Yesterday during for the Lukewarm Topic, we talked about who quite possibly might be the worst girlfriend ever.
Jason Elia, a television writer from Nashville, was planning on proposing to his girlfriend during the Superbowl this Sunday. He had everything ready including the tickets to the game, but then found out he has bladder cancer.
Suddenly, when his girlfriend supposedly found out about his cancer, she dumped him. That unfortunately isn’t the worst part.
She later found out about his proposal plans and she decided to go back to him; not because she wanted to be there for him during this difficult time in his life, but because she wanted the tickets.
This is chick logic at its worst. She believes that because he bought the tickets for her in the first place, that she rightfully can still go to the game because the tickets are hers.
Sometimes, I just don’t understand human beings; how can she think that she deserves the tickets.
Luckily Jason didn’t fall victim to her games and has decided to give the tickets away to the person who can get him the most followers on Twitter.
I don’t know how Jason didn’t see how awful she was in the first place but I am glad to see him staying strong and not letting her get what she wrongfully thought was hers.
This entitlement society is a tragedy. I wish the best for Jason with his recovery and I wish that his now ex girlfriend gets some karmic payback for her behavior.
Last week we talked about another example of parent of the year.
A Pennsylvania man named Julian J. Johnson went to the bar and the cops showed up after getting into a fight where he told them that he can’t get arrested because his children were home alone!
Julian’s kids, ages: one, three, and six, were home alone while their father proceeded to get drunk at the bar; but Julian said his kids weren’t completely alone…God was babysitting them! He said God is watching over all of us so his children weren’t really home alone.
Julian was arrested and his kids were taken to child services.
Why don’t children have more rights? Why do we let some kids stay with horrible parents?
This jerk shouldn’t have ever had custody of three kids in the first place!
What I want to know is where is the mother in this situation? Can you imagine what kind of a mess she must be that they didn’t even give her custody instead of sending the kids to child services right away?
Just because you make a child doesn’t mean you automatically know how to be a good parent, and Julian is a perfect example!
Yesterday during Group Therapy we talked about an email we received from Trevor who really showed how women have vaginized men.
Travis is happily married with kids now, but recently he read an article about an ex and was wondering if it was ok to try to reconnect with her, not for anything sexual, but to get “closure.”
Here is a littleback ground information: they dated when he was 18-years-old and she 19, but later broke up when she cheated on him. Travis went on to say in his email that she ripped his heart out, but in hindsight, he thinks that he probably would’ve cheated on himself as well since he was unemployed, broke, and living with his mom.
When I heard that, I instantly believed that Trevor had low self esteem, nobody deserves to be cheated on. Cheating is the cowardly way out!
Steve also pointed out something really important: he was 18! It was perfectly alright for him to be broke and living with mom! She should have broken up with him before she cheated on him.
In the article Travis read about his ex, it talks about how she started a business and 19 and how successful she has become.
Travis wanted to send her an email to ask her how she’s been, tell her congrats, and like I said before, to get “closure”.
Really? What kind of closure do you need for a teenage relationship that happened 10 years ago?
It just sickens me to see how vaginized some men have become.
I know I am being harsh with Travis but I am using him as an example to teach other younger men.
There is no good reason to reconnect with an ex if you are happy with your current relationship. If you’re not happy, then go to counseling to get “closure.” If you do see that ex, old feelings can surface and you might end up doing something to ruin your marriage.
Jermaine emailed us with a very difficult problem which we discussed during Group Therapy yesterday.
Jermaine works full time but has to come home to clean his house and take care of his son while his wife sits in front of the TV from 8am to 4am every day.
Jermaine described his wife as “zombified” by the television and wants to cut his TV and internet subscription. When he told his wife this, she called him controlling and told him that what he is trying to do is domestic violence!
As men we really need to stand up and do something about this because the great women out there, for whatever reason, aren’t really policing their sisters who need help.
Many Rock-A-Holics suggested that she go to therapy which I agree she needs, but any therapist will tell you that if the person doesn’t want to be helped, counseling won’t work. You can’t force therapy or medication on a person who doesn’t see they even have a problem.
This is a very difficult situation Jermaine is in for two reasons. Reason 1: it’s his wife’s responsibility to seek and get the help she needs to motivate her live her life better, and Reason 2: the dreaded domestic violence bomb was dropped.
What Jermaine needs to do, and any other man who is going through this is immediately get legal help whether you plan on getting separated right now or not because she can later claim domestic violence in a court of law. Jermaine, record these incidents so that you can later prove your innocence if she tries to turn it on you sometime.
As a stable guy, I try to use people like Jermaine as examples to coach other guys on how to also be stable and safe in their lives.
Last week we talked about a story about the extremes one guy went through to get his drug fix.
Douglas Nichols, a 36-year-old from Athens, Tennessee, dressed up as his deceased sister to get her drug prescriptions.
Nichols wore make up and a wig to pick up his dead sister’s Xanax and hydrocodone prescriptions.
The first time he tried this, he got away with it but the second time he tried to do it, the pharmacy staff recognized that he was not who he said he was.
He is in jail for prescription fraud.
This is stupidity and morbidness at its best.
They say that 95% of crimes in the US are committed by 5% of Americans but I have to wonder what percentage of the crimes committed involve or are associated with drugs or alcohol. I would venture to say it’s somewhere between 75-90% especially with all the repeat offenders.
With all the security systems in homes I have a feeling that drugs and/or alcohol are the strong factor behind most of the break-ins these days. The old school cat burglar knows better.
I believe as Americans, if we put more money into drug and alcohol rehab facilities rather than just prisons, we could not only employ a lot of people including doctors, therapists, etc, but we would be cleaning up the people in the country, keeping the drug abusers of the streets, thus lowering the crime rate.
Yesterday during our Lukewarm Topic of the Day, we talked how since the birth of his daughter Blue Ivy Carter, rapper Jay Z said he was no longer using the word “Bitch.”
According to NME.com, he allegedly wrote this poem:
Before I got in the game, made a change, and got rich/ I didn't think hard about using the word bitch/I rapped, I flipped it, I sold it, I lived it/Now with my daughter in this world I curse those that give it.
The reason I say allegedly wrote this poem is because there has been many rumors and speculations saying otherwise.
If Jay Z did say this, it would be a rather dumb move. He has used this word his entire career and has made a lot of money, but now that he has a daughter he sees the error of his ways? Really?
It’s just a word, people.
Also, I watched the so-called controversial “Modern Family” episode, the one where the toddler says a bleeped out and pixilated dirty word. Wow…do those complainers need to get a clue, life, or grip (you pick). It’s just a word…that was never even said. I think this country has bigger issues to deal with…don’t you?
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from Melanie. She had been dating a guy for three months and was really happy with him but something happened that left Melanie wondering if she should stay with him or not.
While out to dinner with his friends, they mentioned how cute his son is.
Melanie’s boyfriend was very apologetic about the whole thing and said he was afraid she wouldn’t want to be with someone who had a kid but was also looking for the right time to tell her.
Melanie’s friends are concerned that if he lied about this, that he might be lying about other stuff too.
I know I have talked about this before but I don’t understand why anyone would want to date a person who already has kids.
It’s a horrible label to put on a person but let’s face it, Melanie’s boyfriend is “damaged goods.”
Honestly, no one has ever fantasized as a kid about meeting the person of their dreams and hoping they already have a kid and an ex on their back.
You are not the ultimate dream partner when you have baggage and I believe the reason why Melanie’s boyfriend didn’t tell her right away is because he knew deep down that he’s “damaged goods.”
Yesterday I read some good news…but the more I thought about it, it became clear that it is possible that our doctors are screwing us over, which is ridiculously disturbing.
Under the new health care laws, the Obama administration will require drug companies to reveal the payments they make to doctors for research, consulting, speaking, travel, and entertainment!
The story I read also said that over a quarter of doctors take cash payments from pharmaceutical and device companies.
I can’t believe that we don’t already make drug companies show us what they pay doctors. It’s scary to think that doctors might be pushing treatments or medications you don’t need just because they get to pocket a few fees.
In the radio industry, we have to sign Payola/Plugola forms which means that we cannot play a song on air or talk about a business if we were given money, a free service, or a nice gift by that record company or business.
It is illegal if we do so; so I have to ask, why is it that doctors get to basically do the same thing? I think our health is more important than the new Van Halen song.
What ever happened to the Hippocratic Oath? It’s more like the hypocritical oath!
On Friday a Rock-A-Holic named Dave called in during Listeners on the Loose to talk about how he’s disappointed in the media. Dave was upset that the media was putting all their attention on the four marines who filmed themselves urinating on three dead bodies.
For those who don’t know the story, a video surfaced last week of for US marines standing around and urinating on three dead Afghans, supposedly Taliban members.
Dave said that he feels like the media would be happier putting stories about another solider tragically losing his life in combat and have his country honor him rather than stories like this one.
As a part of the media I know they have to make money and in order to do that they have to get the audience’s attention but it’s also sad that news organizations have stopped being purveyors of truth and have become sensationalists who only want to you to buy the product. It’s the “if it bleeds, it leads” sort of mentality.
I personally don’t trust any news organizations that have commercial advertising.
I’m not condoning what these marines did, but people don’t get that this isn’t the world the rest of us are living in.
Even though the incident was disturbing and unfortunate, I am also a guy that understands that when you are fighting on the front lines as a solider with death all around you like that, it does do things to your head.
This whole situation sucks, but until I have been in the shoes of those soldiers and have experienced the horrible things they have, I really, really can’t judge them fairly
It’s too bad that this video has disparaged the good soldiers that are out there which make up the 99.9%.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from Kurt who didn’t know what to do with his girlfriend.
Every time they get into an argument, she gives him the silent treatment then rants about him on her Facebook page for all of her 400 friends to see.
Our first caller was from a Rock-A-Holic named Kayla who is only 17-years-old and admitted that she does the same thing.
The reason Kayla says she does it is because her boyfriend won’t come directly to her to apologize and she just wants to find a way to vent.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to vent and letting out your emotions, but that’s what a diary or journal is for. The process of writing down your thoughts and feelings is very therapeutic and once you’re done writing it down, it’s just there for you, not for the whole internet to see.
When you rally your troops to comment negatively about someone, it’s a form of bullying. Tell your significant other that you’re upset with them.
The reason why some women do this kind of thing is because they want us men to feel the same way they are feeling so we can understand their pain.
Guys don’t get it because we don’t operate that way. If I was mad at Steve because he was being a jerk to me, I wouldn’t try to bring him down to feel what I’m feeling; instead I would tell him that he’s not being cool. If Steve sees that, he will apologize and then things are good again.
So ladies, go to a therapist, a journal, or a mentor to vent and let out the pain and if you want your man to understand your pain, tell him, don’t cyber bully him or anyone.
Yesterday we read what has probably been the toughest Group Therapy question we’ve received so far.
Jesse emailed us in need of some serious advice. His son’s mother is getting a settlement from a car accident she was in and Jesse wants to get back the money she owes him in child support which is about $16,000.
The problem is that she has just got out of jail (again) and is restarting her life with nothing so their 16-year-old son doesn’t want him to collect the money from her.
Jesse has a good job and provides for his family, but like most people, he does struggle sometimes and if he collects this money, he will become debt free. He also mentioned that part of the money she gives him will go towards the $5,000 in medical bills he had to pay for for their son last year.
He’s afraid that if he takes this money, his son will pity his mother and hate him.
This is a touchy subject for us honorable men because we work hard to be the best we can be, yet our gender gets labeled “deadbeats” when in fact, there are more women than men per capita who are the deadbeat parents.
How many times have we heard stories of women unfairly sucking a man’s wallet dry with child support with complete disregard on his financial situation? I’m not saying take everything away from her; he should leave her with a few grand which I believe is enough to get an apartment, pay for food and amenities, and find a job. The rest of the money should be used to pay the dad what he’s owed.
Along with getting the money back, Jesse needs to sit his son down and give him a lesson about actions and accountability. Jesse can teach him compassion by not taking everything from his ex but will also teach him if you do bad things like his mom, the world won’t be as nice to him.
We don’t talk a lot of politics on the show but we do talk about a lot of BS.
What irritates me is that Americans continue to be manipulated by these political scumbags who isolate a small portion of audio to take what someone says out of context in hopes that people will favor them.
Mitt Romney is currently under fire for saying, “I like being able to fire people.” That is the only audio his rivals want you to hear. It pisses me off because people are trying to make him look bad by taking what he said out of context, and in all honesty, I don’t care about Mitt Romney or his campaign but this is still not fair.
Mitt did say he likes being able to fire people, but he was referring to how people should be able to choice their own insurance provider.
Here is the whole quote:
“I want people to be able to own insurance if they wish to, and to buy it for themselves and perhaps keep it for the rest of their life, and to choose among different policies offered from companies across the nation. I want individuals to have their own insurance. That means the insurance company will have an incentive to keep you healthy.
It also means if you don’t like what they do, you can fire them. I like being able to fire people who provide services to me. If someone doesn’t give me the good service I need, I’m going to go get somebody else to provide that service to me.”
I have no problem with his statement because it’s a very logical point; if you’re not happy with something, change it, but apparently his rival candidate Jon Huntsman shot back saying, “Governor Romney enjoys firing people,” “I enjoy creating jobs.”
So this is what politics has come down to; you take a little statement or sound bite and try to make a guy look bad. Does Huntsman think that people are going to believe that Mitt wants to get elected just so he can fire everyone he wants just for no reason?
Huntsman’s ploy is a perfect example of why many Americans don’t participate in politics anymore.
Yesterday on the show, there seemed to be a theme about horrible customer service everywhere.
If you didn’t hear, over the weekend, my family and I had reservations to a nice restaurant to celebrate my wife’s 50th birthday. They also told me they could do something special for her birthday.
I thought I was the man planning this all out for my wife until we get there and in spite of our reservation, they made us wait 30 minutes for our table! I again made sure to ask them to do something special for my wife’s birthday and they said they could, no problem but when they time came, we received nothing. No candles, no signing, nothing. When I was about to say something, a guy from another table stands up, announces it’s HIS wife’s birthday, and everyone comes over and sings to her.
We were never apologized to or acknowledged when we had to wait and we never received any sort of compensation such as a complementary glass of wine or appetizer.
I really didn’t want to make a scene during our dinner but I was really upset.
After telling my horrible customer service story, we read a story about what happened to a New York woman who went to a Papa John’s.
Minhee Cho, a Korean-American woman, went into a Papa John’s and noticed that where her name was supposed to go on the receipt, “lady chinky eyes” was written instead.
Here is a picture:
Cho then Tweeted: “Hey @PapaJohns just FYI my name isn’t ‘lady chinky eyes,’” Minhee Cho wrote, along with a picture of the receipt where it was quickly retweeted by hundreds of people.
Within hours, the photo had become viral with nearly 30,000 views and resulted in Papa John’s firing the employee who was responsible for the offensive slur.
Reps for Papa John’s also used the pizzeria’s Twitter and Facebook accounts to issue apologies.
Cho accepted the apology but said she will never go there again.
What gets me is that yhe story did not say anything about Papa John’s offering her anything more than an apology. If that is the case and they didn’t try to make up for it big time, then it does not make them look to well.
I am tired of seeing businesses not doing the best they can to accommodate and really make up for their mess ups to the highest degree. They should be offering her pizza for life to show her and their other customers that they truly care about the service they receive.
Whenever anything happens here at the station where a listener isn’t happy with us, we try our best to make it better. We know if we don’t take care of our customers, then we will lose them.
Sadly, good customer service isn’t something that most businesses seem to care about anymore.
Last Friday during Listeners on the Loose, we received a call from a Rock-A-Holic named “Hook.”
He wanted to comment on the Group Therapy topic we had earlier in the week about the woman who wanted to know when to introduce her son to her new boyfriend of only three weeks.
Hook explained that he was in a similar situation; he has an 8-year-old daughter and six months after breaking up with his ex, he started dating someone new. His ex, the mother of his daughter, said that his new girlfriend wasn’t allowed to meet their daughter for at least a year and a half.
Like an honorable guy, Hook did not go back on his promise and he waited a year and half for his girlfriend and his daughter to meet.
Within that year and a half, Hook’s ex did have a lot of guys but never had them come around their daughter until she started dating this one guy. After a few weeks of dating, she wanted to introduce her new boyfriend to their daughter. Hook told her that she had to wait a year and a half just like he did and she had to honor the rules.
She said that she didn’t have to go by those rules because she was in love with this guy.
First off, I‘m not surprised that she did this.
Second off, can we please find another word for “love”? I am really starting to hate that word because of all of the people misusing it.
When you meet someone for the first time, that is lust and infatuation but it’s not really love.
Do you want to know what love is? Love is staying with someone for 25 years when she doesn’t want to talk to you because she’s pissed off, the kids are driving you crazy, and yet you still come home to her every night and give her a hug and tell her that you love her. That is love; love is commitment, trust, and hard work. It’s not this feeling you get when you first start seeing someone and everything is still good and happy.
If we could please find another word for the “love” people feel at the beginning of a relationship, I would be a lot happier.
Yesterday after playing Beat the Producer, we talked about a story of what one mother did to protect her child.
Sarah McKinley is an 18-year-old mother of a three-month-old son, who just lost her husband on Christmas Day to lung cancer. On New Year’s Eve, as she was sitting at home, two men tried to break into her house with a 12-inch hunting knife.
It turns out the intruder was a man who Sarah believes was stalking her. A week after Sarah’s husband’s funeral, 24-year-old Justin Martin stopped by the house late in the evening and introduced himself as a neighbor which caused her to become suspicious. Justin’s accomplice in the break in was 29-year-old Dustin Stewart.
Sarah said, “I walked over and got the 12-gauge, went in the bedroom and got the pistol, put the bottle in his mouth, and then I called 911.”
She then barricaded the door with her couch and asked the 911 dispatcher, “I’ve got two guns in my hand. Is it okay to shoot him if he comes in the door?” she asked. “I’m in here by myself with my infant baby, can I please get a dispatcher out here immediately?”
The dispatcher first made sure that she had locked the doors and then said, “I can’t tell you that you can [shoot them], but you do what you have to do to protect your baby.”
When Justin kicked in the door, she fatally shot him in the torso while Dustin fled the scene but eventually turned himself in.
Luckily, since it was in self defense, she will not be charged.
Sarah’s the face of what is right in this country but also shines a light onto what is wrong as well.
If gun control activists had it their way, Sarah and her baby would probably not be alive today.
There are a lot of people who are very angry about what happened to the Mount Rainer Ranger and they are trying to blame her death on guns being allowed in parks instead of the mentally ill guy responsible for it.
If I were the NRA, I would take Sarah and put her on posters because let’s be honest, gun control laws are not what stops bad guys from being bad guys. Everyone has the right to defend themselves and their family.
I’m all for people trying to protect themselves because let’s face it, our government isn’t doing a good enough job putting the fear of God into these bad guys so hopefully a situation like Sarah’s can.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Tonya who was concerned about something her boyfriend was doing.
Tonya explained that her boyfriend has a group of friends, and in this group, there are three girls who are sisters. When she was hanging out with them, Tonya noticed her boyfriend was a little more touchy feely with one of the sisters; he would rub her shoulders, arms, head, etc.
Tonya was worried that he was attracted to this woman and wasn’t sure if and/or how she should confront her boyfriend about her feelings.
As a man, I know that chances are he is attracted to this girl. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you stop finding other people attractive, but if you are an honorable person, you don’t act on your feelings and urges.
If I find a woman attractive, I don’t put myself in any situation where I can come in physical contact with her because I don’t want to get turned on, and as we all know, when a guy gets turned on, it’s hard for him to get out of that mode. I have too much respect for my wife.
Personally I don’t believe that anyone should be touching anyone of the opposite sex if you’re not dating them. You won’t have to worry about anyone receiving the wrong message if you just keep your hands to yourself.
Tonya just needs to tell her boyfriend how she feels, that way he can make the decision whether he wants to be with her or wants to continue being able to hang out the way he does with his female friends. If he says he will stop doing this but doesn’t, then that shows lack of respect to Tonya and she should just ditch him and move on to find someone who does respect her.
Yesterday we talked about the New Year’s performance that caused many fans of John Lennon to get offended!
During his performance on NBC's Times Square telecast on New Year’s Eve, Singer Cee Lo Green, (from The Voice and had the hit song “Forget You”) he changed the lyrics to John Lennon’s song “Imagine” to say "all religion is true" instead of "and no religion too."
Cee Lo later responded to the criticism by tweeting, "Yo I meant no disrespect by changing the lyric guys!" he wrote in his erased post on the matter. "I was trying to say a world were u could believe what u wanted that's all."
I’m sorry, but to change someone’s piece of art is a very disrespectful thing to do! It would be like trying to change the Mono Lisa’s smile!
Many people would agree that John Lennon was a beloved musician and the song “Imagine” had an influential impact. What I love about the song is that it tells us that if not for religion, greed, or countries causing us to fight; we could live in a happier world. That is something I believe in and for Cee Lo to think he can change a song that inspires me and many others to mean the opposite is ridiculous!
If he wanted to sing a song talking about how religion is true, then he should have written his own song and sang that!
On top of all that, while he’s singing a song with the lyrics, “Imagine no possessions// I wonder if you can// No need for greed or hunger//A brotherhood of man” Cee Lo decided to wear flashy jewelry and a long fur coat!
I’ve have heard good things about Cee Lo Green being on “The Voice” but I have lost the little respect I had for him after this stupid stunt!
This morning Steve reported about a story that is getting national attention, and I have to admit, it’s a tough story to find someone to hate.
Benjamin Colton Barnes, the man suspected of shooting park ranger, Margaret Anderson, to death on Sunday was found dead Monday.
Barnes is also the suspect in a shooting that left four people injured in a Skyway apartment on New Year’s Eve.
The shooting happened near the Longmire Ranger Station in Mount Rainier National Park on Sunday morning. The incident started when a car failed to stop at a required tire chain check point. Then when Ranger Anderson tried to pulled over said car, the suspect pulled a weapon and opened fire, fatally wounding her before she could react.
After the shooting, the suspect fled into the woods on foot. The suspect’s vehicle had multiple weapons, ammunition, body armor and survival gear.
Park ranger Margaret Anderson was a 34-year-old mother of two young girls and was married to a fellow park ranger who was also working Sunday at another location in the park.
Barnes was a 24-year-old Iraq war veteran who friends said had a large collection of guns. He was discharged from the Army in 2009 after a DUI arrest and also had two restraining orders filed against him by the mother of his one-year-old child.
The reason why I feel it’s hard to find someone to hate in this story is because I have compassion for both sides.
On one side it’s such a horrible thing to happen to an innocent person. Ranger Anderson left behind two little girls and a husband whose lives have dramatically impacted. Those girls have to live the rest of their lives without their mother all because of Barnes.
On the other hand Barnes’s wife said he had post-traumatic stress disorder, our government should have done a better job monitoring a former soldier if he was indeed mentally ill. Not only did he serve in Iraq, but people knew he had a problem and were vocal about it! The mother of his child had a restraining order on him; shouldn’t that be a clue in itself?
The government needs to be better at identifying who shouldn’t be out and about with the rest of us. I believe if a person has a restraining order against them or is accused of being violent or mentally unstable, they should get a series of tests to make sure they are suitable to be out in public.
People are dead, families have adversely affected, and yet the government did nothing! It’s the year 2012 now and it’s time for some serious changes around here!