BJ Shea

 BJ Shea
Posts from March 2013


BJ'S BLOG 03/29/13 "Celebrity Crush "
Yesterday during the Lukewarm Topic, we were talking about the TV shows we like to “binge” on and watch all in a row.  During this, someone called in to talk about something that happened between her favorite character and her.


Rock-A-Holic Maggie called in, she explained that she actually got to meet her favorite character from her favorite show and gave him her number.


He later texted her asking to see her breasts!  Even though she said she wouldn’t, her and her friend still went to his hotel room later on.  She mentioned that she was down to do the deed until she looked at him and realized he’s older and isn’t really the character she admired in her teens.


Here’s a news flash: If a male celebrity exchanges phone numbers with a woman, chances are that he will be contacting her because he is interested in her sexually.

Also, if he was younger and looked more like his TV character, she would have had sex with him. Hmm…it sounds a little shallow to me.


News flash two: Men aren’t the only shallow ones in society. 
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BJ'S BLOG 03/28/13 "Pricey Hobbies"
Last week during Group Therapy, we read a message from a Rock-A-Holic named Mark who had a major problem involving his daughter and her hobby.

He spends many hours and thousands of dollars a week taking his daughter to gymnastic training; the problem he says is that she’s not good, and that’s putting it kindly.

He wishes she would quit so he could save all that money and time every day but his wife thinks she’s getting better when the truth is…she’s not. 

He hates thinking this way but this is really putting a massive strain on his budget and doesn’t know how to talk to either his wife or daughter about this. 

This is a very difficult situation because all kids need their hobbies and physical activities but to do something every day that is breaking the bank isn’t a very responsible thing to do. 

Time is also a valuable resource that needs to be taken in account  when a person is overstressed and overworked.  Sometimes saving time is just as good as saving money.

The first thing Mark should is talk to his daughter to make sure this is something she even really likes.

Sometimes parents ask kids to tell the truth about stuff and parents get mad at them for telling them how they feel because it’s not what they wanted to hear.  That’s when parent/children relationships get tainted early because they think they can’t be truthful with their parents.

Steve the Producer shared the story about how he stayed in Little League far longer than he wanted to because he was afraid of disappointing his parents.  When he finally told them, they were relieved!

If she says that she’s really interested in going far in gymnastics, ask a professional what their honest opinion is of her ability is.  If she has the potential to get better and even be great, then that might be something to invest in, if not, then talk to your daughter about other activities she might be interested in or a cheaper alternative like going to the Y.M.C.A.

If his  wife and daughter still want to go through with the training, then they can take over the reigns so he can get part of his life back. 
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BJ'S BLOG 0321/13 "Careless Cyclists"
Hey there Rock-A-Holics; today's blog is one I wrote a while back about an accident I was almost involved in.  

Before work one morning, I almost got into an accident thanks to a careless bicyclist.

I work in the Capitol Hill/First Hill area and we have a lot of bike lanes and cyclists in this area which is something Mayor Mike McGinn loves having.

As I am about to take a right turn at a green light, I have to pay attention to the cross walk because that light also goes on and I want to make sure no one is stupid and decides to run across while wearing dark clothing at 6 AM. Well, as I’m turning, I see this tiny light out of the corner of my eye; as I turn over I see this light streaking down with no intention of stopping as it comes towards a red light. My instinct is to ram my brakes hoping no one hits me from behind. My thinking was if this guy zips past the red light, I’m going to hit him and because I’m in a car, he’s the one that’s going to get hurt if not killed.

This jerk flies all the way down and take a right turn without stopping but is wearing dark colored clothing so even if he was actually trying to signal, I couldn’t see it because he only has a tiny light to indicate that he is there.

If you are on a bike, especially coming up on a red light, you have stop then take your turn instead of blistering down the street and messing up traffic.

They need to make cyclists get a license plate and pay for tabs just like the rest of us on the road and they need to start penalizing the cyclists who break the rules!

Steve also came up with the idea of having them put a baseball card or something in the spokes of their bikes so that we can hear them coming. They also should be wearing bright reflective vests at the time, I can’t see them especially if they’re wearing dark clothes.

I don’t care what good “Mayor McShwinn” has done, I want him voted out because he is pro-bike and has only cost us more money and caused more headaches for the rest of us commuters.
He continues to validate the people who act like idiots while on the road on a two wheeled vehicle.

I am so sick of cyclists and I hate their excuse that they are better for the environment. That is bull because they make cars travel slower and muck up traffic making it actually worse for the environment. 
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BJ'S BLOG 03/20/13 "Kids Come First"

Yesterday, we read a message a Rock-A-Holic named Lucy sent us about an issue she is having involving her daughter’s father.


Lucy has a 10-year-old daughter that was a result of an affair she had with a married man.  When his wife found out about the pregnancy, she threatened to take everything from him if he continued to see Lucy.  The only thing he was allowed to do was pay his child support which he has never failed to pay.


About a month ago, he emailed Lucy to tell her that he is now divorced and wants to be in their daughter’s life now.


She doesn’t know what to do; her daughter would be excited to have her father in her life but Lucy doesn’t want their lives to be disrupted after all these years.  It would also break her heart to see him let their daughter down.



To me this is a no brainer; it shouldn’t matter what Lucy feels about this because it’s not about her, it’s about her child.  That is who should come first.


Plus, this guy has been paying his child support; they were both irresponsible when they had an affair but he’s been doing his part and paying to help raise this kid so he has every right to meet and get to know his daughter.
 
Now I don’t know what Lucy’s situation is now in terms of men in her life, but how many times have we heard of single moms bringing strange men to meet their kids too quickly?


Kids deserve to know about their origins.  I’m not necessarily saying that they should know everything about their parents’ past but they should know where they come from.

The bottom line is that their daughter should come first, and she deserves to know both her parents.


 

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BJ'S BLOG 03/19/13 "Compromise"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from Leah who thinks her boyfriend was in the wrong for what he told her and wanted to get her fellow Rock–A-Holic’s opinions.  
 
Leah is 22-years-old and her boyfriend is 25.  Over the weekend, she went out to celebrate Saint Patrick’s Day with some friends.


To go out, she put on a short, bright green dress that she says looked fantastic on her but when her boyfriend saw her, he immediately told her to change her clothes because the outfit was too slutty and revealing.
 
Leah wanted to know if guys should get a say in what their girlfriends/wives wear?  She also asked if guys want their girlfriends/wives to look hot.
To put it simply, guys generally want girls that we don’t know to dress revealing.  When it comes to our girlfriends and even the girlfriends of our friends, we want them to dress appropriately so they are not a distraction or attraction.  
 
Some women don’t understand that what you wear is saying something about yourself.  Certain clothing worn by women is designed to attract the attention of a man.  Just like certain gestures that men do are done to attract the attention of women like offering to buy them a drink. I would imagine that Leah would not appreciate her boyfriend buying random women drinks at the bar any more than he doesn’t like the outfit she chose.
  
You just have to compromise if you’re in a relationship.  When someone is single, they only have to worry about themselves, but when they become a couple, they have another person’s feelings to take into consideration.  
 
If this is something you can’t do, then stay single; you’re just too selfish and immature to be in a relationship.  
 
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BJ'S BLOG 03/18/13 "Working Full Time"
On Friday, I read an interesting study about mothers that left me annoyed.

According to a new Pew Research survey, more mothers are interested in working full time compared to five years ago.   

The data shows that 37% of moms want to work around the clock which is up from 21% in 2007.
The poll found a “strong correlation” between financial well-being and how much mothers want to work.

Roughly 47% of those who claim they “don’t have enough to meet basic expenses” saying full-time work would be ideal while women who are wealthy are just as happy to work part-time job or not at all.

This really surprised me because I would have thought that number would have gone down.
What is really sad is that the number of families that need both parents to go to work full time just to meet basic expenses!  If most people have to have double incomes just to raise a family, then as a country we have failed. 

If both parents want to work that’s fine, but if they HAVE to then the government and big business has failed us.  Either that or people are just dumb with their money and in that case, our school systems have failed. 

Either way, this needs to change because children will thrive better if they have a stay at home parent with them.  
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BJ'S BLOG 03/15/13 "Lunch with the Boss"
Yesterday, we read a message from a Rock-A-Holic name Sara asked for help with something weird her boss is doing.

Sara is an engaged 23-year old who has been at her job for a year and a half.  Her boss is 45 and takes her to lunch 2-3 times a week.  He also takes the other guys to lunch but on different days. 

Her fiancé has no problem with this but some people are telling her she’s walking through a mine field.  Recently he started sharing, without specifics that he and his wife are having marital problems.

This has made her uneasy and she wanted to know if this was a sign of trouble for her.

Some guys are just dumb; they forget when they rise to a position of power that absolute power corrupts absolutely. 

This makes me angry on so many levels.  He is a 45-year-old married man taking to a young woman who is his subordinate about his personal issues!  

This is why we have to have HR departments because idiots like this continue to put women in an uncomfortable situation.  Sara is trying to do good job and be a good employee and this guy has gone over the line. 

This is a perfect time to send a message and make this guy an example.  Fire this jerk to teach him and others a lesson because he put an employee in a legitimately tough spot. 

I have no problems with co-workers talking and making friends with each other, but if they are all on the same level.  Things get too complicated and messy if it’s happening with bosses because there has to be a level of professionalism and respect there.  This guy was completely inappropriate and should be reprimanded for it.



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BJ'S BLOG 03/14/13 "Shady"
 
Yesterday, we read a text sent to us at 77999 from a Rock-A-Holic named Julie who is worried about something that her boyfriend is doing.

Whenever her boyfriend receives a call or a text message, he suddenly starts acting “shady.”
He told her that he likes his privacy and doesn’t like people knowing what he’s doing all the time. This worried Julie and wanted to know if she had the right to feel like he’s hiding another girl from her?

Here’s the thing; just because people are in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to share every detail with one another. Privacy is a very important factor that couples must respect. My wife doesn’t know any of my passwords not for my Facebook, my phone, or anything and I prefer it that way. She on the other hand doesn’t

That being said, there is a line of shadiness that once it gets crossed, expect to get questioned. Everyone gets those “gut feelings” that something is wrong and on average women are more in tuned with their intuition.  

The best thing to do is talk with your significant other when there is a problem and if you still can’t trust them, then hit a counselor …or the road.
 
 
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BJ'S BLOG 03/13/13 "Handicap Parking Violator"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Lori who wasn’t sure what to do with someone at her gym who might be doing something illegal.

Lori recently saw a woman at grocery store that goes to her gym. They both takes the same yoga class and she sees her run miles on the treadmill.

When she was at the store, she noticed the woman park in a handicap spot and pulled out a handicap placard out of her glove compartment and put it on her rear view mirror. 


Since she has seen her capably able to work out, she found it odd that she had a handicap placard.

Lori wasn’t sure if she should say anything to this woman while at the gym because it has been bothering her that she thinks she doesn’t need the placard.



We all know a person who has to deal with the day to day challenges of living with a disability and it irritates us when we see a person using a parking spot who doesn’t need too. 


Let’s be honest, aren’t we all also mad at them because they are getting away with something that we are not allowed to do? It’s not fair that they have the same capability as the rest of us yet are doing something we would get punished for. 
 
The way I see it, we don’t know if this woman actually has a real condition, so it’s best everyone mind their own business and if she is doing something illegal, hopefully karma will catch up with her in a big way.   
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BJ'S BLOG 03/12/13 "Annoying Kids or Bad Parenting"
Yesterday we received a message from a Rock-A-Holic named Tracy who is having trouble with her boyfriend’s son.

Now Tracy has been with her guy for a year now and has met his son. Even though she loves her boyfriend, she can’t stand his 6-year-old son. She says he’s whiney, throws fits, doesn’t listen, and isn’t self sufficient.

Only one of her kids actually gets along with him but the rest don’t like how he doesn’t share and gets away with things they can’t.

Tracy isn’t sure how to tell her boyfriend that she really doesn’t like his son or if this is as far as this relationship will ever go.

I’ve seen this happen and I think that most people really don’t care about their partner’s kids. Why can’t single people with kids understand that is simpler to just keep the romance away from the family? 

I think the “Brady Bunch” mentality is a fantasy and doesn’t work and situations like this prove it.

The kids get drawn in to the drama all because mom and/or dad want to get some action, and what happens to the kid? They’re the ones that get really hurt in all this.

Why can’t people just go out and get their needs met without having to introduce them to the kids? That way the kid won’t worry about this new person leaving one day too.




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BJ'S BLOG 03/11/13 "Richard Sherman VS Skip Bayless "
On Friday we talked about how Richard Sherman continued his legacy of smack talk while on ESPN’s “First Take” last week.

I’d like to say first of all that I am so happy Richard is on our team not only because he is a great player but he is the king of smack talk! I don’t think there is anyone better than him at smack talk. 

I believe that the Seahawks are going to be one of the most watched teams next year because of how we finished up the last season and because of the great group of players we have including Richard.

ESPN personality Skip Bayless was also on the show, and he’s been rather critical of Richard for the last few months, but Sherman was up for the task to go head to head with him.

Earlier in the show, Skip said that Richard wasn’t even in the same league as the Jet’s All Pro DB Darrelle Revis. 

Here is the video: 




Skip starts off asking Richard how good he thinks he is and Richard responds: "I believe my numbers speak for themselves. You can say whatever you want. Skip can say whatever he wants. But Skip, whenever you refer to me, whenever you speak to me, whenever you address me, address me as 'All-Pro Stanford graduate' because those are some accomplishments you'll never -- you can aspire to, you'll never accomplish."  

When Skip tries to say he has accomplished more in his career than Richard has in his, this is how the conversation goes: 

Sherman: "So, I'm at the top of my field. I'm All-Pro. I'm one of the best 22 players in the NFL. You're going to brush it off, but I don't think you're the best 22 anything. In sports, in media, in anything."
Bayless: "That's debatable."
Sherman: "You think more of yourself that you actually can prove."
Bayless: "OK, do you think you are better than Darrelle Revis is right now?"
Sherman: "In my 24 years of life, I'm better at life than you."
Bayless: "OK, all right, that's fair, all right."
Sherman: "Let's get down to brass tacks."
Bayless: "Let's not get personal here. I just want to know --"
Sherman: "It's not personal. It's resume."
Bayless: "Do you think you're better than Darrelle Revis is right now?"
Sherman: "I'm better than you. I have nothing to say about him. That is pretty much done. My numbers speak for themselves."

I love how Skip says “let’s not get personal” when that is all that they do! Its business when they say how they think a person is doing out on the field and Richard is just doing the same thing when he talks about how Skip is doing at his profession. 

Also, it’s sad to see that someone who’s job is to be a professional speaker get owned in a debate.

Richard kicked his ass with logic and facts while Skip kept trying to bate him into criticizing other players. 

Not stopping there, Richard went on to call Skip "ignorant, pompous, egotistical."
  
Also, Skip talked over Richard when he tried to talk about S.W.A.G. or “Student With A Goal,” which is a group of educators, advocates, and youth dedicated to achieving academic success for every student.


Some sportscasters just seem to know numbers and nothing more. Skip needs learn how to lose and how to be gracious, hell, he didn’t even know he lost to Richard.

I am proud to have a player as intelligent and hard working as Richard Sherman play for our Seattle Seahawks.
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BJ'S BLOG 03/08/13 "Keeping Ex’s Texts"
 Earlier this week, we read an email we received from a Rock-A-Holic named Gus who was having an issue with his wife and her old phones.

Gus is 38-years-old and his wife is 35 and he describes her as a very sentimental and emotional person. 

She has a stack of three old cell phones that he’s told her to just erase and then donate them since she will never use them again.

The reason she says she doesn’t want to get rid of them is because she still has text messages from her ex-boyfriends on there.

Gus wanted to know if it’s ridiculous that she is holding on to these emotional texts since they are now married or if he’s in the wrong to ask her to get rid of them.

She says there is nothing scandalous on her phone like nude photos, but let’s be honest; some women pretend that physical interaction is more scandalous but they really get more out of the emotional connections making it the more dishonorable of the two. The emotional component of these texts, all of the “I love you”s and the “I miss you”s are what sparks the connection to these past guys.
 
I will admit that I still have a few letters from my high school girlfriend and the yearbook where she wrote in but I know it’s not that important. If my wife were to come up to me and politely told me that these things bothered her, I respect her enough to do so.

That’s what it all comes down to, respect and what Gus’s wife is doing is disrespectful.
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BJ'S BLOG 03/07/13 "Spending Allowance"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Christine who needed a second opinion.

Christine is 36-years-old and is very successful business woman.  After her and her husband had kids, her husband decided to quit his job and be a stay at home dad.


Every month, she gives her husband an allowance of $1,200 for groceries, stuff for the kids, and whatever else they may need and he is totally fine with this.  

When she mentioned it to her peers in the office, they thought the whole idea was crazy! One of her business partners even asked if his “boys” are in her purse and if he has to ask permission to use them.

She wanted to know if this is weird and if by doing so, she is emasculating her husband.

I have to commend her and her husband for finding a way to have a stay at home parent and make it work. 

I believe this country would be in a much better state if more and more families did this. It doesn’t matter if it’s the mom or dad that stays at home while the other makes it happen at work, it is immensely much more beneficial for the kids and society in the long run. 

Guys do bring something to the table when it comes to raising kids that women don’t and vice versa, but either is still a better situation then having both parents working.

Christine sounds like a caring wife who cares about her kids and wants to make sure things are cool with her husband so it shouldn’t matter what others have to say.

People need to just do what is best for their family and ignore those who want to give their “two cents.” Most of the time, it’s not even worth that much.



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BJ'S BLOG 03/06/13 "Good Guy Terrance Ganaway"
Yesterday on the show, we read an awesome story about what an NFL rookie is doing in the off season.

24-year-old Terrance Ganaway is a rookie running back for the Saint Lewis Rams and makes almost 400 grand a year. Even though he makes a lot of money, during the off season, he works for minimum wage in a Jimmy John’s sandwich shop in Texas.  He does everything from making sandwiches to delivering orders. 

So this young NFL athlete is working for minimum wage in the service industry even thought he makes ridiculous amounts of money…why?  He says it’s to stay out of trouble. 

He said, “I just wanted to stay fit, stay out of trouble, and really just try to save money and not spend a lot of money. So I just jokingly tweeted that I needed a job in Waco. Was anyone hiring?"

An employee for Jimmy Johns responded to the tweet saying they were hiring so Ganaway applied and was hired. 

He also said, “My No. 1 job is being an NFL player. So don’t get it confused as to me working at Jimmy John’s has me lazy. ... I know what I have to do. I know how to get in shape and I know what it takes to perform at a high level. Really, Jimmy John’s is just to keep me out of trouble in all the down time we have in the offseason.”

He is 24-years-old…how can anyone not look up to this guy. There are people who think there are certain jobs that are beneath them so seeing someone who makes this much money cleaning tables, taking orders for minimum wage is refreshing.

It is so hard to get some young people to work hard in a position in the service industry like this. It’s not a lot of money and it’s an entry level job which is meant for that age group but here is a NFL player who is willing to do this.

He is going to get so much value from working this job; his work ethic will increase and he will learn the value of money and it will carry on into everything he does. 

I think Ganaway will be fine and will never have to worry about blowing all the money he makes in the NFL because he has a good head on his shoulders. 

He is an example for all young adults on how to be honorable and  how to have a good work ethic.


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BJ'S BLOG 03/05/13 "Pop-Tarts"
Yesterday during the Lukewarm Topic, we read a story about how a 7-year-old got suspended…over a Pop-Tart!
 
Second grader Josh Welch from Maryland got suspended for two days after a teacher saw him chew his Pop-Tart in the shape of a gun.
 
Josh explained that it wasn’t his intention to make it look like that. He said, “All I was trying to do was turn it into a mountain but, it didn’t look like a mountain really and it turned out to be a gun kinda.”
 
Here is the video where Josh talks about it: http://video.foxnews.com/v/2198670201001/
 
I cannot begin to say how dumb this is. This is an example of overly emotional people making decisions that should be made by rational people. 


This is a big problem in our society. The average man knows that this is no big deal but I think that the average women freaks out about this kind of thing. 

I know there is gun violence in this country, I understand that but there has always been violence in this world and overacting over the littlest thing isn’t going to help the situation. 

An accidental “gun shaped” Pop-Tart isn’t a threat and is a lame reason to get suspended. 

Talk about making a mountain out of a mole hill; everyone is so afraid that an innocent 7-year old get’s kicked out of school.  This is fear ruling the day and when that happens…no one is safe.  
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BJ'S BLOG 03/04/13 "Parking Spot"
On Friday, Steve the Producer shared a problem he is having with two women…over a parking space!

Steve arrives at the station at four in the morning and has been parking in the same exact spot for the last three years.  Recently, these two women have been stealing his spot when he gets there a few minutes late. It’s four in the morning…there is at least twenty other spots opened at this time!

When Steve was getting ready to get out of his car on Friday and had the door opened, they pulled up and waited so they could back up in the spot next to his. When he asked them to park somewhere else, they said they like that spot and wanted to park there!

I am the same way about my parking spot I’ve had for years; on average men are very territorial by nature so when something like this happens, it does sour our mood.  If I knew it was someone’s spot, even if it wasn’t an “assigned spot” I would still respect that and let the guy have his area.
Some women think that they are allowed to go anywhere. I would never throw out anything that didn’t belong to me yet I’ve known some women to think that they can do that to me.  I have a small space in the house that is mine, yet my wife has tried to take over and do stuff in there and I asked her why she felt the need to do this when the rest of the house was hers to do with what she’d like!

Most women understand this concept but there are some women who don’t get the concept of not taking away a man’s territory.

People need to understand, boundaries, that is all we ask for; please respect our space and we will respect yours.
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BJ'S BLOG 03/01/13 "Panhandling"
Yesterday we talked about a Kentucky man named Gary Thompson who pulls in $100,000 a year…by panhandling! 

Gary rolls around in a wheelchair because he says he has difficulty walking and also pretends to be mentally handicapped to get sympathy and money!

In the video, he is confronted by a news station and he shows his “panhandling voice” and his real voice: 


Bogus beggar busted


This is why I don’t give my money to panhandlers. Americans don’t want to hear that because some people get a high when they think they've helped someone in need. There are chemicals in their brain that make them feel good when they have done something charitable. People are doing these nice things for the “high” more so than actually helping someone. 

This is why I’ve always called BS when someone is bragging about their charitable work; they are feeling good doing it. It’s those who suffer and really sacrifice that I give credit to, not the average person who gives a few bucks to a person on the streets, just so they can feel good about themselves.    

There was a study a few years back that I read that said that 50%-75% of the people begging for money on the streets are scamming you. 

I think it is absolutely stupid to give money to the homeless on the street. I’m not saying don’t be charitable or to not help the downtrodden, but why not put your money where you know people are going to do the right thing with it? Go to a charity like Northwest Harvest where they provide food to people who need it!

If we really want to help the homeless, we should start a government system where we put them in one of three places, a homeless shelter where they can get food and a place to sleep, a mental institution, or rehab. This way, they will be getting the help they need and they won’t be on the streets.  


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