BJ's BLOG 06/04/14 "Is There Anything Wrong with a Male Childcare Provider?"
We do not discriminate here in Group Therapy. Everyone is welcome to join in, regardless of race, creed, color, or sexual orientation…as long as you don’t double-dip at snack time. Seriously, that’s just unacceptable.
Today’s session has to do with sexism. Natalie and her husband are full-time professionals with a kid, and they need to hire someone to help out with the childcare; Natalie has been given full discretion over the screening and hiring, and she has narrowed down her search to three candidates, all of whom are extremely qualified and come well-recommended.
Here’s the problem: Natalie’s husband doesn’t like one of the candidates, because the candidate happens to be male. The husband thinks it’s a strange career for a man to pursue, and he’s really uncomfortable with the idea.
I think most people would agree that men don’t typically pursue these jobs, so I guess I can at least understand how the husband might struggle with this concept. I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with a male “nanny,” however. Unfortunately, the husband’s position on this is patently sexist, so it’s pretty hard to get behind his viewpoint.
I don’t really know what to say about this one. Maybe the best way to end this argument is to make some life changes that leave you with enough time to raise your child without hiring a stranger to do it for you…but if that’s not going to happen, then the obvious decision is for these folks to make the decision that’s best for their child’s daily care. Make qualifications the criteria, not gender.
Talk to me, Rock-A-Holics! Do you have any advice? Are you a male childcare provider, or a really smart baby who can type? Let’s hear your thoughts!