Caleb sent us an email that we read we read yesterday saying that he was having issues with something his girlfriend was wearing!
He’s been with his girlfriend for two years; they’re both in their early 30’s, and having a great relationship. The only problem is she still wears clothes that belong to her ex boyfriend! She’s wears them around the house and wears his pajamas to bed.
Caleb feels like this is completely disrespectful to him and wants her to lose these clothes immediately!
It amazes me how some women are completely clueless to what men are all about.
I can’t really blame younger women because they are not getting trained properly by their mothers, aunts, grandmothers, etc. To me though, this is just a no brainer…you just don’t do this!
What I don’t understand though is why his girlfriend thought it was a good idea to tell him who those clothes belonged to in the first place. What was the point of that?
I’m sure that if Caleb decided to keep something from an ex and paraded around the house with it, his girlfriend would be outraged! Some women are very hypocritical; they expect men to be understanding to things they feel are big deals yet they can’t do the same for us.
If you have clothes, gifts, etc from an ex and you enter a new relationship, you have two options, either lie about where they came from or throw them out. Don’t go starting drama over this.
Yesterday, we read an email sent in by Rock-A-Holic Cheryl who is having issues with her new husband over her job.
She’s been married for four months now and her new husband says he wants her to quit her job! She is a professional massage therapist and her husband says he doesn’t like that she quote, “rubs up on men.”
The thing is that this is the first time in their relationship that he’s shown an issue with her job. Cheryl wanted to know if anyone else has gone through this.
I understand why it would be difficult for a guy to have a wife in a profession like this, but guys have to realize that women don’t think they way we do. Some men would have a difficult time being a massage therapist if they had to rub down someone they are attracted to because they would want to hit on this person. Most women don’t have the same urges and thoughts when they see someone they find visually appealing.
Unfortunately for Cheryl, her husband is being unreasonable! If someone marries a person knowing what their job is or what their interests are and then expect them to change after they say “I do,” then they are being unfair! It’s a different story if they were doing something harmful or you didn’t know they were doing it in the first place, but don’t say “I do” if you don’t want all of them.
Yesterday I read a bizarre and sickening story that really angered me.
A Pennsylvania couple has been convicted of sexually abusing their young son. The 14-year-old son testified that he began having frequent sexual encounters with his mother while his dad watched and offered him tips on what to do since his eight birthday. This happened a year after his dad started showing him pornography.
The boy was led a sheltered life and was home-schooled so he didn’t know having sex with his mother was wrong until years after it started happening.
The jury did convict the 45-year-old mother of rape of a child, corruption of minors, endangering the welfare of children and incest. They also convicted the 53-year-old father of conspiracy to commit rape of a child, corruption of minors, endangering the welfare of children and distributing explicit sexual material to minors.
This is unbelievable! How does anyone get it in their head that this is an ok thing to do? We talk about parenting licenses on the show a lot and people give me grief for it but what about the protection of the child? There is nothing more paramount in my mind then making sure that a child is being raised in a loving and safe environment!
Anyone can have a kid and even though it is a human being and people say it has all the rights in the world, it really doesn’t. If people don’t believe me, look at situations like this one and you’ll be as frustrated with how little rights children actually have.
I’m predicting in the future, possible one to two hundred years from now, there will be a vetting process for people to be able to raise the children they give birth to. If they are not good enough, they will become the non custodial parent and get to visit but not raise their own kids until the vetting process says they can.
Steve made a great point; it is sad to see that it takes more of a process to adopt a dog than it is to actually have your own baby. People are looking out for the best interest of these pets but who really is looking out for these kids?
Yesterday on the show, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Kevin who isn’t sure whether to give his wife a gift he’s been saving a long time for or not.
Kevin’s been married to his wife for 8 years and throughout their whole marriage they’ve joked about her being flat chested. She’s thought about getting implants for a while but they didn’t have the money at the time. When they did talk about it, she was always hesitant because she was afraid of appearing phony and/or shallow.
About a year ago, Kevin got a promotion and has been putting away money in savings for a raining day or to finally give her the implants for Christmas.
Now that Christmas is approaching, Kevin isn’t sure if giving his wife breast implants for Christmas would be tacky and not a good idea.
This is a tough problem Kevin is going though because some women can be really challenging when it comes to direct communication. Some women have fantasies they dream about constantly, but that doesn’t necessarily they want it to come true. As a guy, if I have a fantasy, I will do anything in my power to make it a reality; most men are really black in white in the way we think.
All Kevin needs to remember is to respect whatever his wife chooses to do, to tell her that he loves her and that he just wants to provide her with the things she wants and if this is one of those things, he’s there to support her.
Last we talked about how ex-Playboy Playmate Holly Madison said she would not like to see her daughter pose for Playboy.
She told In Touch Magazine, “I don’t think people are treated with respect in that environment. I’m from a small town and you grow up seeing people like Jenny McCarthy or Pamela Anderson, who made it big after doing Playboy. You think it’s this glamorous thing until you realize how much you’re judged for it.”
I think the best thing for anyone who is giving advice to young people is that they need to look in the mirror and ask themselves, “What’s my credibility?”
We all have that dumb family member who tries to give you financial advice but are driving a broken down car and asks to borrow money!
Same thing with Holly, if her daughter grows up and says she wants to pose in Playboy, Holly has pictures and a TV show that will make her look like a hypocrite in her daughter’s eyes.
During the Lukewarm Topic, we asked the Rock-A-Holics what is something you’ve done that you don’t want your kids to do, or what is something your parents did that they don’t want you to do.
Another thing to keep in mind is what you should be talking to young adults about.
Jason called in and said that his parents admitted to him shortly before turning 18-years-old that they used to sell drugs and that his dad use to do hard drugs!
That was a dumb thing on his parent’s part; whenever you are thinking about telling your kids about something heavy consult with a therapist first.
Just because they are 18 doesn’t mean you get to treat them like a buddy.
They’re still a kid at that age and parents are still the authority figures. I’ve often said that once a kid turns 18, the parent becomes a safety net. They get to do what they want, learn their own lessons and the parents are there in case something bad happens, not to restrict them. Catch them when they fall, don’t prevent them from going on that high wire act because sometimes you can be successful on thehigh wire.
Yesterday during Group Therapy we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Victoria who was having problems with her parents over Christmas dinner!
She has finalized her plans to fly down to San Diego to visit her folks; when she told her mom that her current boyfriend will be staying behind with his family, her mom surprised her with an unwanted guest. Her mom invited her ex boyfriend and his family for Christmas dinner!
Her ex Jim and her dated for three years and broke up after college but their parents still hold on to the idea that they will get married one day and have grandkids both sets of parents can share.
Victoria doesn’t know what to do; she’s not sure if she should stay home just to send a message to her mom that Jim and her are over but she also doesn’t want to ruin the holidays.
As a parent, I have meddled in my kids’ lives and it hasn’t worked out so I have vowed to not do that. What parents have to come to grips with is that it doesn’t matter who your kids date because it’s not about you, it’s about them. You can only hope that the person they are with makes them happy, treats them well, and hope all goes well if they do end up together.
The best way to prove your point is to simply not show up; that’s the best way to teach a lesson.
Yesterday on the show, we talked about the story of some sexual misconduct in a bar…and it was done by a drunken woman!
Jana Lawrence, a 46-year-old from Georgia, was arrested after she allegedly screamed profanities, exposed her breasts to other customers and even rubbed the genitals of another woman and men in two different bars. She also licked one woman’s face and another man’s arm tattoo.
When she was arrested, she repeatedly called the police officer derogatory terms for homosexual males and people of African-American descent; threatening to sue them and promising to bury them under the jail.
Then when in the jail, she asked the female sheriff’s deputy "if she had and wanted a girlfriend," as she was at intake.
What is going on here? As men, we have been taught not to touch, grab or grope women without their permission, yet some women think that the rules don’t apply to them!
I was on Pinterest and I saw this picture that is going around of a woman running on a baseball field, being chased by authorities, and pinching the butt of a baseball player!
Here is the picture:
What really pisses me off is that there are women commenting on this picture saying they would do the same thing! If it was a guy on the field who was running around, being an idiot and pinching a woman’s behind, then having a bunch of guys comment on how they would do the same thing…you don’t think the women’s community would be up in arms about this?
How are women doing this and commenting about how they would do the same when they were the ones who originally said this was not ok?
Yesterday we read a Group Therapy email that came from Christine from Philadelphia.
Christine’s problem is that her mother is asking her not to speak to her grandmother anymore.
Her mother is Native American and her grandmother is white; years ago when her parents first got together, the grandma was a drinker and a racist. One day, both of them got into a physical altercation and her mom lost her first pregnancy…this was over 25 years ago.
Christine didn’t meet her grandmother until she was 10 and didn’t find out any of this until she was in her 20’s. She explains that her grandma has changed into a great person who is really religious and sweet, but her mom won’t let it die. Her mother says that it is a betrayal on her part just by having a relationship with her grandma and that she needs to choose what side she is on.
She loves her mother and considers her to be her hero but also wants to keep the newly found relationship with her grandma and doesn’t know what to do.
This isn’t a typical #BLD (Bitches Love Drama) situation; serious things occurred here. Someone lost a child during a physical interaction so this is a huge deal and both sides are traumatized by this. The mom is traumatized for losing her baby and the grandma is traumatized for being the reason this happened.
At the beginning of every Group Therapy I say that if you have a serious problem or dilemma to always try going to a counselor if possible and in this situation, all three women should be receiving some counseling.
It’s not easy for a child to have to choose between two family members especially since she doesn’t have the baggage with her grandma her mom has. This is where a good counselor can really help.
I think its ridiculous that the child has to be put in the middle of two adults like this.
I think if you’re a parent, and your kid is more of an adult than you are, you are a loser. It is not their responsibility to fix your issues; they are the ones that are supposed to be coming to you for advice and guidance.
It just seems like that we are seeing this more and more these days…kids having to parent their own parents!
Yesterday, we talked about some tough news that happened in the world of football.
Kansas City Chiefs linebacker Jovan Belcher fatally shot his 22-year-old girlfriend Kasandra Perkins in their home Saturday in front of his mother before shooting himself in the head at Arrowhead Stadium in front of Head Coach Romeo Crennel.
The two had a three month old daughter together who was in the house at the time of the shooting.
According to sources, arguments over relationship and financial issues had been the problems between them for months.
With everything that goes on in everyday life, sometimes the best thing we need is someone to listen to us, and that is where proper parenting may come in handy.
The stories mention Jovan’s mother but nothing about his father which makes me think he wasn’t in the picture.
A strong family can help a person when their life goes crazy. Jovan’s life was certainly stressful and filled with problems. He had a baby with a woman who wasn’t his wife, questioned her fidelity, he was apparently a heavy drinker and on a lot of pain medication, plus he was playing a grueling sport and dealing with possible concussions that were possibly affecting his state of mind.
If a person has so many difficult things going on in life and if they don’t have a good foundation, the possibility of going over the edge increases.
Hopefully their child will be put in a good home where she will receive the good parenting she needs so she won’t be stigmatized over what happened with her parents…this horrible cycle needs to end.
For those who haven’t heard, Hostess, the company that make Twinkies and Ding Dongs, went bankrupt and was shutting down its doors for good.
There was a huge public outcry to save these pastries from leaving store shelves.
Well, last week, the executives who killed it said that Twinkies will live on, if they get their 1.8 million dollar bonuses first, and they got it approved!
This is what is wrong with America; they went bankrupt and yet still think it’s ok to have these ridiculous demands!
I don't care who you are, but as an executive, you have failed because the product that I, and millions of others love, is no longer on the shelves for us to buy. You can blame the union or whoever you want, but the bottom line is…you are the one who has failed, so take accountability for your mistakes!
The worst part of this is how greedy these executives are. This bankruptcy wiped out 18 thousand jobs and these jerks are so entitled they think they should get their bonuses. This is why I hate big business; they don’t care about the little guy or their customers anymore.