Yesterday on the show we talked about some alleged sexual activity going on at a bikini barista stand involving a police officer!
On Tuesday, a Snohomish County sheriff's sergeant was arrested after police said he had sex with a bikini barista coffee shop owner and manager in exchange for tipping them off to when the police were going to come and do their investigation. The Everett police said the investigation was a part of an effort to stop prostitution and lewd contact.
The owner of Java Juggs was also arrested which wasn’t her first time because she was also arrested in July 2011 during a prostitution investigation.
First off, I want to start off and say that if this is true and they were being dumb, they should be punished for breaking the law.
Secondly, the thing I don’t understand is why prostitution is illegal in this day and age. Why can’t it be a simple business transaction between two consenting adults? If we treated it like a business where we taxed it and also made sure it was safe, how could that be a bad thing?
During Group Therapy, we read a message from a Rock-A-Holic named Jeremy who needed some advice on loaning money.
His parents recently came to him asking to borrow $3,000 from him and they promised to pay him back in three weeks.
He doesn’t know what they need the money for nor does he think he does but what doesn’t make sense to Jeremy is that both his parent make substantially more than him. He asks if he should lend them the money or not.
Call me old and backwards but if you have to borrow money from your kid, you’ve made a lot of mistakes in your life.
Even if you make more money than your kid but still want to borrow some, I’m sorry but you’re a loser.
Successful men and women will never want to ask their kids for anything. This makes me wonder what Jeremy’s folks are really scheming.
As a father, I am very firm about what a good parent is and when the child has to take on the role and the mother or father starts acting like a kid, then they failed.
A lot of people texted said, “Well, they raised you, you owe them.” It is a parent’s job to take care of a child! I wish these vaginized people would open their eyes and see this is the truth.
Here is a good rule of thumb for loans: Don’t ever loan money you couldn’t give as a gift. If you consider it as a gift, you won’t be upset or be in a financial bind if you don’t get it back. This same rule should be applied to family no exceptions.
This year, there have been a lot of movies people have been excited to see from Star Trek to Man of Steel but one on my list is Kick-Ass 2 because I really loved the first one and it’s a great story.
In this second movie, Jim Carrey stars in it as a violent superhero called Colonel Stars and Stripes…unfortunately he says he can no longer support the movie because of the violent shooting in Sandy Hook this past December.
I have read the first graphic novel and The Rev has both and he tells me there is a graphic scene that may or may not be in the movie but it doesn’t mimic what happened at Sandy Hook. So I’m not sure what it is about the movie specifically that made him no longer want to promote it.
Jim tweeted this on Monday: "I did Kick-Ass 2 a month b4 Sandy Hook and now in all good conscience I cannot support that level of violence. My apologies to others involve[d] with the film. I am not ashamed of it but recent events have caused a change in my heart."
Comic book writer and executive producer to Kick-Ass 2 Mark Millar says, "[I'm] baffled by this sudden announcement as nothing seen in this picture wasn't in the screenplay 18 months ago," he wrote. "Yes, the body count is very high, but a movie called Kick-Ass 2 really has to do what it says on the tin. A sequel to the picture that gave us Hit Girl was always going to have some blood on the floor and this should have been no shock to a guy who enjoyed the first movie so much …
"Like Jim, I'm horrified by real-life violence (even though I'm Scottish), but Kick-Ass 2 isn't a documentary. No actors were harmed in the making of this production! This is fiction and like Tarantino and Peckinpah, Scorsese and Eastwood, John Boorman, Oliver Stone and Chan-wook Park, Kick-Ass avoids the usual bloodless bodycount of most big summer pictures and focuses instead of the CONSEQUENCES of violence … Our job as storytellers is to entertain and our toolbox can't be sabotaged by curtailing the use of guns in an action movie."
Mark Millar is absolutely right; he knew what kind of movie he was getting into and again, the violence is not even real!
What I want to know is since Jim really can’t support a movie like this; did he give the money back? If not then, he has no room to say anything because he sounds like a hypocrite! Unless he gave the money back, he can spare us his “good conscience” ramblings and contrition’s.
Today's blog is from one of my mentors, Dan Sanders:
The movie Superman is out, and like many movies and men before this one; he is a god-like figure. As one reporter wrote, “Superman is the Jesus we wish Jesus was” That may not be an exact quote, and I don’t remember where I read it. But it is oh so true! The reason of course is that in our world of fast food, fast lanes, fast games and fast world events, we would like a few fast miracles, and Superman provides those. No praying involved, just add crises, and bingo the "Man Of Steel" appears.
This month we also have/had a super moon on June 23rd it is the Super-est of the three Super moons this year and it will not be this close again until August of 2014. That could account for the super stupid of many people?
And if you are a hockey fan, there is super excitement throughout the world of sports as the Boston Bruins and Chicago Black Hawks wrapped up their super over time nail biting super action series last night in, yes, you guessed it... "super exciting" fashion. The Boston Bruins and Chicago Black Hawks are two clubs that have been around since the mid-1920s, between them, they have won 11 Stanley Cups signifying super supremacy in the NHL.
The last time the Original 6 teams played for the championship was 1979, when the Montreal Canadians defeated the New York Rangers, four games to one. So that is super excitement.
And then there is Super Stupid AKA Justin Bieber, no explanation for that. He doesn't need a full moon.
So now we get on to this week’s super podcast where I shall endeavor to make no super sense of any of the above. But will give a few more of my super sensitive suggestions, and attempt to invoke some super serious or silly feedback
Yesterday on the show, we talked about the newest changes Microsoft has made for their upcoming console, the Xbox One.
Originally it was announced that the new system would have to be connected to the internet at all times even if you’re playing in single player offline or not using it at all. They also said that you would not be able to lend, sell, or rent games.
After being lambasted on the internet and even made fun of by Sony in a video that went viral, they have decided to change all that.
Here is the statement from Microsoft:
An internet connection will not be required to play offline Xbox One games – After a one-time system set-up with a new Xbox One, you can play any disc based game without ever connecting online again. There is no 24 hour connection requirement and you can take your Xbox One anywhere you want and play your games, just like on Xbox 360.
Trade-in, lend, resell, gift, and rent disc based games just like you do today – There will be no limitations to using and sharing games, it will work just as it does today on Xbox 360.
In addition to buying a disc from a retailer, you can also download games from Xbox Live on day of release. If you choose to download your games, you will be able to play them offline just like you do today. Xbox One games will be playable on any Xbox One console — there will be no regional restrictions.
The thing that bothers me is that even though the public spoke and Microsoft listened, there are many people out there who are still mad at them! This console hasn’t even been released yet and no one has had to pay for anything!
I believe this behavior has to do with the entitlement generation we live in and sadly I see a vast amount of it in the geek community.
We all have the right to complain about what why whine and bitch after someone listens and then gives you what you were asking for?
People really need to stop being trolls about this and if you’re still complaining, it’s probably because you’re miserable and need to seek professional help.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, I read a Facebook message I received from a Rock-A-Holic named Kevin.
He is a 40-year-old with three kids; a 7-year-old son and two daughters who are slightly older.
Both of his daughters take dance and will be participating in a summer dance camp next month. After seeing his sisters dance, his son asked if he could take a class so Kevin’s wife signed him up for ballet.
If it were up to him, he would make his son take a summer baseball camp instead because he doesn’t know if he will get made fun of for taking dance.
This is a tricky subject. In the year 2013, men like Kevin are supposed to be enlightened and not let gender define what people do. The thing is, people need to also understand that masculinity is important to men. Boys in elementary school through high school can be mean and one of the main ways they do so is by attacking each other’s masculinity.
I understand that Kevin doesn’t want his son get teased, it’s a legitimate concern because we as adults know how to rise above taunting while a lot kids do not.
My main concern for his son isn’t so much about him being a boy in ballet because if Kevin explains to him that he might get taunted and he genuinely wants to pursue it then that’s fine; I’m worried that he is too young. I read a study saying that kids take ballet at a very young age can have physical problems when they are older. My daughter has had a lot of physical issues and we wonder if it’s because she started ballet too young.
Kevin should consult medical professionals…emotional damage may be nothing compared to the physical damage it could cause.
The reason this really got under my skin is because “Sesame Street” is always trying to be reflective of who is watching their show, but they chose to make fathers look bad.
What I want to know is why they didn’t use a jailbird mother instead when there are so many women in prison.
As a man, I feel attacked by the media biased tainting of the image of men, but god forbid they ever show women in a negative light! I am so tired of PC society because they seem to be politically correct on everything except the fair portrayal of men.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read a texted we received at 77999 by a Rock-A-Holic named Bill who was seeking some advice.
He’s been dating his girlfriend for a year now; they have a lot of the same hobbies and she even shares his biggest passion in life.
Their relationship is going so great that he’s thought that she might be “the one”. He has no reason to want to end it except for the fact that he is 22-years-old and the idea of getting tied down scares that crap out of him. Bill wanted to know if he should break it off now or keep things the way they are.
In this day and age, 22-years-old is actually a very young age; if this was 20-50 years ago, that wouldn’t be that same case. Over the years, parents have stunted the growth of children and my generation is no exception. Psychologists have even come out and said that “26” is the new “21” because “26” is when you become autonomous and can do things on your own.
I’m happy to see that Bill has a good head on his shoulders and he will be successful in life if he has a good group of mentors to help guide him through life.
An adage that gets thrown around a lot is, “If it was meant to be it was meant to be,” which is one thing I really like about this new age stuff.
People regret what didn’t happen thinking things would have gone better or a certain way if they took a different path but the truth is we have no idea how it would have really happened.
For example, if someone still longs for “the love that got away,” if they did stay together, it doesn’t mean that things would have gone great. They could have gotten married and been miserable for the rest of their lives.
For better or worse, you can learn from the bad stuff, but I don’t believe there is such a thing as being in the wrong place and the wrong time. If Bill thinks he still has things to do before he decides to settle down, then he should do it and if she is there when he is ready, then “it was meant to be.”
Today's guest bloggist is one of my mentors, Dan Sanders:
In 2001 after the tragic bombings of the world trade center flags were popping up on everyone’s door step. A rampaging fever of protect America at all cost was spreading like dandelion seeds in the wind and out of this, the Patriot act was conceived, birthed and was loved.
We would make those that had attacked us pay the cost no matter what the cost. Now 12 years later we seem to have all but forgotten the alarm that brought us to the point of flag planting surveillance cameras, phone tapping, etc. Now we scream we are being spied on, and we are. We scream our privacy is being invaded, and it is. And we scream it is wrong. It is a dictatorship on some level it is, and it is making us into a Big brother is watching country, and it is.
It is not to be condoned, but neither is the death of thousands in New York nor the lamed and dead in Boston.
I have said and will explain further in the podcast that I don’t mind, my life will not change one bit if I am being spied on. I will not do one thing different. I will not monitor my word's phone calls or blogs and podcast. I will not change one bloody thing because some guy or hopefully woman is sitting in my tree outside watching me take a shower.
As I told one FBI agent years ago; I ask. "Have I put your son through college yet with the money you've been paid for watching me?” He laughed and said two things, " and my daughter also". The other thing he said is, don’t stop doing what you're doing. Here is a link to another of my websites, which will help explain that even further. http://creative-treehouse.com/a-small-cabin-on-a-mountain-top-the-beginning/
And enjoy the rambling. I love feed back, and it’s good to welcome you to rambling Harbor.
Earlier this week we received a text at 77999 from a Rock-A-Holic named Kate who wanted our opinion on how to handle a situation with her daughter.
Her 16-year-old recently told her she likes a guy. The problem Kate has with this guy is she considers the kid a freak with her green hair and all black attire.
Kate told her daughter that she’s not allowed to date this guy and she is not interested in meeting him…ever! Her husband told her that she needs to relax and meet the kid before forming and opinion on him.
The reason she texted us was because she wanted to know if she should listen to her husband or should she force her daughter to obey her.
First off I’d like to congratulate Kate because she has a husband and father figure in her daughter’s life. Second off, I’d like ask: has anyone has ever been able to get a 16-year-old girl to obey their parents?
Vicky B actually weighed in and said that she shouldn’t judge him by how he looks and if she did a good job parenting her daughter, then she shouldn’t worry about her falling on the wrong path.
That’s a good point; if she has been shown good quality love especially by her father, she will be successful in relationships. If a guy starts mistreating her emotionally, physically, or in any other way, she will be strong enough to walk away.
I made sure my own daughter was given the proper amount of love and emotional support from me so that she would have high standards for men and how they treat her. If Kate and her husband do the same with their daughter, they won’t have to worry about any guy she dates, no matter what color his hair is.
A Rock-A-Holic named Trisha wrote in asking for some relationship advice which we addressed in Group Therapy yesterday.
Trisha and her boyfriend have been together for nearly two years but before that, he was with his ex for 11 years!
He cheated on his ex with her and eventually left to be with Trisha. There was a cross over period where he was still living with his ex of about six months while he was with Trisha but slept in separate beds…as far as we know.
He has since moved out and has his own place. Trisha’s biggest insecurity she says is that even though they have been together for two years, he still hasn’t told his family about her and some of them don’t even know that he left his ex yet!
She took it upon herself to look through his phone, and she found texts from his family and his ex’s family which pass along regards to both of them. So not only has he not said anything to his family, some of his ex’s family doesn’t know about the break up either.
Trisha wanted to know if she should give him an ultimatum: if he doesn’t introduce her to his family by the end of this month, she will leave.
There is so much very wrong with this situation.
I know this is going to harsh but Trisha wrecked an 11 year relationship! What I think is missing in this situation and even in society is a man’s directness especially in the Pacific Northwest! Most men have lost that directness and in order to spare someone’s feelings, they won’t be honest.
Well here is the truth, Trisha is a big girl now, and she has to realize that she’s a home wrecker! When you’re with a person that allows you to wreck their home, what do you think you’re getting into? “There is no honor amongst thieves.” When you deal with dishonorable people, you get unfavorable results. Trisha needs to see that her boyfriend is a leopard who may never change his “cheating” spots.
The judge said, “I just saw you slap your attorney on the backside. Is there something funny about this? The whole courtroom was laughing. I’m not going to accept these plea negotiations. This isn’t a joke.”
Chad said that he didn’t mean it as a joke.
Look, I understand that for most athletes being submissive and learning to surrender is a hard thing to do but he should have taken accountability and said something like, “I’m sorry judge; that was a stupid thing for me to do, I apologize.”
I think jail would serve him well because he might be able learn a lesson from all of this.
Yesterday during Group Therapy, I read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Brooke who is already having problems in her marriage.
She explains that she met her husband a year ago and they “fell hard for each other” and have been married for three months.
The problem Brooke has is that he doesn’t help around the house. She has to do all the cooking, cleaning, and she even has to feed her husband’s dog while he sits around watching TV, playing on the internet, or working on his truck.
She says even though he is a slob, he isn’t lazy because he pulls in 90 thousand dollars a year at his job. Brooke didn’t know what to do at this point because she is already married to him.
First off, I’d like to ask why someone would get married if they have only known them for a year.
That is not really enough time to really get to know someone and their living habits.
I also want to point out that her husband does do his part, he works at a job where he makes $90K per year and I can only assume that he makes that kind of money by working hard.
Some people say that everything in 2013 needs to be equal in the household but that is not necessarily fair. I believe that when it comes to house work, the amount of work done at jobs should also be taken into consideration.
If one partner brings in 70% of the income, then they should only be responsible for 30% of the chores. That’s equality to me.
Today's blog is from one of my mentors, Dan Sanders:
I do not believe that all people are selfish, single minded, narrow thinking, racist, violent, or fat. I do believe that some people are all the above. I also believe that a large number of the ones that suffer from the above nonproductive traits are not born that way but are a product of our society in all its surreptitious ways of mind control.
And of course, the media, which I have been a loyal card-carrying member for the last 40 some and very odd years, I always had a love-hate relationship with that wonderful form of often misused and misunderstood form of communication. For example, if not for the media coverage where would - Dominique Ansel be? He would be alone and fat and full of Cronuts. If you don't know who - Dominique Ansel’s is. Then surely you are by now aware of the cardiologist best friend, the Cronut. And if you are not conscious of what a Cronut is it may be due to either hiding behind a rock or still in a sugar coma. But you are going to learn more than perhaps you ever thought you would about the Cronut in this pod-cast.
Of course, life would not be complete for the media without a few incredible stupid acts by Justin Bieber. In Justin’s case, the media does not have to look for, but it may be encouraging such bone head actions. The Bieb is supplying plenty of dumb things to talk about. And in this pod-cast, I will talk about how one of the local R stations here in Boston has, in my opinion, helped to propagate and influence of bad behavior, not just from the little Bieber but from the fans, who idolize him.
Another big piece of news from this week is the monitoring of phone calls, email, Facebook, shaving cream, just kidding, I think about shaving cream. But if the shaving can starts clicking sounds like a camera, then start smiling.
I don’t think I mentioned much about this government watching us program in this pod-cast, but I will in the future. What I do want to say here is. If, and of course, they really are, there is no “If” about it, we are being watched by BIG brother. I’m not sure how I feel about this except to say I personally have nothing to worry about. I have nothing to say on line, on phone or in private written in a blog said in a pod-cast or left in pretty colors on a fading wall that I would not say to the president directly. I have no violent methods, and I am an American all the way back to my mother and her Cherokee ancestry. So listen in government, I have nothing to hide, and if it makes me safer then, so be it. The world has become a very violent place, and it is no longer in some distant land. It is in our own back yards. I think, George Orwell’s ( Eric Arthur Blair (25 June 1903 – 21 January 1950) thinking did not envision the needs for such security. If someone is threatening my home, and I put up security cameras and I see you walking up, plain as the day a friend, no threat, no worry, so what do you care? But if I see you coming up with a hood over your head, and you run away, then I suspect the camera is doing its job.
In a finale note from the age of more innocent times, when movies were musicals, and fantasy, dance and song, and not one explosion after another, killings and hate desensitizing us to violence, making it almost acceptable, we know it’s OK we saw it on the big screen or the TV.
As a child and young man, I fell in love with the beauty of Ester Williams and synchronized swimming. Ester was also the champion who made synchronized swimming a competitive sport.
Ester Williams died at 91 a few days ago, and with her, another part of what once was a much different world. However, it’s a world I hope we can regain in small positive steps.
That is if the Cronut doesn't make us to fat to walk at all.
Yesterday on the show, we played audio of an example of embarrassment in broadcasting.
A news station in Rhode Island tried interviewing Melissa Lawrence when she threw rocks, yelled curse words, ran at them with a bat and sent her dogs after the news crew.
The reason they were trying to interview her was because the alleged gunman who shot and killed her daughter turned himself in and they wanted to get her opinion on it. Her daughter Ny’asia was 16-years-old.
She has since been charged with two counts of felony assault and has been released on a $50,000 bail, but could face more charges.
Watch the video of went down here:
I cannot blame Melissa for her reaction; she just went through one of the most traumatic experiences any parent could go through and then some reporter wants to just stick a microphone in her face.
It’s sad to see that people don’t even get to grieve properly. I’m not condoning violence but I understand why she reacted so passionately.
Hey TV News, let me save you some time and money; people who lose loved ones feel very sad. You’re welcome.
A Rock-A-Holic name Stephanie wrote to us asking for some advice on an issue she is having with her parents.
She is 18-years–old and her parents have been divorced for over 8 years now. Her mother remarried a year after was divorced and Stephanie’s step dad has been an important part of her life since; he became a second father to her.
Last month however, she found out her mom is cheating on her step dad and when she confronted her, she didn’t deny it!
Stephanie told her mom that she has a week to confess to her step father otherwise she was going to tell him what is going on. Her mom said that can’t because she was cheating with Stephanie’s biological father, the one she divorced over eight years ago.
She was shocked and irate at both her parents because of what they were doing to her step dad and to her! She wanted to know why if they were going to be having an affair with each other; they put her through a horrible divorce in the first place.
Her parents are acting like selfish idiots. They don’t see the trauma they are putting their daughter though! Even though she is 18-years-old, it doesn’t mean she is not young enough to be hurt by all of this.
I also want to know how Stephanie found out. How bad of an adult is her mother that she couldn’t keep her kid from finding out the stupid things she’s doing?
On top of that, her mother is cheating on a man who has been with her for all these years and has been a good father figure to her daughter! He doesn’t deserve to be treated like crap from such a selfish human being.
It is just sad to see that kids are the voice of reason and the parents are acting immature children.
Last week during Group Therapy, the advice I gave a Rock-A-Holic named Gary has caused a lot of backlash!
About a year ago, Gary wrote in asking for our opinion and completely ignored them. His ex-fiancé pretty much abandoned her teenage daughter and her father was not in the picture. He was wondering if he should take her in and help her out since she had no one else and he felt she could use some adult guidance.
He took her in around a year ago, against my advice, and she has turned her fail grades to A’s and B’s and is close to graduating at 18 years-old.
The problem is, she just informed Gary that she is 5 weeks pregnant with her 23 year-old boyfriend’s child. He is a high school dropout who works in construction and neither of them have driver’s licenses.
According to the couple, they want to keep the child and even though Gary thinks they are not ready for this financially or mentally he knows he has no say.
He feels however, if she thinks she’s old enough to be a parent then she is old enough to move in with the father of her unborn baby.
People got mad at me when I called Gary dumb for all this. First he asked for advice but decided to ignore the counsel of someone who genuinely was looking out for him, and now he wants to kick this troubled teen out, because something bad happened.
When he decided to take her in, he agreed to be her guardian which is like being a parent. Once you agree to this, it’s forever not for when it’s no longer easy.
This girl, from what Gary explained in the message, has had a difficult life with parents who are not even around so is it really surprising that she ended up in this situation?
He is pretty much her parent now and as any good parent would do, he has to support her for the rest of his life. That’s why parenting should be thoughtfully considered because it’s a lifelong commitment.
Today's blog is another guest blog from Dan Sanders:
What do Justin Bieber, Keyshawn Johnson and Ellen DeGeneres have in common, nothing? Except that I am going to talk about them.
If Keyshawn has his way Little Bieber may in up in traction. And Ellen DeGeneres may get lost in her 26 million dollar new mansion. This is not her first mansion, the last one she bought she sold for a profit. I can’t help but wonder what the mark up is on 26 million. However, she will probably sell it to someone. I understand the little Bieber may soon be looking for a new neighbor.
Warren Buffett also will be included in this podcast. Warren Buffett 3rd richest man in the world also had a few things to say, as usual about Congress, millionaires, billionaires and the little people like Ellen Ungenerous. Now ungenerous may be unfair to say. It’s not that she’s ungenerous. It’s just that she has a very strong fear of being homeless.
Little Bieber doesn’t drive too fast; it’s just that the speed limit is to slow.
And Keyshawn Johnson didn’t chase little Bieber to give him a good lecture on manners and safety. He really just perhaps wanted to beat the crap out of him.
Bon Jovi has the cure for Bieber Fever: "Be an A-Hole who shows up 2-hours late."
I assume he means for the little Bieber show, and I think that would be great. Imagine little beaver Beiber going on stage and seeing only empty seats. I think I would be right in the front row with my back to him and applauding the audience that was not there.