Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read a text we received via 77999 from a Rock-A-holic named Cody.
He recently met this girl on Facebook and after hanging out and then fooling around with her, he’s decided he likes this girl. The only thing he doesn’t like is her boyfriend.
She said that they’ve been together for two years and they live with each other but they are bored of each other and act more like friends. She’s stuck living with this guy because she has nowhere else to go.
That’s what she says, but for all we know the boyfriend actually thinks they are in a committed, loving, and monogamous relationship and she’s the jerk cheating on him.
This woman is essentially living off the teat of another person while going out and sleeping with other people…what a lovely individual.
Cody wasn’t sure if he should 1. Stick around until she dumps the other, 2. Walk away, or 3. “Hit it and quit it.”
A Rock-A-Holic named Jacob called in saying that he should “hit it” and then tell the boyfriend what happened. This is really unsettling; the idea of creating drama has become more and more launched into a man’s consciousness. When did we become a gender that loves drama and who loves to start it?
I want no drama in my life and given the chance, I will get out of any situation that involves it.
What Cody needs to know is that even though he waits for her and puts up with the drama, it doesn’t mean that he will end up with this girl. One texter chimed in saying that he was in Cody’s shoes and decided to wait a year for a girl and she ended up getting engaged to the other guy.
This is what happened to young men; they have been raised to be more sensitive and give more thought to things that don’t need it.
This girl Cody is with sounds like a lazy person who doesn’t want to make her own way in life so she stays in a loveless, miserable relationship while complaining about her boyfriend. The only thing Cody is to her is excitement to keep her medicated from her own pain, so the best thing he could do is leave this whole situation and not look back.
Last week during Group Therapy, we read an email from Rock-A-Holic Amber who had some information she didn’t know if she should share.
Amber works at a hotel on the weekends and during her shift a man came in she recognized with a quote “trampy looking chick” but couldn’t figure out who it was until he gave her his ID. It turns out this guy is the fiancé to one of her good friends and the woman he was with was not her friend.
They hadn’t met before so he didn’t know who Amber was but she knew for sure who he was.
Amber explained that her friend has been in love with this guy since high school (which was about 20 years ago) and have just brought a new baby into the picture and isn’t sure if she should warn her friend or stay out of it.
No offense to Amber but this friend of her sounds like a she doesn’t have her life in order. She pined after a guy for 20 years, had a child with her and doesn’t see that this guy is a scumbag.
I have one thing I’d like to bring up with this whole situation: According to Oprah, females are the smarter gender, so why is it that we see situations like this one where a woman is outsmarted by a guy? By the way, the guys that are doing the outsmarting are the dregs and least intelligent of us men and this fiancé bringing the “tramp” according to Amber is a fine example of this.
Why is it that in the year 2012, that some women, who are so-called more socially evolved, continue to get fooled by the dumbest of us men. Is it possible that not all women are as smart as we’ve been told or maybe they have blind spots that they don’t want us to know about?
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Lindsay who needed some advice.
Lindsay was invited to her ex-boyfriend’s wedding and was excited to go until just a few days ago; the Maid of Honor sent her a message on Facebook uninviting her from the wedding and didn’t give her a reason why.
She was torn if she should still go to the wedding or not because she was excited to go and she had already spent money on a new dress and an expensive gift that is in the mail.
The reason she thinks she was uninvited is because a few weeks ago, she ran into the bride to be at the mall and all she could do was comment on the weight Lindsay has lost. She has lost 50 pounds since dating the fiancé and suspects that bride doesn’t want her there so she doesn’t draw any attention towards her.
At first I wanted to be annoyed at Lindsay for wanting to go to her ex’s wedding but then I found out that she was uninvited just days before the wedding after she already spent all this money for it.
I really believe that the bride is jealous of her weight loss and wants to make sure no one takes her spot light on her wedding day.
If the bride had a problem with her going because she is an ex-girlfriend then that’s totally reasonable, but then she shouldn’t have invited her in the first place!
It is crazy how some women treat their fellow women. If you are a woman and have female friends, then be their friend! If you don’t like someone, don’t hang out and pretend to be their friend and you won’t have to worry about being embroiled in all this drama! #BLD
Yesterday on the show, we read a story about how this generation is raising kids that really got under my skin.
In Delaware, three day care employees have been accused of encouraging toddlers at the day care to fight each other while they were taking care of them.
The employees, 19-year-old Tiana Harris, 47-year-old Lisa Parker, and Estefania Myers, 21, of the Hands of Our Future Daycare were arrested after a cell phone video emerged of them allegedly encouraging two 3-year-olds to fight in an organized battle.
Police said in the video one child is heard yelling, "He’s pinching me!" A day care worker allegedly responded, "No pinching, only punching."
I know that this isn’t the case for every day care but these people were leaving their children in the hands of miserable human beings!
We are living in a generation where most people don’t even take care of their own children full time; they rely on the day care system.
The reason why day care use has seem to have gone up over the years is because parents have to work two jobs just to make ends meet and support the kids.
Back in the day, one parent stayed home to take care of the kids just to make sure they grew up with your own values and have all the attention they need. If you can’t support the number of kids you have or want with just one income, then should you really have kids? Is it fair to them to have to be put in a game of “Day Care Roulette?”
Would you rather stay at home and take care of your kids while your spouse works or is it more true that you don’t want to really parent you kid…you just want another trophy, another object, another plaything you can enjoy.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Kim.
In Kim’s email, she started off saying that she has been with her boyfriend for 4 years and feels like they will be getting married soon.
The problem she is having with him recently though is that he follows porn stars and random “slutty chicks” on Twitter.
She feels like it’s disrespectful of him and doesn’t think he should be doing this since they’re in a relationship.
As long as the interaction is one sided, as in he’s only looking at pictures and not emotionally or physically getting involved with these women, then there is nothing wrong with what he is doing.
Here’s something that my therapist has taught me: whatever you do for your “alone time” is your business and your business only. You don’t have to tell anyone, including your significant other what inspires you while you’re “taking care of business.” As long as you’re not violating the terms of your relationship…it’s nobody’s business.
One thing that Kim said that was a little off was that she feels like they will be getting married soon but it sounds like she doesn’t trust her boyfriend, so why would anyone want to get married to someone they don’t trust?
Also, calling these women “sluts” is odd to me. When a woman is getting attention from a man, she calls it being “sexy” but when men are giving attention to another woman for how she looks, that woman is automatically labeled a “slut.”
Hypocrisy and distrust do not make a good foundation to build a new marriage on.
Last week, we talked about something dumb Megadeth’s front man, Dave Mustaine, said while on stage at a concert in Singapore.
Here is what he said:
"Back in my country, my president is trying to pass a gun ban," Mustaine said at a concert in Singapore last week. "So he's staging all of these murders, like the Fast and Furious thing down at the border and Aurora, Colorado, all the people that were killed there. And now the beautiful people at the Sikh temple."
Dave later tried to clarify his statement in an interview by saying:
"In the heat of the moment, when you're on stage and you're talking, sometimes you're not as eloquent as you'd like to be."
"Larry Pratt, the head of Gun Owners of America, who's a highly respected person, said that if they would stage Fast and Furious, they would be capable of staging anything. It was all done to blame the second amendment. We'd be fools not to look at this. Our U.S. Border Patrol agents were killed. Like I said, I was just quoting Larry Pratt. That's it, bottom line."
This is what I can’t stand about some performers; they open their mouths and they don’t take don’t take accountability for what they said! He put it all on Larry Pratt!
The government does some pretty heinous things but when you run around spewing your mouth like this, you are going to taint whatever good message you might have.
That’s the problem with conspiracy theorists, they will lie and/or say things without the proper information to back it up because they think their cause is just, but they are ultimately just as bad as the liars they are trying to expose.
Yesterday on the show, we talked about a politician who is in trouble for using a band’s song without permission.
The band The Silversun Pickups sent a cease and desist letter to Mitt Romney's presidential campaign after using their song "Panic Switch."
Here is a video of their song:
Here is what Silversun Pickups lead singer Brian Aubert said in the statement:
"We don't like people going behind our backs, using our music without asking, and we don't like the Romney campaign. We're nice, approachable people. We won't bite. Unless you're Mitt Romney! We were very close to just letting this go because the irony was too good. While he is inadvertently playing a song that describes his whole campaign, we doubt that 'Panic Switch' really sends the message he intends."
Using someone’s music without their permission is a classless thing to do!
I am so turned off by the arrogance and audacity of politicians because they think they can do whatever they want!
All those news channels talk about the strategies they are using to get ahead as if it was a game so that is probably why they went with a “younger song”.
Politicians should be making sure that Americans are good, happy, healthy and that our main concerns are being taken care of. That’s the only strategy they should employ and that’s no game.
Being able to strategize your way into political office is not what we want. There needs to be less focus on who’s going to win and more focus on what’s best for us as people and as a country.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read a text sent in by a Rock-A-Holic named Josh who was having some girl trouble.
Recently, he let his ex girlfriend, who he’s become really good friends with, move into his place because she was having troubles at home.
Josh still really likes her and doesn’t want to “do anything stupid in front of her.” The only problem is that he has a “friends with benefits” who he has a lot of fun with and has been coming over most nights, but now isn’t sure if he should dump this new girl in hopes of getting back together with his ex.
Josh is very much like me when I was younger. I had low self esteem and I did a lot of things that went against my own belief system just to stay with me wife. Luckily we worked very hard to make this relationship work out but I shouldn’t have betrayed myself in the process.
The ex sounds like a real BLD (Bitches Love Drama) because not only was she having problems where she lived, but also because she seems to be using her ex boyfriend. She probably was the one that dumped him in the first place given how much Josh is pining over her.
Here is what you need to do Josh, you need to kick her out, find a good buddy or therapist you can talk to, and get over your ex!
What are you going to do if you’re living with her and she decides to bring a guy over and you already dumped your “friend with benefits”?
Josh, you don’t need a relationship right now until you heal from the last one so live it up and have fun until you are ready to settle down.
Earlier this week during Group Therapy, we read a Facebook message from a Rock-A-Holic named Jared.
Jared’s friend had just gotten out of a two year relationship and said that he still wants to be friends with his ex. The problem is that the friend’s ex told the friend’s dad that she wants to get a restraining order against him and this isn’t the first time she has involved the cops in their relationship.
Jared has known this guy for years and has tried to get him to cut ties with this woman but this guy still insists he cares about her.
He didn’t know if he should still try to help this guy or to just stay out of it even though he asks for Jared’s advice.
This is a hard thing; I understand wanting to help a friend but why do we have to become other people’s therapists?
I have no training in the field of psychology so I cannot give you the help you need when it involves a serious problem!
It’s always the people who say that therapy is dumb and a waste of time that pesters their friends and relatives for advice they should get from a real therapist!
The best thing Jared can do for his friend is to tell him to go to counselor because they are the only ones who can help his friend before he does something he will regret.
Today has been a somber day; for those who haven’t heard, Komo news anchor Kathi Goertzen died yesterday at the age of 54. She had a 14-year battle with brain tumors.
My interactions with Kathi have shown me what a fun person she was. I was always amazed at her genuine upbeat and positive attitude she had and she never judged anyone.
She was a really well respected newscaster who was amazing at her job and for some reason decided to do an interview with me while I was still on “The Buzz.” We were “radio for guys” and were the town’s “bad boys” so you wouldn’t think Kathi would ever be on our show for an interview but she was and she was absolutely amazing!
It was an awesome experience to share that stage with her. She was cracking jokes with us, she walked the line with us, and it was one of the most pleasant and fun interviews I have done since being in Seattle!
We’ve had a lot of people come through these doors including major celebrities both local and national but Kathi’s interview was one of the best I’ve ever done. I haven’t met anyone in this town who treated me with such respect and warmth like Kathy did.
In the midst of everything everyone is feeling, I wanted to share a tone of fun because that is what Kathi was.
She was a true gem of the northwest and a sweet human being…she will be truly missed. RIP Kathy Goertzen.
We arwe still on vacation but will be back Monday! Enjoy one of my favorite blogs and have a great weekend!
During Group Therapy, we read an email from Levi who is having problems with his girlfriend over how to raise their child, who hasn’t even been born yet.
Levi’s girlfriend wants to move in with her folks when they baby is born so they can help raise for the first part of its life, but Levi thinks she should live with him at his home.
The main problem isn’t that she wanted to live with her mom; it’s that Levi is having a baby with his GIRLFRIEND, not his WIFE!
I don’t understand why a person, who can’t commit to marriage, would be so willing to commit to another human being for at least 18 years.
Many of the callers we received yesterday are in situations or talked about people in situations where they have children out of wedlock. When asked why they decided that’s what they wanted to do, they all said the pregnancies happened by accident.
How many times over the years have we heard stories about the 1% of people who had birth control fail them? Either they are lying or they are not intelligent enough to use it properly.
That’s why men, regardless of what the woman says, you have to be in control of your birth control!
Even If you know she is on the pill, wrap it up! If that pill fails, or if she wants to start a family without your consent, you know you are covered…literally.
Don’t be having children until you’re married, in a secure place in your life, and ready for it. It’s easy to do if you take a moment to prepare and not engage in unprotected sex. Men, wrap the rascal!
We are still on vacation but will be back soon! I hope you are doing good, but in the mean time, enjoy one of my favorite blogs!
During Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Tonya who was concerned about something her boyfriend was doing.
Tonya explained that her boyfriend has a group of friends, and in this group, there are three girls who are sisters. When she was hanging out with them, Tonya noticed her boyfriend was a little more touchy feely with one of the sisters; he would rub her shoulders, arms, head, etc.
Tonya was worried that he was attracted to this woman and wasn’t sure if and/or how she should confront her boyfriend about her feelings.
As a man, I know that chances are he is attracted to this girl. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you stop finding other people attractive, but if you are an honorable person, you don’t act on your feelings and urges.
If I find a woman attractive, I don’t put myself in any situation where I can come in physical contact with her because I don’t want to get turned on, and as we all know, when a guy gets turned on, it’s hard for him to get out of that mode. I have too much respect for my wife.
Personally I don’t believe that anyone should be touching anyone of the opposite sex if you’re not dating them. You won’t have to worry about anyone receiving the wrong message if you just keep your hands to yourself.
Tonya just needs to tell her boyfriend how she feels, that way he can make the decision whether he wants to be with her or wants to continue being able to hang out the way he does with his female friends. If he says he will stop doing this but doesn’t, then that shows lack of respect to Tonya and she should just ditch him and move on to find someone who does respect her.
We are still on vacation so here is another one of my favorite blogs.
We read a survey done by OK Magazine saying that 63% of men would say “yes” if their girlfriends proposed. I couldn’t believe it; that's almost two-thirds!
The survey also found that only 70% of women say they'd say "yes" if their boyfriend proposed right now and that women are 12% more likely than men to say yes to a proposal in the first year of a relationship.
Is this really what we’ve become as men? We don’t get anything in a relationship anymore! The wedding, how the home gets decorated, and even the whole birthing process of our children is completely up to the women. We get very little to no say or power anymore in anything; and on top of that all, it’s the women are the ones who are dropping to one knee and presenting a ring?
If we are going to throw every tradition out the window, let’s just throw the tradition of monogamy out as well! Trust me, once monogamy is no longer a tradition or if prostitution became legal, you will see we will see that the behavior of wives and girlfriends change.
If men can just pay someone to do everything for him like cook, clean, and then find someone to have sex with him, the behavior of women everywhere will change to be more loving and accommodating to their men.
Today the show was because we are on vacation so in the mean time, here is one of my favorite blogs.
During during Group Therapy a while back, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named John who was having a problem with his sleeping situation.
John hadn’t been able to sleep or have sex with his wife because his 4-year-old daughter would sleep in the bed with them.
His wife didn't agree that this was a problem; when their daughter would fall asleep, his wife would say that she didn't want to disturb her while she’s sleeping.
I don’t understand the whole idea of a “community bed” where the whole family sleeps together. Children need to learn independence and that will not happen if they are coddled.
A Rock-A-Holic called who said that she was a single mother and had her son sleep in her bed until he was two and she was honest in saying that the reason was because she wanted to feel close to her child.
I have no problem with having a baby’s crib in your room but there should be that line drawn. You have to stop thinking about what you want and think about what is best for your child, and that is to let them be independent.
Last week we received an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Trevor.
Trevor has been with his girlfriend for three years and he just found out that she is messing around with her female friend. This is the third time something like this has happened.
He doesn’t want to lose his girlfriend or her family he has become very close to so he isn’t sure if he should dump her or try to make it work through couple’s therapy.
What has happened to us guys that the thought of losing your girlfriend’s family is a reason to try to make it work?
To all the ladies who are in miserable relationships with no passion or spark, you can thank the neo-feminist movement. They have turned men into sensitive, new age guys.
When I was younger, I never heard anyone in group of friends ever say anything near to what Trevor has mentioned.
It’s not that we hate our in-laws, it’s just that a wife/girlfriends and kids are the only reasons to try to keep a relationship together.
Also, if she is getting sexually satisfied by another person, that is cheating! There is nothing wrong to going out and being with whomever you want to be with regardless of gender if you’re single.
Trevor mentioned he was thinking about doing couples therapy with his girlfriend but he needs to get his own therapist first so he can go into couple’s therapy with his stuff already figured out.
Yesterday on the show I read a story about the Olympics that really annoyed me.
The United States are one of the only countries that taxes their own Olympians on the money they make and the medal they win itself!
When an Olympian wins a medal, they also get a cash bonus:
Gold: $25,000
Silver: $15,000
Bronze: $10,000
The amount of taxes they have to pay for their medals is at $8,986 for Gold, $5,385 for silver, and $3,520 for bronze.
Welcome to the United “Taxation” of Americans!
With all the joy the Olympians bring to those who really love these events, all the hard work/training they do, and all the sacrifices they make to represent their country, it’s just a really lame thing to do to them.
Most kids get to have fun and go out, Olympians don’t because they are so devoted to their sport and to do this to them is just classless.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Anita who didn’t know how to handle the way her husband disciplined their son.
The other day, their 5-year-old son hit another kid on the playground and her husband spanked him. It was the first time Anita saw her husband spank their son and she was horrified.
Her husband said it was the best way to teach kids what not to do; that is how he was raised. Anita was raised in a home where they used groundings and scoldings as punishment.
Before you even have kids, there should be a discussion about how you plan to raise, teach, and discipline so that conflicts like this don’t happen when it’s time to correct the child’s bad behavior. Having a parenting plan will keep things from being wishy-washy and the kids will know that when they do something wrong, both parents will be on the same page.
In my experience, I’ve learned that boys are generally the ones that benefit from corporal punishment because they need things to be more direct while girls need to be talked with.
Again, it's not a sweeping thing. As a parent you have look at your kids and figure out what kind of punishment will work best with their personalities.
I believe that corporal punishment has a place in society but I don’t condone abuse. I’ve never been one to think it’s ok to use “tools” like belts or paddles to discipline kids.
Earlier this week, we talked about the recent joke Dane Cook made that ended with him having to make a public apology.
Here is the joke that got him trouble: “I heard that the guy came into the theater about 25 minutes [into the movie]. And I don’t know if you’ve seen the movie, but the movie’s pretty much a piece of crap. Yeah, spoiler alert. I know that if none of that would have happened, I’m pretty sure that somebody in that theater, about 25 minutes in realizing it was a piece of crap, probably was like, ‘Ugh, f**ing shoot me.”
I’ve heard that comedy bit before where someone is doing something they don’t like and they think “kill me”
It’s not out of the realm of comedy to make a joke like that so I feel like the real reason everyone was really mad is because it happened a little less than 2 weeks ago and people feel like it’s too soon.
I argue that in this day of social networking and being able to obtain information in mere seconds, is there really such thing as “too soon” anymore? Audiences want everything now regardless of what it is.
Also, those people in the audience laughed, so if he’s doing what he’s doing and his target audience doesn’t get offended, then it’s hard to fault a guy for doing his job.
The only thing that upset me about Dane Cook was his apology that was clearly written by his PR guy.
"I am devastated by the recent tragedy in Colorado and did not mean to make light of what happened. I made a bad judgment call with my material last night & regret making a joke at such a sensitive time. My heart goes out to all of the families and friends of the victims."
He wasn’t really devastated by this because he wouldn’t have joked about it in the first place! I did however like how he said he made a bad judgment call on his material; he should have just said that instead.
Why do performers have to keep apologizing for jokes that don’t offend their target audience but offend someone else? If you’re not who the joke is for, you shouldn’t get mad.?
