Yesterday on the show, we talked about the newest information about the US Heath Care.
The Supreme Court has upheld the individual insurance requirement at the heart of President Obama’s healthcare overhaul.
The big problem is that many people including myself feel like it’s unconstitutional for the government to tell everyone they have to buy health insurance.
What about the people who feel they don’t need to have health insurance because they lead healthy lives and figure they will just pay for everything out of pocket? Or, how about the people who lead unhealthy lives? I don’t want to have to pay to take care of idiots who don’t do anything to take care of themselves.
Now the Supreme Court is saying that we HAVE TO buy health insurance as a part of this package.
I have no idea how it’s legal to tell an American citizens that they are required to go out and buy a private product! How is any of this constitutional?
I love a lot of the things the President wants to do with healthcare but this is beyond ridiculous!
What would be amazing to see is for the government to come up with a way that if an individual gets sick that they don’t have to go broke trying to pay for treatment but still not screwing over the rest of us.
America is all about taking cash from wherever it can whether from sin taxes or ridiculous driving/parking infractions and now this, it’s just BS!
We’ll see what happens to Obama because he got his way but will it cost him the White House?
If that happens, how long after will it take Mitt Romney to come in and change everything which would waste all the money we spent to get it done in the first place? I hate politics!
Yesterday during Group Therapy we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Elizabeth.
Elizabeth’s fiancé is still friends on Facebook with the ex he dated right before her. He comments on her status, “likes” things she posts and vice versa.
He told Elizabeth that the reason he broke up with her was because he simply didn’t love her. Even though Elizabeth says she trusts him, she isn’t sure if she should ask him to “unfriend” her and cut off the friendship or just leave it be.
During the topic, we received a call from a Rock-A-Holic named Jacob who was going through a similar problem. Jacob is still friends with his ex’s on Facebook because he feels like it’s not a big deal, he’s not immature but his wife wasn’t happy about it.
Jacob’s wife deleted her own Facebook page and made a family one and went through Jacob’s Facebook and deleted every female friend for the exception of family.
Here’s what I think, there is nothing wrong with feeling anger about something. You have the right to feel however you want, even if you’re angry over something small and stupid. However, you have no right to invade someone’s privacy regardless of the emotions you are feeling.
The fact that Jacob’s wife went through his Facebook page shows she doesn’t trust him and that is the worst thing in a man’s eyes. It hurts a man more to hear that his spouse doesn’t trust him than to hear that his spouse doesn’t love him.
For both Jacob and his wife they need to find great mentors in their lives and possibly a couple’s therapist to sort some things out.
For Elizabeth, if you’re angry or uncomfortable, talk to your fiancé about it, don’t go snooping in his business and also think about getting a good support system like friends and therapy in your life so that you know how to handle things for your upcoming marriage.
Yesterday I read a study out of Harvard University that really surprised me.
The study says that when someone’s Facebook post get’s “Liked,” they get the same feeling as sexual satisfaction. The reason being, when you post something, you feel vulnerable to rejection but when you receive “Likes” you feel accepted.
They found in the study that the mesolimbic dopamine system in the brain became active which is the same area that responses to sex, food, and money.
While talking about this, Toppy and Steve agreed that nothing is as good as sex while Vicky said a massage comes close to her.
That shows me the difference between men and women because I get massaged regularly and even though I do fall asleep sometimes, it could never be as good as sex for me.
This has me thinking that for a lot of women using Facebook, receiving a “Like” on a post could be as good as sex for them because of the attention they are receiving.
Steve mentioned a situation where a woman called him out on all his “Likes” saying that the only reason he got so many is because he is on the radio and that he doesn’t know how hard it is for people to like her content.
My theory is because some women crave attention more than anything else so that when the office flirtations or the emotional cheating happens, they don’ consider it a bad thing.
Here’s what I think, if you’re in a relationship and something gives you the same pay off as sex even though it’s not sexual, shouldn’t that be considered just as bad as physically cheating on someone?
We men only get one pay off and that is by having sex while women can achieve it through multiple avenues yet we men are the only ones who get vilified for this, and that is just not fair.
Yesterday I read something during the show that really pissed me off, and surprise, it has to do with politics!
A blog was posted on President Obama’s website requesting for people who are getting married to register with the site and "support the President on your big day" by asking guests to donate money in lieu of a gift.
This also applies to birthdays, anniversaries, or any other big celebration.
Here is what the site says:
“Got a special milestone or event coming up?
Instead of another gift card you’ll forget to use, ask your friends and family for something that will go a little further: a donation to Obama for America. Register your next celebration—whether it’s a birthday, bar or bat mitzvah, wedding, or anniversary—with the Obama campaign. It’s a great way to show your support for a cause that’s important to you on your big day.
Just log in or sign up to build and customize your page—and congratulations!”
You can check out the page for yourself here: http://www.barackobama.com/obama-event-registry/
For those who don’t know, I do not discriminate between democrats and republicans because I hate both parties. That’s why I have no problem beating up the president over this because this is really low move.
It is the lowest of the low to ask for people’s wedding or birthday gift money when we know how much money Barrack has and how much other politicians have.
Just think of the poor people who think they are doing the right thing and forgo a wedding gift that they probably need. When you’re getting married, generally you are just starting out building a home so you need those gifts and money to help you out.
This is a lame move on your part President Obama, a really lame move.
For those actually following the Mariners, you know as well as I do that they have been doing horribly and one of the biggest controversies has to be about Safeco Field.
Someone came out anonymously and said that the ball park is the problem which would explain why the Mariners do better at road games than at home.
We’ve been talking about it for years but they really need to move in the fences because of the thick air we have in this area.
Of course the Mariners have denied that there is a problem but we’ve even heard from former Seahawk kicker Josh Brown who said because of the thick air, the ball travels differently.
We are number 28 out of 31 teams for the total amount of runs scored in our own ball park! The only time runs were scored on a regular basis was when steroids were prominent. If the Mariners could play in a ball park similar to the ones they play in on the road, they could win a few more games, and who know, maybe make it to the top.
As a fan, I believe that if there is any way to improve a team and their playing conditions, that it should be done. It’s as simple as that.
Yesterday I read an email we received from a Rock-A-Holic named Greg.
Greg is 25-years-old and never grew up with a father. His parents divorced when he was 4-years-old and his mom never remarried so he never had a father figure in his life.
Greg has the opportunity to drive down this weekend to see him for Father’s Day in Spokane but his mom is not happy about this. She’s so upset that she hasn’t talked to Greg for days!
Greg didn’t know if he should cancel the trip or talk to his mom.
Here’s the thing I want to tell every single parent who is raising a child, no good can come from you talking badly about the other parent.
I understand if Greg’s mom has her reasons for why she hates her Greg’s dad but those shouldn’t be projected onto him.
Your child needs to be able to grow up and find out on his or her own what both their parents are like.
The only time it would be acceptable to bad mouth the other parent and keep your kids from them is when they’re a dangerous threat.
Let your kids experience these things for themselves and for people in Greg’s situation, you have every right to get to know your father and don’t let anyone stand in your way of making that happen.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from an anonymous Rock-A-Holic named “Shelly.”
“Shelly” explained in her email that she has been with her boyfriend for a year and a half and are living together.
When they first got together, they discussed the people that they previously dated and her boyfriend talked about a girl who he had a three week sex fling with who has since moved to California to be a model. “Shelly” says she was already insecure because she saw pictures of this girl and “Shelly” thinks that this girl is better looking than her.
A few nights ago, “Shelly” and her boyfriend got to talking about ex’s and she asked if he has used pictures of any of his ex’s for his “man alone time.” He said no, but about 10 minutes later he came back and admitted that about 4 months ago he found some of her topless modeling pictures online and had some “alone time” with them.“Shelly” was not only mad that he lied but mad that he did this in the first place but wanted to know if she was overreacting.
The fascinating part about “Shelly’s” email is that she proves how insecure she is when she says that her boyfriends ex is hotter than her. Regardless of what this guy does or doesn’t do, because “Shelly” is thinking like this, she is looking for failure.
Women don’t understand men at all. We’ve done so much to understand you at your demand because of the feminist movement. A lot of your problems stem from you not knowing what is going on in our minds.
I’m just going to leave everyone with this. I’ve spent a lot of time in therapy and I was told by my therapist that when it comes to solo activity as in what you do or look at when you’re by yourself, it is no one’s business. Whether you are married or in a relationship, if your significant other asks what you do when you’re having your “alone time” you are allowed to tell them, “It’s none of your business.” This applies to both men and women and regardless of how intimate a relationship might be. You do not have to share that info and people do not have the right to judge you for what you do. Also, when your partner asks about your ex girlfriends or boyfriends, you can simply answer, “that’s in the past and I don’t like thinking about the past, I just like thinking about you.” If your partner can’t handle that, then they might not be worth hanging around with.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read a text from a Rock-A-Holic named Nancy.
The Group Therapy before that was from a woman named Brit who lied to her ex boyfriend about getting pregnant and having a miscarriage just to get him back.
Nancy decided to text in after hearing this because she was in the opposite situation and needed help.
Nancy hasn’t told her on-again-off-again boyfriend of 10 years that she had a miscarriage because she didn’t want his sympathy.
Now that they are back together and are planning marriage, her friends keep telling her that she should tell him.
When I read Brit’s email I was very angry that she would lie and do such a horrible thing and we all agreed it would be best not to tell the guy since it would only hurt him more. When I read Nancy’s text, I had a different response because it seems like Nancy is more responsible than Brit.
Brit and Nancy were both going through pain but Brit decided to lie and hurt someone else while Brit decided to something that wasn’t selfish.
These two stories only proves that all women need a counsel of other women to help them when they have big problems. Sadly it seems like a lot of women don’t have that sisterhood. We need strong, intelligent women leading the younger generation of women so issues like Brit’s and Nancy’s won’t occur as frequently.
Yesterday on the show, I read a story about what one teacher did during a graduation commencement speech that not only surprised me, but I found encouraging.
David McCullough Jr. is an English teacher at Wellesley High School in Boston, which is like our Mercer Island. At one point during the graduation commencement speech, David said to the students graduating, “you are not special.”
Here are some quotes of what he said during the speech:
“Contrary to what your u9 soccer trophy suggests, your glowing seventh grade report card, despite every assurance of a certain corpulent purple dinosaur, that nice Mister Rogers and your batty Aunt Sylvia, no matter how often your maternal caped crusader has swooped in to save you… you’re nothing special.”
“You see, if everyone is special, then no one is. If everyone gets a trophy, trophies become meaningless.”
“Exercise free will and creative, independent thought not for the satisfactions they will bring you, but for the good they will do others, the rest of the 6.8 billion—and those who will follow them. And then you too will discover the great and curious truth of the human experience is that selflessness is the best thing you can do for yourself. The sweetest joys of life, then, come only with the recognition that you’re not special."
Because everyone is.
Congratulations. Good luck. Make for yourselves, please, for your sake and for ours, extraordinary lives.”
This is was a well said speech. The only thing I would add to that is that you really have to master selfishness before you can master selflessness. What I mean by selfishness is that you have to learn how to take care of yourself and the way you do that is to earn it.
You cannot have someone take care of you your whole life; once you learn how to do that, then you can help the collective and take care of people who can’t take care of themselves.
I hope these kids can take this speech to heart and appreciate these wise words.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, I read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named James and I have to say that that this is one of the most disturbing and strange Group Therapies we’ve had in a long time.
James has a friend who was six months pregnant and had a miscarriage. The sad thing was that the baby was big enough to go through the delivery, which I can imagine is a horrible thing to endure.
James sent his thoughts and support to the family and thought that it would end there.
The next day, while James was scrolling through the news feed on Facebook, he saw many very vivid pictures of the glistening fetus that had been dead for two days.
James was weirded out because there was no warning or disclaimer before looking at the pictures, they were just right there. What he wanted to know is if this is normal or not to post on Facebook.
I don’t know what is classified as “normal” because I haven’t been in the social networking world long, but I know for some people, it’s been around for most of their lives. Grieving is a very difficult thing and I know that miscarrying a baby is a painful thing for a woman, but I have to admit this would be a little weird to see on Facebook.
The thing about posting it on Facebook, you are forcing what you post on everyone who is your friend.
Some could argue that those images are disturbing and could cause physically or mental discomfort to someone.
The thing I find interesting is that people are free to post these types of images which make some people uneasy and are depressing, but we can’t post a picture of a naked breast which for most people on the planet would find it to be a happy thing.
We as men are told not to say dirty jokes around women or say certain things when we’re turned on because they are offensive and we should take their feelings into consideration. Well, I believe that this should work both ways. Our feelings should be taken into consideration when dealing with something that would make most people uneasy; it’s the fair thing to do.
Yesterday I read a survey of bosses and personnel managers by Pennsylvania's York University that found that new college graduates do not know how to put their phones away and actually get to work.
This survey also found that 83 percent of graduates have gotten in trouble for excessively use social media and 40 percent show up to interviews in inappropriate attire. We are dealing with the most unprofessional college university graduates we’ve ever had.
So the kids who are currently graduating have massive debt, are having trouble finding jobs, or are not working in a job they studied for and this may be the reason why.
I’ve talked to my son who has only dabbled in community college and hasn’t gone to a 4 year school and I found that he is doing just as well financially as the kids that just graduated because they are not doing what they went to college for.
Parents of my generation are responsible for these kids who don’t know how to behave in a work place. These kids have a bigger sense of entitlement than any graduates before them; they are less focused, and have the worst work ethic than anyone before.
Everyone getting a participation trophy, everyone being told that they can do anything and it’s hard to blame the kids for this because this is how they were raised. But they are college graduates; they should understand that when you are work, you need to be doing actual work. PUT THE PHONE AWAY!
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Bill.
He went to his buddy’s bachelor party the other week and everything was great until he received a letter from this buddy’s future bride.
You attended a party that was meant to be the last night out for my future husband with his friends. Instead, you turned it into something horrible. We request that you no longer be a part of it. 4 do not want to celebrate my marriage with a man who encouraged my fiancé to take off his clothes and touch some slut.
I can’t stop him from being friends with you but I insist that you don’t attend the wedding.”
Bill wasn’t sure what to do or say and his girlfriend suggested that he just dump him as a friend.
There are so many things that irritate me about this letter to Bill.
First off, a bachelor party does not mean the last night out with friends. When you get married, it doesn’t mean you don’t get to have nights out with your buddies anymore it just means that you don’t get to sleep with other people anymore.
Second off all, let’s be honest, it wasn’t “we” who requested Bill not come, it was all her. Why would anyone get mad at the fact that a groom to be was hammered at his bachelor party and had a stripper there?
If that is the case with this bride to be and she can’t get over it, why is she getting married anyways?
If you are that insecure, you need therapy and then when you mature enough, you can get married.
Someone suggested that Bill should only honor her request as long as he hears it from his buddy face to face and I think that’s a good way to go about. Show you are the bigger person because clearly this bridezilla is not.
Yesterday we talked about the latest news about Axl Rose being unprofessional.
According to the music magazine NME, 18-year-old GNR fan James Revell went to their concert in London wearing a T-shirt emblazoned with the top-hatted likeness of Slash.
James was forced by security to remove his shirt at the door so he had to go in without it.
The security allegedly said, "We were told by the management not to allow anyone into the O2 Arena who is wearing a Slash T-shirt, and we are asking anyone who is to remove it and if they refuse they will be turned away."
Unfortunately for James and his little brother, Axl was an hour late and James could only see three songs before having to go catch their train home.
This just shows that Axl Rose is such an unprofessional P.O.S!
Are you serious Axl? Why does it matter what shirt your fans are wearing to your show? They spent money to be at your show and this is how you treat them? How old are you Axl that you’re still pulling this crap? On top of that, you showed up an hour late!
STP mentioned that Axl once said in an interview that the reason he is late is because he will not go on stage until everything and everyone is 100% ready which sounds like he is just trying to blame everyone else but himself for his tardiness.
I can understand maybe 15 minutes late but an hour late is ridiculous! Get new people and stop the lame excuses! Honestly, I think everyone should stop going to his shows because with the way he’s behaving, he doesn’t deserve his fans.
Yesterday we talked about some of the biggest news that has hit Seattle.
On Wednesday, 41-year-old Ian Stawicki opened fire at Cafe Racer Espresso in Seattle's University District killing four people. Then later killed a fifth woman in a different location during a confrontation in which he stole her car.
Ian Stawicki later shot himself and died Wednesday night at Harborview Medical Center.
Ian’s father, Walter Stawicki, has come out and said that his Ian had a negative view of the world.
Walter also said that he thought that his son was bipolar and tried getting help for him, but his family eventually gave up.
In reaction to the shootings, Mayor Mike McGinn has announced plans to try to change state guns laws.
"Our focus will be on what we can do with the resources we have at hand," said the mayor. "We will look to change state law," but "my charge to the police department is that we have to double our efforts to get at these individuals with guns."
That is not going to fix anything. Rather than having the mayor come out saying we need better gun control, we should be looking at ways to keep mentally unstable people away from the rest of us…especially if a family believes that another family member needs medication.
There should be a system that makes sure we got those people evaluated and put on the proper treatment.
Horrible situations like this week’s shootings happen because there are people who are mentally unstable and/or addicted to drugs/alcohol running around free.
The people to blame for this are not the policemen because they did a great job wrapping up this ordeal in a day despite the fact that they still need more resources. The real people are to blame are the politicians.
Politicians are in bed with big business, big business can only sell to you when you’re scared; that’s why politicians won’t do anything to help this because they want you to continue being scared.
If we want things to change we must vote out the incumbent to show that we don’t like how things are being run and we to live in a place where we don’t have to worry about people like Ian Stawicki.