f**got."

Bristol Palin then wrote a message to Tre saying, "You're running your mouth just to talk sh*t." Eventually she exploded on another person named Jon saying, "You'll be as successful as my baby daddy, And actually I do work my ass off. I've been a single mom for the last two years."

They have since apologized, and Willow no longer has a Facebook account.

Bristol and Willow are both old enough to know that you shouldn’t use that kind of language in the first place, but her mom is a public figure! How can you do that when your mom is trying to legitimately show us that she can run this country? How is it that someone who has a child and has been “working her ass off” to be successful not see how stupid she is making her family look.

Regardless, I think I will probably still vote for Sarah Palin…but if she doesn’t make it into the White House, it will be because of her idiotic kids.
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BJ's BLOG 11/17/10 "Gingerbread Man"

The holidays are here, which means the ridiculous debate will begin over what is, and isn’t politically correct during the holiday season. The latest casualty is the Gingerbread Man.

Council bureaucrats in England have decided that gingerbread men need to be stripped of their gender, and renamed them gingerbread persons (on the menus in schools).

Are you stupid England? Is this really what people need to be focusing their time and energy on? It’s unbelievable to me that this is now the official term! You would think since England is so cool about the type of “foul” language they use on their TV shows that they wouldn’t be stuck in the middle of something so pointless.

Gingerbread cookies are just another reminder that the holiday season is upon us. We are supposed to be spreading good will to all and yet stupid people have to climb up on their high horses and fight in these pointless PC crusades. Instead of nit-picking the tiny details, enjoy the holidays for what they are! So for everyone who thinks they should be gingerbread “persons”, shove a gingerbread man cookie in your mouth and shut up!
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BJ's BLOG 11/16/10 "Rosie"

 I was reading in the news a story about a 200 pound Newfoundland dog that was shot and killed by police in Des Moines last week.   The police officers were responding to a roaming dog call; before using lethal force, the officers tried other methods to detain the dog including using a tazer.  The officer who shot “Rosie” felt lethal force was justified based on the dogs aggressive actions including charging toward them quickly and retreating, barking, and showing her teeth.

There is currently an investigation to see if the police officer’s police actions were justified or not.

I feel bad for the owner, as nobody wants their dog to get out of the house and get shot, but do I want the police department spending our tax money to investigate whether or not they used excessive force on a freaking dog?  No!!!!

Is that what we’ve become as a society that we have to go out and protest stuff like this? No police officer would be happy to have to put down someone’s dog, but if the dog is running wild and tazing it doesn’t work, then the last thing you want is that dog to be a potential threat to a human being.

People have to understand that a dog is not as valuable as a human being, so sometimes you have to make a move as a police officer that will protect the community. I can’t believe there are protests going on over this dog; it’s just a dog! If there was an epidemic where 4 or 5 dogs have been shot then I would understand why an investigation would be needed.

I just don’t think my tax money should be spent on this investigation because there is not enough reason for me to believe that there was anything wrong with the officers. It’s an unfortunate incident but it’s just a freaking dog.
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BJ's BLOG 11/15/10 "Four Loko"

Last week it was announced that Four Loko, (and other alcoholic energy drinks) will be banned in the state of Washington starting November 18th. This morning I read that Four Loko has agreed to stop shipping their product to New York State.

Now I’m not surprised that the ban was made, but at the same time I think it’s a little ridiculous. It’s not against the law to be able to drink alcohol (if you are 21 or older) so I don’t get why they decided to ban this. I get that some college kids got highly intoxicated while drinking it but many college students over-drink other alcoholic substances like beer and hard alcohol as well.

We all know that younger people drink when they’re not supposed to and that’s why I think everyone panicked as much as they did. We wish we could say that all people under 21 don’t drink, but we know as a society that that doesn’t happen.

Let’s be honest, kids are just stupid and that’s why we don’t let them drink until they are 21 in the first place!

The point I’m trying to make is that we should stop trying to ban every little thing out there and be accountable for ourselves. If these students would have stopped to read the label on the cans and taken the proper measures to ensure their physical well being, we wouldn’t have this big controversy to begin with.
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BJ's BLOG 11/12/10 “Relationship Restaurant”

 On Monday during Group Therapy, we got an email from Ken. He wasn’t sure if he should attempt to make a move on his friend that he is interested in because she had just gotten out of an abusive (not physical) relationship a few months ago.

He also said, “He feels a connection with her but doesn’t want rush her or pressure her in any way”.  Again this is another example of a vaganized male. I don’t think I would have ever heard my father or my brother say something like this back in the day, but these days men have been so vaganized by the women’s movement. If a guy back then wanted to be with a girl, they wouldn’t worry about rushing into it, they would simply say, “hey I like you, let’s get together.”

During the segment, Jerry called in and suggested that he shouldn’t even get into a relationship with a girl who has been with an abusive ex; she should stay single for at least a year and try to figure herself out. I completely agree with Jerry, in fact, during that year of bettering herself she should also be seeing a therapist to find out why she was in that abusive relationship in the first place and why she stayed as long as she did.

It’s not logical for a person to continue coming back or staying in a relationship with a person that abuses them physically, mentally, verbally and/or emotionally.

If you go to a restaurant, or a place of business, and they treat you badly…would you go back? Maybe you’d give it one or two more tries, but if you still get the same bad results you’ll never go back. Why can’t we do the same thing with our relationships?! We continue to go to that “relationship restaurant” just to get treated like crap and we continue to pay for it!

I believe it’s a telling sign when someone does this, they need to talk it out with a professional because they are willing to let themselves be hurt time and time again. As for Ken, he needs to do a lot of soul searching as well because something has to be wrong if his self esteem is so low that he wants to be with the “broken” girl; and he can’t even ask her out.

Later that day, a woman wrote this on my Facebook wall:

“Hello, I listen to your show every morning; it absolutely makes my morning. :) I just have to say I'd like to think I'm a smart woman with good common sense. But I at times do not always make the best choices, you made a comment today about relationships and it just hit me hard....would you keep going back to a restaurant who was rude and gave you bad service? Why would you treat your relationship any different? Anyways I just wanted to say thank you, it put a lot of things in perspective for me:)

-Brooke”
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BJ's BLOG 11/10/10 "R.I.P. Gess"

I got some sad news today, a good friend of the show is no longer with us. Gessner Brown's wife, Lisa informed me this morning that Gess passed away on November 2nd from complications related to cystic fibrosis.  

We saw Gess at many of the CF Charity events & I had hoped that I would always see him at the next one. This is the first time someone I've known has perished at the hands of this disease.

Before he died, he told her that he wanted to let us know his gratitude for the charity work that we do for cystic fibrosis.   She ended her email with this,"Hopefully they will find a cure soon and young people will not have to die."  We'll continue to do our part and I hope you support us in our mission to wipe out this disease.  Here's where you can get more info:

http://www.cff.org/GetInvolved/ManyWaysToGive/MakeADonation/

Goodbye, Gess, we love & miss you, brother.
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BJ's Blog 11/09/10 "Hackers!"

I had one hell of a weekend when my daughter’s email address was hacked by some people that she knows, and I was the one who had to take care of it. Apparently my daughter wasn’t the brightest because she never changed her password after she told some people what it was.

Now I don’t know what Sara did to these people to make them want to do this, or what drama is involved, but it’s amazing to me that these morons have this much time on their hands. Do you think hacking into someone’s email just to write on their Facebook wall and read all their emails is a productive use of time?

Honestly the Facebook part really doesn’t bother me as much as someone getting into my daughter’s email account because she has a lot of emails and contacts for different talent agencies and colleges, and if they decided to write to them or delete those emails, it could have really screwed up Sara’s life, essentially.

I had a few conversations with people who allegedly didn’t do anything, but what I tried to explain to them is that since their names came up...even if they are innocent, they are still associated with idiots. So either you’re a moron who’s lying, or you don’t pick good friends because you keep getting called on when crap hits the ceiling.

If the person who did it would have admitted to it and apologized…I would have just left it alone, but to not admit to it is a real “bitch” thing to do. When are we going to start teaching these kids how to be accountable?

Finally, stop sharing your password with people!
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BJ's BLOG 11/08/10 "Heidi & Spencer"

Last week we talked about two people who are quite possibly are the two biggest idiots on this planet.

We read a story about how Spencer Pratt and Heidi Montag claim that they wasted 10 million dollars on Heidi’s failed pop music career, her numerous cosmetic surgeries, six cars for the couple, luxurious trips on privates jets, and they also owe $2 million to the government!

They couldn’t even be accountable for their own actions because they blamed it on Jersey Shore saying, “We thought The Hills was going to be like 90210 and we’d have another five to 10 years. The ratings were consistent. But we never saw Jersey Shore coming. Before, TV audiences were fine with seeing us all argue, but now they want you to punch one another in the face and hook up with three different people.”
 
It’s no ones fault but their own for not saving their money!
 
I don’t understand, these guys had more money than I will ever see in my life and yet the acted like idiots and have nothing now.
No matter the health of the show, they still tossed away 10 million dollars!  It doesn’t matter how much you make or don’t make, the same rules to living responsibly apply.  If you are making 10 million, take 5 million out, put it in an account, blow your 5 million dollars, pay your 2 million for taxes, and then live off the interest for the rest of their lives.
Now they are forced to live in Spencer’s parent’s guest house, and the parents pay for their groceries.
Do you know how many people wish they could have it as “bad” as they have it? They have a roof over their heads, someone paying for their food, and they still have the possibility to get hired doing something that will pay a lot more money than any of us will get to see.
These morons are the biggest losers in the entertainment industry! If you are a regular person struggling to make ends meat, this kind of idiocy should piss you off too.
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BJ's BLOG 11/05/10 "Let Go?"

A Vancouver woman named Karen Remsing has recently been charged with child endangerment, reckless endangerment, and a few other charges because she allegedly used a syringe to siphon a sedative drug and then injected it into herself. The part that makes this woman a nominee for “Mother of the Year” is that she was siphoning her terminal 15-year-old son’s medication!

Not only did she take out his I.V., but she thought she could reconnect it into the same hole… only problem is that she left an air bubble in the tube that further threatened her son’s life.

This woman is a complete mess, let’s think of how big of a drug addict and loser she is that she was willing to steal her dying son’s medication straight from his I.V.! If that’s not rock bottom, then what is?

I don’t see how this woman can get out of jail or a mandatory rehab every again. How do  we as Americans give this woman the right to get out?

The kid has been sick for 10 years and I understand that it could have lead the mother into depression, but that also brings up another sad question…when do you let go?

Let’s just assume this woman was mentally stable beforehand, and then her son got terminal ill; how long do they have to keep dragging out his painful life before his mom goes completely crazy and he dies anyways.

I know this isn’t something people like to hear but if someone has to say it then it might as well be me: Our technology is really screwing us over because 30-40 years ago this kid would have been dead. Yes it would have been horrible, the family would grieve, but they wouldn’t be ruined financially, and they would be able to move on because death is just a part of life.

Our technology today keeps people alive, but what kind of life are we keeping them alive for? This kid has been sick for ten years; we don’t know what kind of pain he’s dealing with on a daily basis, and that machine I’m assuming isn’t cheap.

Toppy pointed out if they are using this kid to help possibly cure his problem and prevent other kids to go through it, then all his medical bills should be paid for; I have no problem with that.

I just hate to see a family becoming financially and emotionally destroyed just to have their child suffer everyday until they die. It’s not fair to the parents or the kid and this is a topic people shouldn’t be afraid to discuss.
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BJ's Blog 11/04/10 "Come Play Kinect today!"

Today is a big day for me… the release of Kinect for X-Box 360. Our whole show will be at the Game Stop in Pacific Place from 2P-4p today (Thu 11/4).

Click Here for a map to Game Stop/Pacific Place

I have been a gamer for most of my entire life, and I remember the early days when what I loved was ridiculed, let alone celebrated. That’s why days like today make me smile, to see how a huge company revels in the world I love so much. Here’s the opinion of one reporter who witnessed the Times Square Kinect kick off event:

“From a my perspective and many other jaded New Yorkers who have seen everything and also experienced brands that try to take over Times Square over and over again, Microsoft did successfully make a spectacle last night! I didn’t think it was possible outside of New Year’s Eve to break through in Times SQ. Microsoft’s event did it. 100+ dancers dressed in “I am the controller” shirts, rocked the streets all night and entertained the crowds. The biggest shocker was the positive energy all around, lines of people, hoards of tourists and even the casts of crazies were all in great spirits and celebrating (again not the norm in Times Square). MTV Sway hosted the event kick off, Lady Sovereign performed (there was a buzz when she came out and the crowd thought she was Justin Bieber!!) and then Ne-Yo closed the opening ceremonies with his entourage of sexy dancers dancing with the Dance Central game with the “I am the Controller” dancers as back up.”

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Here’s video coverage of the Times Square Kinect release:









Even Ellen got in on the madness, this video demonstrates just how easy Kinect for X-Box 360 is:



We’ll see you at Game Stop in Pacific Place!
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BJ's BLOG 11/03/10 "Mike & Molly"

Yesterday we talked about a blog that Maura Kelly wrote for Marie Claire that pissed off a lot of people.  In the blog post she talks about the CBS sitcom Mike & Molly, which is about a heavier set couple who meet at an Overeaters Anonymous group.

Maura writes, “I think I'd be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other ... because I'd be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room…”

The only time I get disturbed seeing people kiss is when I see two men kiss. I don’t have a problem with people being gay, but I don’t want to see it but I don’t have a problem watching two chubby people kiss.

Women are always very bummed out about how they think men view their bodies and  how we judge them physically, so I think it’s interesting that a women’s magazine would have a female blogger say something that women would feel is insensitive.

Are we just getting that way in society where we have a problem with fat people getting affectionate with each other? It’s funny because no one complains about two gay people kissing for fear of being called a homophobe.

What people in this country have to understand is that everyone has the right to be repulsed by whatever they want, even if it hurts someone feelings.
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BJ's BLOG 11/02/10 "Kinect"

Join all of us from the BJ Shea Morning Experience this Thursday from 2pm to 4pm at the Game Stop in Pacific Place for the release of Kinect for Xbox 360.  We have all tried Kinect, and we LOVE it. No gadgets, no gizmos, you are the controller. Kinect sees you and hears you.
Come out and try this revolutionary new gaming system.


To give you an idea of how cool this gaming system is, here we are playing Kinect:
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BJ's BLOG 11/01/10 "Election"

It’s that time again, tomorrow is Election Day and I will be happy to see the commercials gone.

I don’t know much about Dino Rossi, except that he’s not Patty Murray and you know my style, it’s time to vote out the incumbent.

I hate the political system in this country and that’s why I vote to get everyone out of office that is currently in office as my own quiet revolution.

Some people think I’m crazy and some call me irresponsible, but I’m not because I am actually exercising my right to vote and that’s all I can do. I just hate the corruption in politics.

The problem is that when you see the ads, you can’t figure out if Dino Rossi is the better guy or not because they make him sound like a really bad individual, not just a bad political candidate.  It’s the same with Patty Murray because we can’t figure out what she did and if it was really bad.

It’s insane to see these people spending millions and millions of dollars to win a job that doesn’t pay that much. It just shows that their priorities are in trying to make the other candidate look bad instead of trying to fix the corruption with honest straightforward campaigning.
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BJ's BLOG 10/29/10 "Customer Service"

I want to thank radio consultant, Fred Jacobs for linking me this info:

"By now, you’ve seen that black-bearded, whacked-out closer for the Giants, Brian Wilson. He has a real handle on how celebrity, digital, and customer service merge together. Maybe it’s because he’s a tech-savvy Bay Area player. Or, maybe he just gets it.

Here’s a recent quote about why players should be fan and media friendly:

“I always want to sign autographs. Fans pay to see us. We should talk with the media because the media helps with the connection, especially with Facebook and Twitter and everything. It gives fans an emotional attachment beyond drafting us for your fantasy team. Maybe now, they find out what we eat for breakfast on Thursday. When you sign for a million dollars, part of it is saying ‘yes’ when a kid asks for an autograph.”

Brian, Fred and I share the same passion for customer service. I may whine about the small percentage of social network trolls, but I do love how social networking has given me a new and easier way to interact with people who listen to our show. People like you.

One of biggest sources of misery in this country is bad customer service. And the sad part was that we were forced into it by having to choose affordability over good service. Well, frankly, that's bull$&!t. If you pay your hard earned money for someone's products or services, then part of that payment should be mandatory good customer service.

You may not always agree with my opinions, but if you're willing to spend time listening to our show on The Rock, then I believe you should always get the best customer service. Like Wilson said, it's part of the job... as it should be for every job.
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BJ's BLOG 10/28/10 "Judson"

I know most people hate it when I talk about religion but I had no choice but to talk about this story yesterday.

According to Judson Phillips, the founder of the Tea Party Nation, there are many things that can make you unfit to hold public office but one of the worst “sins” a candidate can commit is to have the “audacity” to be a Muslim member of Congress.

Now there was a post made on the group’s website where Judson calls out for the defeat of U.S. Rep. Keith Ellison (a Minnesota democrat) because he is a follower of Islam!

Do they realize how hypocritical this is? Judson accuses the congressman of lunacy stating, "There are a lot of liberals who need to be retired this year, but there are few I can think of more deserving than Keith Ellison. Ellison is one of the most radical members of congress. He has a ZERO rating from the American Conservative Union. He is the only Muslim member of congress. He supports the Counsel for American Islamic Relations, HAMAS and has helped congress send millions of tax dollars to terrorists in Gaza."

So because of Ellison’s Islamic ties, Judson doesn’t think this guy belongs in office. I can’t image the guy actually supports terrorists nor do I think any other American Congressmen actually supports terrorist activities. You may not support what they say or do, but that doesn’t mean they are hardcore terrorists.

I can understand if you personally say you don’t trust someone based on their religion; you get the right to feel that way as an individual human being, but when you are leading a group of people or you are in charge of a party that is trying to influence America…then I’m sorry, but you really don’t get to do that.

I’m not a big fan of Christianity or any religion for that matter, but I would like to believe that anyone who’s in office would lead based upon the American ideal not a religious ideal.
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BJ's BLOG 10/27/10 "You're Fired"

Today's blog will feature a guest blogger, radio consultant and a man I respect deeply, Fred Jacobs:

You’re Fired

Something about the way America does business has gone sour.

We are working in an all-or-nothing environment. You’re either following the policy or you're not. Zero tolerance. We’re either in the playoffs or we’re not. You’re either compliant or you’re not.

There’s no gray. 100% or nothing.

Maybe it started with all those reality TV shows.

You have just been voted off the island.

You’ve been eliminated on American Idol.

Or “You’re fired.”

It simply has become easier and more acceptable in both business and pop culture to rid yourself of people who you just don’t want around anymore. Especially for political incorrectness.

That was the story last week was that NPR's Juan Williams was abruptly relieved of his duties.

This high-profile big media firing may have had deeper-rooted issues. He had stirred it up inside his company in the past, and this latest incident may have been perceived as the final straw.

But it also raise the question about the middle ground – or so-called “gray area” – that seems to be rapidly disappearing from the discussion.

It’s almost a fundamentalist thing. You’re 100% right or 100% wrong. You’re a liberal or you’re a conservative. There’s no in-between. It’s all or nothing.

There has been no shortage of politically correct firings in the past several years. Helen Thomas. Rich Sanchez. Shirley Sherrod. Don Imus. Even Rush Limbaugh lost his "Monday Night Football" gig. Of course, the earliest one I remember was Jimmy the Greek, and that's going back 20+ years.

I don’t know the specifics of the Williams issues, and there is always more to these stories than what we’re told.

But for Williams, that odd balance between NPR and Fox News had been strained for some time. And now threats to cut off the government funding of public radio are drowning out the real issues between Williams and NPR.

This has nothing to do with his falling out at NPR, but here’s a personal glimpse into Williams’character. Last year, Paul and I were visiting NPR. Our day ended and as we stepped outside to grab a taxi late in the day in heavy rush hour traffic, it started to torrentially rain. So, our chances of finding a vacant cab just became more difficult. There was Juan Williams, already on the street, trying to also hail a taxi. When an available one came by, Williams got in, and invited Paul and I to join him. We had never met, but he was on his way to the White House to cover a story, and graciously offered two strangers a dry and warm taxi. This says nothing about his politics or what he's like as an employee, but it does tell you a bit about the man.

So last week while thinking about Juan Williams and Lee Abrams, I watched the Texas Rangers finally vanquish those Yankees to reach theWorld Series. And there was their manager, Ron Washington, praising the guts and grit of his team.

Many have already forgotten that back in March, it was revealed thatWashington admitted to cocaine use resulting from a failed drug test. The team was still in spring training, about to embark on a hopeful 2010 season. Instead of simply firing him - which wouldn't have surprised anyone - Ranger President Nolan Ryan refused to accept Washington’s resignation, giving him that all important second chance.

That sure looks like a smart move now.

Of course, Washington's violation had to do with substance abuse - not political correctness.

Maybe 100%, in-or-out, win-or-lose, and zero tolerance ought to be moderated a bit.

At least sometimes.
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BJ's BLOG 10/26/10 "The Talk"

Today on the show we talked about a new study done by New York University that found that an overwhelming majority of woman say that they wished that their dad had the sex talk with them instead of their moms.

Now I can verify this but I didn’t know this was the feelings of most girls. I had the talk with my daughter Sara and it wasn’t by choice. She had dictated the time, place, and she did it all by surprise! We were vacationing by Seaside Oregon, and while we were at a Subway enjoying a sub, Sara starts asking me questions, all at the tender age of 13. I couldn’t believe that she picked this as the moment to ask me about it, and we were alone because her mom and brother were out on the beach.

As turns out, my daughter wasn’t alone on this; women really do want to have the sex talk with their fathers and the reason for it is that they would like to be filled in on things only guys know. It’s really fascinating because that was the reason Sara told me.


This makes a lot of sense because if you really want to know about a certain experience that you don’t know about, you go to a person who knows about it…so why would you go to mom to get info only dad can give you?

The article also says that studies in the past have found that girls who have open communication with their fathers about sex tend to lose their virginities later in life and have fewer sexual partners in their lifetime.

This should be shown to all the single mothers out there with their idiot mentality of “I don’t need a man to raise this child with me”, because this article states that research shows that girls need a father figure to prevent them from traveling down a self destructive path.

Ladies, stop having kids when you know the father isn’t going to be present or isn’t going to be with you for the long haul. Your kids will be much better off.
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BJ's BLOG 10/25/10 "Cheater"

Today we talked about a 22-year-old soldier from Georgia named Greg Tracy who was forced to go to great lengths in order to win back his girlfriend. Greg had cheated on his girlfriend and the only way she would take him back is if he completed a list of tasks… which included him standing out on the street wearing a Scooby Doo hat, and holding a giant sign outing him as a “dog” and a cheater. Also, he had to call a local radio station and explain what he did wrong, admitted he lied to her, and then dedicated a song to his love; make a timeline of things he remembers about her that are special, and give her the passwords to his e-mail account, as well as his Facebook and MySpace pages. The 6th and final task has yet to be revealed.

There are so many things people do that are unhealthy just to keep a relationship going. I don’t know why anyone would want to be with a person that would cheat on them unless they really loved that person, but if you really did love them, you wouldn’t make them do all that crap. If you really love your partner, you should take them to counseling so you could work through the issue and see that the reason they cheated was not about you. If you don’t really love the person, then what kind of loser are you that you want to stay with a cheater? Do you think that making him jump through all these hoops will make him a better person?

What was this girl even expecting dating a man in the military? We know that cheating is common in military relationships because the couples spend long periods of time far away from each other.

Again, when will people learn that counseling is always the best way to go? If they want to find the answers to their relationship problems they need to go to a therapist’s office, not the street corner to humiliate themselves.
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BJ's BLOG 10/22/10 "GLAAD is MAD!"

 Earlier this week we talked about how The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) is mad at Vince Vaughn for what his character said in a trailer of a new movie he is in.

The movie is called “The Dilemma” and Vince Vaughn’s character says: “Electric cars are gay”, and that line has since been removed from the trailers.

In a statement, Vince said that he hoped that the line still makes it in the movie, “Comedy and joking about our differences breaks tension and brings us together.”

GLAAD should really think about changing their names because every time they speak it’s always negative and the opposite of “glad’. When was the last time they’ve said anything positive?

GLAAD fired back saying that by using the word “gay”, it makes bullies believe that word is something to laugh at.

What they are trying to do is basically turn “gay” into the next “n-word”, so that no one can use it. I know people who are gay haven’t had the easiest time, but there is only one word we can’t say and it’s the “n-word” because the people who were referenced by that word were slaves in the country.

Guess what, I got bullied as kid; I wasn’t gay nor was I black but I was still picked on because I was a geek. People are going to do that and it’s a part of life unfortunately. 

We hope as parents we can teach are kids to be tolerant, but bullying is a part of life and frankly, everyone should shut up. Vince Vaughn wasn’t the one who said it; it was his character in a movie! If Vince was the one to say it, I would understand if you asked him to use different words, but I also never saw anyone yelling at the “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” men every time they made fun of a guy for what he had in his home. How many times did those “lovely” people make fun of someone else just to get ratings for their stupid show?

GLAAD…it’s a stupid movie, get over it!
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BJ's BLOG 10/21/10 "Glee"

Today on the show we talked about the “controversial” pictures taken by Lea Michele, Dianna Agron and Corey Monteith who all play high school teens in the hit TV series “Glee”. The Parents Television Council (PTC) are upset at these pictures because they were shot in a high school setting for  GQ, which is a men’s magazine, and that they are sexualizing actors that are supposed to be playing high school kids.

Here is a link to the pictures:
http://www.gq.com/entertainment/movies-and-tv/201011/glee-photos-rachel-quinn-finn#slide=1   

These actors star in a show based in a high school, so I don’t understand why it would seem so out of the ordinary that they shot the pictures on what their set would look like. On top of that, all of the actors are over the age of 18, in fact, Corey is 28 and Lea and Dianna are both 24!

I do understand they are racy pictures but they are not inappropriate. They all are wearing clothes and you’re not seeing anything you’re not supposed see so I don’t understand the fuss.

What gets me is that the PTC also said that these pictures “boarder on pedophilia”!  How can they be bordering on pedophilia when all of these actors are in their twenties? If someone is 24 year old, it can’t be pedophilia.

This really irritates me. By the way, I think we have to come up with a new description for pedophilia because kids in high school are having sex with each other and dressing rather suggestively, but that’s what they do and yet we count that as pedophilia?

I understand that we don’t want older people having sex with a high school kid between the ages of 15-18, but if teens are doing it within their own age group, then it’s shouldn’t be called pedophilic.

Also, what about all those naughty school girl outfits they sell? If I wanted to dress up my wife as a naughty school girl, based on what the P.T.C. is saying…that make me a pedophile? People do that all the time; they like to go back to their youth and remember what it was like back in the day.

When are these stupid organizations going to wake up and see there are other things we should be standing up for and fighting against, and that does not include 24-year-olds in short skirts.
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BJ's BLOG 10/20/10 "Don't ask, Don't Tell"

Yesterday was a historic day for the gay/lesbian community. For the first time in history, the United States is allowing openly gay recruits in the military. Now the Department of Justice has plans to appeal the court ruling so this might change.

Even though that all applications have to be accepted regardless of sexual preference, recruiters say they are warning applicants that if the court ruling changes, all openly gay soldiers will be discharged.

I have no problem with homosexuality in the military, and I understand that people want to be able to be open about themselves; but what kills me about America is that people expect to go places and have things change for them even if they are the minority in the situation.

We have women in the military and they’re segregated, but in my opinion, men and women shouldn’t be. If you want to be in the military, you should all be treated the same regardless of gender.

I believe that if you can’t keep things professional then you should be thrown out for being a distraction, whether you are gay or straight. That being said, I believe that since men have a higher sex drive on average, a good idea would be to separate gay men from straight men so they aren’t with the gender that turns them on.

The reason they probably have to separate men & women in the first place is so that the men won’t “prey” on women, and so there isn’t a lot of fooling around between the soldiers...so shouldn't it be the same for gay men?

This isn’t a slam against gay men, but more of a slam against men in general, and I think it’s a really good way to handle things. If you’re in the military, you should keep it in your pants regardless of your orientation.
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BJ's BLOG 10/19/10 "Weiland"

This morning we played audio of Stone Temple Pilots front man, Scott Weiland’s drunken rant from about a month ago in Dallas that caused a few dates to be cancelled. Scott sounded like an idiotic mess!





Steve mentioned that December 8th is Scott’s anniversary of kicking the dope habit, but he’s back on to drinking again. Scott, I don’t know if you knew this, but drinking isn’t a proper substitute for heroin.

It’s really sad to see a 42 year old man behave like this. When you’re in your 20’s I understand because everyone is partying, but come on Scott…you’re old enough to figure this stuff out.

I get that you have issues, but you have to deal with them. There are a lot of people who have issues, but not everyone has your money to get the help you need (whether it is via medication or therapy).

He has the ability to function and he’s pretty much giving the rest of the world the middle finger by not getting the counseling he needs.

Scott, what is your excuse to not being able to figure out how to live with your addiction? You’re just a dumbass at this point because you’re not getting yourself fixed even though you have all these resources at your disposal.
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BJ's BLOG 10/18/10 "I Love You"

Today during Group Therapy we talked about an email we received from Jarred who was in need of some advice. Jarred was uncomfortable that his girlfriend was saying things like “I love you” and “I miss you” to her male friend on Facebook. He said that he has confronted her about it, but she said it was purely innocent and that she would not be willing to change.

A listener named David called in & explained that when a girl says “I love you” and when a guy says “I love you” it means two different things, which is a good point. Girls can just give love away because they have an abundance of love and it’s just not a viable commodity if you ask me. Men, on the other hand, actually value the word love because it’s a huge commitment to say you love anything. If someone says “I love you” to a man, they have to stop and make sure it’s true while women are “willy-nilly” with their exclamations of love.

At the same time, if it still bothers your man, as a woman in a relationship you have to understand what is important to your partner and what hurts them. Women have been telling us for years to adjust our behavior because they don’t like it, and we have no choice but to change.

What I suggest Jerrod do is to sit down with his girl and show her how this hurts him, and if she is not willing to change then she’s probably not worth staying with.
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BJ's BLOG 10/13/10 "Bi-Polar Ex"

Today during Group Therapy, Rusty emailed me asking for some advice over a problem he was having with his ex girlfriend that was causing him to lose sleep. In his email, Rusty explained that he hadn’t been able to sleep for two days because he has been overwhelmed with guilt and nervousness because he had broken up with his girlfriend and she has threatened to kill herself. Rusty also mentions the reason he broke up with her is because his life has gotten too busy for a relationship, and because she is crazy due to her being bipolar.

The part that really pisses me off is that Rusty writes that he still loves her and actually finds the whole situation romantic like Romeo and Juliet.

Really?! That’s a very telling statement from this guy because he’s saying that he can’t sleep, and then he throws that line in which is the reason why he’s miserable.

Saying that you find a crazy woman romantic because she is willing to kill herself over you is not normal behavior. First off, that’s not what a guy wants, that’s what chicks want. Women are the ones that want guys fighting over them and giving up their lives for them not men.

We’ve become such a “vaginized” society that men are now saying how romantic that is? Also, to have men use the word “romantic” is simply irritating to me. No man should use the word romantic unless they are referring to something they are doing for their woman. If I ever use that word it’s for my wife’s benefit.

Not only should he leave her ass so she can hopefully get therapy for her bipolar disorder, but he should go to a councilor because no one should think it’s romantic that a human being wants to commit suicide over them.
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BJ's BLOG 10/12/10 "Brett Favre"

For those who don’t know, Brett Favre is under investigation for sending inappropriate photos, texts, and voicemails to former Jets sideline reporter Jenn Sterger when he played for the team in 2008.

Now more women are coming out and also accusing him of sexual misconduct including a woman who was one of 17 massage therapists who were hired by the Jets in 2008. She says that even though Brett was getting worked on by another female massage therapist, he was staring at her from across the room. “He was looking at me like I was a hanging slab of meat,” the woman told The New York Post. This woman also said she had received inappropriate calls and texts from him just like Sterger.

Do women really think we’re that stupid?

Here’s the part of the story that really pissed me off; the massage therapist said she was really creeped out by the way Favre was looking at her, so how is it that a series of phone calls and text messages ensued?

What was she thinking, “I am totally disgusted by the way he’s looking at me…so I should give him my number!”

The woman also told her husband about it and her husband called Favre demanding an apology, which they never received.

Again, how does Brett get her number if she’s married? I know that he is under a lot of scrutiny for what he allegedly did but shouldn’t we also be looking into punishing these dumb women who were stupid enough to give him their numbers when they said they had no interest in the first place?
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BJ's BLOG 10/11/10 "It's 2010 Carl!"

I don’t know what is going on with the Republican Party right now. Last week we talked about the South Carolina Senator, Jim DeMint, who said he wants to exclude certain types of people from being teachers (such as gays & lesbians, and women who are living with a man while they’re not married), and today we talked about Republican Governor candidate Carl Paladino. On Sunday, Paladino had a meeting with Brooklyn Hasidic Jewish leaders, where he said that we should not allow children to be "brainwashed" into accepting homosexuality as "valid."

Really? This is what is wrong with the Republicans, unless they think the only people who go to the polls are extreme religionists, there is no other reason to come out and say stuff like this.

He also said that his children and the children of others would be much better off getting married and having a family.

This is the year 2010 and you’re saying that heterosexual marriages are more valid then same-sex marriages. It’s ridiculous!

I believe in the fact that you can’t change who you are and that as a man you come into this world either gay or straight. I don’t know how many gay men would actually say that they chose to be gay when they know what a beating that lifestyle can be, so I really think it has to do with their wiring.

Would you go up to a black or Hispanic person and tell them they are choosing to be the race they are? Carl Paladino, would you say that you think your children would be better off if they weren’t Hispanic or African American? Then why would you say that about gay people?

Scientists are saying that you can’t choose your orientation anymore than you can choose your gender or race.

I wish someone would make a third party who actually wanted to do something for the people, and I believe that a lot of moderates would actually vote for them.
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BJ's BLOG 10/08/10 "Chuck Lorre"

So if you were listening this morning we mentioned how our former intern Annabelle is going to be featured in next week’s episode of the Jersey Shore. Here is the teaser video they are showing on MTV to promote the episode, looks like it should be an interesting watch:



I have never watched the show, but I will watch this next week for sure.

Jersey Shore reminded me of a great blog that I read by Chuck Lorre. Chuck is the creator of one of my favorite shows, The Big Bang Theory (he is also responsible for Mike & Molly, another great show). At the end of his shows, when his name comes up on the credits, he posts a blog (or as they call it, a Vanity card) that you can read if you hit pause on your TV. He recently wrote a great blog about reality TV, and I wanted to share it…as his viewpoints are dead on:

Oh Lord, let me look upon your children and, in their eyes, see my reflection. Let my name, for good or evil, be incessantly chatted and blogged about by those who are not themselves worthy of being chatted and blogged about. If it be thy will, grant me a cable reality show because my life is just so ca-razy! If that's not thy will, then how about arranging for me to fornicate with a famous person so I can casually say to my friends, "Guess who I'm banging?" Whatever, just free me from the bondage of anonymity so I might be recognized in a nightclub, or trendy eatery, or courtroom, or on line at the DMV. For in that recognition lies my salvation. My eternal reward for looking heavenward and proclaiming, "I have no actual skills, nor the time, talent or patience to learn one, but people still have to look at me when I walk in the room and murmur, 'Hey, isn't that somebody?'" Amen.

Read more of his Vanity Cards here: www.chucklorre.com
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BJ's BLOG 10/07/10 "Elderly Woman"

Yesterday when I was hanging out with my wife at the grocery store, something happened that made me wonder if I should have called the authorities.

While in line waiting to cash a lottery ticket my wife received as a gift, this old woman comes up and taps my wife’s shoulder and says, “Be lucky that you’re husband is still alive.”

It was completely random! What do you say to this?

I was having a great day up until that point; the sun was shining, I was hanging out with my wife…and then this random whack job (who looked like she only had three teeth in her mouth and had been smoking for 90 years) had to ruin it!

It didn’t end there; she then says, (almost in tears), “And another thing, do you have children? Because I had three miscarriages.” I didn’t know what the hell to do! Again, what do you say to that?

This has to be a “woman thing” because I don’t see why else she would have come up to us in the first place. To me this felt like a violation on me.

Women feel violated when a man exposes their genitals at them but to me, having a stranger show me their pain made me feel violated. I know people are going to think I’m crazy and a rotten guy, but it really ruined my day and made me feel bad to be alive.

What right does anyone have to come into my own space and randomly expose their own personal misery? Go get a damn therapist and leave me alone.

As a man, that is really one of the biggest violations we can feel and women need to learn to respect us just like we’ve been forced to learn to respect them!
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BJ's BLOG 10/06/10 "Greater Freedom Rally?"

Today we talked about South Carolina Republican Senator Jim DeMint and his crazy comments at the Greater Freedom Rally at the First Baptist North Church in Spartanburg, North Carolina where he said that there are certain kinds of people that shouldn’t teach in our children’s classrooms.

Senator DeMint said that people who are gay, lesbian, or an unmarried woman who is “living in sin” should not be allowed to teach. So that means if you’re a woman who is in a significant relationship, even if it’s monogamous, and you’re living with that person, you are not good enough to be a teacher if you aren’t married.

Wow!

Right off the bat I have to say we need to have someone follow him around and find out what he does that isn’t “socially acceptable’ and put it out there for everyone to see because he is just a judgmental jackass.

It’s amazing to me that we live in the same country as these people who still think this way. It is unbelievable to me that a politician would actually come out and say something like this. If you’re a Republican, you really have to sit and look at your party and realize that it’s a joke!

This is so stupid; between some of these extreme tea party people and the extreme religious folks…I don’t know how the Republicans are going to survive. They need to stop thinking with their bible and use some common sense. I still can’t believe that there are people in this day and age (and in this nation) who believe that gay/lesbianism and premarital living arrangements are going to hurt our children.
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BJ's BLOG 10/05/10 "In Our Biology"

Last week we talked about the four things guys keep private from women, and number one on the list was masturbation. That seems very odd to me because we know every man does it. This isn’t due to a flaw in our sex life, it’s because we are designed to want to plant our seed with as many women as we can. It’s in our biology to immediately ask ourselves if we would mate with a woman when she walks by and there are studies that prove this.

There’s an ignorance factor in women who don’t understand that sexually we are always going to be different. Women don’t like sex like a guy; if a man is horny enough he would have sex in a dumpster… and what woman would do that?

Women just need to realize that just because you don’t do something it doesn’t make it wrong when a man does. Men will always like to have some private time because it’s encoded in our biology as something that we need to take care of.
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BJ's BLOG 10/04/10 "Child Support"

Today I had to talk about this story that really surprised me. I always assumed the United States was one of the worst for child support, but apparently England has a weirder system than us. The child support system in this country is an unfair racket…but we may not be the worst.

England is ending a decade’s long procedure when it comes to child support. Britain’s high income earners have earned a check from their own government each week to help take care of their kids. Now the conservative government is putting a stop to the program as part of an effort to reform the country’s welfare system.

So basically they would tax everyone to make sure that every kid got child support. They said the reason they want to end this process was because it’s hard to justify taxing low income earners in order to pay child benefits to those who make a lot more money.

I don’t think anyone should get tax money for their children in general. That’s a big problem in our society; we keep rewarding people for having children irresponsibly. People always cry about their struggles and not having any money, but most of the time they have kids -- and who told them to have a child in the first place?

Children cost a lot of money and people don’t seem to realize it because of all the support they get from us tax payers. Even I stopped at two kids and I make a pretty good income.

In my opinion, smaller families not only are better off financially, but they are better off emotionally because they are a lot closer to each other. Until people realize this, we should stop paying for them to pop babies out and live for free.
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BJ's BLOG 10/01/10 "Bob Rivers"

About 20 years ago a guy travelled 3000 miles from Baltimore to Seattle to move his radio career to KISW. His name is Bob Rivers. And so began an iconic 2 decade run as one of Seattle's most beloved hosts. Bob and his Twisted Radio co-hosts spent 10 years at The Rock.

Then in 2001, Bob left KISW and moved on to KZOK. And while it's no secret that KZOK is a competitor, I've always been a fan, friend and admired what he does down the dial. In fact if it wasn't for Bob convincing Entercom to hire me 11 years ago, I wouldn't be here now. Yes, its Bob Rivers fault.

Bob, Spike, Joe and the rest of the team are first class, and even though they are currently gone from the Seattle airwaves, we want to say thanks, and tip our hats to them.

From all of us at The Rock, thanks for all the great years and great radio memories. We wish you the very best.
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BJ's BLOG 09/30/10 "Plastic Surgery"

Yesterday during Group Therapy we talked about an email a fellow H-hole named Jeremy sent us asking for some advice. His girlfriend recently had plastic surgery on her nose and was having problems in the relationship because of it. He says he didn’t see anything wrong with her nose and insisted that she shouldn’t do it but she still wanted to remove a slight hump of her nose.

By the way ladies, I love the fact that if you’re with a man who loves you just the way you are -- which is what you have asked us to do, and yet you still have to complain and change your looks. I don’t understand why women do that.

Every time you come in contact with a guy you say, “Don’t look at my boobs!” or “Don’t look at my ass!”, and to have us love you deeper than that…yet when a guy does, that’s still not good enough.

Women have to understand that they are the ones who don’t like the way they look and it has nothing to do with us men. Jeremy and his girlfriend are the perfect example of this.

Since Jeremy’s girlfriend got the surgery, they are no longer able to do certain activities together that they once enjoyed. They can no longer play volleyball for fear of spiking the ball in her face, and she can’t go running for fear of her nose “dropping.” It’s gotten so bad that once while kissing, he accidently brushed up against her nose and she burst out crying thinking he damaged it in someway.

My advice for Jeremy is to just run! If this is what she is doing now, then how is she going to be as she gets older and different parts of her body start to change and sag? I’ve seen plenty of women who get a lot of plastic surgery and it just looks ridiculous! Ladies, my advice to you is if your man likes the way you look than be happy with that.
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BJ's BLOG 09/29/10 "A Real American Hero"

Back in May of 2008, Dan Luckett from Norcross, Georgia was serving in Iraq for the US Army and the Humvee he was in was hit by a bomb, which destroyed his right foot and most of his lower left leg/foot so the bottoms of both of his legs were amputated.

Again, I have to say that sometimes it’s the price that these brave men and women have to pay in order for idiots like me to be able to speak on a microphone…I am very humbled by this.

Now, it’s been two years later and Dan has a prosthetic right foot and a prosthetic left shin/foot and instead of relaxing at home, he is back on duty.

I would have thought that a guy like would be out of the military getting the benefits he deserves, but he chose to go back.

Not only is Dan back on duty but he is also back on the front lines! He is currently serving on the front lines in Afghanistan and he is doing it on artificial limbs.

Dan said that after the bomb took away his legs, all he wanted was to get out of that wheelchair, stop having people baby him, and get back to fighting for the US.

I would love to have my tax money go to people who get injured while serving for our country. If someone loses their legs like this, we should give them their 20 year pension because they deserve it after defending this country in such a harsh matter. Dan is the kind of guy who deserves to receive our tax dollars, not like those idiot welfare mothers.

Also, less than a year later after his accident, Dan was so comfortable with his prosthetics that he was able to run an 8 minute mile! I can’t even run a 20 minute mile and my legs are fine.

I know I talk a lot about the idiots that have infested this world but I also like to take the time to recognize true heroes and real men like Dan Luckett.
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BJ's BLOG 09/28/10 "Get A Job"

Today on the show we talked about a survey done by Zooks.com (a dating website) that said that 60% of women would date a man who was unemployed!

I’m sorry but that is a high number to me. Why would a woman purposely date a loser who can’t (or won’t) get a job? It just shows that he can’t or isn’t willing to get his act together and I don’t understand why that is appealing to a woman.

To clarify, I’m not talking about the people who have fallen on hard times after losing their jobs, but are still looking for another one; I’m talking about the people who aren’t motivated to go find employment.

The survey also found that 90% of men said they would date a woman who was unemployed which is understandable to me because if a man has his act together, he won’t need a woman to work anyways.

Now I know I’m going to get a lot of crap for this, but women should not have to work if they don’t want to. The only reason a woman should work is to do something that serves her and makes her feel good. Whether it’s doing charity work or being the CEO of a company, as long as their work nurtures them…that’s when they should be working.

Men are grunts and are wired to work even if they complain about their jobs; nothing feels worse then not being able to provide for your family. We want to be able to take care of everybody around us. If we are emasculated for any reason, it’s harder for us to provide because we can’t stay on task. We need masculine energy because that’s what makes us go out there, get a job, work hard, and stay on target. If your guy isn’t doing that then he’s not living up to his full potential.

Ladies, you don’t want a guy to give you emotional support because that’s not how he’s wired. You want a man that is kind to you, who’s present, and is able to give you the things you want. If you want emotional and caring support, go to one of your female friends.
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BJ's BLOG 09/27/10 "Emotional"

Over the weekend I received a message on Myspace from a young woman (who we’ll keep anonymous), who had a question for me. Here was her message:

Hi Bj,
     
My reason for emailing you today is to help me understand why people respond to things emotionally? The reason why I'm bringing this all up is because in my family law class I'm taking we have a weekly discussion. This week’s discussion was, “Should fault be a factor in the award of alimony? What is your opinion?”


After reading the text and doing some research on whether or not fault should be a factor in the awarding of alimony, my opinion is fault should not be a factor. Yes, in most divorce cases either side wants to point blame on each other and make each other come across as the bad guy. This is because either side is hurt by what events happened which led to the divorce, in turn leading to the payment of alimony.

Now in all reality does pointing fingers at each other really resolve the underlying issue? No, all it does is just helps the one who is pointing the finger feel better emotionally, does not solve the problem. I can understand most people wanting fault to be a factor because they think that paying the ex-spouse is a punishment, but that is bringing in the emotional aspect of it. When dealing with the law, and figuring out what the outcome of a case should be, the judge should not let their emotions get the better of them, they should obey the law. In an underlying statement one could say, have no heart in determining the outcome of a case let the law speak for itself.

BJ, please help me understand why women have to bring emotion into everything? In other words, why do women have to answer with an emotionally response?

Here was my response:

The answer easy to give, but difficult to reconcile. Emotion & logic are 2 sides of the human coin. Rarely, if at all, can both occupy the same space.  The real question is how long does one have to wait for the coin to flip so that fairness can prevail?

Like I said before, simple answer but hard to execute.
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BJ's BLOG 09/22/10 "Poverty"

There is a new report by the US Census Bureau which said that one out of seven Americans is living in poverty. That’s the highest level it’s been since 1994.

It’s funny to see what the Democrats and Republicans did when they saw this information. President Obama pointed out that there has been a slight dip in middle class over the last decade, which is why we have to give tax cuts to anyone who makes less than $250,000. When Republicans heard about this, they pretty much ignored it by giving tax cuts to everyone.

Lets be honest, tax cuts are nice but people in poverty need a lot more than that.

The Washington Post also notes that we are now seeing a very stubborn reality about the poor; they are not much of a political constituency because they don’t appeal to anyone. They obviously don’t donate to political campaigns because they can’t, and they vote in small numbers. That’s why nobody cares about the poor; they can’t get off their asses to do anything.

I have said this before, I believe that people who are doing that badly (financially) are just a bunch of lazy losers. I want to clarify by saying that I know that some people have lost their jobs through no fault of their own and have fallen on hard times due to the economy, but I am not referring to them because I understand where they’re coming from. I’m talking about the idiots who keep popping out kids in order to keep on living off the breast of America and having us pay for them.

There are a lot of options for people who don’t have anything…like joining the military. You’ll not only be working for a paycheck but you’ll also be getting the training you need to become an honorable hard working member of society.

If anyone out there still really cares about these people, let’s stop giving them money that they’ll just use to buy drugs or other stupid things, and throw them in a mandatory military program to shape them up for the rest of their lives.
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BJ's BLOG 09/21/10 "Stan Lee"

Last week we talked about a story that Aaron O. on Facebook gave me about Stan Lee. Now for those who don’t know, Stan Lee has done a lot in the world of comics…he brought us Spiderman, the X-men, Fantastic Four, etc and he has a new show on the History Channel called Superhumans. If it wasn’t for him, the graphic novel/comic book industry would not be nearly as big as it is now.

Stan Lee has been in the news recently for his comments on a California law banning the sale of violent video games to anyone under the age of 18. His comments come a few weeks before the US Supreme Court’s hearing about the law.

Stan said, “I'm writing to urge gamers everywhere to take a stand and defend both the First Amendment and the rights of computer and video game artists by joining the Video Game Voters Network (VGVN). My memory has always been lousy and it's not improving with age. But it's good enough to remember a time when the government was trying to do to comic books what some politicians now want to do with video games: censor them and prohibit their sales. It was a bad idea half a century ago and it's just as bad an idea now. And you can do something about it.”

Now this really bothers me; do they really believe that violent video games are a big enough problem or are they basically just wagging their tail? Is the dog wagging its tail or is the tail wagging the dog?

Stan Lee also said that the government tried to do the same thing with comic books about half a century ago. Back then comic books were called a calculated risk involving feeding children a concentrated diet of crime, horror and violence. It got so bad that comic books were burned and the state of Washington made it a crime to sell them without a license.

Now video games are going through the same thing and it’s just ridiculous!

I’m a good human being, I don’t hurt anyone and I like to read those books and play those games to unwind. Why are we denying good teenagers the ability to unwind the same way? You know who do bad things? Bad people! They don’t need a book or a game to tell them to do bad things because it’s already in their disturbed nature.

When will this country stop trying to control these stupid little things and focus on what really matters, and that does not include video games.
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BJ's BLOG 09/20/10 "Ines Sainz"


Last week we talked about a story that made national news; Ines Sainz, a Mexican reporter, accepted the apology of the New York Jet’s owner, Woody Johnson after tweeting that the Jets players were acting inappropriately while she was with them in the locker room.  If you’ve seen pictures of her you know that she has the bolted on breasts on a thin frame and you can tell that they’re not natural. Is it shocking that a team of football players are going to cat call?


I have no problem with her having the right to protest what they were doing, but the problem is we are in PC America and she was probably done with the situation, but of course everyone else jumped on the band wagon and blew it out of proportion.


I don’t even know why she was in the men’s locker room; male reporters aren’t allowed to be in the Seattle Storm’s locker room so why should women reporters be allowed in an area where men shower and get changed? They should have a separate area for interviews where the players go to after they’re dressed.


Speaking of getting dressed, Ines was not the professional she claims she is when she went into that locker room dressed in a tight see through white button down shirt with a few buttons undone at the top and jeans that look like they’re painted on. If she had gone into that locker room in business type attire she would not have been cat called by a bunch of testosterone filled men.


I’m really pissed off at women who again who scream and yell about wanting equality…only if it favors them. We shouldn’t be upset over this; Ines was dressed inappropriately to start therefore can’t be taken seriously!



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BJ's BLOG 09/17/10 "Halloween"

It’s that time of the year again where the weather gets colder…children go back to school…and the holidays are just around the corner. It’s also the time where most women start planning on what they’re going to wear (or better said, not going to wear) on Halloween.

Recently we talked about the newest line of “sexy costumes” to come out for this season and it’s just ridiculous. They are now selling “sexy” Sesame Street character costumes including Elmo, Cookie Monster, and Big Bird and they are selling like crazy!

How many of these little whore wannabes are going to be running around yelling, “Oh tickle me!”

The worst part is that the costumes look really childish with the high knee socks and bright colors and when I’m looking at an attractive woman I don’t want to immediately be reminded of my children.

If you’re going to dress up for Halloween, why don’t you dress up as the real Elmo or the real Big Bird? Putting on a tiny blue mini skirt does not mean you are dressed up as the Cookie Monster.

I’ve said this in the past but most women use Halloween to dress like skanks and expect it to be ok. It’s is the biggest load of hypocrisy because you spend the rest of the year telling us to not look at you but on Halloween you wear a tiny outfit just so men can stare at your ass! I just find the whole sexy children’s cartoon costumes to be very disturbing and I believe if there are going to be cartoon inspired costumes to just leave them as they look.

The bottom line ladies is this, you can’t use Halloween as an excuse to dress provocatively and not have people think you’re a skank because in the end people will still think you’re an attention grabbing, slutty costume wearing, whore.
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BJ's BLOG 09/16/10 "Emotional Lust"

Last week we talked about Kat Von D’s comments about her new boyfriend Jesse James…saying that he is, “the one.” I don’t understand how she can trust him after it’s been proven he has cheated on his ex wife and that he is a recovering addict. How can she trust him to stay faithful? What woman in her right mind would be with someone like Jesse James if they are looking for love?

Toppy also informed me that she is a recovering alcoholic just like Jesse -- that explains why she hooked up with him in the first place. Addicts tend to stick together but how is that really helping them? They think they would be able to support each other, but why would you want to? Why would you ever want to try to be with someone like that if you know what it’s like; you’re just going to break your own heart.

The thing that kills me is that Kat Von D implied that he is the love of her life!

I have a theory: women love going for men who have issues so they can try to “tame” him just because it would make them feel special. It’s a feather in the hat for women because they were able to accomplish something that other women couldn’t.

The main reason why I think Kat Von D is doing this is because of the same reason why we guys fall in love with a girl and think she’s amazing while our friends see that she’s ok, and it’s because of lust. When we haven’t had sex with a woman, our bodies tell us to mate with her, and our brains tell us that she is “the one.” I believe women suffer from emotional lust and that is something that should be looked at. There is no way that you can look at someone and automatically know that they are your “soul mate”. It’s just emotional lust and neither is good to have when you want to start a long term relationship.
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BJ's BLOG 09/15/10 "Questions & Answers"

Today's blog is another video of Toppy reading questions / comments we received on Facebook & me responding to them.



Here is the same video if you weren't able to open the one above this.

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BJ's BLOG 09/13/10 "Answering questions"

There have been a lot of questions & comments on Facebook & Twitter, so I decided to make a video blog to answer those questions.  Enjoy, more videos to come later this week...



Here is the same video in case you couldn't open the video above.  Thanks!

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BJ's BLOG 09/09/10 "A Video Message"

It's been a while since I have done one of these video messages, but I got a Facebook message from a guy named Scott & I wanted to address it:

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BJ's BLOG 09/09/10 "Panhandlers"

Everyone who listens to the show knows very well my feelings on panhandlers so it will come to no surprise to you that another homeless idiot pissed me off this pass weekend. After the Magic the Gathering party we started walking up towards the PAX convention and a panhandler started following us asking, “would you believe me if said that my car broke down up the road?” and I flat out said “no” and kept walking.

We had just come out of the party at the Showbox at the Market, we had a great time, and then we get harassed and followed by a lying, scamming creation who is too drugged, mentally disabled, weak willed, lazy or just stupid to fend for themselves. All they want to do is get trashed!

I hate to feel that way but when I think about all the crap I have to deal with to keep a job, be a good father and husband, and everything else in my life then compare it to this loser whose only goal in life is to get high; I can’t help BUT to just get mad.

Like I’ve said before, drugs, alcohol, and lying go hand in hand and I have no tolerance for it.

If you’re living on the streets, do what you have to do to get back on your feet. I’m sorry you’re in the position and I hope eventually get help to get off the streets, but don’t expect me to ever trust you again. I won’t ever believe anything you say ever again. That’s why when I see panhandlers I just walk away without giving them any money because I now know what they do with the money.

When are we going to take these morons of the streets and either put them in rehab, a mental institution, or in jail so they can stop bothering the rest of us who actually doing things right in our lives?
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BJ's BLOG 09/08/10 "Retaliation Sex"

Yesterday for Group Therapy we read an email from a listener who wanted to know if he should go back to his wife after they both had sex with other people during their legal separation.

He pointed out that she was the first to have sex with someone else and then he had sex in retaliation. He also said that they are trying to work things out but it’s hard since he can’t get the image of her sleeping with another man out of his head, and that this is the first time being together while being sober.

I know people like that, they met when they partied, they dated when they partied, they got pregnant when they partied, and so on. It’s a tough way to enter a long term relationship.

I believe that when you first start seeing a woman, you should make her angry right off the bat and see if you still find her attractive afterwards instead of waiting months. The problem is if the couple avoids it by drinking, then they will blame any anger they display on the alcohol because you never really get a good vibe on how that person really is to live with.

So many people do that where they party and have this euphoric non-realistic experience and confuse it for reality so they get together. It’s the story of our lives in this country where people are not trained at all as teenagers on how to be in relationships.

The best advice given yesterday was from a caller named Bryan and he said that they shouldn’t bother trying to work things out because it’s obvious they don’t want to be with each other. They got separated for a reason and they already had sex with other people so they should just move on. Also, the fact that he had to have “retaliation sex” shows that he’s not going to be able handle re-entering the relationship. As a man, you don’t do things in retaliation as a man; you think things through and do them logically.

Brian was absolutely right; if this guy really has great self respect, then he would know that this is wrong and just bow out.
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BJ's BLOG 09/07/10 "Mother/Daughter"

Last week during Group Therapy we read an email from a woman named Laura who needed our help.

Here’s her back story: She was married to a man and had a baby with him…only to get divorced when their daughter was 3 years old (she is almost 16 now). Laura chose to have their daughter live with her ex husband for 12 years, but now that she is re-married and has a house, she now has her daughter living with her now.

Her questions was, is it ok to encourage her daughter to be sexually promiscuous at the age of 16 and the reason she wants to encourage this behavior was because she grew up in a family that demonized sex.

Her daughter has told her that she wants to wait until she is in a committed relationship before she decides to just give it up, but Laura would rather her explore in her teens and not feel that she needs to be in a committed relationship.

This is what happens when a woman isn’t married with the father of her child and this is why I’m so upset at people who have children in a cavalier fashion. Honestly, if I were the father, I would want to be there when this conversation happened with my daughter. Sometimes there needs to be a father there to tell them how dumb they sound.

Some women today, not all women, have been given so much freedom that they are out of control. Frankly, any good woman knows that she needs a solid influence in her life because women left to her own devices are out of control and the same goes with men. A good quality man and woman can balance each other out and make for a great relationship.

This seems to me like another case of a woman who wants to be her daughter’s friend instead of her mother. What needs to happen for the good of her 16 year old daughter is to involve the father and discuss this problem it in a therapeutic environment because this could be damaging to a child who already had a set of morals instilled in her for 12 years of her life.
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BJ's Blog 09/03/10 "Jerry Lewis"

Jerry Lewis was before my time, but growing up I used to watch his re-runs and his films before he became huge for starting the Muscular Dystrophy Telethon. Well yesterday on the show we talked about his latest comments he made on Inside Edition on how he would help Lindsey Lohan given the chance.

 He said, “I would smack her in the mouth and be arrested for abusing a woman! I would say, 'You deserve this and nothing else' ... WHACK! And then, if she's not satisfied, I'd put her over my knee and SPANK her! [It's] the same thing with Paris Hilton," he said. "Those children are begging for help. What they're doing is saying, 'I'm f-ed up, can you help me?'"

I want to put some context into this; what people don’t know about Jerry Lewis is that at a very young age he suffered from massive chronic pain so bad that he once was sat in his bathtub with a gun in his mouth because he couldn’t take the pain anymore. What saved him from pulling the trigger was the thought of his children growing up without a father and he couldn’t do that to them. You have to know that about Jerry; he’s been through a lot of pain in his life so when people get offended at the comments they have to realize where he comes from.

What Jerry was basically saying about the Lindsey Lohans and Paris Hiltons of the world are entitled, spoiled, bratty children that need to be taken over the knee and spanked! Left to their own devices they are complete messes that need to be told what they hell they’re doing wrong in their lives otherwise they will never be healthy, successful members of society.
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BJ's BLOG 09/02/10 "Family Values For The Stars!"

Yesterday I read the off the list of newest cast of Dancing with the Stars, not because I have any interest in the show but because of who’s appearing on the show.

There are 12 contestants including Mike "The Situation" Sorrentino, David Hasselhoff, and, the one that really irritates me, Bristol Palin.

The reason why she’s going on the show, according to her, is because she wants to set a good example for all moms. How the hell is dancing on the show going to prove that you’re a good mother?

Let me say this; Republicans can never say anything about Liberals again because Bristol Palin and her family are the biggest bunch of Liberals you’ll ever want to see. There are unwed pregnancies, on again off again romances, having their baby daddy appear in Playgirl, going on reality shows; I’m sorry but the whole Bristol Palin experience is not what any Republican would call “family values”.

Bristol and her family are just an “S”-show and Republicans are no longer allowed to use the phrase “family values.”

Bristol told Radaronline.com, “Yes, we can balance work and family, and we can also take on a new and exciting challenge.” Oh really Bristol, you can? You are now telling women what they can do when you’re an unwed teenage moron with a baby? Are we supposed to start listening to the advice from this idiot who isn’t even 20 yet?

I’m sure Bristol has had a great example of that in her life when her mom had to leave her job early in order to really make some cash. Give me a break; Sarah Palin wasn’t even smart enough to use protection to avoid having a poor child with mental disabilities; when someone gets to that age the chances of having a baby with a disability dramatically increase.

When is someone going to stand up and demand that the female irresponsibility be stopped in this country?

Her son Tripp needs a mother and a father not a single mother appearing on “Dancing with the Idiots”!
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BJ's BLOG 09/01/10 "Male Cheerleaders?"

Yesterday we read a story about the Baltimore Ravens football team finalizing their 2010 cheerleading squad. They gave 40 spots to women who will represent the purple and black for the upcoming season. At this point you’re probably wondering why I’m mentioning all this…it’s because the Ravens have 14 new cheerleaders to go along with 26 veterans in addition to 20 male cheerleaders!

Congratulations men; what’s happened to baseball has now bled into football…it’s no longer your sport! The fact that we have to put up with male cheerleaders in our sport is ridiculous.

By the way, in Baltimore this happened! You wouldn’t think this would happen there because it’s such a hardcore city.

I don’t even care what the girls are doing out on the field as long as they are looking gorgeous and wave a pompom around. That’s the whole idea of a cheerleader, it’s too have beautiful women on the sidelines.

Ladies, aren’t the men on the field playing enough? As a woman, would you rather see a guy throw a girl up in the air or would you rather see a man pound another player into the carpet? I would think the players are more of a turn on for women so who are they doing this for?
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BJ's BLOG 08/31/10 "Great time at Microsoft!"

I know I already wrote a blog today, but I had such a great experience at the Microsoft campus today that I wanted to share something quickly with you.

Check out this picture of Mitch K (from Microsoft) & I...the art behind us is awesome:

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The art was hanging beads that had the Trek guys on them & the light reflection emulated a "beam out."

Mitch & the guys at Microsoft were great to us today. I got to play with their latest project. I will own it! I can't say what it was, but I got to connect with the guys at Microsoft and learned all about it. OK, one more hint: it rhymes with "win-ect."

Be sure to tune in tomorrow as we will talk more about it.

Thanks to Mitch K. & everyone at Microsoft for showing us a great time.
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BJ's BLOG 08/31/10 "Checking her out"

For the 10 years I’ve been doing this show, one of the biggest studies that I quote a lot was done in the University of Toronto where they took 3 groups of people (two groups of men and one group of women) and found that men are less rational when they are aroused.

The men who were exposed to sexual materials showed like they were less rational then the other two control groups (men who were not exposed and women who were exposed).

I’ve said it before, it’s a hormonal thing and men have no control over it, yet they don’t get a pass. How many hormonal things happen to women that we men are told to just accept because it’s their biology and they are not in control when it’s happening to them? It’s the age of equality and I don’t mind giving them a break for what their bodies are doing to them; I just don’t know why women can’t understand us when we have stuff going on.

The reason I bring this up is because yesterday I talked about a neuro-psychiatrist named Louann Brizendine who wrote a new book called “The Male Brain”, and in her book she says that the bottom line is men can’t help but check out women.

The area of a man’s brain that controls sexual pursuit is 250% bigger then a woman’s so therefore, when a woman walks by, within 1/5th of a second, the average man is checking her out and sizing her up to see if she is good material for him to mate with. What Louann Brizendine also found that that is actually faster than a man’s conscious mind which would tell him not to look at the woman (because he would not hear the end of it from his woman).

It’s not something we mean to do but all men can’t help but look. Women shouldn’t get mad because it’s in our biology but of course they do.

Let me just ask this, when your woman has PMS, post partum depression, or any other hormonal symptoms that she has while pregnant, can you then respond to them like they respond to you when you check out another woman? We would look like the biggest jerks on the planet if we were that cruel to them for something their bodies do that they have no control over.

I don’t mind giving women a break for all their hormonal issues whether it’s PMS or post partum depression as long as they will give us a pass for doing something we don’t have control over like check out another woman.
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BJ's BLOG 08/30/10 "Sex or No Sex?"

Last week I read a study by a sociologist from the University of Iowa named Anthony Paik who compared the quality of long term relationships between couples who started off hooking up versus couples who waited to have sex.  He found that there was no difference in the relationships of couples who waited to have sex to those who hooked up right away.

For all you folks who remember the Tom Leykis show, he used to have the “three strikes you’re out” policy where if by the 3rd date the woman doesn’t put out, she’s done. Women tend to have their own policy and that would be to string guys along because they think men love the chase. I’ve never really understood that, I don’t get the idea of the sexual chase.

I’ve never liked the idea of looking at a possible girlfriend as a deer I’m looking to hunt and kill. Women hate to be objectified and yet they are basically comparing themselves to a buck.

I don’t see what the problem is with having casual sex and having it turn into a relationship. If a man is interested in woman sexually, and she keeps putting it off, then she in then engaging in a faux relationship and once you actual engage in sex, the goggles come off and he then can see her for what she really is. Men are irrational when they are horny so they might see the woman to be nicer, more fun, and much more interesting then perhaps she really is to him.

As a woman, why would you want to be with a man who is deluded and will eventually fall back down to earth?

Ladies, if you just have sex with a guy, have fun and enjoy yourself, and he still wants to hang out with you then that shows he really likes you as a person. Once the glow of sex is over and you guys really dig each other, then it’s time to build your relationship from there. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
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BJ's BLOG 08/27/10 "Driving Drunk"

If I decide to drink, I make sure I have a ride if I need to go anywhere or I just stay home; it’s a simple as that because I have a lot to lose.

These days young people don’t give a crap about what they do, and that shows how this society has grown soft. When I was growing up, I always felt like I had something to lose. I feared that I was going to get my ass kicked, or I was going to have stuff taken away from me. The punishment was going to be so severe that I had a lot to lose but nowadays nobody, thanks to this soft society, thinks they have anything to lose when they are that age. As a matter of fact, kids think they have so much power that no one will bother them.

I really wish we would start the policy that the first time you get caught drunk driving you will lose your license for a year; the second time you get caught you lose it for 5 years, and if you get caught again, you go to jail forever. Also if you are under the age of 21 and you get caught drinking and driving, you will never be allowed to drive again!

How long are we supposed to take this America? It saddens me to see that there are more drunken idiots in this country then there are rational sober people. Kids should fear like they have something to do lose and we should punish the idiots who break the law.
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BJ's BLOG 08/26/10 "Flipping a House"

Yesterday I read an article about how buying a home should no longer be viewed as an investment.  It’s amazing, I went to a real estate seminar about three or four years ago put on by a really religious individual who just pissed me off as they talked about how you can make money by flipping houses.

For those who don’t know, flipping houses refers to buying a home and fixing it up for a big profit.

During the seminar I attended, they talked about how to buy/sell a house and how to take advantage of what they call “distressed homeowners”, which really were people who were going to lose their homes, or were getting divorced, and they are willing to get raped on their own equity for you to make a profit.

Of course it was the people who would say, “But we’re saving their credit. If their homes go into foreclosure then their credit will get ruined so we’ll just take it off their hands but we’ll keep their equity.” These guys are a religious company and they are basically stealing these people’s equity.

Of course that all ended when the home market collapsed. What they said at this seminar, which wasn’t cheap by the way (I paid 3 grand on this seminar thinking this was going to be my new life), I learned that there are flim-flammers everywhere. I have one good friend who was into that business and I have no problem telling him to his face that I feel like they rape people of their equity and I think that it’s wrong.

According to this story in the New York Times, they believe that even if the housing market will improve, you will no longer will you be able to look as your home as an investment like in the 20th century. I should have realized that’s why my owner was trying to sell, she must have known that the market was going down and I ended up overpaying. If I’m lucky I will get what I paid for, and I’ve already put in a lot of money for the remodeled kitchen.

Please do not listen to anybody who isn’t an expert because I learned the hard way. Talk to a financial advisor before you decide to make any purchase because you think it would be a good investment.
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BJs BLOG 08/25/10 The Switch

Jennifer Aniston’s new movie “The Switch” did not do as well as she hoped, it barely cracked the top 10 in its first week only made 8.4 million dollars.

I think the reason this film did poorly is because Americans are done with women who say, “I’m gonna have a baby whether a man wants to do it with me or not.”

Maybe that’s why your movies suck Jennifer and you know they suck because no one is going to see them. We’re just tired of another woman saying, “I can do what I want, I don’t care!”

Ever since her comments about not needing a man to raise a child, I want nothing to do with Jennifer Aniston. I understand completely why Brad Pitt left her. Jennifer must have been so stupid that he ran into the arms or a woman who was willing to adopt a kid from every country and that kisses her own brother.

Jennifer is saying that she is getting out of the romantic comedy genre, I think that if she wants to do better in her career she should just learn to shut her mouth.
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BJ's BLOG 08/24/10 "Compromise"

Last week we read an email from Flower Blossom who needed our help. She wanted to know if she should be upset over her man looking at porn.

From what I’ve been told, the man gets to do what he wants to do when he’s by himself (and same with the woman) because it’s their own alone time. As long as they don’t feel like what they are doing is in any form cheating, and again that is something they have to agree upon in therapy.

We also received a Facebook comment from Jaime who wanted to know what to do when her man watches porn and then comes home with an unrealistic expectation of how she should act while in bed. She believes that since she’s the mother of four children she shouldn’t be acting like a slut.

If the husband wants sex a certain way and the wife wants it a different way and can’t somehow meet in the middle, then it would be good for them to attend couples counseling since it’s a very touchy issue.

The therapy I’ve been involved in has taught me that sometimes in a healthy relationship you have to meet in the middle, which sometimes means doing stuff they want that you’re not a fan of and vice versa. Nobody should make you feel uncomfortable; you shouldn’t have anyone, including yourself, violate your boundaries.

The bottom line is that when a spouse is spending time alone, they should do what they want without being labeled a deviant, and as a couple…you both should be willing to compromise otherwise you will have problems.
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BJ's BLOG 08/23/10 "The R Word"

Last week I talked about how Jennifer Aniston was being interviewed by Regis and Kelly, and she pissed off a lot of people off because during the interview she used the word “retard.”

What the hell has happened in this country that she is under fire for that? Jennifer wasn’t even using it in an offensive way; she was calling herself the word jokingly.

Retard is a word that has been in our vocabulary, (especially for those on the east coast) and there is no way you’re going to get everyone to stop saying it.

With all the problems going on in the world right now, we’re going to attack Jennifer Anniston for using that word. Big effing deal.

Honestly, what a stupid country we are. Unless someone is saying it to cause harm to someone, I see no problem with the using the word retard. How much longer do we have to wait until our 1st amendment is taken away completely?
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BJ's BLOG 08/20/10 "Roar"

 Alright ladies; you were told many years ago that you are woman and that you can roar. You were told that you could have it all, do it all, and be it all, but I cannot begin to tell you how hurtful that kind of mentality really is while living in the real world.

We talked about a study that came out of Cornell University that showed that men who were financially dependent on their wives are five times more likely to cheat than men who make a similar amount as his partner. They believe the reason behind it might be because men feel threatened when their woman takes on the role as the bread winner and in order  to reassert their “manliness”, they go off like an a-hole and cheat.

I believe that this is a good point; surely men who are not the primary bread winner do indeed have their manliness challenged. You can’t help it ladies, we are the hunters and we judge ourselves on what we do as opposed to women who judge themselves on what they do.

Bill Clinton will always be a great man and it doesn’t matter that he had an affair with Monica; he became the President of the United States because he was so good at what he was doing. I would never judge him harshly from a career stand point just because he got a little “hum-ski.”

If you’re a woman who makes more money then your man, you need to find a way to help him reassert his manliness.

The study also found that men who make a vast amount more are also more likely to cheat. So I would gather if you are a stay at home mom or if you have  a super successful husband like Bill Clinton was, you will have to really bust your ass as a woman to keep him from cheating because it is what us men are designed to do. Men are designed to have as much sex with as many women as possible, it’s biological and you can’t expect us to be able to beat biology with our brains.

If you want your man to be faithful and he’s either super successful or not as successful as you, you have to be an amazing woman but most women don’t like to do this because feminism told you it wasn’t necessary.
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BJ's Blog 08/19/10 "Getting Paid"

A new study shows that a majority of Americans still believe this country has a long ways to go before both genders are equal. In the study, 80% of women don’t think they receive the same pay as men for the exact same job, and 58% of men believe this as well. I can’t believe that men have really fallen for this fallacy.

If a man is making more money than a woman while working the same job then it’s automatically sexism, but hasn’t anyone stopped to think of the quality of work coming from both sides? A few weeks ago we talked about how 90% of women plan their weddings from work, and of the 30 hours a week they spend working on their weddings, 30% of it is done at work.

I believe that our pay system should be based on the quality of your work and the amount of time it takes you to finish a task. If man can get the job done quicker and more efficiently than a woman doing the same thing, then yes, I do think he deserves to get paid more and same vise versa.

Really good companies have to create new titles for jobs just because they want to be able to pay them what they want without any issues.

When will people just stop complaining about, “Oh, that man is making 3 cents more than me,” and just focus on becoming a better member on the workplace?
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BJ's BLOG 08/18/10 "Happy?"

Today we talked about a study we found on the Daily Beast about happiness and the one thing that really shocked me was according to this study, African Americans are happier than Caucasians. The reason it shocked me was because as a white guy who’s exposed to the media, I see and hear from very disgruntled black people all of the problems that are affecting them.

How is it that African Americans can be happier then Caucasians when African Americans continue to tell us that Caucasians rule the world, “the man” is still keeping them down, and that they are discriminated against on a daily basis?

I’m really disappointed that as a white person I’m not as happy as everyone else and considering how much grief we get from black people, it’s hard to believe they are living more contently then us. I’m not saying that I don’t want them to be happy because we should all have the same amount of happiness in our lives, what I’m saying is I thought they would be more unhappy because of all the crap they say we put them through.

A listener named Shelly called in saying that she is a white woman who is married to a black man, but even though her husband’s family uses the N-word when talking to each other it would not be taken well if she decided to use it and to me that’s BS! She has been with her man for 7 years. My question is…When is she allowed into the “special group” that allows her also use the N-word as a term of endearment since she is obviously not a racist because she’s married to a black man?

Now that I think about it, African Americans have a lot to be happy about because when segregation ended they got their freedom and more! There are super tough affirmative action laws that make it so they are invulnerable to things white people can’t get away with.

You get to wield the big sword at white people who used to be the oppressors and are now only left with guilt. We get called a racist just because of our skin color which is just racist in itself. Maybe that’s why we’re so miserable; every ethnicity can point to us as the slave owner even though we weren’t alive when that happened. How can we as Caucasians be even just as happy as African Americans when we are stained with this mark?
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BJs BLOG 08/17/10 Aftermath with Mary Kay

Today on the show we played audio of Mary Kay Letourneau on Aftermath with William Shatner” and she proved how big of a shed she really is.

In the interview she told Shatner that she did not believe that having sex with her then 13-year-old student (Vili Fualaau -- who is now her husband) was illegal because it is always the boy pressuring the girl into having sex and she thought that it was a “male only” law in the state of Washington.

Are you kidding me? That dope was teaching kids? How could she not know that what she was doing was illegal? Statutory rape applies to any adult who has sex with a person under the age of consent, but in her mind it was ok because he wanted it, too? Vili was 13-years-old, kids can’t make those kinds of decisions and that’s why we don’t let them do anything at that age.

Also, it’s not only boys who like to pressure girls into having sex, sometimes girls are so captivated by their power that they will willingly have sex with somebody outside of their age group. That’s why we have the age of consent laws; it’s because kids don’t know what they’re doing.

I believe she really is not that stupid but just doesn’t want to take accountability and therefore has come up with a crap excuse she thinks people are going to buy.

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again…love is a drug and women have been hiding behind this for a long time. Women put down men for having sex without love as if love is actually the greatest thing in the world, but love is something that can be indeed be perverted, twisted, and used as a drug.

Love is not the end all be all; there is something even deeper then love, and there should be a new word for it because “love” has been tainted by idiots like Mary Kay Letourneau!
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BJ's BLOG 08/16/10 "Drunk Jersey Shore Idiots"

Today on the show we talked about how the Jersey Shore got a record high of 5.5 million viewers for their August 12th episode.

In that episode, Angelina got so trashed she didn’t even remember smacking Pauly D three times in the face while in a drunken fury.

The next day when she went to apologize, Pauly D said he just wanted to go their separate ways, to just be roommates and that’s when Angelina said, “Do I get, like, a get out of jail free card or something ‘cause I didn’t know that being drunk and people making mistakes is that bad.”

That irritates me; if a guy were to hit a girl in the face while drunk and tried to use the drunk excuse, he would be sent to jail for battery. Just think about it, here’s somebody who hit another person while drunk, yet she thinks she should be able to get away with it!

How many guys actually hit a woman when they are sober? When you hear about a spousal abuse story, it usually involves a guy being in a drunken stupor. For Angelina to basically say, please forgive me for abusing you while I was drunk shows how stupid these people are. This show is just an abortion.
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BJ's Blog 08/13/10 "Jennifer Aniston"

Earlier this week we talked about the interview with Jennifer Aniston where she made some comments about single mothers. She said quote, "Women are realizing it more and more knowing that they don't have to settle with a man just to have that child…”

I love that line, “…you don’t have to settle…” Settle on what Jennifer? Settling on getting married, having a man as part of the process of raising a child?  Double R pointed out that she might have meant that if you can’t find a man then you don’t have to settle on not being a mother. If that is the case ladies, and you’re that much of a loser who can’t make it work with a man, then I don’t want you raising children. You can’t get it together for a child if you can’t get it together for a man, and vice versa for men.

People should not be parents if they don’t know how to be husband or wife.

What about the child? The child, when it’s born, should have the right to be raised in a great environment with both a loving mother and father!

I believe a father adds a lot to raising a child. How many girls out there who have issues with their fathers are doing alright? They become a mess of a human being and boys need a father to show them how to grow and become an honorable man in life.

How dare Jennifer Aniston say that a woman doesn’t need a father for their children? I would never, as a man, say that a child doesn’t need a woman in the picture, so why do we tolerate crap like this?  Women would be up in arms if we were to say that men don’t need a mother for the children.

Jennifer Aniston has really lost points in my book because parenting is one of the hardest jobs in the world, and she is not taking it seriously. She should be encouraging people to adopt. How many children are out there waiting for someone to take them home to start a family?

Seriously, screw you Jennifer Aniston, not everyone has your payroll so instead of telling woman to make babies who will eventually grow up to be dysfunctional members of society, you should just shut the hell up.
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BJ's BLOG 08/12/10 "Vacation"

I was just reading a report that the United States has one of the lowest amounts of average vacation time out most other countries. On average, Americans only have 2 weeks of paid vacation a year; whereas Brazil and France have a minimum of 30 days, and Britain has a minimum of 28 days off.

This is insane!!! All American workers do is bust their asses and they can’t even take a day off because there is no one else to do it. There should always be another person to take over your workload when you’re not there, it’s just normal; but big businesses want more money and they don’t care if they are killing their employees.

As a company, if you can’t make a decent profit or an honest living while still giving your employees good vacation time, then you don’t deserve to be in business.

So my advice is to everyone is to stop buying stuff because eventually the prices will go down, therefore they will have to treat you better as a customer and will have to treat their employees better in order to stay in business.

The way I see it, if my company doesn’t want to pay me, I just ask for more vacation time. They would much rather me have time off than pay me more, and I’ve had to go through this my entire career; stockholders just want to fatten their wallets off of my hard work. They don’t want to be fair; they just want to financially rape me so please everyone, just fight for your vacation time because we truly deserve it in the country.
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BJ's BLOG 08/11/10 "Housework"

I’ve often wondered about when woman complain that men don’t do as much housework as them and I finally have some great ammo for men who get yelled at for this.

A study was done by the London School of Economics by Catherine Hakim which found that men are doing more than enough when it comes to stuff around the house even if he’s doing less work then his woman. The average man and woman contribute an equal share of hours to work which means at either a paid job or unpaid housework. So the amount of hours a man puts in at work should count towards the total amount put into maintaining your life whether it be working or doing chores.

No matter which way you cut it up, the hours are equal. Hakim also says the study showed that once a woman has children, she cuts down on her office work while men usually compensate by working extra hours or working overtime to keep the money coming in.

So basically a man will do less housework in order to make up for the money the woman isn’t making because she is devoted a few extra hours to her house and kids.

That being said, I have a theory; I’ve found that men have a lower standards of what the house should look like then woman which is why most fights start in the first place.

Have you ever been to a single man’s apartment? It’s a freaking mess because men don’t prioritize the level of cleanliness in a house like women does, so women end up doing more work because they want it at their level. I think that is something that should be taken into account when arguing about housework because if woman cared as much as men, then they would do the same amount of housework, which would be nothing.

Women need to stop looking for things to complain about and just accept that for the most part, things are equal.
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BJ's BLOG 08/06/10 "Children"

Earlier this week we got an email from a listener named Sally who was in need of some Group Therapy. Sally was recently engaged to the father of her daughter and recently her fiancé broke it off after getting into a huge fight which involved heavy amounts of alcohol.

Sally told us that even though he doesn’t want to be in a full on relationship with her, he still wants to continue having their sexual relationship.

First off, when are people going to stop doing things out of order? Why can’t they figure out that they should get married first and then have children, because nothing good ever comes from having a child out of wedlock.

Second of all, when a man says something that stupid you really have to wonder. Men are really black and white so if you have a wishy washy man like that, there is no point in being with him because he obviously doesn’t have his crap together.

Sally also wrote in her email that she does not take having a child with someone lightly so that’s why she waited until the age of 40, but actually she did take it lightly. It was really stupid of you to make this baby with a man who isn’t your husband. She probably thought she could trap him into the marriage, but seriously women, when are you going to learn that is never going to work? If they want to marry you, they will; opening your legs and popping out a baby won’t convince them.

It’s unfair for the child to be used as a tool in your quest to get a man to love you. She should be ashamed of herself and have her baby taken away from her if this is the case. The guy probably didn’t even want to be a father in the first place and let me tell you, that kid should be with another family on that reason alone.

I grew up in a household where they “made do” with me and I wasn’t wanted by one of the parents. Now imagine that the one parent who did want you dies, and I have to live with the one who parent who made it clear that I was just a burden to them and wasn’t wanted.

Please people, just stop having children before getting married, it will ruin your lives and that poor child’s life as well.
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BJs BLOG 08/04/10 Get to Work!

Before I get to my Blog, I wanted to share some love for my friends Blog. Tim Sanders, author of books like “The Likeability Factor”, “Love Is The Killer App”, and “Saving The World At Work”, has a blog he wrote a great piece about one of my other buddies, comedian Kyle Cease. It’s a great blog, check it out here:

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Earlier this week we read a study that says 90% of woman plan their weddings while they’re on the clock at work. I’m telling you, this is a travesty. Productivity has changed in the work place. When the work place used to be a “man’s world,” we had our own way of dealing with daily stress and that’s how we could get the job done.

At the core level as a man, I’m here to work. If we’re blowing off stress and kidding around, it’s to put ourselves in the mood to get back to work on the crappy jobs we have to do.

What really irritates me is that women are slowly purging more and more of our stress relievers (we can’t have pin up calendars up on the walls anymore…we can’t tell a dirty joke to another guy…it’s become a sterilized environment), and yet 9 out of 10 women in our work place are sitting on their asses and planning their weddings all while getting paid. Not only is that true but the average woman plans out 30% of her wedding from the office. That is just unacceptable! That is their own private matter that should not be done in the work environment.

Female coping mechanisms just irritate me. I don’t want to see pictures of your children or cats and do you know why? It’s because it reminds me of home and I don’t like it because those are burdens. I’m being honest; I love my kids but I see them everyday…my work place is where I go to do my work and be myself.

I would have less of a problem with the female coping mechanism if I didn’t have an H.R. person screaming at us guys for wanting to tell a dirty joke to each other every once and a while.
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