Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Brett who wanted to do something that some would consider insensitive.
His wife was supposed to be the maid of honor in a close friend’s wedding and spent $200 on the dress and they also spent $150 on a wedding gift. The problem is that the wedding that was supposed to happen next week was called off by the groom.
The first question Brett asked when he heard the news was if the bride is going to reimburse them for the bridesmaid dress and return the gift they bought and mailed through their gift register.
His wife said that she just had her heart broken and is having a tough time and it’s not appropriate to ask for that now.
He says that he’s cheap and wants the money back.
I don’t consider Brett to be cheap because to the average person, $350 is a big chunk of change. If money means something to you because you don’t have a lot to spend freely, then that doesn’t make you a cheapskate.
There is a lot to be said about spending money. If you don’t have the cash, people shouldn’t expect you to shell out for something like a expensive wedding gift. It is selfish to expect or look down on someone who can’t afford to buy a big luxurious gift for a wedding. People should only give what they can.
I think, absolutely, the wedding gifts should all be returned or kept as gifts for other occasions by the person buying the gift. I believe both of the items purchased should be returnable, especially a dress if it was not custom tailored or even worn for that matter.
The bride certainly did not intend (based on info given) to have the wedding canceled, and I don't feel she should be responsible for any of the money others had to put in to it. Don't buy a gift if you can't afford to give it away. Brett and his wife were expected to never see the $350 again anyways, so why would the expect it afterwards?