BJ Shea

Yesterday on the show, we talked about someone else who is in trouble over the Trayvon Martin/ George Zimmerman situation, and Twitter is to blame.

Film maker Spike Lee retweeted the address that so many thought was the location of George Zimmerman, the man who shot and killed 17-year-old Trayvon Martin to his 240,000 Twitter followers.

Unsurprisingly, it turns out that the address was incorrect and the home belongs to 70-year-old Elaine McClain and her 72-year-old husband David McClain. They have since been receiving violent threats and are staying in a hotel to avoid the spotlight and any possible danger. On top of all that, Elaine has a heart condition.

The reason why people thought that this was the address of George Zimmerman is because the McClain's son, George W. Zimmerman, once lived at the address.

Spike has since apologized via Twitter saying,

“I Deeply Apologize To The McClain Family For Retweeting Their Address. It Was A Mistake. Please Leave The McClains In Peace. Justice In Court.”

Spike has to be the dumbest tweeter in America. I have so much respect for the movies he’s made but this is something an irresponsible internet troll would do, not an award winning filmmaker. He has to understand that instead of tweeting or retweeting something because you’re mad at a situation he should use his art to express himself.

What was he hoping would happen by retweeting the address? That someone would go in and “take care of” George Zimmerman? He needs to use his platform for “good” not “evil”

I’m glad he apologized but I think if Spike really wants to make up it to the McClain’s, he should buy them a new house or something equally as big because actions speak louder than tweets.

Fox News Channel commentator Geraldo Rivera has been under fire for his recent comments on Trayvon Martin and hoodies.

For those who don’t know, Trayvon Martin was the 17-year-old who was shot and killed by George Zimmerman, the neighborhood watch volunteer. Zimmerman said he fired in self-defense but reports have come out saying that Trayvon was unarmed and only had ice tea and Skittles in his possession that night. Martin was also wearing a hoodie when he was killed. They are still trying to find out if Martin attacked Zimmerman or if Zimmerman shot out of racism.

Well, the reason why Geraldo Rivera is in trouble is because he said,

"I am urging the parents of black and Latino youngsters particularly to not let their children go out wearing hoodies. I think the hoodie is as much responsible for Trayvon Martin's death as George Zimmerman was."

Since Martin’s death, hoodies have since become a symbol of protest in Martin's death and inspired the One Million Hoodie March.

I don’t know if hoodies mean anything in the criminal world or if it means something different to certain ethnicities but what I do know is that everyone wears them. If you go to the mall, they are in every store in different styles. Girls, boys, kids, teenagers, adults, everyone!  Steve said he owns at least 12 hoodies and even I, own two…are we all not supposed to wear them anymore?

I think it shouldn’t matter what you’re wearing and that actions speak louder than clothing. If you’re out beating people up, trying to be a “gangster” then you deserve your punishment if someone fights back, but you shouldn’t be attacked because of what you’re wearing if you’re just walking around, minding your own business.

Again we don’t know what happened; the truth lies in the middle of everyone’s stories and hopefully the truth comes out sooner than later.

Yesterday we read an email we received from a listener named Lisa who is having a problem with her husband’s co-worker.

Lisa writes that there is a recently divorced woman who transferred in her husband’s office and won’t stop asking him for help. She explains that her husband is a nice guy, that she totally trusts him, but he’s a little naive.

He’s moved a box here or there but the other day, the woman called her husband at home because her garage door opener was broken and wanted him to help her fix it.

Lisa told her husband to tell the woman to call a repair man but her husband said that she was being insensitive because the woman is recently divorced.

What I find interesting is that in her email, Lisa says twice that her husband is faithful and that she trusts him, but if she was being honest, she doesn’t. Lisa, like most women, doesn’t want to admit that they know that when a man gets aroused, his rational thinking walks out the door.

If an unscrupulous woman offers sex to a man, whether he is married or not, he will find the offer very difficult to turn down. These king of women know this and use it against us to get what they want out of us, yet they still vilify men for being weak and thoughtless even though they are the ones taking advantage of us!

Getting back to Lisa, I think she is right to not be comfortable with this, and her husband has to realize that there is no reason why he should be going over to someone else’s home to do handyman stuff before his own. It’s just not the smart thing to do on his part.

It isn’t surprising when a Group Therapy email upsets me, and yesterday’s email got to me again.
Trevor needed our advice; he has been dating a woman for a year and half, is in a great relationship, but has a problem with her 4-year-old son. He likes hanging out with the kid, but over the weekend, the kid called him “daddy”.

His girlfriend thinks it’s cute and that he should feel honored that the kid sees him with such high regard but it still freaked Trevor out.

Honestly, I’m tired of guys getting themselves in this situation. If you’ve heard my show before or have read my blog before, you would know what my stance is on this. There are plenty of single, childless people out there, so why would anyone settle for someone who has so much going on in their lives?

A few Rock-A-Holics called and texted saying that the girlfriend is probably training the kid to call him “daddy” in hopes of guilting Trevor into marriage. 

Regardless of that is true or not, what really gets to me is that no one is taking the kid into consideration. Nobody cares what this type of thing does to a child because we are living in a society where basically, children are raising children. The parents don’t see that they’re being selfish and they won’t see the damage happening to the child until the child gets older.

There is no reason why anyone should be in a relationship with a single parent unless they plan on also being a stepparent to that person’s children.
 

Yesterday we talked about the latest news on the Trump family.

“Celebrity Apprentice” boss Donald Trump’s sons, Donald Jr. and Eric, have been under fire since a series of photos of their African safari from last year have surfaced online.

In the images you see Donald Jr. and Eric standing next to dead animals they hunted.

Obviously PETA was none too happy about this and put out this statement:

“If the young Trumps are looking for a thrill, perhaps they should consider skydiving, bungee jumping, or even following in their anti-hunting father's footsteps and taking down competing businesses—not wild animals. Like all animals, elephants, buffalo, and crocodiles deserve better than to be killed and hacked apart for two young millionaires' grisly photo opportunity. If the Trumps want to help villagers, they have plenty of resources at their disposal.”

The Trump brothers released a statement to Access Hollywood saying, “We are both avid outdoorsmen and were brought up hunting and fishing with our Grandfather who taught us that nothing should ever be taken for granted or wasted. We have the utmost respect for nature and have always hunted in accordance with local laws and regulations,” the Trump sons said in a joint statement. “In addition, all meat was donated to local villagers who were incredibly grateful. We love traveling and being in the woods – at the end of the day, we are outdoorsmen at heart.”

Donald trump told Access Hollywood “I’m not a fan of the whole situation and I’m going to talk to them about it, yes.”

I have no problem with giving the Trumps a hard time when they deserve it but they have done nothing wrong.

They followed all the rules, they didn’t kill endangered animals, and they didn’t let the meat go to waste.

I understand why Donald Sr. wants to talk to them. Even though hunting safaris are ok in Africa, it’s not as widely accepted anymore amongst the everyday men and women here in the US. The Trump family is a brand, and they have to do what is best for their brand, but I still think it’s ridiculous that this is what PETA feels they need to spend their energy complaining about.

Yesterday’s Group Therapy really set me over the edge.

A woman named Anna emailed is asking for help on how to handle her son’s friend flirting with her. For some context, Anna is 37-years-old, her son is 17-years-old and his friend is 18-year-old.

Anna is flattered by the flirting and thinks the guy is cute so she wasn’t sure if she should flirt back or just ignore the behavior.

Here’s the thing I have to say to Anna: you’re a mother and an authority figure, you shouldn’t be letting this happen.

Anna thinks she can either flirt or ignore it but here is the third option she didn’t think of and it’s a two part answer.

The first part is to go out with some girlfriends to a few bars or clubs, and get appropriate attention from men. This means men who are your peers, not some little teenage boy. Let’s be honest for a second, getting flirtatious attention from a guy who is 18 doesn’t make you special, it just means he’s a normal young guy who gets turned on by everything and anything.

Now the second part of the answer to Anna’s question is how to respond to this kid. Anna has to tell him that she is a mother/authority figure and it’s disrespectful for him to be treating her like this. She has to shut him down immediately like any mother knows how to do when a boy is acting like idiot because let’s face it, this kid is acting like a tool, because no good friend would ever flirt with his buddy’s mom.

Yesterday we read an email we received from a Rock-A-Holic named Brenda who had a powerful question.

Brenda is 46 and her husband is 49, and she suspects that her husband is having an affair. She goes on to say it’s nothing meaningful and it’s an occasional fling.

She’s been married for 20 years and has never had her own career because her husband makes a lot of money and provides a nice lifestyle for their family. Brenda feels like it’s ok for husband to have the occasional fling instead of confronting him, getting divorced, and breaking up the family.

Brenda wanted to know if it’s ok to turn the other cheek or if that’s the wrong attitude to take.

The first thing I’d like to say, if you’re Brenda or in a situation like Brenda’s, talk to a professional about this situation because this is a huge, huge issue.

Second of all, why is it the only thing that is ok to stop doing in a monogamous relationship is sex. If a man goes up to his wife and says, “I don’t feel like listening to you tonight,” he would get in trouble but if a woman says she doesn’t want to have sex, that’s ok.

Someone pointed out that maybe the reason Brenda is ok with her husband cheating on her is because she has lost interest in sex. If that’s the case, why would anyone have a problem with it? Brenda is getting her needs met with having a house and a father for her kids while he is getting his needs met by getting a little action here and there.

It’s not the ideal situation to be in, but if both people are on board then why not?

Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from Uriah. He found out that his brother’s daughter and wife are planning on doing a “freak dance” for their mother daughter dance at his niece’s wedding.

Uriah knows his brother will not like it and isn’t sure if he should tell him because he’s not even supposed to know this information.

Isn’t that what wedding are supposed to be like, keeping information from the people involved? Right…sure they are! I think its lame that the mom isn’t going to the dad with what they’re doing because he is the one paying for everything after all.

I think Uriah is right; the father should know because no dad wants to see his daughter dirty dancing with his wife at her wedding. We have people saying that gay marriage defiles the sanctity of marriage, but it’s people who want to act like these women who are really defiling marriage.

Yesterday during Headlines and Sports, Steve talked about a very disturbing story.

34-year-old Seattle convicted rapist, Robert Hitt, was arrested on Monday after he allegedly broke in to a University District home, tied up six female UW students and threatened them at knifepoint.
Two of their other roommates were able to hide and call 911 and police arrived within minutes and arrested Robert.

Robert was just released two months ago after serving 9 3/4 years for being convicted of raping a 19-year-old UW student at knifepoint in 2001. The state Department of Corrections released Robert after they classified him as being a low risk to reoffend.

This is just ridiculous; I truly believe there should be a “one strike you’re out” policy when it comes to Level 2 and 3 sex predators.

Not only should this be applied to sex offenders, but child abusers as well.

I question whether these people who rape and/or sexually assault children can have that “therapized” out of them. My theory is that some of the people who do these bad things have it wired in them. I don’t know why if they’ve already caught the jerk, we should let any normal, law abiding citizen be exposed to it.

There has been big news in the world of radio recently. For those who haven’t heard or don’t know who this guy is, radio talk show host, Rush Limbaugh, has had many advertisers pull their ads after calling a Georgetown student a "slut".

Tax Resolution and AOL are the newest sponsors to pull out making it a total of nine sponsors that have left. ProFlowers, LegalZoom, Citrix Systems, Sleep Train, Sleep Number, Quicken Loans and the Cleveland Cavaliers basketball team have also bolted out.

The whole incident started when Rush called Georgetown Law student Sandra Fluke a "prostitute," after she testified before the House of Representatives on why birth control should be made freely available.

Rush sort of apologized on Saturday saying, "For over 20 years, I have illustrated the absurd with absurdity, three hours a day, five days a week. In this instance, I chose the wrong words in my analogy of the situation. I did not mean a personal attack on Ms. Fluke."

I understand that he was appealing to his audience which are conservative religious people but for Rush to say that a government that pays for contraceptives is absurd, is, well…absurd.

Asking the government to cover contraceptives makes a lot more sense than having people make babies they didn’t want to make in the first place just to then have us, the tax payers, pay for them.

They say that no publicity is bad publicity but in the world of radio, when your advertisers pull their ads…that’s not “excellence in broadcasting.”

Earlier this week we talked about how Mark McGuire knows he has the numbers to get into the Hall of Fame but is smart enough to know that because of his steroid use, that it’s probably not going to happen.

He said to a radio show in St.Louis:

“It’s out of my control. I understand everything. I confronted what I had to confront three years ago. It’s out of my hands. There’s nothing I can do about it.”

There is something about a person who apologizes that makes me think he should get to do what he wants in life. Time and accountability can heal all wounds, and he didn’t hurt anyone else. I don’t think they should keep someone out of the Hall of Fame because of steroids and let’s face it, everyone at that time was juicing up.

What bothers me is that Manny Ramirez’s suspension was cut short so they could draw more people into the stands so baseball has already proved they’re hypocrites so, baseball, it’s pretty clear to me…punish everyone or punish no one when it comes to the Hall of Fame.

Because the truth is…baseball officials knew about the “Mark McGuire” problem and turned a blind eye…they are the ones who really tainted the game.